Hi guys...hows every1? hope every1 is doing fine...

well bk to my abve topic...

did u guys do?

for me, i did....try

in work, relationship,family etc etc...

i not sure hv u guys heard of liao fan shi xun?

its a very nice and intresting theory, maybe u might like to read abt it..

its not easy but im really trying...

me not saint or really really very high in cultivation...still struggling to be up to the mark..

i do fault in life and relationship....

i always hear this statement from my parents and girlfriend," u r always helping ppl. u can help every1, but u just cant help the ppl closes to u...."

hahaha, really ironic,

i do healing for ppl and most of the time there r result, but when my girlfriend ask me to heal her old sickness, i jus cant...kakaka

i advise ppl on family problem and bgr problem through ba zhi

but like all guys out there i ofthen hv communication problem with girlfriend.

sometime i tried using more tao xing way to talk to them, they will think im lectureing them, putting them dwn..

sometime i see my parent hv a wrong concept of thing and disscuss with them they will think im trying to be bossy...........

i always try to reflect upon myself when such thing happen , but haiz...

is it really neng yi bu neng zhi yi??
kakaka....

or in a more karmic way,

wu chou bu cheng fu zhi
wu yuan bu cheng fu qi?

hw abt u?

care to share?

maybe its just the way it is. Its hard to help people close. But I believe I will only try to help by showing the way, but never to walk with them because it is not my path. However, at any time, they need, I will come by and help them once again. Help is subjective. Amount of help is subjective. Perhaps you help people or love ones but the expect more than others and it takes more effort. The heart is not the same with love ones and with other people.

You see. I know my family are trapped in a mental cycle. Negative mental cycle. I can only tell them about it. I can suggest ways to break out of it, but I cannot help them change their minds and thinking if they do not take the first step to get out of the negative mental cycle. Help is always subjective. Not taking action is a form of help. Help should not be expected. It all depends. Perhaps you helped but then the other person do not think so. help also must be reasonable.

I had been thinking why I am in such a bad situation today. I know why. I am trying to change. I constantly remind myself to take note.

Its just my 2 cents.

that’s how we improve man. learning from our mistakes.

haiz …

If only i had a Dollar everytime i heard that comment )

My Wife is forever telling me....You do all this stuff but cannot even help your family !! It never ends lol

The fact is we do help our Family members in many ways,they just cannot see it

Cheers,

Fate can changes every minutes n ever second....
what ever comes just grab.
We nev know what s come next

I know I dun need branded stuffs to make my life better, but I will still spend...

I know I should'nt throw tantrum but I still kick up a fuss for nothing...

I know.... but I still continue my mistake.

I tried and will continue to try to control my emotion for the people around me.

Originally posted by gigi:

I know I dun need branded stuffs to make my life better, but I will still spend...

I know I should'nt throw tantrum but I still kick up a fuss for nothing...

I know.... but I still continue my mistake.

I tried and will continue to try to control my emotion for the people around me.

Hi Brother,

Looks like you have to control your mind and the appropriate way is to do meditation or to do some recollection on the buddhist suttas that reflects
on dukkha ( suffering ), anicca ( impermance ) and anatta ( Not-self )

Cheers

Kimsai

Originally posted by Kimsai:


Hi Brother,

Looks like you have to control your mind and the appropriate way is to do meditation or to do some recollection on the buddhist suttas that reflects
on [b]dukkha ( suffering ), anicca ( impermance ) and anatta ( Not-self )

Cheers

Kimsai[/b]

HEY Bro kimsai

care to explain more on dukkha, anicca, n anatta further??

cheeros

Originally posted by Kimsai:


Hi Brother,

Looks like you have to control your mind and the appropriate way is to do meditation or to do some recollection on the buddhist suttas that reflects
on [b]dukkha ( suffering ), anicca ( impermance ) and anatta ( Not-self )

Cheers

Kimsai[/b]

Good advise. Here's one sutta:

http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/an/an08/an08.006.than.html

Lokavipatti Sutta
The Failings of the World

"Monks, these eight worldly conditions spin after the world, and the world spins after these eight worldly conditions. Which eight? Gain, loss, status, disgrace, censure, praise, pleasure, & pain. These are the eight worldly conditions that spin after the world, and the world spins after these eight worldly conditions.

"For an uninstructed run-of-the-mill person there arise gain, loss, status, disgrace, censure, praise, pleasure, & pain. For a well-instructed disciple of the noble ones there also arise gain, loss, status, disgrace, censure, praise, pleasure, & pain. So what difference, what distinction, what distinguishing factor is there between the well-instructed disciple of the noble ones and the uninstructed run-of-the-mill person?"

"For us, lord, the teachings have the Blessed One as their root, their guide, & their arbitrator. It would be good if the Blessed One himself would explicate the meaning of this statement. Having heard it from the Blessed One, the monks will remember it."

"In that case, monks, listen & pay close attention. I will speak."

"As you say, lord," the monks responded.

The Blessed One said, "Gain arises for an uninstructed run-of-the-mill person. He does not reflect, 'Gain has arisen for me. It is inconstant, stressful, & subject to change.' He does not discern it as it actually is.

"Loss arises... Status arises... Disgrace arises... Censure arises... Praise arises... Pleasure arises...

"Pain arises. He does not reflect, 'Pain has arisen for me. It is inconstant, stressful, & subject to change.' He does not discern it as it actually is.

"His mind remains consumed with the gain. His mind remains consumed with the loss... with the status... the disgrace... the censure... the praise... the pleasure. His mind remains consumed with the pain.

"He welcomes the arisen gain and rebels against the arisen loss. He welcomes the arisen status and rebels against the arisen disgrace. He welcomes the arisen praise and rebels against the arisen censure. He welcomes the arisen pleasure and rebels against the arisen pain. As he is thus engaged in welcoming & rebelling, he is not released from birth, aging, or death; from sorrows, lamentations, pains, distresses, or despairs. He is not released, I tell you, from suffering & stress.

"Now, gain arises for a well-instructed disciple of the noble ones. He reflects, 'Gain has arisen for me. It is inconstant, stressful, & subject to change.' He discerns it as it actually is.

"Loss arises... Status arises... Disgrace arises... Censure arises... Praise arises... Pleasure arises...

"Pain arises. He reflects, 'Pain has arisen for me. It is inconstant, stressful, & subject to change.' He discerns it as it actually is.

"His mind does not remain consumed with the gain. His mind does not remain consumed with the loss... with the status... the disgrace... the censure... the praise... the pleasure. His mind does not remain consumed with the pain.

"He does not welcome the arisen gain, or rebel against the arisen loss. He does not welcome the arisen status, or rebel against the arisen disgrace. He does not welcome the arisen praise, or rebel against the arisen censure. He does not welcome the arisen pleasure, or rebel against the arisen pain. As he thus abandons welcoming & rebelling, he is released from birth, aging, & death; from sorrows, lamentations, pains, distresses, & despairs. He is released, I tell you, from suffering & stress.

"This is the difference, this the distinction, this the distinguishing factor between the well-instructed disciple of the noble ones and the uninstructed run-of-the-mill person."

Gain/loss,
status/disgrace,
censure/praise,
pleasure/pain:
these conditions among human beings
are inconstant,
impermanent,
subject to change.

Knowing this, the wise person, mindful,
ponders these changing conditions.
Desirable things don't charm the mind,
undesirable ones bring no resistance.

His welcoming
& rebelling are scattered,
gone to their end,
do not exist.
Knowing the dustless, sorrowless state,
he discerns rightly,
has gone, beyond becoming,
to the Further Shore.

wee u wee… welcome kim sai sir and bro eternal now to share more ya…

hmm yah......always thinking why i am so dumb to help poeple in trouble. but when i need help, no1 is there to help.

i lead a bad life in human interaction. no1 likes me...but i cannot figure why. =.=

i always try my best to help and make people happy. but they took it for granted.

only haf 1 gf...no gals like me...sobs.
what is real in this world?

Am i off topic lolx?

Originally posted by midgar:

hmm yah......always thinking why i am so dumb to help poeple in trouble. but when i need help, no1 is there to help.

i lead a bad life in human interaction. no1 likes me...but i cannot figure why. =.=

i always try my best to help and make people happy. but they took it for granted.

only haf 1 gf...no gals like me...sobs.
what is real in this world?

Am i off topic lolx?

hi friend, welcome to SOA...hw hv u been?

erm...the best happines comes with out expectation...

This is my beliefs.

Coming to this world is the start of collection of merit or giving out merit.
What s come or go, is not an very big concern.
But is to treasure what hav come n go.
As fate changes every minutes n every second. who is able to know what would happen next.
To treasure all of it is already very hard...in proccess we do hav unhappiness, also have happiness.
since one day we might just leave this human world, n we wont know where we would be or to be. Just be happy.
Knowing the people around us is also fate, too we wont know when we go apart. as a friend as a mate as our parents, just value the moment that we have togather.

We do understand that as man we cant escape the worldly needs.
love, hunger, greed, status, money, sex.....what more??

Unfortunally in these "part of the world", "on these piece of land" that we r standing on.... Is already the greatest temption for all of us.

Just live the best out of your life.

cheeros

Recently on 24 June 07

I lure out or bait the "ka kias" of some people

It's was a couple Well quite young

Let them take photographs of me

"Touch" them to pass something really special to their bodies

Now still waiting for the big fish

yeah... reflect....
end up... haiz... the more i tink.. the more...
the more i reflect the more
and....... it's just so hard to find someone to talk now....
but it's ok... just me, my office, my pets n internet will do too...

Originally posted by maggot:

Recently on 24 June 07

I lure out or bait the "ka kias" of some people

It's was a couple Well quite young

Let them take photographs of me

"Touch" them to pass something really special to their bodies

Now still waiting for the big fish

All the above is just crap

I'm very sorry for making such a joke

Originally posted by maggot:

All the above is just crap

I'm very sorry for making such a joke

your craps landed wrongly on this thread hah?
heehee...

i like craps