First cut is always the deepest
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To make a long story short about my current situation....
Broke with girlfriend more than 2 months ago. First few weeks after breakup felt great because I had my good pals to fall back on but after a while but lately this feeling of wanting her back has resurfaced again and this time it's even worst than before. I've tried so many methods to distract myself from her. Composing piano solos , jamming with my friends , having a jolly good time with my friends , doing community work , school projects etc and although these may work initially , but this feeling of wanting her back always comes back to me when I fall into an "idle state of mind".
I get irritated when friends tell me to forget her because it is always easier said than done. I feel damn crappy when I see couples smooching around in public , seeing couples holding hands is of like something obscene for me. The saying goes , "First cut is always the deepest" and I truely agree with it.
Well basically she still treats me as her enemy just because I paranoia took over my usual self when suddenly she stopped contacting me for 2 weeks before I finally managed to contact her and find out why. I feel that I'm not as "romantic" as compared to other couples around. Yes , you can say I get very shy when it comes to being in a relationship and I guess these might be one of the reasons why she stopped taking an interest in me. Well basically she kisses me all the time but I don't kiss back and she gets frustrated over it because in my point of view "one thing might lead to another". You 2 can be kissing , the next day frenching , the next next day petting and finally the next next next day engaging in full blown sex and what we get at the end of the day is a platonic relationship in action.
If you're thinking that only secondary school students encounter this kind of situation before , then you're thinking otherwise...
So , what has Aunt Agony have to say? -
What do u want us to say?
break up is something very painfull and it takes a strong will to end it.
Or the the pain will never end.
What you are feeling now is normal, wanting someone to hold and be loved is one of the phase of break up you must go through.
well my advice is simple never look back no matter how bad or how good it looks. -
Yeah, the first cut is usually the deepest.Originally posted by rammstein619:.....................
So , what has Aunt Agony have to say?
Learn from your first and appreciate it.
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my advice..just move on with life..time won't come to a standstill for you..you move forward for it..no point looking back..
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If she hates you, you still got chance to patch back. if she ignore you then thats it...bye bye forever
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When comes to lucky, she's cursed
When comes to loving me she's worse... -
i really respect u man...*salute* u can c wat is wrong or wat is rite... not lyk sum guys who only want to bang their gf... which resulted in many unwanted situation.. anyway.. i tink u should explain to tat ger... if e ger realli loves u.. she will understand...
if she tinks u r not romantic..u can try other "romantic way" eg, buying sum small gift as a surprise for her ... e gift dun haf 2 b ex ... its e tots tat counts... or maybe you can buy her fave food and bing it to her place... or u can compose a song for her... there r many ways u can tot of loh... u juz haf to try... gd luck! -
Loads of crapOriginally posted by pinko_princess:i really respect u man...*salute* u can c wat is wrong or wat is rite... not lyk sum guys who only want to bang their gf... which resulted in many unwanted situation.. anyway.. i tink u should explain to tat ger... if e ger realli loves u.. she will understand...
if she tinks u r not romantic..u can try other "romantic way" eg, buying sum small gift as a surprise for her ... e gift dun haf 2 b ex ... its e tots tat counts... or maybe you can buy her fave food and bing it to her place... or u can compose a song for her... there r many ways u can tot of loh... u juz haf to try... gd luck!
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or mayb e crap is u... opps.. sum1 is guilty~!
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Oh someone just join yesterday har..maybe our smart forumers can do a search on my threads & most probably guess who this 'pinko_princess' is.Originally posted by pinko_princess:or mayb e crap is u... opps.. sum1 is guilty~!
Pssst, its a guy by the name of...s 
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1st cut is e deepest. and i guess most pp r juz not lucky enuf to escape this hurt (ie. not having ur 1st love as ur foreva partner).
after tt, you'll juz learn from it n become more immune to protect urself. tt's how i see it. most people r juz ultimately selfish. i mean, who wouldn't look out for emselves 1st. i'm juz having a cynical outlook in life.
but, i juz watched batman!! n rem wat e father said to batman? "son, y do we fall?" "we fall so tt we can learn to pick ourselves up!"
haha... sounds dumb n crappy, but still, a more optimistic view tt offers slight encouragement. -
i join juz aft seeing ur topic... cuz i cant stand a jerk lyk u... watever u say... u slowly go find mi loh... I AM WAITING~!!!
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I got your pic so you dont play play ok?!Originally posted by pinko_princess:i join juz aft seeing ur topic... cuz i cant stand a jerk lyk u... watever u say... u slowly go find mi loh... I AM WAITING~!!!
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watever..u wan treaten mi go ahead... its onli a pic... i'm not e 1 getting problems... haha.. at least i dun haf a gf who is getting preg... u dis kind of ppl only noe how to do stupid tings lyk expose ppl pix... go ahead... i v guang ming zhen da wan loh... not lyk u.. onli childish n losers will do dis kind of thing.. yawnz... get a life ba... LAME!!!
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guang ming zhen da ? A guy using that nick? Come on la, you think forumers are stupid? You want to flame me then use your orginal nick to flame me openly. Using this girlie nick...What a "guang ming zhen da" personOriginally posted by pinko_princess:watever..u wan treaten mi go ahead... its onli a pic... i'm not e 1 getting problems... haha.. at least i dun haf a gf who is getting preg... u dis kind of ppl only noe how to do stupid tings lyk expose ppl pix... go ahead... i v guang ming zhen da wan loh... not lyk u.. onli childish n losers will do dis kind of thing.. yawnz... get a life ba... LAME!!! -
haha...watever... anyway u mistaken mi as another person liao.. i'm a straight female... i'm not s****... i dun haf to act as another person loh.. u so jerk.. of cuz will got alot of di ren wan loh...
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Pls read the highlighted part>watever..u wan treaten mi go ahead... its onli a pic... i'm not e 1 getting problems... haha.. at least i dun haf a gf who is getting preg... u dis kind of ppl only noe how to do stupid tings lyk expose ppl pix... go ahead... i v guang ming zhen da wan loh... not lyk u.. onli childish n losers will do dis kind of thing.. yawnz... get a life ba... LAME!!!
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Still want to act dumb..Go edit your earlier post b4 You contradict yourself again
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haha.. watver... at least i'm sitting down here seeing sum stupid fool tinking i'm sum1 tat i'm not... nice try but u r wrong...
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Wow rammstein619,
I must first say "I RESPECT YOU"
This is the first time i come across a male type human species who does not want sex from his partner. Serious.
Btw lets face it, if you are not anti-horny and your ex is horny, you 2 cannot never be together coz u cant satisfy her. -
a not understanding and uncompromising gf ....can lead to problems more worse than this
its gd that both of u are separated for the moment..
maybe when both of u can understand each other better then take things from there..but tats only maybe.
as pple always say; look forward to the better girl that comes along
handle them well as much as you handle your musical instruments
no sweat -
How old are you? Me just curious...
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Threadstarter: I admire your descipline. From what you wrote , I could sense that you are not so ready to progress your relationship into another state.
I feel that returning a kiss might not necessary means it will lead to a series of undesirable situations. I knew at least, man's natural instinct is to give their kiss faithfully to their loved ones. Returning a kiss here might express your love for her non-verbally. But when it gets too physical, trust me , woman know how to protect themselves , its a built-in mechanism in them .
Based on what you wrote, I believe you are quite a matured guy . Trust us, just let go and live on , take it as a learning experience, we also paid dearly for our 1st also . -
First cut may not not the deepest. At least, not in my case.
Wound will heal, and the scar will remind you that you have survived.
I'm actually very surprised to know that you have such a clear mind, knowing that one step may lead to another etc. I tot guys can't wait to get intimate with gf.
No right or wrong..but is it healthy? There will sure be holding hands, kisses, huggings etc in r/s, isn't it? If you can't overcome that, then how? Like those sg guys who marry vietnam wife, nv go thru the process of courtship then get married and have kids liao ma? -
hmm....too soon to judge(?)
/Waiting for threadstarter to post more.