22 years old already still haven't have relationships before
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I am a 22 years old NSF who will be ORD on the August. Unlike most of the people in my age group, I have not gone into a relationship before in the past 22 years of life.
During the 4 years in my secondary school, there are 3 girls whom I tried to win their hearts (at the different period of course, I am not the kind who likes to step into 2 boats with 1 leg) but I failed.
Later during the 3 years in my poly, because I am studying electronics engineering in the poly and there are at most 3 girls in my class but all are none of my type. Furthermore I am worried that whether I can handle a relationship during my NS days in which our personal time are limited so I didn't pursue a relationship.
However during my NS days, there are quite a number of my army mates with a girlfriend and most of them, surprisingly can handle the relationship well.
Now I am left with less than 4 months to ORD and I feels that it might be the time for me to find a girlfriend as I am already 22 years old yet I have not gone into a relationship before. Furthermore if I continues to be single my parents and relatives will 'pressurise' me.
So how should I start to looking for a girlfriend or rather, what should I do next? -
leave it to fate la.
22 yrs old still v young mah.. nv been in r/s before doesn't mean u are pathetic or wat. Make more frens lor.. dun be in a hurry, it will not benefit u anyway. -
Thank you for your suggestions.Originally posted by browniebaobao:leave it to fate la.
22 yrs old still v young mah.. nv been in r/s before doesn't mean u are pathetic or wat. Make more frens lor.. dun be in a hurry, it will not benefit u anyway.
I am not praising myself but sometimes when I saw those loving couples on the streets I do wonder why until now I still haven't gone into relationship. I have no bad habits like smoking etc and I rarely drinks alcohol. Also, although I am not charming or handsome looking, I looks quite average. Somemore I am not that kind of person who spent all his salary/allowance within a month and definitely I have the financial ability to treat my girlfriend. 
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I understand that this kind of thing cannot be quick and panic and I understands that the 1st step is to get to know some girls first as normal friends and then determine to see whether any of the girls suit your type before going into further relationships.
But...... how to start the 1st step? -
rmbr..
not yr fault..
blame it on the society
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The more people you meet the higher the chances of meeting someone you like... and who likes you...
you can pretend to believe all the fantasy and join a religious group... but never fall for those very serious about the religion ones... they a bit "lost" mentally... -
You are not alone.
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Thanks for the responses from everyone.
I hopes that I can start my first step (making new female friends) soon and hope it is still not late for me to going on my 1st step. -
Your time will come.
Good luck in your first attempt.
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first of all, its normal not to be in a relationship b4 at ur age... secondly, relationship cannot rush one... end up u get the gal jz "to be with the crowd" n might not truely understand and luv her... let fate decide and when u ord u will get more chances to meet gals in the society... if u so afraid jz go sds... improve(education, looks, socialise) urself n gals will take a look at u... no need to be worried yet... u should worry more abt ur future after ord...Originally posted by isolation:I am a 22 years old NSF who will be ORD on the August. Unlike most of the people in my age group, I have not gone into a relationship before in the past 22 years of life.
During the 4 years in my secondary school, there are 3 girls whom I tried to win their hearts (at the different period of course, I am not the kind who likes to step into 2 boats with 1 leg) but I failed.
Later during the 3 years in my poly, because I am studying electronics engineering in the poly and there are at most 3 girls in my class but all are none of my type. Furthermore I am worried that whether I can handle a relationship during my NS days in which our personal time are limited so I didn't pursue a relationship.
However during my NS days, there are quite a number of my army mates with a girlfriend and most of them, surprisingly can handle the relationship well.
Now I am left with less than 4 months to ORD and I feels that it might be the time for me to find a girlfriend as I am already 22 years old yet I have not gone into a relationship before. Furthermore if I continues to be single my parents and relatives will 'pressurise' me.
So how should I start to looking for a girlfriend or rather, what should I do next? -
normal?Originally posted by BrUtUs:first of all, its normal not to be in a relationship b4 at ur age... secondly, relationship cannot rush one... end up u get the gal jz "to be with the crowd" n might not truely understand and luv her... let fate decide and when u ord u will get more chances to meet gals in the society... if u so afraid jz go sds... improve(education, looks, socialise) urself n gals will take a look at u... no need to be worried yet... u should worry more abt ur future after ord...
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jz to say that its alright, cos not every guy been in a relationship ma...Originally posted by hisoka:normal? -
true. its definitely alright.Originally posted by BrUtUs:jz to say that its alright, cos not every guy been in a relationship ma... -
love is like rain..no one knows where is it gona come... build up ur social circles just like you build up trees..it takes time..and rain will eventually arrive.
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seems like i am a younger version of you...just that i am still in poly
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hmm...similar...you not the only one around...
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dun worry larh, my cousin also like dat.......no big deal.......when it comes, it comes, when it doesnt, forcing also no use.......
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jus my 2 sense worth... dun rush into it... do not befriend or know a girl with the intention of wanting her 2 b ur gf... chances r u will scare e poor gal away... b natural, b urself... rem dat u wan e gal 2 noe who u really are n like u as u r... so dun deliberately change or not b urself...
b more sociable! open up 2 more pple, guys n gals included n wish u all e best!
(anw... 22 yrs still young) -
another one here
17 n haven been in a rs...
im nt bad looking but juz tat im a lill different from u in way that i've lost the confidence n enthu to fall in to...
since ur 22 dun bother looking...
sound crude but in this world u gotta tell ur self that theres alot of stuff more important than finding a gal friend..
telling u this bcuz i dun wish u to get hurt...as can tell u carry alot of hope in love -
Don't worry,
I have my first gf at the age of 25-26...After ORD...work hard...who knows...maybe you can get before 25...
Maybe right now there is a girl in your life, but she just waiting for you to make the first move...but you never do so... -
don't rush into a relationship because you WANT to be in a relationship. Does that mean you'll will also get out of a relationship when you WANT out?
a relationship is not a want/need. it just happens when the right person comes along. so just relax and you'll definitely get one. -
yeah.. monkey see monkey do.. ask your heart and mind, not just follow people..
and.. my xxx said, true love should only be the first and only relationship.. something like that. means if u truly sincere or what, "breaking up" isnt true love anymore -
i think some fella here already 2 kids at age 26
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Originally posted by Patrik:You are not alone.
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U sure boh the weather station is close to 100% on the prediction on the weather.Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:love is like rain..no one knows where is it gona come..