What to do next, I need serious advice
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er... wad holiday in another place? u in sg and she is not?
i think just keep it light first loh...cos personally, long distance r./s dont really turn out the way u want it to.... so save on the i love you part lah... -
thanks for your reply, not really a long term relationship coz she will be still back ...i dunno I have a very strong and compelling feeling that if I dun act now then its too late...but i am on other hand hesitating ....Originally posted by starblue:er... wad holiday in another place? u in sg and she is not?
i think just keep it light first loh...cos personally, long distance r./s dont really turn out the way u want it to.... so save on the i love you part lah...
crossroads now. -
wat`s pulling u back?
might wana tell us abt tt too? -
so.. what's the problem here
you're in love with her...
you've promised to prepare her a meal for when she comes back..
do it...
cook with all the love in your heart for her... for when she comes back -
Sorry for not making myself clear
my greatest fear is definetely : Rejection & wrong method + time of popping out the question ..
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well, nothing venture, nothing gained...
there is no such thing as a guarantee.. so... go for it.. and hope for the best...
charm her and win her heart with your hard work that you will put into making her something yummy to eat
good luck!
Originally posted by FaithGuy:Sorry for not making myself clear
my greatest fear is definetely : Rejection & wrong method + time of popping out the question .. -
Originally posted by the Bear:
Who wants to cook me.........
well, nothing venture, nothing gained...
there is no such thing as a guarantee.. so... go for it.. and hope for the best...
charm her and win her heart with your hard work that you will put into making her something yummy to eat
good luck!]
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glad to know the feelings are mutual between the 2 of u.. or at least it sounds like that...
my 2-cents worth: dun think itz a gd idea to fly over, better to put ur efforts into honing ur culinary skills... for one, if kena rejected, at least u wldnt have made a wasted trip... for two, ur patience might juz pay off by putting the time into whipping up a good meal and impressing her further... for three, u can use the money for the air fare to buy better quality food/ingredient, maybe buy a bottle of red wine or a bouquet of roses etc (i dunno lah, i believe u have better imagination than i..lol...)...
i cant see any reason for to hold back.. so all i will say is - jia you and gd luck... -
fly over? reminds me of my younger crazy days...
there's no wrong timing or wrong method...just be clear and show your feelings through your actions... -
There are bound to be rejections in life.
You never try, you'll never know.
Go for it, prepare her a nice meal and confess ur feelings to her.
BTW, how long have u known each other? -
If I were u, I go for it. Rejection is a way of life. I myself have been rejected 1-2 times in my life....but the girls that rejected me actually went out and dated the 2nd time. So rejection is not the end all and be all for everything.
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Hm.. from your story.. i feel you shld go for it ~!
Catch the chance if u have... of course not fly over.. but maybe thru phone tell her how you feel or if u wan.. cook a meal with all your heart into it and maybe ask during the meal with some gifts and flowers
Good luck my pal~! -
alamak gan cheong spider...
u say u will cook, she say ok, when she come back, u cook, she eat, (watever happens after that i'm sure u will post here..)
i'm actually kinda repeating wat bear said...
i think ur gan-cheong-ness is getting the better of you. it's good to be eager and it motivates u to impress her, but not if it's making ur balls shrink and causing u sleepness nites.. which i hope it's not lar.. ehehhe -
We have known each other for 4-5 months ... I kept hinting her that "i care for you and I like you" message, though hv positive reponse but the most devasting and disasterous that could happen to me is her response I misinterprete as "I also interested in you" hint !!! I wanna be sure of her thinking and feelings towards me ....Kan Cheong is because I scare I dun grab any chance , I lose it !!!!!
Maybe you all are correct, I shouldn't be too kang cheong , should polish up my cooking skills and patient ^_^ . -
look bro.. u no need to go down in a blaze of glory and plant a table in the middle of suntec/city hall cross junction with ur cooking and candlelight dinner with the LED board professing ur love for her.
just do wat u do, and let it flow. i tell u girls are WAY better at detecting that someone likes them than guys. so if she's "normal" she will know how u feel and let's just see wat happens from there.
i dunno leh, not all relns start with "i like u, u like me, let's start, ready? go!" certainly none of mine!
just let it flow lar.
ok give u one tip. when eating, just STOP and look at her. dun "stare" just look, with a half smile, admiration. (i dun think u'd be acting, i think u really DO feel that way!)
then she's likely to notice this and respond. "why u look at me like that?" is a common response, to which a common ans would be "i can't help it."
MAUHAHAHAHA
bloody cheesy.
anyway my point is.. u need to communicate u like her, but u dun have to tell her DIRECTLY. becos, coming back to ur fear, if there is no direct proposal, there won't be a direct rejection. got it?!
and yes.. stop being so kan cheong! -
Kan cheong , yes I am very !!!
Think of her everynite, then she called me yesterday, I was too shocked for words ! -
she called...
so... start planning what you wanna cook for her!
here's your big chance.. don't blow itOriginally posted by FaithGuy:Kan cheong , yes I am very !!!
Think of her everynite, then she called me yesterday, I was too shocked for words ! -
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Sad
to say,
The most devastating thing happened : I was rejected when i told her over the phone i like her.
I would have already thought how to deal with it but it was very difficult to cope with . Frankly speaking , i am very sad + disappointed that I could receive love when I give out . The reason she told me was : too early. Personal sensing is her ex have gave a hell on her, I presummed she is pretty scared to fall in love again ......
I dunno if the possibility of success in the future is high .
However, I still wanna to go for it but i dunno how to .... -
be her friend for the moment, be there for her, and be good to her...
emotions can be nurtured.. and love can slowly grow..
from the looks of things, she was hurt badly in the past.. be one of her reasons to heal, to move on and hopefully, she'll grow in affection for you...
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over the phone..
hmm.. still not cooked yet huh?
just keep that date.. and cook something nice for her.. and then do the above -
I will try every bit because i really like her very much .
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if she is still amenable to you being a friend and you're doing stuff like cooking for her and maybe going to the movies.. (dating stuff.. just that you're not saying that you're dating), there's a good chance you may just grow on her
be what you call yourself.. have a little faith in yourselfOriginally posted by FaithGuy:I will try every bit because i really like her very much . -
