Not necessarily in that context, as many here would agree - there are never lines drawn between parties to determine who's right and who's wrong. More than often we tend to let our mistakes blind ourselves from the practical options that are presented before us.Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi guys....
We have always receive console and advice when we break off - "Learn from your mistakes and not make them again in future r/s..."
Why do we keep hearing these statements?? Is it true that we are always 100% at fault and we got to keep learning and changing for future r/s?? In that case, how we know when should we stop changing for our partners??
Is it meant to say if we are unlucky and get dump always, we must keep changing for our future partners??
Does it meant that the person who walks away from the r/s doesn't need to change??
Let's start off with the walked off person... Walked off liao, so doesn't matter right?Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi guys....
We have always receive console and advice when we break off - "Learn from your mistakes and not make them again in future r/s..."
Why do we keep hearing these statements?? Is it true that we are always 100% at fault and we got to keep learning and changing for future r/s?? In that case, how we know when should we stop changing for our partners??
Is it meant to say if we are unlucky and get dump always, we must keep changing for our future partners??
Does it meant that the person who walks away from the r/s doesn't need to change??
Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi guys....
We have always receive console and advice when we break off - "Learn from your mistakes and not make them again in future r/s..."
Why do we keep hearing these statements?? Is it true that we are always 100% at fault and we got to keep learning and changing for future r/s?? In that case, how we know when should we stop changing for our partners??
Is it meant to say if we are unlucky and get dump always, we must keep changing for our future partners??
Does it meant that the person who walks away from the r/s doesn't need to change??
Nobody is 100% at fault, in a relationship, both are responsible for any problem that happens, just that one may be more are fault than the other, the fault will not lie solely on one person.Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi guys....
We have always receive console and advice when we break off - "Learn from your mistakes and not make them again in future r/s..."
Why do we keep hearing these statements?? Is it true that we are always 100% at fault and we got to keep learning and changing for future r/s?? In that case, how we know when should we stop changing for our partners??
Is it meant to say if we are unlucky and get dump always, we must keep changing for our future partners??
Does it meant that the person who walks away from the r/s doesn't need to change??
It actually means that u r at least 50% at fault, meaning both contributed to the failure of the relationship.Originally posted by mal_colm1979:Hi guys....
We have always receive console and advice when we break off - "Learn from your mistakes and not make them again in future r/s..."
Why do we keep hearing these statements?? Is it true that we are always 100% at fault and we got to keep learning and changing for future r/s?? In that case, how we know when should we stop changing for our partners??
Is it meant to say if we are unlucky and get dump always, we must keep changing for our future partners??
Does it meant that the person who walks away from the r/s doesn't need to change??
Originally posted by Devil1976:+ 2
Let's start off with the walked off person... Walked off liao, so doesn't matter right?![]()
Then talk about you...?
Often then not, nobody's really 100% at fault during a break up... So [b]no matter how minimal the % of responsibility, there usually are some things which you can learn from it... Making better judgements, things that you should or should not do... Things which you have the tendency of doing and should avoid... If you think your ex. made alot of mistakes, don't be like him or her.... etc?
Of course, sometimess nobody's really at fault during a break up... If nothing to learn in those cases then don't learn lor?
Btw, when to change for your partner and when not to change for your partner is also a part of the 'lesson'... But often, there're just no definite answer to that....[/b]