How To Win Her Back
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Hi peeps,
Seriously need everyone's help? Anyone actually patches back with his ex-gf before? I haf bottle my problems for months. I cannot take it anymore. Pls help.
My Story
The relationship was like a fairy tale initially. But then, neglection, misunderstanding and disagreements set in...
Broke off twice. An on both occasions, third party was involved.
1st occasion, she went steady with another guy without letting me noe. I thought the breakup was just as simple as that but until my friend told me that she is in fact seeing another guy even before we broke up. However, I accepted her again.
2nd occasion, happens 6 mths later, this time she was close with another guy and went out with him behind my back. However, I tried to accept her back but she told me the feelings are really gone for good.
Question 1: I cannot believe that if u (as in her) claim to love someone so dearly, how can u hold someone's hand and become a 2-timer? Are her words too cheap to believe?
Question 2: I did all I can when we patched back the first time round. Sincerity and hard work does not help to save the relationship. I dunno what else I can do to save the relationship?
Question 3: My love for her is genuinue and I can accept her flaws and even accept the fact that she 2 time me. I dunno what she wants from me? Even though she claims I can be the best boyfriend?
Question 4: How can I save this relationship cos I did hate her after the 2nd occasion and pester her non-stop by calling her and waiting for her to come home. End up we quarrelled and at some time, it was pretty ugly. I regretted my actions and now she does not even want to talk to me. What can I do? I cannot be blamed for what I did cos I am the victim...
Question 5: She grew from strength to strength and yet I am living in a pathetic world of my own. I am lost, very lost. What can I do? -
my sincereest advice:
get yourself a better girl -
TO People who will contribute.
May i ask of you guys to give mature and objective comments and refrain from using ugly words
Cheers -
i din really read the whole thing but... one thing is that time will be the answer to the whatever questions u post up there
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why is there a disclaimer ...
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Originally posted by AnimalArmy:
dude,
Hi peeps,
Seriously need everyone's help? Anyone actually patches back with his ex-gf before? I haf bottle my problems for months. I cannot take it anymore. Pls help.
[b]My Story
The relationship was like a fairy tale initially. But then, neglection, misunderstanding and disagreements set in...
Broke off twice. An on both occasions, third party was involved.
1st occasion, she went steady with another guy without letting me noe. I thought the breakup was just as simple as that but until my friend told me that she is in fact seeing another guy even before we broke up. However, I accepted her again.
2nd occasion, happens 6 mths later, this time she was close with another guy and went out with him behind my back. However, I tried to accept her back but she told me the feelings are really gone for good.
Question 1: I cannot believe that if u (as in her) claim to love someone so dearly, how can u hold someone's hand and become a 2-timer? Are her words too cheap to believe?
Question 2: I did all I can when we patched back the first time round. Sincerity and hard work does not help to save the relationship. I dunno what else I can do to save the relationship?
Question 3: My love for her is genuinue and I can accept her flaws and even accept the fact that she 2 time me. I dunno what she wants from me? Even though she claims I can be the best boyfriend?
Question 4: How can I save this relationship cos I did hate her after the 2nd occasion and pester her non-stop by calling her and waiting for her to come home. End up we quarrelled and at some time, it was pretty ugly. I regretted my actions and now she does not even want to talk to me. What can I do? I cannot be blamed for what I did cos I am the victim...
Question 5: She grew from strength to strength and yet I am living in a pathetic world of my own. I am lost, very lost. What can I do?
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that girl left u for another man, so it's over! why bother to win her back? if her heart's so easily won over by another party, it means that ur relationship with her isn't solid enuff..
next, you are acting like a needy pathetic wuss in front of her, calling her many times and waiting for her to come home just to seek her approval again. for what? seriously, she'll think in her mind what a wuss u are and will think worse of u! this is a big mistake u've made.
nvm.. take this as a lesson learn and start to move on in life.
all the best!
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I tried to open up but then I still find her the most suitable of them all.Originally posted by mistyblue:my sincereest advice:
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Her heart is no longer in the r/sOriginally posted by AnimalArmy:I tried to open up but then I still find her the most suitable of them all.
you need to fully move on.
you can talk till the cows come home but if you do not move on, nothing will change.
You will always measure all the girls against her and she will always be the most perfect.
Do you know what is insanity, to do the same thing over and over but expecting a different result. -
So u r telling me that our foundation wasn't there after all... Its a 2 years relationship... I really cannot believe but I agree with what u say. But then, I miss her a lot. I hate to let go... I want her back...Originally posted by The Emperor:dude,
that girl left u for another man, so it's over! why bother to win her back? if her heart's so easily won over by another party, it means that ur relationship with her isn't solid enuff..
next, you are acting like a needy pathetic wuss in front of her, calling her many times and waiting for her to come home just to seek her approval again. for what? seriously, she'll think in her mind what a wuss u are and will think worse of u! this is a big mistake u've made.
nvm.. take this as a lesson learn and start to move on in life.
all the best! -
wait for her thenOriginally posted by AnimalArmy:So u r telling me that our foundation wasn't there after all... Its a 2 years relationship... I really cannot believe but I agree with what u say. But then, I miss her a lot. I hate to let go... I want her back...
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Can time really help to change her heart? I know I have screwed up the whole situation by pestering her. But then, I really love her. I still cannot believe the wonderful times we had turns out to be a nightmare for me.Originally posted by mistyblue:Her heart is no longer in the r/s
you need to fully move on.
you can talk till the cows come home but if you do not move on, nothing will change.
You will always measure all the girls against her and she will always be the most perfect.
Do you know what is insanity, to do the same thing over and over but expecting a different result.
I know I can talk and persuade her as much as my mouth allows me but I know this is not the right thing to do. She will feel more irritated.
I am like a fallen angel to her. I was once her Angel from Heaven but now, I am like a Devil from Hell. I missed her so much that I had many dreams mostly every other night. Can someone just tell her how much I haf gone tru for her? -
Hmm...
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haiz. world is unfair one. but at least u dun regret not having to love someone before.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Can time really help to change her heart? I know I have screwed up the whole situation by pestering her. But then, I really love her. I still cannot believe the wonderful times we had turns out to be a nightmare for me.
I know I can talk and persuade her as much as my mouth allows me but I know this is not the right thing to do. She will feel more irritated.
I am like a fallen angel to her. I was once her Angel from Heaven but now, I am like a Devil from Hell. I missed her so much that I had many dreams mostly every other night. Can someone just tell her how much I haf gone tru for her? -
no. time will not change her heart if she no longer feels attracted to u. if a woman is not attracted to u, nothing in the world u do will get her attention.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Can time really help to change her heart? I know I have screwed up the whole situation by pestering her. But then, I really love her. I still cannot believe the wonderful times we had turns out to be a nightmare for me.
I know I can talk and persuade her as much as my mouth allows me but I know this is not the right thing to do. She will feel more irritated.
I am like a fallen angel to her. I was once her Angel from Heaven but now, I am like a Devil from Hell. I missed her so much that I had many dreams mostly every other night. Can someone just tell her how much I haf gone tru for her?
although it's a 2 yrs r/s, pple do change and let's accept this sad part of nature. it may be strong at first, but later on, it may be u that changes into someone clingy or needy, i dunno... but there must be reason y her heart was so easily won over then.
anyway.. u gotta move on. no point staying and waiting for her. she'll never come back. trust me. someone out there still loves u. 
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cause of this, I cannot take your word that you "fully open" up to other people, male or female.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Can time really help to change her heart? I know I have screwed up the whole situation by pestering her. But then, I really love her. I still cannot believe the wonderful times we had turns out to be a nightmare for me.
I know I can talk and persuade her as much as my mouth allows me but I know this is not the right thing to do. She will feel more irritated.
I am like a fallen angel to her. I was once her Angel from Heaven but now, I am like a Devil from Hell. I missed her so much that I had many dreams mostly every other night. Can someone just tell her how much I haf gone tru for her?
Have you thought that perhaps this very pestering and weaken character of yours might have driven her away
BTW, know when to call it quits and preserve some self-respect is important for your future. -
She already told me we will NEVER be together again. She said she has MOVE ON. But I am willingly to wait. But for how long? How can she be so ruthless and heartless. I am a human after all.Originally posted by anhydrouscoppersulphate:wait for her then
I know it is not a rational thing to do. But what else can I do? I have lost interested in other gals right now. I cannot even focus on my daily chores. I feel like sleeping everyday. I want the time to just pass by so that I can try to ask her again.
I really cannot sleep well every night. Her friends are blaming me for pestering her. Not as if I did it on purpose. -
Okie, let's put it straight. I TRIED to open up but then I failed everytime.Originally posted by mistyblue:cause of this, I cannot take your word that you "fully open" up to other people, male or female.
Have you thought that perhaps this very pestering and weaken character of yours might have driven her away
BTW, know when to call it quits and preserve some self-respect is important for your future.
I understand that my pestering and weakening character might haf drove her away. I am all ready to prove to her I can be what she really wants from a future husband.
I haf lost a lot of self-respect and dignity throughout the whole process. She has scolded me and called me a weakling everytime I called her. How can someone be so ruthless. I avoided all contacts with her cos i will feel more hurt if i see her now. She is no longer the sweet, demure gal I know. She has change to become so confident of herself. I guided her through all these years and this is what I got back in return. This hurts. -
dude,Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Okie, let's put it straight. I TRIED to open up but then I failed everytime.
I understand that my pestering and weakening character might haf drove her away. I am all ready to prove to her I can be what she really wants from a future husband.
I haf lost a lot of self-respect and dignity throughout the whole process. She has scolded me and called me a weakling everytime I called her. How can someone be so ruthless. I avoided all contacts with her cos i will feel more hurt if i see her now. She is no longer the sweet, demure gal I know. She has change to become so confident of herself. I guided her through all these years and this is what I got back in return. This hurts.
it's not her that has changed. u have changed for good, but for the worse. u became weaker and weaker. and i can agree with her that u r indeed a weakling. no offence but as a third party, i can see the picture now. -
getting her back does not solve anything.
i think its better you let her go. Besides, loving someone is not to cling on -
aiyo dun sad le lar. come follow me to k box sing love songs. i member got discount for us.
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ah.. i only want to drink and clap my hands...Originally posted by anhydrouscoppersulphate:aiyo dun sad le lar. come follow me to k box sing love songs. i member got discount for us.
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But i thought memories of us together will at least preserve some love in her. I cannot believe it. Sigh... I think she just think so highly of herself now.Originally posted by The Emperor:no. time will not change her heart if she no longer feels attracted to u. if a woman is not attracted to u, nothing in the world u do will get her attention.
although it's a 2 yrs r/s, pple do change and let's accept this sad part of nature. it may be strong at first, but later on, it may be u that changes into someone clingy or needy, i dunno... but there must be reason y her heart was so easily won over then.
anyway.. u gotta move on. no point staying and waiting for her. she'll never come back. trust me. someone out there still loves u.
I clingy? Well, I neglected her before and she does not like it. And when I show more concern, I am labeled as someone who is sticky or clingy whatever u want to say.
Someone out there still loves me? I haf no confidence now after what she has did to my self-confidence. She made me a LOSER now. I really dunno. Pls help. -
dun moan le lar. u love her no need reason. no need ask her to treat u the same way u treat her. ai yi ge ren bu yao qiu hui bao.
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You need time to get a grip of yourself.
Unable to face the truth is not easy to deal with.
If you feel that AA is the place which you want to voice your thoughts, pls feel free to do so. But may i also remind you not to prolong in this state for too long.
We are here to support you, i hope you will recover.
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Well, I wasn't like that. I was a bit MCP. But because I love her, I tried to be accomodating and be a SNAG for the sake of her and I din noe, I became weaker and weaker in the process.Originally posted by The Emperor:dude,
it's not her that has changed. u have changed for good, but for the worse. u became weaker and weaker. and i can agree with her that u r indeed a weakling. no offence but as a third party, i can see the picture now.
I cannot strike a balance. But I did flare up in front of her during the difficult times cos she was too hot-tempered too. I felt that she has done me wrong and still have the cheek to pin point me. I mean everyone has their limit.