Double Standards, I am so farking PISSED
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He kept insisting that I have to dress decent. Dat means no revealing sexy clothes etc.
Yet he himself is always ogling at those scantily dressed women and ignoring my presence.
I just found out that he kept tons of naked women and porn. When I asked him if he considers looking at those unfaithful. He said dunno but think that its quite normal for guys to do it.
So farking pissed coz he lied saying he dun do all these 'kinda' of stuff when I did ask a few times before whether if he watch porn etc. I even told him at that point of time that I only want him to be honest at the begining of our RS.
So when I rebutted that I was angry coz he lied. Yet his reply was coz its shameful. Then why the fark did he has to kept insisting that i shut the fark up that its normal? And contridicted that its shameful at the same time?!
Now he even have the cheek to say that its his hobby!
He himself even admit that he wouldn't comfortable if I ogle at other men or naked picts.
Also he is supposed to give me something but kept dragging it for months!
Reasons given?
Tired from work lar...no time lar..
When in fact he is busy with his hobby late into the night.
And of course, he forgot totally about it even though I reminded him a couple of times about it since its supposed to be my anniversary present!
He bloody hell said he dun want a naggy GF. So I stopped repeating myself and now, he said he forget about it coz I didn't keep reminding him!
Guys complaining women of double standards? They are also guilty of it lar!
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Double standards?
Meaning you also want to do the same thing as him but were restricted?
Erm...
Anyway, knowing his hobby is like that, you still want to dress indecently to the point he start ogling and thinking of doing things to u that u wont like?
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I give my gf freedom to dress. But when its terribly tastless (in my view), such as micro mini skirt, fish net stockings, leather boots...I just tell her to wear it when Im not around.
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1st - who is he to u? if he is ur bf, he's probably at the door looking for greener pasture.
2nd - if he is ur husband. let him look whilst u r wif ur frenz, den suddenly give him a tight slap when his eyes r hooked and tell him off. (not if he is ur husband only.) -
men, puiz....
we gals are not liddat
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then u watch the porn with him lah... or you tell him u have decided to take up a similar hobby as him, ask him to guess wad it is.
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Originally posted by Pion:I just tell her to wear it when Im not around.
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guys are always like that one lah... other gals can run light like crazy and we dun mind, but when our own gf run light a tiny bit only we also get worked up... u can say that we are quite selfish in this aspect, n most, if not all, men are guilty of it...
anywayz, maybe u can check on ur dressing... is it exposing too much skin? if u do luv ur bf, may be u can dress like that for his eyes only? if u really like to dress with a little sex appeal, may be can try to select other kind of clothing which are more subtle, but with a slight amt of sex appeal... i believe gal's fashion have a lot of variety to choose from... in this way, dun think he can complain that much...
as for the ogling... itz only men to ogle at gals, but i think u can try asking, n i dun mean yelling at him, to may b not to ogle so outrightly... we have ways to ogle n not get caught and itz a skill.. lol... ... but do give ur bf some leeway to do it... he will appreciate the space... 
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run light, I like your translation!Originally posted by mercurialz:
guys are always like that one lah... other gals can run light like crazy and we dun mind, but when our own gf run light a tiny bit only we also get worked up...
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Withold from any sexual activity for a while.
Until he starts begging.
Demand your present then. -
The Trump card.Originally posted by panicTheory:Withold from any sexual activity for a while.
Until he starts begging.
Demand your present then.
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You shld not be restricted from how you shld be dressed up....it's ur choice n freedom to do so...
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well, i really hope u r juz kidding... this sort of thing cant be used as a weapon/threat against the other half... it might have adverse consequences which will hurt the r/s even more...Originally posted by panicTheory:Withold from any sexual activity for a while.
Until he starts begging.
Demand your present then.
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Originally posted by ^spidee^:run light, I like your translation! ... b4 i kena cursed by other pple, let me clarify by saying that i got the translation from this forum also... lol...
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We care for you thats why we nag at you. We do not want you to suffer from indency incidents. Love is great but it hurts sometimes. We have to be strong fisted somedays. We cannot let women walk all over us. Males are the dominant species. If we are able to draw out our inate abilities, then we can force upon the ladies' submissive nature.
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Hmmm... from what u describe he seem like a slimeball!!!
Lies are simply not acceptable!!!
so what if he watch porn? so wat if he masturbate as long as he does not lie to ur face (which he did)!!! Ask yourself, "IS HE WORTH IT???" "Can you trust him again?"
I don't know about you but if it's me I'll be kicking him out of the door!!! (not that is won't be a struggle for me but as i said lies are unacceptable!!!)
by the way My bf keep telling me wat's nice to wear and wat's too revealing... I ignore. unless i agree with his opinion, I'll wear what i damn well like to wear... as i said if u dare to wear... don't be afraid to be looked at!!! -
hmm.. i beg to differ abt the part when u say "...dare to wear... don't be afraid to be looked at..."Originally posted by smudgey:Hmmm... from what u describe he seem like a slimeball!!!
Lies are simply not acceptable!!!
so what if he watch porn? so wat if he masturbate as long as he does not lie to ur face (which he did)!!! Ask yourself, "IS HE WORTH IT???" "Can you trust him again?"
I don't know about you but if it's me I'll be kicking him out of the door!!! (not that is won't be a struggle for me but as i said lies are unacceptable!!!)
by the way My bf keep telling me wat's nice to wear and wat's too revealing... I ignore. unless i agree with his opinion, I'll wear what i damn well like to wear... as i said if u dare to wear... don't be afraid to be looked at!!!
i find many, and i mean a large majority of gals are very contradicting in this aspect... many a time guys are given disgusted looks when we stare a little longer at gals who wear a little more revealing... n i dun mean the kind of hum sup stares, juz look as in LOOK... the common qn that we guys ask is that "since u wear until like dat, u r asking to be looked at mah, so y u give us this face when we bio?"...
so i wonder if gals are selective when it comes to this... u dun mind the guys that u like looking at u, but u hate it when guys whom u dun like/or dunno look at u...
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Despite what the media says, it is still NOT normal to surf porn. Consider leaving him.
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true a lot of gals out there wear to attract attention which they scorn!!!Originally posted by mercurialz:hmm.. i beg to differ abt the part when u say "...dare to wear... don't be afraid to be looked at..."
i find many, and i mean a large majority of gals are very contradicting in this aspect... many a time guys are given disgusted looks when we stare a little longer at gals who wear a little more revealing... n i dun mean the kind of hum sup stares, juz look as in LOOK... the common qn that we guys ask is that "since u wear until like dat, u r asking to be looked at mah, so y u give us this face when we bio?"...
so i wonder if gals are selective when it comes to this... u dun mind the guys that u like looking at u, but u hate it when guys whom u dun like/or dunno look at u...
but my view is as long as they do not look untill like they having disgusting thoughts it's ok.... some really look till like they ten years never see gals liao!!! -
Sorry repeatedOriginally posted by mercurialz:hmm.. i beg to differ abt the part when u say "...dare to wear... don't be afraid to be looked at..."
i find many, and i mean a large majority of gals are very contradicting in this aspect... many a time guys are given disgusted looks when we stare a little longer at gals who wear a little more revealing... n i dun mean the kind of hum sup stares, juz look as in LOOK... the common qn that we guys ask is that "since u wear until like dat, u r asking to be looked at mah, so y u give us this face when we bio?"...
so i wonder if gals are selective when it comes to this... u dun mind the guys that u like looking at u, but u hate it when guys whom u dun like/or dunno look at u... -
haha.. i dunno lah... sometimes girls quite difficult to please also.. ahaha... anywayz, to the gals out there, i know itz hot in s'pore, but if u really mind us guys looking when u dress in a more revealing manner, i suggest juz stick to the comfy t-shirts...Originally posted by smudgey:true a lot of gals out there wear to attract attention which they scorn!!!
but my view is as long as they do not look untill like they having disgusting thoughts it's ok.... some really look till like they ten years never see gals liao!!!
guys dun juz look at gals who dress like that.. -
i must say that he's not experienced enuff on porn stuffs or he's too lazy to HIDE it, if he hide it well, u wont know at all, then u wont feel bothered about it, he can watch it while u are not around.
- clear IE history, cookies, temp file etc, that's the basic.
- clear or disable the whole "documents" thing on Windows.
- hide in folders that cant be browsed easily. like in Programs files/common files/ there create some folder and sub folders to hide it, then add hidden attribute to those files and folders. Then disable the "show hidden files" at all time, only enable when he want to watch.
there are many other ways to lower the chance of getting caught by u, if he's willing to take the trouble. And btw, i watch porn since i started to have a PC that can go internet, before that also go watch video tapes when in sec sch. Most of my male frens also watch.
For the problem on his comments about your dressing, this is human nature...... got sexy girls we want to take a few looks for sure, but we dont want our girl fren to be looked by other guys. -
Oh come on... Stop pretending to be a stiff-upper-lipped fuddy duddy. If watching porn is enough reason to warrant a breakup between couples, I suppose the majority of Singaporean couples should be considering separation right now. Yes, excessive and obsessive addiction is bad, but men have this wonderful hormone called testosterone in them. Porn is but just an avenue that helps guys relieve themselves of the pressure, and it's pretty harmless if used with the right attitude.Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:Despite what the media says, it is still NOT normal to surf porn. Consider leaving him.
Furthermore, a probable reason why the threadstarter's BF has to resort to porn may be that his GF is doing nothing to help him relieve of his sexual needs.
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Pressure? What, sexual tension? Many people are conditioned to think that this pressure needs to be relieved. If this is the case, how do you think the catholic priests and the buddhist monks 'relieve' the pressure?Originally posted by Kenneth Tan Jian Wei:Yes, excessive and obsessive addiction is bad, but men have this wonderful hormone called testosterone in them. Porn is but just an avenue that helps guys relieve themselves of the pressure, and it's pretty harmless if used with the right attitude.
Furthermore, a probable reason why the threadstarter's BF has to resort to porn may be that his GF is doing nothing to help him relieve of his sexual needs.
Besides, will you allow your kids to surf porn? -
Actually it depends on old my kids are... After a certain age I may allow them to do what they want... of course they must not be obsessed by itOriginally posted by SingaporeMacross:Pressure? What, sexual tension? Many people are conditioned to think that this pressure needs to be relieved. If this is the case, how do you think the catholic priests and the buddhist monks 'relieve' the pressure?
Besides, will you allow your kids to surf porn?