why get into a relationship
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am i right to say that people want to get into a relationship to satisfy their own needs? for eg the need to overcome loneliness. For some guys the need to satisfy their lust, and for some girls the need to have a sense of security.
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i suppose youre right to a certain extent
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I know Maslow is right.
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then getting into a relationship becomes so meaningless
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not so.. theres many things to it...Originally posted by Ray87:then getting into a relationship becomes so meaningless -
Hmm...do we really need a reason to get into one? Other than mutual feelings for each other?Originally posted by Ray87:am i right to say that people want to get into a relationship to satisfy their own needs? for eg the need to overcome loneliness. For some guys the need to satisfy their lust, and for some girls the need to have a sense of security. -
i agree..Originally posted by jayellefull:i suppose youre right to a certain extent
but i guess sometimes.. u want to do more things for a person.. and those things cannot be done by a fren.. that's why u will want to be in a r/s with that person.. -
probably to kill time while waiting for the right one bahOriginally posted by Ray87:am i right to say that people want to get into a relationship to satisfy their own needs? for eg the need to overcome loneliness. For some guys the need to satisfy their lust, and for some girls the need to have a sense of security. -
Originally posted by Ray87:then getting into a relationship becomes so meaningless
If you confine yourself to such thoughts and reasoning about relationship. Then it is indeed meaningless.
You're too pessimistic.
Humans does all things for one reason or another. It's psychological and philosophically sound.
Have you experienced something disturbing which led you to think this way? -
Usually its the sex, could be the money, maybe the car.
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6 levelsOriginally posted by M©+square:I know Maslow is right. -
no, they get into a relationship because they satisfy the lions in the zoo.Originally posted by Ray87:am i right to say that people want to get into a relationship to satisfy their own needs? for eg the need to overcome loneliness. For some guys the need to satisfy their lust, and for some girls the need to have a sense of security. -
+1Originally posted by jayellefull:i suppose youre right to a certain extent
on a subconscious level, pple get into a r/s to fulfil their needs
but who they enter into that r/s with r the persons they hv feelings for..
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X 2.. ALMOST... Unless you're someone who might be quite unsound...? Like myself..?? <Originally posted by M©+square: If you confine yourself to such thoughts and reasoning about relationship. Then it is indeed meaningless.
You're too pessimistic.
Humans does all things for one reason or another. It's psychological and philosophically sound. Have you experienced something disturbing which led you to think this way?> -
You're not 'unsound'Originally posted by Devil1976:X 2.. ALMOST... Unless you're someone who might be quite unsound...? Like myself..?? <>
You're just not human. -
i think to alot of people, relationships are a way of testing out compatibilities and chemistry between two people. I'd like to think that way too, but somehow i reserve that for dating. A relationship, to me, would only transpire when i feel that i am ready to embrace that person for their every aspect and all their flaws. i used to wonder if i am taking it too seriously, but after hearing how easily people and youths "get together" and "break up", i hold onto my stand. Friends have told me that i'm fussy or unrealistic. But i wouldnt want to enter a relationship just to try things out, especially when the other has high expectations and truely possess feelings for me. That would be mean, wouldnt it. If a couple of months pass before i tire and say, "i seem to have lost feelings for you" when that initial spark, curiosity and interest wears off and i find that i was never truely in like of that person for what he or she is.
But different people have their own ways of viewing relationships. Theres no point in saying that others are wrong or yours is better. -
I never know what true happiness really means until I'm married, and then, it's too late. J/K... Relationship is good lah, humans need to socialise, please note that it's a need, not a want or don't want. As for relationship, it's another valve of having fulfiling this social need, of course you don't need just a relationship to fulfil this need, you could have plenty of friends for example. So that need to socialise is one reason why we want to get into a relationship, and able to confid your secrets or whatsoever to someone who can listen. Besides that, it feels really sweet and warm to lie on the arms of someone you love, or someone who loves you, don't you think so? And my opinion may be a little bias because I'm talking from a person who cannot stands feeling lonely even for a day or two, I always ask my friend out every week to have fun, no matter how much work I have. Nothing beats human to human bonding.
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to make your already complicated life more complicated!!!
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well..we get into relationship becos we need some 1 to share our woes and our joys..and to share the other half joy and woes..its like theres some1 to cry on and some 1 to share ur joy...its also fate...how come out of 4 million of ppl in singapore..u met ur friends..and eventually ur other half...its fate...and chemistry.. its humans need and emotion..
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OH YEAH! THANKS for REMINDING ME!! <Originally posted by M©+square:You're not 'unsound'
You're just not human. > -
i chance upon some psychology article which talks about the motivations in life.Originally posted by M©+square: If you confine yourself to such thoughts and reasoning about relationship. Then it is indeed meaningless.
You're too pessimistic.
Humans does all things for one reason or another. It's psychological and philosophically sound. Have you experienced something disturbing which led you to think this way?
In the article, i learnt that humans have various needs to fulfil and in order to satisfy these needs, human do certain things and behave in a certain way. I was interested to find out more because the content may help me explain a question which has been bothering me. I wanted to know why am i fickle-minded at times though i'm a person who hates people who are fickle-minded.
After reading the article, i understand that sometimes i was motivated to get into a relationship because i feel lonely and wanted companionship. But as soon as i found another direction in life and felt less lonely, i will start to lose interest in dating the gal i like. And so i realised that many times i was motivated to get into a relationship to satisfy my own need, which i think was selfish, because as soon as the need is gone, i lost interest. I'm glad that i have yet hurt any gal deeply because i haven gone into a relationship.
I dun want to feel guilty hurting someone because of my selfish motivation to overcome loneliness(which is transitory), therefore i concluded that getting into a relationship is quite meaningless. I know that there are many fallacies in my argument. So i posted this question and hope that someone can point it out explicitly. -
Phew, luckily no one gets emotionally and physically hurt by you.Originally posted by Ray87:i chance upon some psychology article which talks about the motivations in life.
In the article, i learnt that humans have various needs to fulfil and in order to satisfy these needs, human do certain things and behave in a certain way. I was interested to find out more because the content may help me explain a question which has been bothering me. I wanted to know why am i fickle-minded at times though i'm a person who hates people who are fickle-minded.
After reading the article, i understand that sometimes i was motivated to get into a relationship because i feel lonely and wanted companionship. But as soon as i found another direction in life and felt less lonely, i will start to lose interest in dating the gal i like. And so i realised that many times i was motivated to get into a relationship to satisfy my own need, which i think was selfish, because as soon as the need is gone, i lost interest. I'm glad that i have yet hurt any gal deeply because i haven gone into a relationship.
I dun want to feel guilty hurting someone because of my selfish motivation to overcome loneliness(which is transitory), therefore i concluded that getting into a relationship is quite meaningless. I know that there are many fallacies in my argument. So i posted this question and hope that someone can point it out explicitly. I suggest you do yourself a favour by answering this: Who am I? Then, find personality tests or profiling to learn more about yourself. At the same time, approach a professional counsellor or therapist regarding your concern. You might have sexual disorientation plus other psychological deficiency that we can't possibly help without knowing more about you. 
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it can't be that serious...Originally posted by jeffning:Phew, luckily no one gets emotionally and physically hurt by you. I suggest you do yourself a favour by answering this: Who am I? Then, find personality tests or profiling to learn more about yourself. At the same time, approach a professional counsellor or therapist regarding your concern. You might have sexual disorientation plus other psychological deficiency that we can't possibly help without knowing more about you.
he just have not met the correct girl.. -
yes. i agree.Originally posted by Ray87:am i right to say that people want to get into a relationship to satisfy their own needs? for eg the need to overcome loneliness. For some guys the need to satisfy their lust, and for some girls the need to have a sense of security.
even if you say its for true love...but what you get through true love is companionship and trust and dependency on the other party... -
it's the chemistry & feelings they have towards each other... then comes the sex.
