how to ask ex bf to patch back.....
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i regretted to mention break up to my ex.... now i wan to patch back..
the day me n him broke up... i also ask for patch back... but he refused
past few days ( less than a week), i callled alternate days and he did ans.. n talked anything except relationship...
I wan to patch back but how?? some useful advice / or personal experience..
thank you -
any idea he still has feeling for you?Originally posted by -ohyeah-:i regretted to mention break up to my ex.... now i wan to patch back..
the day me n him broke up... i also ask for patch back... but he refused
past few days ( less than a week), i callled alternate days and he did ans.. n talked anything except relationship...
I wan to patch back but how?? some useful advice / or personal experience..
thank you
Try going out with him like normal. example if you meet him every sat. try to do that also. If you keep giving you excuse saying no free or what then he is avoiding you. then you should know what to do already. -
what is the reason for the breakup?
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just tell him.. u missed Sucking his cock alot and want him to Fuck u day and nite again...he confirm will say ok one
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Can provide more info so that we can handle your problem?
Cheers
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maybe u hurt him my mentioning break up with him so he cant trust tat u r serious to patch back... wait a while then try again...Originally posted by -ohyeah-:i regretted to mention break up to my ex.... now i wan to patch back..
the day me n him broke up... i also ask for patch back... but he refused
past few days ( less than a week), i callled alternate days and he did ans.. n talked anything except relationship...
I wan to patch back but how?? some useful advice / or personal experience..
thank you -
the reason is... he cant stand me keep shouting at him and he wish to be alone out of sudden...
He said he had too much army stuff to handle... too much responsiblity to bear....
i admitted i did shout at him when we 2 quarrelled... in the past when we quarrelled, he would cool me down...
the quarrel b4 we broke up, he did nthg.. i was so upset and wanted to break up now i regret -
brutus, how long i have to wait....
now i feeling v lousy keep thinking of him
i cant do anything at all.. i wanted to call him but i scared he felt i was pestering him. if he avoid me ... that will be worse rite -
he also has he pride ma..use 10-3-1 system.....repeat. Sure succeed!
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wat is 10-3-1 system
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oh..one more thing.. friends can become lovers, but lovers into friends? hardly ever..
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Originally posted by -ohyeah-:the reason is... he cant stand me keep shouting at him and he wish to be alone out of sudden...
He said he had too much army stuff to handle... too much responsiblity to bear....
i admitted i did shout at him when we 2 quarrelled... in the past when we quarrelled, he would cool me down...
the quarrel b4 we broke up, he did nthg.. i was so upset and wanted to break up now i regret In my own opinon, you wanted to get ur point stated when aruging so in order to make u happy,ur bf has to cool u down
and when times go on, he gets very pressured and that can make a person reconsider if the r/s is worth holding on
He decided not to hold on the r/s anymore and when u stated a breakup,he decided that there is nothing for him to ask for a patch anymore
Cheers
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right now his mind still very messy so give him a week or so to rest his mind then call him out n have a good talk with him(without the shouting)... tell him how u felt lo... but make it sound like u admit u were wrong n wans him back coz u love him lo... as for now u oso need to calm ur mind... go find frens or someother entertainment to keep ur mind occupied... goodluck...Originally posted by -ohyeah-:brutus, how long i have to wait....
now i feeling v lousy keep thinking of him
i cant do anything at all.. i wanted to call him but i scared he felt i was pestering him. if he avoid me ... that will be worse rite -
to be frank, i think he doesnt want to patch becos he doesnt have any feelings for u liao... thus its pointless to continue. i suggest that you give up on him and the relationship... no rooms for regrets.. if u guys patch again i tink most probably will break again.. the sooner u expose the wounds, the faster they will heal. dragging and clinging onto the relationship seriously aint a solution. good luck in whatever decision u make though...Originally posted by -ohyeah-:i regretted to mention break up to my ex.... now i wan to patch back..
the day me n him broke up... i also ask for patch back... but he refused
past few days ( less than a week), i callled alternate days and he did ans.. n talked anything except relationship...
I wan to patch back but how?? some useful advice / or personal experience..
thank you
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why , in the 1st place ,would u shout at him whenever there is a quarrel .. becos u took him for granted??? have u reflected on that ?? u said he would always take time to cool u down ... y so ? cos u r too hot tempered ... i think ur bf has been rather gd to u .. he pampers u like a princess .. treats u everything he can .. but as time goes .. u start to find him an eye sore .. picking on simple things he did for u ..
so y bother ... since u find it a eyesore ...
ur bf has yet again n again given chances on the rls .. but i guess u turned out worst .. mayb u dunno ... u r giving him the stress ... cos u 2 lack communications ... so whenever he tries to please u ... it ended up in a quarrel ...
for 2 person to be 2gether ... it has to be give n take ... comfort n love ... ur rls has turned sour ... i would say the fault may jus lies with u ... u may try to win back his love n trust for u .. but would u change into a better person than u r now ?? can both of u b the same again ??
rls to u is nothing as u can simply break it off after on impulse during a senseless quarrel ... n by doing so i believe u hav broken his heart ...
now u wan him back .. becos u felt lonely w/o him or is it routine tat u r always with him for so long ... search urself .. think wat u really wan .. issit the love for him... or jus the emotion support that ur bf has always given u ... or jus the sake of having some1 there for u ?
n change ur temper ... i mean .. hw many guys can stand such things ... for u ... he has forgo his pride n ego ... y not try to be demure n gentle to him ?? n everything will be so sweet -
why not u put urself in his shoes and ask urself will you patch back when u're in this kinda situation?
Guys hate to be shouted at.. esp by gals...and esp with they're so busy with other stuffs....
Maybe he did some serious consideration before saying a "no"... maybe rationally he believes he'll be better off alone or with someone else....
If u can't bear to leave him.. why even treat him like that in the first place? and why even mention a break up? NO offense but my advice would be you moving on , and try to improve urself for better quality r/s to come..... -
You're screwed..You just hurt his ego..
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I think your case sounds similar but different from my case. Because he too from army and said he is too busy at army. How long you 2 being together?Originally posted by -ohyeah-:the reason is... he cant stand me keep shouting at him and he wish to be alone out of sudden...
He said he had too much army stuff to handle... too much responsiblity to bear....
i admitted i did shout at him when we 2 quarrelled... in the past when we quarrelled, he would cool me down...
the quarrel b4 we broke up, he did nthg.. i was so upset and wanted to break up now i regret
I indirectly caused my breakup also because I sent an email stating how I feel about his faults in a nice way as I think he is not comfortable in talking to me personally. he ignored my emails and treated me coldy after the email after that. What I did is shouting at him through smses.
I asked in sms whether is he losing interest and wanted a breakup. then suddenly sms me to not wait for him as he is busying in army no time to reply my messages. after 1 week I cant stand having a break up on the sms. For me I felt breakups through sms is the most shitty yucky.
I called him up and he said he dont love me anymore because I was too fan, keep demanding answers from him through the sms. I did wonder if I never sent that email and never suggest whether he wants a breakup or not? How long will we be together? I think not long because the beginning is totally different from the end. no consistency. gets duller as times goes. a 1 year plus relationship to get so dull so quickly. I feels very tired up.
3 months plus already I still feels so terrible and miss him quite badly, but he never called or sms or msn me. I did sms and msn him. I felt I am so weak with no pride. I needs time bah. Maybe he never love me before.
For your case, just 1 week less from your breakup, all the quarel words and anger may still be there, since you have already asked to patch back and he refused. Have pride, and leave him alone already, if he feel that he still miss you alot he will contact you. maybe give him 1 or 2 month time to think about it. if the guy really love you, 1 or 2 months he will start to miss you badly already. If you really meant alot to him, he will starts to worried about where are you and calls you up! good luck!!
Did you wondering about what causes your quarels, maybe you can think whether are you not understanding about why he react in some ways? Try to understand each other, men and women think differently. Shouting is strongly blaming on someone. especially guys they hate to be blamed and dislike feeling incompetence to help in your problems. A guy felt appreciated when you are happy because of him. All the best and hope you 2 can overcome this barrier! -
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I think your case sounds similar but different from my case. Because he too from army and said he is too busy at army. How long you 2 being together?
I indirectly caused my breakup also because I sent an email stating how I feel about his faults in a nice way as I think he is not comfortable in talking to me personally. he ignored my emails and treated me coldy after the email after that. What I did is shouting at him through smses.
I asked in sms whether is he losing interest and wanted a breakup. then suddenly sms me to not wait for him as he is busying in army no time to reply my messages. after 1 week I cant stand having a break up on the sms. For me I felt breakups through sms is the most #%$@ty yucky.
I called him up and he said he dont love me anymore because I was too fan, keep demanding answers from him through the sms. I did wonder if I never sent that email and never suggest whether he wants a breakup or not? How long will we be together? I think not long because the beginning is totally different from the end. no consistency. gets duller as times goes. a 1 year plus relationship to get so dull so quickly. I feels very tired up.
3 months plus already I still feels so terrible and miss him quite badly, but he never called or sms or msn me. I did sms and msn him. I felt I am so weak with no pride. I needs time bah. Maybe he never love me before.
For your case, just 1 week less from your breakup, all the quarel words and anger may still be there, since you have already asked to patch back and he refused. Have pride, and leave him alone already, if he feel that he still miss you alot he will contact you. maybe give him 1 or 2 month time to think about it. if the guy really love you, 1 or 2 months he will start to miss you badly already. If you really meant alot to him, he will starts to worried about where are you and calls you up! good luck!!
Did you wondering about what causes your quarels, maybe you can think whether are you not understanding about why he react in some ways? Try to understand each other, men and women think differently. Shouting is strongly blaming on someone. especially guys they hate to be blamed and dislike feeling incompetence to help in your problems. A guy felt appreciated when you are happy because of him. All the best and hope you 2 can overcome this barrier
I have been wif him since his first time being a recruit to segnant..... abt 1 years.
I am the one who let my emotion over run my head. SO whenever i am angry, i nv think.....
i cant bear the thought of not talking to him at all.... not talking for a day, i felt so lost..... unable to do anything..... so i rather call him alternate days... and i am happy that he is not avoiding my calls. He also feel that I have taken him for granted and he felt he has pampered too much... I nv realised that I have gone too much that cross his patient limit.....
I wan to talk to him abt us.. but he doesnt have the time and i dun dare to talk. i scare wat if i talk abt us, he begins to avoid me... but i dun wan to drag...
i really at lost... sometimes i feel he gives me some hope...
i feel that i am the one to let him down and hurt him so i feel that in order to patch up wif him, i have to make the first move to touch his heart... i am willingly to put down my pride....
i dun know how long he is willingly to talk to me abt us again..... -
when i asked him on the day we broke up, did he still love me???? his reply was he didnt know...
what did it mean?????
I assumed he did not love me anymore... he kept saying his mind was blank, couldnt think.....
then i told him that I hope there will be a day that we will be together... his reply was " there will always be a chance but we wont know when......"
I really dun know what he meant... he seems to give me some hope.. but he rejected the patch up out right.... despite i begged him..... -
I can totally understand the feeling of missing someone. At this moment he is feeling really pressurized I guess. Stress about facing quarels again, stress about whether can the relationship work well. He really need to sort out whats important to him.Originally posted by -ohyeah-:when i asked him on the day we broke up, did he still love me???? his reply was he didnt know...
what did it mean?????
I assumed he did not love me anymore... he kept saying his mind was blank, couldnt think.....
then i told him that I hope there will be a day that we will be together... his reply was " there will always be a chance but we wont know when......"
I really dun know what he meant... he seems to give me some hope.. but he rejected the patch up out right.... despite i begged him.....
You maybe feeling frustrated that he never listen and start shouting at him, but he is feeling totally upset about not being able to make you happy. Try to work this out by understand each other needs better. He still cares about you but just dont want to give you any hopes. He couldnt think because he needs a moment to himself to sort out his thoughts, maybe he need to hide in his own space and think about it. Give him time to think. Guys arent like us, words come so easily to us but not to them.
If you think he really cares for you alot, and there may be hope in the relationship still. Then dun give up easily again, saying breakup easily let him think that you dun really treasure this relationship as well. Tell him that you hope to get back together when he has cool down, give him a week like what brutus said. Stay calm and cheer up~ -
he's feeling pressurised. he doesnt know what he can do to satisfy u. u quarrel wiv him frequently. SHOUT some more.
and he's tired of it all.
do something that can move his heart.
and if you two do get back together, dont shout, okay?
best of luck.
-love star
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Think of it this way... Why should he accept?Originally posted by -ohyeah-:when i asked him on the day we broke up, did he still love me???? his reply was he didnt know...
what did it mean?????
I assumed he did not love me anymore... he kept saying his mind was blank, couldnt think.....
then i told him that I hope there will be a day that we will be together... his reply was " there will always be a chance but we wont know when......"
I really dun know what he meant... he seems to give me some hope.. but he rejected the patch up out right.... despite i begged him.....
How he know you won't give him 'nonsense' like before...?
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tell him ur pregnant with his child lorOriginally posted by -ohyeah-:i regretted to mention break up to my ex.... now i wan to patch back..
the day me n him broke up... i also ask for patch back... but he refused
past few days ( less than a week), i callled alternate days and he did ans.. n talked anything except relationship...
I wan to patch back but how?? some useful advice / or personal experience..
thank you -
I beg to differ.Twice.Originally posted by alexkusu:oh..one more thing.. friends can become lovers, but lovers into friends? hardly ever..