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Hmm... why did she tell you in the first place? i am just curious...
But, if you dun really bother about her virginity, then, you shouldn't be bothered by it. However, if you doubt if she's a person of honesty, then, i feel that you should be able to judge her on that by the way that she handles things oredi.
Cheers.
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nuns can live all their live without having sex so why can't your gf?
If u are worried that she may have lied why not test her in another way?
there are many ways to test whether a person is lieing or not.
Since you do not mind why asked?
I will be more worried if she will leave you or not, if I will you.
If she can leave her bf of 5 years why she can't leave a bf whom she just meet and do not trust her at all?
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Originally posted by powerpcsg:My ex has a boyfriend for 5 years, and now she tells me she is still a virgin, should I believe her? Acutally it doesn't matter to me whether she is a virgin, i only want honesty and trust in relationship. Pls advice... Thanks in advance.
-- A troubled guy
hi, juz to clear my doubts, u were with ur ex, then ur ex left her then bf and came back to u is it? sorry, kinda confused...
anywayz, not all gals are comfortable with pre-martial sex n i believe there are still many gals are there who have bf for many yrs n are still virgins, so it really depends on how she carries herself normally...
but first, do u carry urself properly? it will be most unfair to request her to be a virgin while u are not doing the same thing urself... if this is true, then i suppose u have lost the right to mind so much...
like u said, u are looking for a good n honest r/s... even if she has lost it during her prev r/s due to naviety or watnot, give her a chance to start a new life with u... n it doesnt mean that if she doesnt "do" it with u, she loves u less.. it probably means that she has grown up n knows how to set her priorities right..
i empathise with ur predicament, as such qn n worries are bound to come by occasionally... watever the case, u will first need to convince urself that itz not the body that u r really concern with, but how she treats u in the r/s... my opinion is that if u cant even get pass this obstacle in ur heart, itz better that u give the r/s a deeper thot b4 committing or this thingey will always come back to haunt u n damage the r/s...
if still unsure, have a heart-to-heart talk with the gal n let her know ur concern... itz not a sign of weakness to admit ur fears... in fact, it would do the r/s good by not keeping her in the dark... gd luck
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Originally posted by powerpcsg:My ex has a boyfriend for 5 years, and now she tells me she is still a virgin, should I believe her? Acutally it doesn't matter to me whether she is a virgin, i only want honesty and trust in relationship. Pls advice... Thanks in advance.
-- A troubled guyif it doesnt matter then please dun dwell so much into it. it's pointless; reduncant and will be harmful to ur relationship.
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There are gals that will remain a virgin even if they are in a steady r/s for 5 years.
But most gals who are not virgin will probably not say to to their new bfs because they know that the guy might not be able to take it or they want to start afresh. and esp if they think that they can get away with the lie.
It is not necessary that they are not honest with you.
The fact that you are posting this "troubled" post shows that you "mind", so your ex is actually right in now telling u the truth, as u won't be able to handle it.
gals have defensive instincts, so but not tellin gu the truth is one way that they defend themselves....
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