Reality is harsh but...
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Sometimes, you ask a boy/girl out or message a boy/girl out and he/she doesn't reply do you all consider other things that might be hindering them before deciding its a reject? Sometimes, it really depends on the personality and workload of the person. A rejection might not be one and sometimes we might get the wrong idea.
For example:
You ask someone out, there's no reply, do you consider the following?
1 ) Busy, but doesn't know how to as replying busy might be seen as a form of reject if you don't know his/her schedule well.
2 ) Shy, sometimes he/she might not dare to reply or dare to go out with you alone as he/she is quite shy and doesn't dare show that he/she likes you.
3 ) Sometimes, you might not seen that person for a long time and you suddenly ask he/she out. He/she might be afraid of how the both of you have changed.
I think, sometimes, no reply might be better than a negative reply right? As least you can ponder... Sometimes, he or she even answer personal question such as "Where are you?" "What are you doing?" and yet won't go out with you? Don't you think there's a little thinking to be done.
I know reality is harsh but please do consider all possible senarios before giving up, sometimes you never really know. Asking for opinions here is not a really good thing as I can see any declining of sort results in people thinking its a rejection but they do not know that person's personality well enough to judge things clearly.
Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection.
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Sending text messages (SMS) for a date is not cool.
Call.
Talk.
Voice is best.
Don't think too much.
If at first you fail, try, try, and try again.
Changing target usually helps. -
Dun give up.
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sounds like the person is not interest or even missing u
if a person really like u, they will not stop thinking of you. They will answer every msg for yours.. thats the power of love
My advise is Maybe just drop a msg or call to check the person out again... find some excuse to talk or ask him/her on how well they are. Soemtimes they just forgotten abt u due to work or other problems in life but your msg will tell them u are still there for them.
but again if they are not responsive, the probablity is that u are screwed. They did have enough feelings with u to start the missing you feelling.
Last 2 method is to continue chasing them or just move on your life.
well its no wonder
Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection either those guys are rich or they are just fun people to hang out. In other words, these guys got the "right" moves. Flowers, sweet words, romantic dinners, etc... its no wonder some ugly guys have pretty gfs
jerks abuses gfs? well the oppositie happens to guys too... well the world is not fair.. so no point bitching abt it. Just take the bite as a man or woman... anyway most females i noted recover much faster than guys.. i found most guys are more emotionally scar in a breakup when the guys loves the gal more. i am one good example i got dumped and was depressed like craze
interacial relationship. hahah the power of love is very powerful ... it can do lots of wonders, my friend. People can even die and sacrfice theri lives for love.. The phases of love can be one of the best or worse experiences that a human being can go, for us humans are soft-wired to be happiest or suffer terribly when we are accepted or rejected by someone we adore and it is for a good evolutionary reason. Romantic love is as powerful as hunger and it is no wonder people around the world will live and die for love. It can be used partly to explain for the human ability to sacrifice in times of great stress and needs. We call it part of evolutionary theory. -
This is the 213235347468967078456353th times this question came up.Originally posted by Big Bot:Sometimes, you ask a boy/girl out or message a boy/girl out and he/she doesn't reply do you all consider other things that might be hindering them before deciding its a reject? Sometimes, it really depends on the personality and workload of the person. A rejection might not be one and sometimes we might get the wrong idea.
For example:
You ask someone out, there's no reply, do you consider the following?
1 ) Busy, but doesn't know how to as replying busy might be seen as a form of reject if you don't know his/her schedule well.
2 ) Shy, sometimes he/she might not dare to reply or dare to go out with you alone as he/she is quite shy and doesn't dare show that he/she likes you.
3 ) Sometimes, you might not seen that person for a long time and you suddenly ask he/she out. He/she might be afraid of how the both of you have changed.
I think, sometimes, no reply might be better than a negative reply right? As least you can ponder... Sometimes, he or she even answer personal question such as "Where are you?" "What are you doing?" and yet won't go out with you? Don't you think there's a little thinking to be done.
I know reality is harsh but please do consider all possible senarios before giving up, sometimes you never really know. Asking for opinions here is not a really good thing as I can see any declining of sort results in people thinking its a rejection but they do not know that person's personality well enough to judge things clearly.
Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection.
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reality is harsh, but as the saying goes, "when the going gets tough, the tuff gets going.."... watz a bit of setback these days? if a guy cant even take a little setback in his love life, then tell me howz he gonna face the working world which is even harsher?
well, may be u havent been thru the army, or u havent gone thru tougher times... i suppose once ur mind opens after many events in life, u will not be bothered abt trivial things like ugly guys having pretty gf n stuff like that... there are many things that demand more attention than that... cheerios...
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this is because it is part of the girls' genes, they have to be attracted to people like that, no choice. Girls don't go for looks.Originally posted by Big Bot:Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection. -
Your reality is harsh indeed.Originally posted by Big Bot:Sometimes, you ask a boy/girl out or message a boy/girl out and he/she doesn't reply do you all consider other things that might be hindering them before deciding its a reject? Sometimes, it really depends on the personality and workload of the person. A rejection might not be one and sometimes we might get the wrong idea.
For example:
You ask someone out, there's no reply, do you consider the following?
1 ) Busy, but doesn't know how to as replying busy might be seen as a form of reject if you don't know his/her schedule well.
2 ) Shy, sometimes he/she might not dare to reply or dare to go out with you alone as he/she is quite shy and doesn't dare show that he/she likes you.
3 ) Sometimes, you might not seen that person for a long time and you suddenly ask he/she out. He/she might be afraid of how the both of you have changed.
I think, sometimes, no reply might be better than a negative reply right? As least you can ponder... Sometimes, he or she even answer personal question such as "Where are you?" "What are you doing?" and yet won't go out with you? Don't you think there's a little thinking to be done.
I know reality is harsh but please do consider all possible senarios before giving up, sometimes you never really know. Asking for opinions here is not a really good thing as I can see any declining of sort results in people thinking its a rejection but they do not know that person's personality well enough to judge things clearly.
Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection. -
Erm
Sorry to pour cold water, but at least for my group of girl friends, if we don't answer a person, it means we can't even be bothered to reply.
If you mean something to us, we'll at least bother to answer you with a "Sorry, Not available/Not free/busy".
Or, even a "Sorry, you're just Not my type".
But No answer? Well, we won't even waste the time on you, because if we tell you that you're Not our type, you'll just ask why to a question that we can't answer.
Girls' perspective, at least from my group of friends. Paiseh 
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Big Bot:Sometimes, you ask a boy/girl out or message a boy/girl out and he/she doesn't reply do you all consider other things that might be hindering them before deciding its a reject? Sometimes, it really depends on the personality and workload of the person. A rejection might not be one and sometimes we might get the wrong idea.
For example:
You ask someone out, there's no reply, do you consider the following?
1 ) Busy, but doesn't know how to as replying busy might be seen as a form of reject if you don't know his/her schedule well.
2 ) Shy, sometimes he/she might not dare to reply or dare to go out with you alone as he/she is quite shy and doesn't dare show that he/she likes you.
3 ) Sometimes, you might not seen that person for a long time and you suddenly ask he/she out. He/she might be afraid of how the both of you have changed.
I think, sometimes, no reply might be better than a negative reply right? As least you can ponder... Sometimes, he or she even answer personal question such as "Where are you?" "What are you doing?" and yet won't go out with you? Don't you think there's a little thinking to be done.
I know reality is harsh but please do consider all possible senarios before giving up, sometimes you never really know. Asking for opinions here is not a really good thing as I can see any declining of sort results in people thinking its a rejection but they do not know that person's personality well enough to judge things clearly.
Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection. -
No matter what, it still works EVERYWAY and ANYWAY, because I do believe all those jerks/ugly/fatass/interracial/age relationships starts with a 999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999 times of rejection before they are accepted.Originally posted by FeowFeow:Erm
Sorry to pour cold water, but at least for my group of girl friends, if we don't answer a person, it means we can't even be bothered to reply.
If you mean something to us, we'll at least bother to answer you with a "Sorry, Not available/Not free/busy".
Or, even a "Sorry, you're just Not my type".
But No answer? Well, we won't even waste the time on you, because if we tell you that you're Not our type, you'll just ask why to a question that we can't answer. Girls' perspective, at least from my group of friends. Paiseh
FeowFeow
All I want to say is, try not to give up so easily... keep trying till someone new comes along for you/her/him. As least you know you give it all and definately won't regret. -
PUIZ!!!!
Love is just a mind game.
Know how to trick the person and you win.
Everybody has a weakness.
Find that weakness and exploit it...then he/she will do whatever you want...
Its as simple as that. -
Originally posted by Big Bot:
Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection.
this one because opposites attract. A dumb gal is attracted by a smart guy's intelligence. Anyway, this is frm my personal experience..feel free to criticise. -
Originally posted by Big Bot:Sometimes, you ask a boy/girl out or message a boy/girl out and he/she doesn't reply do you all consider other things that might be hindering them before deciding its a reject? Sometimes, it really depends on the personality and workload of the person. A rejection might not be one and sometimes we might get the wrong idea.
For example:
You ask someone out, there's no reply, do you consider the following?
1 ) Busy, but doesn't know how to as replying busy might be seen as a form of reject if you don't know his/her schedule well.
2 ) Shy, sometimes he/she might not dare to reply or dare to go out with you alone as he/she is quite shy and doesn't dare show that he/she likes you.
3 ) Sometimes, you might not seen that person for a long time and you suddenly ask he/she out. He/she might be afraid of how the both of you have changed.
I know reality is harsh but please do consider all possible senarios before giving up, sometimes you never really know. Asking for opinions here is not a really good thing as I can see any declining of sort results in people thinking its a rejection but they do not know that person's personality well enough to judge things clearly.
Wow, bro i tod tis another philosophical, boring ole' thread on life. But this one rely struck a chord...
I get discouraged easily & always wondered why i get rejected? Like when i msg this gal & she doesn't reply, i wld feel rely down... thinkin she doesn't like me.
Have you even wondered? How some ugly guys have super pretty girlfriends? Or how some jerks that abuses their girlfriends have girlfriends that love them so much? Or how some interacial relationship started? I most, if not all of them starts with rejection.
Yeah this is rely a F_U_C_K_E_D up but common phenonemon.... It rely IRKS me like crazy... why is heaven so unfair??!!!
Must i be a lying, cheating b-astard before i can find myself a decent, pretty devoted GF??
Being honest, humble & sincere seems to get me nowhere! Rely drives me to the DARK SIDE -
Yeah. Don't let it backfire..Originally posted by Big Bot:No matter what, it still works EVERYWAY and ANYWAY, because I do believe all those jerks/ugly/fatass/interracial/age relationships starts with a 999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999 times of rejection before they are accepted.
All I want to say is, try not to give up so easily... keep trying till someone new comes along for you/her/him. As least you know you give it all and definately won't regret.
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Ohmigawd, so many 9999999999999999999999999999999999999 times?! I'm gonna seek protection order from some psychos out there
Sorry, I know it sounds cruel, but people should know when to stop
FeowFeowOriginally posted by Big Bot:No matter what, it still works EVERYWAY and ANYWAY, because I do believe all those jerks/ugly/fatass/interracial/age relationships starts with a 999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999 times of rejection before they are accepted.
All I want to say is, try not to give up so easily... keep trying till someone new comes along for you/her/him. As least you know you give it all and definately won't regret. -
I think you got it wrong... he doesnt mean continuos harrassment of that same girl but that he shouldnt let one rejection make him give up looking for loveOriginally posted by FeowFeow:Ohmigawd, so many 9999999999999999999999999999999999999 times?! I'm gonna seek protection order from some psychos out there
Sorry, I know it sounds cruel, but people should know when to stop
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Oh, like that ah...
Then ok lah, Not psycho. My bad
FeowFeowOriginally posted by DriftingGuy:I think you got it wrong... he doesnt mean continuos harrassment of that same girl but that he shouldnt let one rejection make him give up looking for love