Should I expose him?
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Hi All,
Just came out of a foolish relationship with a married man.
I know for a fact that he is using the same tactic that he wooed me to pursue a female colleague of his who is attached with a bf and I also know that she is falling for his trick.
He would start by being especially nice to the gal e.g. picks her up and have breakfast in the morning, sends her home or to school in the evenings, packs lunch for her if she is too busy to eat and sends caring (later mushy) smses.
Then when on more friendly terms, confide in her his marriage woes e.g. he and his wife had not been intimate for 5years, they couldn't get along but mus stay together cos of son, wife got abit of psycho problems and would hurt hersefl if he leaves her blah blah...
Should I warn this lady? -
If you consider this man actions as a threat to the well being of the lady, then yes. You should go ahead and warn this lady. She needs your help.
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What you dont know cant hurt you.
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jealousy threat
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you should, but whether she'll listen to you anot, is another thingy. at least you tried, even if it's out of jealousy, it's still the right thing to do : )
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agree, just tell her once whether she listens or what she thinks of u, its up to her.
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warn her lo...
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hmm... call me a bitch or what. If you dislike this ger, dun warn her... seat back and watch. Haha
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This is what I'm going thru now also.Originally posted by 1bigmess:Hi All,
Just came out of a foolish relationship with a married man.
I know for a fact that he is using the same tactic that he wooed me to pursue a female colleague of his who is attached with a bf and I also know that she is falling for his trick.
He would start by being especially nice to the gal e.g. picks her up and have breakfast in the morning, sends her home or to school in the evenings, packs lunch for her if she is too busy to eat and sends caring (later mushy) smses.
Then when on more friendly terms, confide in her his marriage woes e.g. he and his wife had not been intimate for 5years, they couldn't get along but mus stay together cos of son, wife got abit of psycho problems and would hurt hersefl if he leaves her blah blah...
Should I warn this lady?
I cannot forgive him. I wun expose him. The girl asked for it. LOL. She is partly to be blamed for all the hurt and pain that I suffered.
But if I ever see him again, I make sure he gets 2 slaps from me.
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if you feel its the right thing to do that you might safe someone else and have closure on this mess
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Yes u shld warn this lady ..... dun let that bastard get wat he wans .... this kind of bastard must teach him a lesson .....Originally posted by 1bigmess:Hi All,
Just came out of a foolish relationship with a married man.
I know for a fact that he is using the same tactic that he wooed me to pursue a female colleague of his who is attached with a bf and I also know that she is falling for his trick.
He would start by being especially nice to the gal e.g. picks her up and have breakfast in the morning, sends her home or to school in the evenings, packs lunch for her if she is too busy to eat and sends caring (later mushy) smses.
Then when on more friendly terms, confide in her his marriage woes e.g. he and his wife had not been intimate for 5years, they couldn't get along but mus stay together cos of son, wife got abit of psycho problems and would hurt hersefl if he leaves her blah blah...
Should I warn this lady?
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Experience comes from poor judgement and well, poor judgement comes from experience. The greatest mistake that one has made is learn nothing out of his mistake. Well, since u ve learn something out of ur situation, stay clear and away from them... to protect urself from getting hurt once again.
1)Firstly, what makes u feel tat the lady will believe u?
She may tot tat u r seeking revenge, trying to break them up or exposing him out of jealousy?
Love is blind at times. She may know u meant well, but may or may not heed ur advice is another thing. Cuz we all ve different point of views.
2)Secondly, u may tink tat wat u r trying to do is merely to warn her out of concern; cuz u do not want to see another victim following ur footsteps...
However, the victim might not share the same view as u.
She may think 'who r u to interfere in my biz?' Some pple are juz arrogant and it's hard for them to accept the cruel facts.
3)Lastly, it's always better to learn from our mistakes... if the lady does not learn a lesson from him, she will nv be able to differentiate btw BLACK & WHITE....
4)Does it make u feel better if u let the lady knows more abt the jerk u have previously? If your ans is YES, u r soughting for revenge...out of anger...i can say, cuz i feel it too!!
Sometimes, i really felt like calling my HUBBY's married colleague to expose her doings to her MIL.
Cuz she always calls my HUBBY's at her MIL house.
How i wish i ve the 'Balls' to expose them and her other flings in office....
but to recollect, if i have ever done so, i wud ve being the Greatest fool...
Wat do i gain from that?? If her husband ever finds out... his reactions and emotions has got nothing to do wif me... in the end.. i do not benefit anything out of it.. So i rather swallow my anger and not create more trouble... to protect myself from getting hurt by others.
Live ur own life now and forget all abt him. U ve to let go........ such guys are juz not our piece of cake, if someone else wants it, let her enjoy it then. -
Why not tell the wifey instead ? ....
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warn... ..Originally posted by 1bigmess:Hi All,
Just came out of a foolish relationship with a married man.
I know for a fact that he is using the same tactic that he wooed me to pursue a female colleague of his who is attached with a bf and I also know that she is falling for his trick.
He would start by being especially nice to the gal e.g. picks her up and have breakfast in the morning, sends her home or to school in the evenings, packs lunch for her if she is too busy to eat and sends caring (later mushy) smses.
Then when on more friendly terms, confide in her his marriage woes e.g. he and his wife had not been intimate for 5years, they couldn't get along but mus stay together cos of son, wife got abit of psycho problems and would hurt hersefl if he leaves her blah blah...
Should I warn this lady? -
Yes...
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if she is your friend, warn, if not, buy popcorn and watch the drama
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Use the subtle method, tok to her abt constance chee case, mention you know a relative also behave like that. buying dinner, say the feller use (what his car type and color) fetching her here and there, do this and that, tell her this will not be good ending since the feller does not intend to leave his wife.
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just warn her, whether she heeds your advice is her choice.
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Why Lawyers should never ask a witness a question if they aren't prepared for the worst answer.
In a trial, a Southern small town prosecuting attorney called his first witness to the stand. The witness was a grand motherly, elderly woman.
He approached her and asked, "Mrs.Jones, do you know me?"
She responded, "Why, yes I do know you, Mr. Williams. I've known you since you were a young boy, and frankly, you've been a big disappointment to me. You lie, you cheat on your wife, you manipulate people and talk about them behind their backs. You think you're a big shot when you haven't the brains to realize you never will amount to anything more than a two-bit paper pusher. Yes, I know you."
The Lawyer was stunned.
Not knowing what else to do, he pointed across the room and asked, "Mrs. Jones, do you know the defense attorney?"
She again replied, "Why yes, I do. I've known Mr. Bradley since he was a youngster too. He's lazy, bigoted and he has a drinking problem. He can't build a normal relationship with anyone and his law practice is one of the worst in the entire state. Not to mention he cheated on his wife with three different women, one of them was your wife. Yes, I know him."
The defense attorney almost died.
The judge asked both counsellors to approach the bench and in a very quiet voice, said, "If either of you bastards asks her if she knows me, I'll throw you in jail for contempt." -
Originally posted by Cheng Tianlan:Why Lawyers should never ask a witness a question if they aren't prepared for the worst answer.
In a trial, a Southern small town prosecuting attorney called his first witness to the stand. The witness was a grand motherly, elderly woman.
He approached her and asked, "Mrs.Jones, do you know me?"
She responded, "Why, yes I do know you, Mr. Williams. I've known you since you were a young boy, and frankly, you've been a big disappointment to me. You lie, you cheat on your wife, you manipulate people and talk about them behind their backs. You think you're a big shot when you haven't the brains to realize you never will amount to anything more than a two-bit paper pusher. Yes, I know you."
The Lawyer was stunned.
Not knowing what else to do, he pointed across the room and asked, "Mrs. Jones, do you know the defense attorney?"
She again replied, "Why yes, I do. I've known Mr. Bradley since he was a youngster too. He's lazy, bigoted and he has a drinking problem. He can't build a normal relationship with anyone and his law practice is one of the worst in the entire state. Not to mention he cheated on his wife with three different women, one of them was your wife. Yes, I know him."
The defense attorney almost died.
The judge asked both counsellors to approach the bench and in a very quiet voice, said, "If either of you bastards asks her if she knows me, I'll throw you in jail for contempt." -
WAH...Originally posted by browniebaobao:This is what I'm going thru now also.
I cannot forgive him. I wun expose him. The girl asked for it. LOL. She is partly to be blamed for all the hurt and pain that I suffered.
But if I ever see him again, I make sure he gets 2 slaps from me. -
It's really up to youOriginally posted by 1bigmess:Hi All,
Just came out of a foolish relationship with a married man.
I know for a fact that he is using the same tactic that he wooed me to pursue a female colleague of his who is attached with a bf and I also know that she is falling for his trick.
He would start by being especially nice to the gal e.g. picks her up and have breakfast in the morning, sends her home or to school in the evenings, packs lunch for her if she is too busy to eat and sends caring (later mushy) smses.
Then when on more friendly terms, confide in her his marriage woes e.g. he and his wife had not been intimate for 5years, they couldn't get along but mus stay together cos of son, wife got abit of psycho problems and would hurt hersefl if he leaves her blah blah...
Should I warn this lady?
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It depends how close you are to the female colleague. If you warned her, you would have to reveal your past relationship with him . Is this a smart move , telling private matters about yourself to a stranger? If she isn't close to you, she might not believe you anyway and may turn on you.