old or new bf?
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Have been together with my ex for 4 years..
Few months ago we broke up.. I broke up with him as i dun wan him to take me for granted. He begged me a number of times but i was too stubborn to accept his apologies.
I got myself a new bf straight after that as i wanted my ex to get jealous. But this new bf of mine treat me very well. better than my ex.
My ex has also gotten a gf himself.
I still see my ex often after the breakup.. recently we went out together..
i realised i still miss him.. and i think i love him.. he still loves me too..
The problem now is i don't know if i should go back to my ex for love.. or to stay with my current one as he is more stable and treats me well.. -
can't help much as i'm also in a somewhat similar situation...
Only that me and my ex we were together for only 1 month and broke up 4 yrs liao ...
But i know i still like him somewhat, i dunno if it's just old feelings that haven died or just like him as a friend. But i'm like happier to see him than with my bf.. although my bf loves me dearly.
So right now i also dunno what to do. Just treat him as friend and see ba. Don't harbour any thoughts of patching up as it will not be fair to your current bf. That's what i'm trying to do now. Hope it helps in some way. -
i miss my ex gf.. sigh.
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wat u say is right.. i cant bear to hurt the present one cauz i noe he loves me more than i do.. while my ex, it's the other way round.. i love him more.. guess ure right..
like wat i read b4.. they say..
your love might not be the one that will live with u in future.. -
Sorry, we often said such behaviour are cheap.
But in this 21st century, cheap behaviours are everywhere... Even talks can be cheap now.
If you have one men now, but still thinking of the other one, even you are not physically unfair to one, you are mentally unfair to one. Which I called - cheap.
Since you already know who is the one you love, why make 3 of you pain?
I believe your present bf also don't like such unfairness.
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well done, u got a bf jz to spike ur ex.... ask urself who u love more...?Originally posted by lixIn:Have been together with my ex for 4 years..
Few months ago we broke up.. I broke up with him as i dun wan him to take me for granted. He begged me a number of times but i was too stubborn to accept his apologies.
I got myself a new bf straight after that as i wanted my ex to get jealous. But this new bf of mine treat me very well. better than my ex.
My ex has also gotten a gf himself.
I still see my ex often after the breakup.. recently we went out together..
i realised i still miss him.. and i think i love him.. he still loves me too..
The problem now is i don't know if i should go back to my ex for love.. or to stay with my current one as he is more stable and treats me well.. -
hummm know wat u wan and go for it. from your post it seems to me u are pretty young so dun sweat so much about which guy u wan. lots of guys out there. have fun! enjoy your youth!
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20 years old.. hehe.. but i looking for a stable guy.. not for fun..Originally posted by the_don:hummm know wat u wan and go for it. from your post it seems to me u are pretty young so dun sweat so much about which guy u wan. lots of guys out there. have fun! enjoy your youth! -
That should help to make your choice more obvious what...?Originally posted by lixIn:20 years old.. hehe.. but i looking for a stable guy.. not for fun..
Well.. If you really don't know where you belong, you probably doesn't belong anywhere... You decide
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so, who is the one taking the other for granted here?
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Things can often be quite different between a friend and a bf... Less suffocating and routine maybe..? Probably why you are happier to see your ex than see your bf now..??Originally posted by shirurinu:can't help much as i'm also in a somewhat similar situation...
Only that me and my ex we were together for only 1 month and broke up 4 yrs liao ...
But i know i still like him somewhat, i dunno if it's just old feelings that haven died or just like him as a friend. But i'm like happier to see him than with my bf.. although my bf loves me dearly.
So right now i also dunno what to do. Just treat him as friend and see ba. Don't harbour any thoughts of patching up as it will not be fair to your current bf. That's what i'm trying to do now. Hope it helps in some way.
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I foresee future problems...
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Me is stable and not funny. Look for me.Originally posted by lixIn:20 years old.. hehe.. but i looking for a stable guy.. not for fun.. -
Maybe she can handle 2 at once ?
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Originally posted by lixIn:Have been together with my ex for 4 years..
Few months ago we broke up.. I broke up with him as i dun wan him to take me for granted. He begged me a number of times but i was too stubborn to accept his apologies.
I got myself a new bf straight after that as i wanted my ex to get jealous. But this new bf of mine treat me very well. better than my ex.
My ex has also gotten a gf himself.
I still see my ex often after the breakup.. recently we went out together..
i realised i still miss him.. and i think i love him.. he still loves me too..
The problem now is i don't know if i should go back to my ex for love.. or to stay with my current one as he is more stable and treats me well..
Breaking up because you don't him to take you for granted?
Getting a new bf immediately after your break up?
Just to get him jealous?
And you want a stable relationship?
Perhaps maturity must set in before that could happen? It's silly isn't it? If you had handle your previous relationship with better management, your currently boyfriend wouldn't even have existed in the first place. His involvement into your life has become a pawn in this childish 'game' between you and your ex. Now that you have implicated him into the picture, you find it hard to abandon him.
And you probably realized that breaking up doesn't solve problems.
Even if you go back to your ex - old problem remains. What are you planning to DO about it? Break up whenever things are ugly... again?
Don't blindly heed to your emotions if they are ephemeral and fleeting. You only probably think that you still love him; maybe until you are sure about it, then a decision could surface. Meanwhile, if you can't handle a friendship with a man of your past, then avoid putting yourself into such plight.
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Won't your ex treat you the same way as what he did to you again if you patch with him...??? How would you existing bf think???Originally posted by lixIn:Have been together with my ex for 4 years..
Few months ago we broke up.. I broke up with him as i dun wan him to take me for granted. He begged me a number of times but i was too stubborn to accept his apologies.
I got myself a new bf straight after that as i wanted my ex to get jealous. But this new bf of mine treat me very well. better than my ex.
My ex has also gotten a gf himself.
I still see my ex often after the breakup.. recently we went out together..
i realised i still miss him.. and i think i love him.. he still loves me too..
The problem now is i don't know if i should go back to my ex for love.. or to stay with my current one as he is more stable and treats me well..
Anway... do what your heart tells you to do...
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The grass is always greener over the other side. Stick to your current bf now.
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i agree with Yunhaier. Do you seriously love your new bf or you just want to use him only until he has no use? I really pity the nice guy bf of yours.Originally posted by lixIn:Have been together with my ex for 4 years..
Few months ago we broke up.. I broke up with him as i dun wan him to take me for granted. He begged me a number of times but i was too stubborn to accept his apologies.
I got myself a new bf straight after that as i wanted my ex to get jealous. But this new bf of mine treat me very well. better than my ex.
My ex has also gotten a gf himself.
I still see my ex often after the breakup.. recently we went out together..
i realised i still miss him.. and i think i love him.. he still loves me too..
The problem now is i don't know if i should go back to my ex for love.. or to stay with my current one as he is more stable and treats me well.. -
A mistake follow by another mistake..
I feel sorry for ur current bf. -
He begged me a number of times but i was too stubborn to accept his apologies.
That guy muz have felt bad
I got myself a new bf straight after that as i wanted my ex to get jealous.
Since ur new bf treats u well, be grateful and stick with it
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mayb... but i still get excited and eager when meeting my ex... thats strange isn't itOriginally posted by Devil1976:Things can often be quite different between a friend and a bf... Less suffocating and routine maybe..? Probably why you are happier to see your ex than see your bf now..?? -
ur situation is sth like my friend sia,both the party r my friend n they're also together for 4 yrs and the girl broke up with the guy cos the guy take her for granted and is unstable.whenever they have agrument or wat n cant sort them out themselves i'll always try to help but this time i dun seem to b able to help n its so sad seeing them end up as friends even as a person who isn't involved.ok i might nag here as its not relevant but i do think that u shld go for the person u love more as ur ex also beg u a few times n i'll sure he wont take u for granted anymore and in anycase loving the person is better than the person loving u more.
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cheap people nowadays
getting new bf/gf after a breakup and then come crying saying they miss him/her alot
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Kopman's friend = Lixin ???Originally posted by kopman:ur situation is sth like my friend sia,both the party r my friend n they're also together for 4 yrs and the girl broke up with the guy cos the guy take her for granted and is unstable.whenever they have agrument or wat n cant sort them out themselves i'll always try to help but this time i dun seem to b able to help n its so sad seeing them end up as friends even as a person who isn't involved.ok i might nag here as its not relevant but i do think that u shld go for the person u love more as ur ex also beg u a few times n i'll sure he wont take u for granted anymore and in anycase loving the person is better than the person loving u more.
If your ex ask you to get back together and your heart still flutters for him, go to your ex loh. LOL. Why are you looking for a stable boyfriend? LOL. Can't wait to get married and have kids, is it? ROFL.. -
dont waste your time on it because love life is going affect what you do in future