hmmm...am I being selfish?
-
Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why
)
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while? -
Too sensitive, mate...
-
-
So selfish and self-centered.
-
How come u sound like a gaL??
Sorry.. It's more of a gal bein more emotional.. In my opinion anywae..
Still studyin arh? Mayb u aren't ready to step into a relationship yet bah..
Gettin into a r/s requires maturity, sensitivity, etc.. Basically.. U gonna handle the stress of bein in a r/s, juggles with ur studies, mood swings when the r/s fluatulates up & down..
It is true.. If u sms someone & the person doesn reply immediately.. U feel crossed..
But it could be tat.. She is buzy @ the moment? Or She doesn't have her phone with her 24hrs..
She replies positively.. Tat's a gd sign.. Use it as a reminder tat she is interested in you.. Even if she replies late.. Or think it as.. Gals play hard to get.. To raise up the fun in intial courtship..
Dun be over processive.. U could end up losin her & hurtin both of urself.. -
You think she da only thing in your world? What about yr frens and other ppl who sms you or call you? You dun attend to her 24/7 rite?Originally posted by Texcoco II:Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why )
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while? -
Since both of you are not attached or related to each other... then you should not expect anything from her...Originally posted by Texcoco II:Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why )
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while?
No expectation = no disappointment...
Concerntrate on your studies and you will forget her in no time... -
She has parents, a family, best friends, classmates, CCA pals, etc, etc. It is not just you who she keeps in contact with; there are many other people out there whom she has to be in touch with as well. Perhaps she may mean everything to you, but you are not necessarily at the center of her universe.Originally posted by Texcoco II:Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why )
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while?
I won't pull any punches - you are being both too sensitive and selfish. If you're going to act this way when you're trying to woo her, I can imagine you becoming even more possessive and sensitive if you get attached to her.
She has a life outside of a friendship with you, and it'll do you a whole lot of good to remember that. -
very possessive.
she's not even ur gf, so is she obliged to reply all ur smses?
if she's not interested in u, do u think she will initiate to sms u or ask u out etc? -
Why are u so possessive?
it will destroy the relationship....
try befriending her... and can go for a group outing... -
BIG NO NO!Originally posted by Texcoco II:Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why )
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while?
don ever do this..
im in the exactly same situation as u
and i didnt change abit..
and just recently she told me she got a bf liao!
if u don change ur ways, u end up like me..
good luck mate -
got one time i ask to jio her out alone (before that she go out with me only once....but only a short while) she say can bring friends along i immediately sianz...Originally posted by Sakuraflower:Why are u so possessive?
it will destroy the relationship....
try befriending her... and can go for a group outing... -
hmmm....any suggestions for me? cos i haven speak to her for quite long leOriginally posted by soulness:BIG NO NO!
don ever do this..
im in the exactly same situation as u
and i didnt change abit..
and just recently she told me she got a bf liao!
if u don change ur ways, u end up like me..
good luck mate -
i myself still suffering from thatOriginally posted by Texcoco II:hmmm....any suggestions for me? cos i haven speak to her for quite long le
but i think u shld not be too sensitive la
take it as casual fren first lar
dun push her coz u only making her uncomfortable with u
just relax..u still have ur own life..
the world don revolve around her only .. -
anyway i got this weird thinking, i know it's sick, but i enjoy hurting girls, the more hurt or angry because of me I more fell happy and enjoyable about it,, if they are happy i tend to feel angry and upset, i will then think of plans to hurt my admirars...that's no normal....Originally posted by soulness:i myself still suffering from that
but i think u shld not be too sensitive la
take it as casual fren first lar
dun push her coz u only making her uncomfortable with u
just relax..u still have ur own life..
the world don revolve around her only ..
-
huh? wat are u thinking mate?Originally posted by Texcoco II:anyway i got this weird thinking, i know it's sick, but i enjoy hurting girls, the more hurt or angry because of me I more fell happy and enjoyable about it,, if they are happy i tend to feel angry and upset, i will then think of plans to hurt my admirars...that's no normal....
its ok to be jealous or possesive..
but its NOT OK to be perverted hor..
control urself pls -
have u asked her out? usually u dun expect most gals to do the work that all guys are expected to do which is to chase the gal.Originally posted by Texcoco II:Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why )
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while?
I can tell from ur post that she is not very into you but I may be wrong. Try asking her out.
one more thing: most gals reply positively. That does not mean they are into you. U shd not expect anything in return unless she did not reply to you at all...then you have the right to be angry. But then again, they cud really have forgotten to reply to you. But that is a warning sign to you that she is not really into you after all. Take in mind you dun own her. You can't really force her to like you. Either she likes you or she doesn't.
Ask her out and you will know the answer. -
you are just seriously in love with herOriginally posted by Texcoco II:Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why )
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while? -
you shld give her some time to accept you.. some girls like playing hard to get when actually they like you so much.. so play along so in the end you will be successful in yr jioing..
-
You insecurity tells you that when a girl is hurt by you, it means she gives a damn about you enought o be hurt.Originally posted by Texcoco II:anyway i got this weird thinking, i know it's sick, but i enjoy hurting girls, the more hurt or angry because of me I more fell happy and enjoyable about it,, if they are happy i tend to feel angry and upset, i will then think of plans to hurt my admirars...that's no normal....
However, bear in a mind that a girl who had been hurt a few times, learn that there is no point investing emotions in a relationship like that, and end up being indifferent.
You can try 'harder' of course to provoke a reaction out of her but it is sad to let your insecurity control you this way. -
Originally posted by Texcoco II:anyway i got this weird thinking, i know it's sick, but i enjoy hurting girls, the more hurt or angry because of me I more fell happy and enjoyable about it,, if they are happy i tend to feel angry and upset, i will then think of plans to hurt my admirars...that's no normal....
Are you a Scorpio?
P.S: Likely to have afflicted inner planets in sign of Scorpio or hard aspect against planets ruling sign of Scorpio.
Cheers -
at least yours still tell you she got bf...Originally posted by soulness:BIG NO NO!
don ever do this..
im in the exactly same situation as u
and i didnt change abit..
and just recently she told me she got a bf liao!
if u don change ur ways, u end up like me..
good luck mate
the girl i like, went out with me for a few times, then suddenly cold shoulder me. and lately i found out she attached liao...the last time we went out was feb. -
hey! the last time i went out wihf her was feb too@!Originally posted by bladez87:at least yours still tell you she got bf...
the girl i like, went out with me for a few times, then suddenly cold shoulder me. and lately i found out she attached liao...the last time we went out was feb. -
suay la u same sch somemore very hard
-
NOt selfish but pettyOriginally posted by Texcoco II:Okay....there is tis gal i like...sometimes we will sms and call each other...however when she fails to reply or answer...i expected her to sms back late to say so, when she fails to do so, i get pissed off...i have this mentality that fail to answer/sms = dun care = not interested, however this is not the first time i get pissed off, when i do i will do things that also hurt her at the same time (we are not attached, but i in process of "jioing" her) I also think that, if she's interested, she should also make an initiative to call or sms me, which she very rarely do...but she reply positively everytime i contacted her...am i being selfish and sensitive (btw plz dun tell me tat she's never interested with me in the first place....read my other post on AA if u wana know why )
At the same time i wanted to do something so i can get her out of my head for a while, but i found it tough, especially when i see her in sch, how to forget for a while?
Think abt it