If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?

pls give some advice.
many thanks

Originally posted by c2on2:

If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?

pls give some advice.
many thanks

she doesn't want to hurt ur feelings by saying no...

but i had told her no need to care abt my feelings and just say no if she dun want..

she is still considering but its gona take a super long time, at least a year i think.

Originally posted by StarPuppy:

she doesn't want to hurt ur feelings by saying no...

then what up with the 1 yr plus thing? like yang guo and xiao long nu? the latter hope that after 16 yrs, yang guo would forget her? so she give the guy 1 yrs plus to forget her? or the one year plus is for her to find a better mate?

isnt that wasting the guy time? my advise..give up after 3 months..most men do not have such patience...one exception, my female friend was courted by a guy for 3 years...frankly speaking, i really don have such patience and i really salute and respect the guy for his determination, by the way, got rejected twice also, ask once annually..finally the girl give in to the guy.

Originally posted by c2on2:

If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?

pls give some advice.
many thanks

ask yourself if u really like her so much to give up 1yr of your time.... if u really like her then wait lo..... wat kind of gal is she like? wats you n the gal age?

that is to prevent you from getting too deep into this obession, lest you get hurt, you also waste your time and money in this process.

can i assume that the girl is selfish? why don she try out the relationship and see if it will work? what can 1 yr do?simple don understand, why not move on, instead of letting the girl waste your time. if she feel something for you, she should just give it a try right? make her regret, just move on. at the same time, get to know more guys, give yourself more choices, don stick to one...you will lose out..and morover the girl cant give you an answer.

cheers, and good luck.

it can only mean she's taking you as a spare. keep you around for 1 year see if by then she got another better guy or not. if got then you no hope liao.. if dun have then she will mian qiang go with you. do you want this?

just move on. you'll meet a better gal who'll be on fire for you.

Originally posted by c2on2:

If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?

pls give some advice.
many thanks

Chances are... It ain't anything good coming up...

Go get along and running...

Forget it.
Dun wait for someone who will not wait for u.

Time to cut losses n move on.
I dunno then who know
ask god huh
gals like to give vague answer, yes meant yes, no meant no.
keep u guessing n wasting yr time.
at least the gals that rejected me give me a straight answer, maybe they know I can take it

Dear C2on2,

For some reason, I have a feeling that you already know deep down what this means, but you're only seek to confirm your suspicions. Either that, or you're hoping that someone here will tell you that there's hope, so that you can justify what you want to do (i.e. continue your fruitless pursuit?). At the end of the day, if you're rejected, you can take comfort that somebody else told you to go for it?

No offence, but perhaps the best way to start growing up is to take responsibility for your actions. You want to go on a wild goose chase hoping against hope that there's a chance, then go ahead. But ultimately, if things don't work out the way you want, there's Nobody else to blame but yourself. Remember, you CHOSE the path.

Notwithstanding the above, my advice is: the meaning is very clear. The girl may Not be trying to make you wait, but is giving you a gentle hint to give up your pursuit. If you don't have what it takes to be her guy, you don't have what it takes. There must be feelings on her part...

FeowFeow

Originally posted by c2on2:

If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?

pls give some advice.
many thanks

The answer is most probaly No..

u just got torpedoed.. n u are sinking..fast. So bail n swim to shore =P

let me ask you something.

if you are single and a girl friend told you that she likes you but you do not have any feelings for her yet.

what would u do?

1) say i do not love you?

2) Say i dunno ?

3) say i love you?

Originally posted by drx:

let me ask you something.

if you are single and a girl friend told you that she likes you but you do not have any feelings for her yet.

what would u do?

1) say i do not love you?

2) Say i dunno ?

3) say i love you?

i know what is your point, but it doesnt mean that the girl will have to wait for me. i will just tell her the truth," i do not have feelings for you yet" instead of answers like don know or wait for 1 or 2 yrs..will it be fair for the opposite party?i will be too selfish..

remember a post that say that the guy waited a few years for a particular girl. time is something that cannot be valued, even the fastest runner can race against it, we can only run with it. and those phase about," we cannot turn back the hand of time"

Originally posted by c2on2:

If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?
pls give some advice.
many thanks

Y bother what does that sentence means.....

Just tell her " I dunno" and most likely you'll have the answer to "what does it means" question......

u stupid fool. she dun like u. simple and sweet and nice and short and straight

Originally posted by c2on2:

If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?

pls give some advice.
many thanks

And did u do anything to prove to her that u r the one for her during this "waiting time"?? I dun believe u did, so obviously her answer is "dunno"

But I'm still surprise she gave u a chance to prove urself again after 1 long year. This "waiting time" is for u to prove urself to her after u confessed. If u dun still take action.... ho ho!! Good luck.

Use this time to start taking action instead of using this time to socialise in sgforums.

How do u feel abt yr relationship with her? Do u feel happy together with her and vice-versa? U know the answer and what to do!

Some girls like to give this kinda answer because it allows her to have her cake and eat it too.

Think about it

Originally posted by StarPuppy:

she doesn't want to hurt ur feelings by saying no...

i agree too...

anywayz, if a gal can give u the same reply after a yr, it either means she is "hanging herself up to get a better price", or that she is juz afraid to tell u directly that she's not keen...

so, may be u shld back off a little, lest u might ruin ur friendship with her if u put her under more pressure... gd luck..

maybe you should not take a 'postion' in this relationship....

like steady, bf, husband or whatever...

the idea of dating is to find out more about each other ... until you feel that you are ready.

your partner isnt... so she just needs more time

and i think she is smart about it, taking time to know who you are and what is going on in the relationship.

if she commits someday, she may already be very sure that you are the one. there is nothing wrong in being cautious and wanting to be sure.

rushing in to commit isnt always a great thing... sometimes it ends up in regret (actually it usually does)

just be glad !

Look here, mr c2on2,

That girl is saying to you, "Let me enjoy and play around with other guys, if by then I get tired or bored or no longer attractive to the guys, maybe you can be my slave and serve me. Meanwhile, I will rather do all the boring mundane stuff for this whole year than to be with you."

It means she dont know that u even exist.

Originally posted by c2on2:

If a gal u love deeply, but after your confession of feelings to her and asking if wanna go steady anot. but she reply "i duno" and u waited and waited for a few months and the answer is still "i duno".

asked her and she said "duno" is not rejection or acceptance.

and when she asked u to give her like 1yr plus of waiting time.

wat does it means?

pls give some advice.
many thanks

I guess it can means a lot of things depending on how much ur imagination can lead u to....
You may think a lot about the times both of you shared... and the risks involved if you wish to wait for her ....
But as my friends would always ask mi, "is she worth the wait", " would you regret if you have not wait for her" ..... "if after the wait, she still dun give u a reply or a negative reply, can u handle this outcome?'....

I guess the decision of wat you want to do lies in the ans that ur heart is shouting out now... coz that may be wat ur heart yearns most... but u should noe that u must be mentally prepared for unexpected things which might come along the way....

In any case, give urself some time ... and when u starts to see a clearer picture, you may be able to make a better decision....

All the best...