OFFICE RELATIONSHIP
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hi
i am in a fixed.
i think i fell for one of my colleague.
nvr hv i hd that kind of feeling before towards a girl.
the only exception being my wife.
i cant help it, each time or rather every day when i see her, i feel happy and wanted/hv the urge to go up to her and talk to her. sometimes, i just steal glances at her. Sometimes, she will come over and talk to me and I always look towards that.
I know I shouldnt even be thinking about it but i cant help it.
my feelings for her is strong. I really show concern to her.
when she's sick, i ask her to take a day off as i cant bear to see her 'suffer'.
my wife doesnt know and i tell no one.
i feeling very lousy. both she and i are married.
she's the type of girl whom i like and wanted to marry. unfortunately, the woman i married is not my type but we married anyhow because of the special feel we hv for each other. Pls dun be mistaken, I still love my wife very much.
It's just that i cant shake off the 'feel' for this colleague of mine.
i do not know whether she knows i like her or not but women usually have very good instincts. If she knows, then she is putting up a very good show as she doesnt show any annoyance or trying to avoid me. In anycase, she cant avoid me totally cos i am her immediate superior.
I tried not to have such feelings but i just cant seem to be able to 'erase' her fm my mind. I keep thinking about her. I feel the 'lost' when she's on leave. in fact, i hv the urge to hold her and care for her.
i am threading on dangerous ground.
Can the expert advise what shd i do? -
This is a tricky question, One half of me tells me to go ahead while the other half says otherwise
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obey the vow.
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it's relli bad to eat where u sh!t
it's easy for office romance to happen bcos of the long hours spent with each other and the common problems.....
both married.......tts even worse............
i suggest u to think over it seriously......whether u are prepared to jeopardise ur marriage and career over her....... -
Give her the sack or pass ur ricebowl to some other applicants
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INFATUATION la.
WAKE UP WAKE UP WAKE UP.
It will be over soon.
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Originally posted by Pitot:INFATUATION la.
WAKE UP WAKE UP WAKE UP.
It will be over soon. 
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got picture of your colleuge???
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its a difficult decision to make when both of u are married,
even ur willing to leave ur wife, she might not want to leave her
'husband too. its a lose lose situation. think carefully. -
expert in office rs issit?Originally posted by hunter:Can the expert advise what shd i do? -
Originally posted by used:
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Slap yourself awake.
Get back to reality my friend. -
Honestly, if both of you are single, things can be much simple to solve... But both of you are married, think of your spouse whether does they deserve this or not... When you've made a committment to spend the rest of your life with your spouse on the doted line, abide to it and don't ruin it... Think of all the difficulties that you have overcome to be together with your spouse and think of all the good times and moments you have spent with your spouse... No one could understand you better than your spouse...
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My opinin to your prob is that whatever you do, think of what is the impact on your wife as well as your colleague's husband if things really happen.
Dont land yourself in a mess. -
dont milk the cow at your own backyard!
it easy to fell for a gal, who is prettier, younger, or probably just fresher than your wife/gf...you have taken the vow, said the pledge, i think you shld know what is wise for you to do...
it is tempting to have a ONS, and an affair if both parties are agreeable...
well, which guy doesnt want?
but just think about the consequences...sometimes, you get away scott free..sometimes, you end up with more than you can imagine..
so, be faithful to your partner, because, i am sure, you dont want a green hat on your head either -
Hello lawsuit...
Seriously, you are vulnerable to be sued for sexual harassment or discrimination. Remember you are working. You are also her superior. One misstep and you can ruin your career, possibly more.
Yaya, I dont need to say all this....career, family, etc, I think you also know already.
Try to see her in a different light.
But how? Well, a man's weakness is three and only three. Money, power, woman. Now you are tested with woman. Keep this in your mind and vow to yourself that you will pass the test. This will change how you think a bit.
I also suggest you devote your energy into something else you like, dont channel so much attention into her. Do you like soccer? Now there is World Cup, you can get satisfaction and enjoyment from it. What else do you like? Think about what you like, what you are obsessed with, and channel your attention into it. Your preoccupation with the girl should be supplanted and replaced with another similarly intoxicating and enjoyable, but wholesome, adventure. This will help you get your mind off her. -
Do u have children?
1)Try be her good friend and take care of her. But dun go any further cause u yourself have to think of the consequences....
2)U wan to destroy ur marriage u build for so long or u wan to go for ur heart.
3)Make a decision that u will not regret. Think of what u wan in ur life. -
looks problematic worOriginally posted by hunter:hi
i am in a fixed.
i think i fell for one of my colleague.
nvr hv i hd that kind of feeling before towards a girl.
the only exception being my wife.
i cant help it, each time or rather every day when i see her, i feel happy and wanted/hv the urge to go up to her and talk to her. sometimes, i just steal glances at her. Sometimes, she will come over and talk to me and I always look towards that.
I know I shouldnt even be thinking about it but i cant help it.
my feelings for her is strong. I really show concern to her.
when she's sick, i ask her to take a day off as i cant bear to see her 'suffer'.
my wife doesnt know and i tell no one.
i feeling very lousy. both she and i are married.
she's the type of girl whom i like and wanted to marry. unfortunately, the woman i married is not my type but we married anyhow because of the special feel we hv for each other. Pls dun be mistaken, I still love my wife very much.
It's just that i cant shake off the 'feel' for this colleague of mine.
i do not know whether she knows i like her or not but women usually have very good instincts. If she knows, then she is putting up a very good show as she doesnt show any annoyance or trying to avoid me. In anycase, she cant avoid me totally cos i am her immediate superior.
I tried not to have such feelings but i just cant seem to be able to 'erase' her fm my mind. I keep thinking about her. I feel the 'lost' when she's on leave. in fact, i hv the urge to hold her and care for her.
i am threading on dangerous ground.
Can the expert advise what shd i do?
either ways, u and her will be on lose-lose situation only.
i think u shld only maintain a proper relationship with her as friends, and only proceed to max best friends. -
I'm not an expert, but this is only an infatuation bah.
Give yourself some times, and you'll forget about her. Keep with your wife. Request for a transfer to other departments...? -
If u know its dangerous....better stopOriginally posted by hunter:hi
i am in a fixed.
i think i fell for one of my colleague.
nvr hv i hd that kind of feeling before towards a girl.
the only exception being my wife.
i cant help it, each time or rather every day when i see her, i feel happy and wanted/hv the urge to go up to her and talk to her. sometimes, i just steal glances at her. Sometimes, she will come over and talk to me and I always look towards that.
I know I shouldnt even be thinking about it but i cant help it.
my feelings for her is strong. I really show concern to her.
when she's sick, i ask her to take a day off as i cant bear to see her 'suffer'.
my wife doesnt know and i tell no one.
i feeling very lousy. both she and i are married.
she's the type of girl whom i like and wanted to marry. unfortunately, the woman i married is not my type but we married anyhow because of the special feel we hv for each other. Pls dun be mistaken, I still love my wife very much.
It's just that i cant shake off the 'feel' for this colleague of mine.
i do not know whether she knows i like her or not but women usually have very good instincts. If she knows, then she is putting up a very good show as she doesnt show any annoyance or trying to avoid me. In anycase, she cant avoid me totally cos i am her immediate superior.
I tried not to have such feelings but i just cant seem to be able to 'erase' her fm my mind. I keep thinking about her. I feel the 'lost' when she's on leave. in fact, i hv the urge to hold her and care for her.
i am threading on dangerous ground.
Can the expert advise what shd i do? -
Reasons why u should not do it
1) It's infatuation
2) Both of you are married
3) Do not shit where you eat
4) You are her direct supervisor
You married your wife for a reason. Romance and passion is like a fire. It needs to be constantly fed and maintained. Love can still be there but romance and passion needs attention. I think you might have lost the romance/passion factor but you still love your wife. Go find ways to re-ignite that spark with your wife and please do it more often.
If you really buay tahan, go find pro n bang a few.. Later see whether u still want your colleague or not Best solution for testing. -
if the love for your wife is going strong, no other distractions will be able to hold u back for this long.
u have to think this thru manz... don't be an infidel arsehole.
remember ur marriage vows. -
Dun b an ass... U r married.. Karma will follow if u taken a wrong step.Originally posted by hunter:hi
i am in a fixed.
i think i fell for one of my colleague.
nvr hv i hd that kind of feeling before towards a girl.
the only exception being my wife.
i cant help it, each time or rather every day when i see her, i feel happy and wanted/hv the urge to go up to her and talk to her. sometimes, i just steal glances at her. Sometimes, she will come over and talk to me and I always look towards that.
I know I shouldnt even be thinking about it but i cant help it.
my feelings for her is strong. I really show concern to her.
when she's sick, i ask her to take a day off as i cant bear to see her 'suffer'.
my wife doesnt know and i tell no one.
i feeling very lousy. both she and i are married.
she's the type of girl whom i like and wanted to marry. unfortunately, the woman i married is not my type but we married anyhow because of the special feel we hv for each other. Pls dun be mistaken, I still love my wife very much.
It's just that i cant shake off the 'feel' for this colleague of mine.
i do not know whether she knows i like her or not but women usually have very good instincts. If she knows, then she is putting up a very good show as she doesnt show any annoyance or trying to avoid me. In anycase, she cant avoid me totally cos i am her immediate superior.
I tried not to have such feelings but i just cant seem to be able to 'erase' her fm my mind. I keep thinking about her. I feel the 'lost' when she's on leave. in fact, i hv the urge to hold her and care for her.
i am threading on dangerous ground.
Can the expert advise what shd i do? -
Yo mate.. This may sound crude.. But you need to understand the difference between man and animals.. Man has the ability to rationalise... Don't succumb to emotions aka lust for this scenario...Originally posted by hunter:hi
i am in a fixed.
i think i fell for one of my colleague.
nvr hv i hd that kind of feeling before towards a girl.
the only exception being my wife.
i cant help it, each time or rather every day when i see her, i feel happy and wanted/hv the urge to go up to her and talk to her. sometimes, i just steal glances at her. Sometimes, she will come over and talk to me and I always look towards that.
I know I shouldnt even be thinking about it but i cant help it.
my feelings for her is strong. I really show concern to her.
when she's sick, i ask her to take a day off as i cant bear to see her 'suffer'.
my wife doesnt know and i tell no one.
i feeling very lousy. both she and i are married.
she's the type of girl whom i like and wanted to marry. unfortunately, the woman i married is not my type but we married anyhow because of the special feel we hv for each other. Pls dun be mistaken, I still love my wife very much.
It's just that i cant shake off the 'feel' for this colleague of mine.
i do not know whether she knows i like her or not but women usually have very good instincts. If she knows, then she is putting up a very good show as she doesnt show any annoyance or trying to avoid me. In anycase, she cant avoid me totally cos i am her immediate superior.
I tried not to have such feelings but i just cant seem to be able to 'erase' her fm my mind. I keep thinking about her. I feel the 'lost' when she's on leave. in fact, i hv the urge to hold her and care for her.
i am threading on dangerous ground.
Can the expert advise what shd i do?
Alternatively, accept that this emotion is part of you.. Don't have to feel guilty or bad towards it... Have faith in your character. I'm sure if you have the confidence, you can simply laugh it off when the feeling arises. The more you dwell on the "feelings", the more you are feeding it... Man has a unique psycho self of rubbing salt over their own wounds... Give yourself a break and step out of the torment. You deserve it!
Lastly.. If it makes you feel any better... Office sexcapades are pretty common nowadays... Plenty of married couples are having Fbuddies behind their spouses' back.. Enjoy the thrill and excitement! But you'll never be able to look back again...
"he felt guilty after their first robbery... he felt uneasy after their 2nd robbery... he led their 3rd robbery..." -
You think too much of her.
She looks up to you because you are her superior.
So what?
Since both of you are married, there is no need to think more of hr.