Anger Issues
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What do you do to contain your temper?
I'm a really nice person by nature. But i find myself flying into rage too easily most notably when someone raises his/her voice against me. My mind just sees red and rational thoughts blankout for the moment. And most of the time, i holler back fiercely (can be fearful sometimes) without thinking especially when i feel i'm wronged. On worse days, I can even taunt someone to fight me.
Because something in me cannot take scolding without some form of retaliation. I have a lot of pride and cannot let an insult to my face slip. I could not care less regardless of whoever i'm scolding during my fury.
I regret this, always. It goes against my belief to be of good character but i'm just helpless against my nature. I alway shout first, think later. I'm seldom like that but when my blood boils, its bad. Even when i ironically prefer civility.
I feel this problem is serious and threatens to consume me. Every battle leaves scar on me and I'm tired. I might get into big trouble one of these days. But i never wish to hurt anyone at the end of the day. Be it stranger or friend.
The fire is hard to contain. Does anyone have similar experiences and advice on coping with temper? -
Try meditation..? Of course, there're other methods around... try going to the library and get yourself a self-help book...
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Originally posted by SolidSnake:What do you do to contain your temper?
I'm a really nice person by nature. But i find myself flying into rage too easily most notably when someone raises his/her voice against me. My mind just sees red and rational thoughts blankout for the moment. And most of the time, i holler back fiercely (can be fearful sometimes) without thinking especially when i feel i'm wronged. On worse days, I can even taunt someone to fight me.
Because something in me cannot take scolding without some form of retaliation. I have a lot of pride and cannot let an insult to my face slip. I could not care less regardless of whoever i'm scolding during my fury.
I regret this, always. It goes against my belief to be of good character but i'm just helpless against my nature. I alway shout first, think later. I'm seldom like that but when my blood boils, its bad. Even when i ironically prefer civility.
I feel this problem is serious and threatens to consume me. Every battle leaves scar on me and I'm tired. I might get into big trouble one of these days. But i never wish to hurt anyone at the end of the day. Be it stranger or friend.
The fire is hard to contain. Does anyone have similar experiences and advice on coping with temper?
Are you an Aries or Scorpio? 
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are you sure you consider yourself a nice person in nature? hhehe...
anyway, the same old rule applies, but you must bear that in mind every time!
when you are angry, take a long deep breath and let your mind stablised. In this way, you lessen the impact of your anger...
Rem: When you are angry, you generate -ve feelings, which spoils the relationship. So, its only happiness that generate the +ve feelings needed to strengthen a r/s...
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are u a guy or gal?
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Count 1-10 in your head and take up yoga and probably just ignore them. =)
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Originally posted by SolidSnake:
You sound really a lot like my boyfriend
What do you do to contain your temper?
I'm a really nice person by nature. But i find myself flying into rage too easily most notably when someone raises his/her voice against me. My mind just sees red and rational thoughts blankout for the moment. And most of the time, i holler back fiercely (can be fearful sometimes) without thinking especially when i feel i'm wronged. On worse days, I can even taunt someone to fight me.
[b]Because something in me cannot take scolding without some form of retaliation. I have a lot of pride and cannot let an insult to my face slip. I could not care less regardless of whoever i'm scolding during my fury.
I regret this, always. It goes against my belief to be of good character but i'm just helpless against my nature. I alway shout first, think later. I'm seldom like that but when my blood boils, its bad. Even when i ironically prefer civility.
I feel this problem is serious and threatens to consume me. Every battle leaves scar on me and I'm tired. I might get into big trouble one of these days. But i never wish to hurt anyone at the end of the day. Be it stranger or friend.
The fire is hard to contain. Does anyone have similar experiences and advice on coping with temper?
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Are you a scorpio? -
must be aries~Originally posted by Yunhaier: Are you an Aries or Scorpio?
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Same but i m not dat serious...i m somehow quite impulse...so when i m angry(i mean very angry) i will burst into flames...i dun think of de consequences b4 reacting...try talking teacher bout it...i did...he told me to find my trigger points... try finding ur trigger points...
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I consider myself a person who tries to treat people with respect and dignity as I would myself. So of course it hurts badly when a person stings you with harsh words. (Singaporeans love cursing and swearing at every little thing)Originally posted by darknessfall:are you sure you consider yourself a nice person in nature? hhehe...
anyway, the same old rule applies, but you must bear that in mind every time!
when you are angry, take a long deep breath and let your mind stablised. In this way, you lessen the impact of your anger...
Rem: When you are angry, you generate -ve feelings, which spoils the relationship. So, its only happiness that generate the +ve feelings needed to strengthen a r/s...
Perhaps I don't really get my views correctly across.
Btw, i'm a guy scorpio. What has it got to do with my starsign? -
Very hard to control beyond a certain point lah. I just somehow feel even if i don't burst will bottle up inside to accumulate until the next eruption becomes bigger.Originally posted by OasisBlue:Same but i m not dat serious...i m somehow quite impulse...so when i m angry(i mean very angry) i will burst into flames...i dun think of de consequences b4 reacting...try talking teacher bout it...i did...he told me to find my trigger points... try finding ur trigger points...
Haiz...sometimes really think not speaking to people can be a good thing also.