How old are you? From your description, I doubt both of you are hardly out of your teens.Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:My bf and me have been together for about a year. HeÂ’s been all nice and sweet, except for one thing: we canÂ’t seem to agree on his choice of career. He wants to be an accountant, much to my regret. Accountants, as the very nature of their jobs dictate, suffer the tragedy of working long and tiring hours. To top it all, he is bound to spend most of his time staring at facts and figures that never add up anyway. IÂ’ve spent countless futile attempts persuading him to change his course of study ( he hasnÂ’t entered the uni yet so itÂ’s not too late) into a more meaningful and desirable job, like a vet or a pharmacist. Everytime the subject matter is raised, he tells me that IÂ’m being unfair to him. This is my dilemma: as a gf, IÂ’m well aware that I should be supportive of his future endeavours. However, I canÂ’t visualize myself spending the rest of my life with an accountant. (yeap I do go for long term relationships). Can anyone, experienced or not, pls give me your two centÂ’s worth?
that he will end up neglecting me in the course of his career. i supposed that you wouldn't blame me for being proned to such an aversion, for which woman would want a union characterized by the virtual absence of her other half?Originally posted by walesa:Truth be told, I can imagine very few guys(sane and sound ones anyway) allowing others - and I include family members in that assessment - to dictate what choice of career they should pursue. I suppose the people around him can influence, counsel or advise him at best, but I just don't see much hope(and neither do I find it appropriate personally) of you changing his thoughts on this matter. I mean, at the end of the day, how is he going to survive spending decades on a profession which he might not have much interest in?
And an even more pertinent question, what's your main concern really? That he can't spend enough time with you? I mean, in all seriousness, if you really had such an aversion to marrying an accountant(for whatever reason unbeknown to me) that you can't see this relationship working out because of that, I suppose both of you would be better off finding someone else.
With no disrespect, but if such a predicament - of having to choose between a woman and what I should do for a living - was ever put to me, there is only ever going to be one outcome.![]()
How do you know that if he take up other courses, he'll be more 'free'? Would you be blaming him for not earning enough if he's 'free' enough then?Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:that he will end up neglecting me in the course of his career. i supposed that you wouldn't blame me for being proned to such an aversion, for which woman would want a union characterized by the virtual absence of her other half?
you have espoused this matter very well from a guy's point of view. at least i now know how he feels...
i understand how you feel but is there a job that does not demand long hours in Singapore? If there is one at all, the pay must be low and the job can be lost at any time. If you can come to work at 9 and leave at 5pm sharp, your boss will consider getting rid of your job and let your colleague cover your duties. Save one post and pay another overtime to take over the job.Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:that he will end up neglecting me in the course of his career. i supposed that you wouldn't blame me for being proned to such an aversion, for which woman would want a union characterized by the virtual absence of her other half?
you have espoused this matter very well from a guy's point of view. at least i now know how he feels...
I suppose your concerns are not totally unfounded, but you've got to realise your concerns are hardly altruistic as well?Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:that he will end up neglecting me in the course of his career. i supposed that you wouldn't blame me for being proned to such an aversion, for which woman would want a union characterized by the virtual absence of her other half?
you have espoused this matter very well from a guy's point of view. at least i now know how he feels...
in my opinion, u ought to support him and respect his decision to do something which he likes doing.Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:My bf and me have been together for about a year. HeÂ’s been all nice and sweet, except for one thing: we canÂ’t seem to agree on his choice of career. He wants to be an accountant, much to my regret.
Accountants, as the very nature of their jobs dictate, suffer the tragedy of working long and tiring hours. To top it all, he is bound to spend most of his time staring at facts and figures that never add up anyway.
IÂ’ve spent countless futile attempts persuading him to change his course of study ( he hasnÂ’t entered the uni yet so itÂ’s not too late) into a more meaningful and desirable job, like a vet or a pharmacist. Everytime the subject matter is raised, he tells me that IÂ’m being unfair to him.
This is my dilemma: as a gf, IÂ’m well aware that I should be supportive of his future endeavours. However, I canÂ’t visualize myself spending the rest of my life with an accountant. (yeap I do go for long term relationships). Can anyone, experienced or not, pls give me your two centÂ’s worth?
you cannot control a person dreams and wants...Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:My bf and me have been together for about a year. HeÂ’s been all nice and sweet, except for one thing: we canÂ’t seem to agree on his choice of career. He wants to be an accountant, much to my regret.
Accountants, as the very nature of their jobs dictate, suffer the tragedy of working long and tiring hours. To top it all, he is bound to spend most of his time staring at facts and figures that never add up anyway.
IÂ’ve spent countless futile attempts persuading him to change his course of study ( he hasnÂ’t entered the uni yet so itÂ’s not too late) into a more meaningful and desirable job, like a vet or a pharmacist. Everytime the subject matter is raised, he tells me that IÂ’m being unfair to him.
This is my dilemma: as a gf, IÂ’m well aware that I should be supportive of his future endeavours. However, I canÂ’t visualize myself spending the rest of my life with an accountant. (yeap I do go for long term relationships). Can anyone, experienced or not, pls give me your two centÂ’s worth?
The job of an accountant in this day is relatively easier. Computerization of the accounting process has reduces accountants having to manually record the entry one by one. The most busy time of their time will be during the auditing period, it is either by internal auditors or external ones. Other than that, most accountants are generally like all office workers working 8-5.Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:My bf and me have been together for about a year. HeÂ’s been all nice and sweet, except for one thing: we canÂ’t seem to agree on his choice of career. He wants to be an accountant, much to my regret.
Accountants, as the very nature of their jobs dictate, suffer the tragedy of working long and tiring hours. To top it all, he is bound to spend most of his time staring at facts and figures that never add up anyway.
IÂ’ve spent countless futile attempts persuading him to change his course of study ( he hasnÂ’t entered the uni yet so itÂ’s not too late) into a more meaningful and desirable job, like a vet or a pharmacist. Everytime the subject matter is raised, he tells me that IÂ’m being unfair to him.
This is my dilemma: as a gf, IÂ’m well aware that I should be supportive of his future endeavours. However, I canÂ’t visualize myself spending the rest of my life with an accountant. (yeap I do go for long term relationships). Can anyone, experienced or not, pls give me your two centÂ’s worth?
Seriously, find me a job that does not include long hours these days.Originally posted by tick tickle ticklish:My bf and me have been together for about a year. HeÂ’s been all nice and sweet, except for one thing: we canÂ’t seem to agree on his choice of career. He wants to be an accountant, much to my regret.
Accountants, as the very nature of their jobs dictate, suffer the tragedy of working long and tiring hours. To top it all, he is bound to spend most of his time staring at facts and figures that never add up anyway.
IÂ’ve spent countless futile attempts persuading him to change his course of study ( he hasnÂ’t entered the uni yet so itÂ’s not too late) into a more meaningful and desirable job, like a vet or a pharmacist. Everytime the subject matter is raised, he tells me that IÂ’m being unfair to him.
This is my dilemma: as a gf, IÂ’m well aware that I should be supportive of his future endeavours. However, I canÂ’t visualize myself spending the rest of my life with an accountant. (yeap I do go for long term relationships). Can anyone, experienced or not, pls give me your two centÂ’s worth?
You know...I've always wanted to be the President of the United StatesOriginally posted by tick tickle ticklish:My bf and me have been together for about a year. HeÂ’s been all nice and sweet, except for one thing: we canÂ’t seem to agree on his choice of career. He wants to be an accountant, much to my regret.
Accountants, as the very nature of their jobs dictate, suffer the tragedy of working long and tiring hours. To top it all, he is bound to spend most of his time staring at facts and figures that never add up anyway.
IÂ’ve spent countless futile attempts persuading him to change his course of study ( he hasnÂ’t entered the uni yet so itÂ’s not too late) into a more meaningful and desirable job, like a vet or a pharmacist. Everytime the subject matter is raised, he tells me that IÂ’m being unfair to him.
This is my dilemma: as a gf, IÂ’m well aware that I should be supportive of his future endeavours. However, I canÂ’t visualize myself spending the rest of my life with an accountant. (yeap I do go for long term relationships). Can anyone, experienced or not, pls give me your two centÂ’s worth?