http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 en-US 60 <p>Like how moths are attracted to the light, just be a brighter light than that guy to attract her.</p> Sun, 17 Sep 2006 07:10:05 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5295877 alexkusu http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">im 25, shes 21.<br /> <br /> initiated a breakup with her (2yr r/s) in 04, had been unable to endure the constant (trivial) quarrelling, and she always pulled out the 'breakup' word. Even then, i was still uncertain of my feelings...<br /> <br /> since then we've kept in contact, mostly through sms/msn.<br /> <br /> recently found out she found a bf whom she had known through her friends (for barely 2 weeks). He's 8 yrs older than her, owns a car and is a regular. She confided in me when they quarrelled and as much as i didnt want to know, she told me stuff about him/them, and his/his family's faults.<br /> <br /> this was when i realised i may lose her forever... so i took action and met her a couple of times, where i really voiced out a lot of stuff and my feelings. From the time we were together, she had been for the most part my soulmate.<br /> <br /> as her vacation was ending, she told me to wait for her decision as she would be busy with school stuff... and so i did. At that time... it seemed i stood a good chance. When we contacted again, she told me she had 'went back' to that guy during that time to see if it could still work out... it was heartbreaking as i didnt expect her to lie to me (or at least didnt say the truth).<br /> <br /> we met again, but this time i was tired and not in the mood... and so the meetup passed by uneventfully with me being quiet mostly.<br /> <br /> i duno what shes thinking but since then... she has been very cold towards me and told me to put everything aside for now...<br /> <br /> due to -some- reason... i think she has gone to be with that guy. But i have not confirmed.<br /> <br /> just posting this because tbh amongst my friends there isnt any really close one to confide in, and just duno what to do now. And there's still the financial problems to juggle...<br /> <br /> p.s. after reading the 'old or new bf?' thread, realized its somewhat similar =/</div> </blockquote> <p>his car attracted her is it?</p> Sun, 17 Sep 2006 04:43:07 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5295814 Phoebie http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">ok... the latest is...<br /> <br /> she just wants to be friends with both me and him for now.<br /> <br /> that is probably a relief as compared to what i expected...<br /> <br /> a <span style="font-style: italic;">huge</span> sigh of relief <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /></div> </blockquote> <p>You should REALLY LEARN from this EXPERIENCE of yours..</p> Sun, 30 Jul 2006 23:38:57 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5088482 Devil1976 http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>ok... the latest is...<br /> <br /> she just wants to be friends with both me and him for now.<br /> <br /> that is probably a relief as compared to what i expected...<br /> <br /> a <span style="font-style: italic;">huge</span> sigh of relief <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /></p> Sat, 29 Jul 2006 20:37:50 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5083238 risou http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by Yunhaier:</div> <div class="quote_body"><img title="Arrow" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_arrow.gif" alt="Arrow" /> You are the old, battered shoes kept in some forgotten corner of her cupboard.<br /> <br /> Whenever she wore her new shoes and when it gave her foot sores, she will remember how comfortable the old shoes were, despite being old.<br /> <br /> For a period, she may wear you.<br /> <br /> But you know that your position has been displaced by the new shoes. <img title="Idea" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_idea.gif" alt="Idea" /><br /> <br /> ***<br /> <br /> <img title="Arrow" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_arrow.gif" alt="Arrow" /> You hasten your chase just because you felt threatened over the appearance of this new guy - I believe it is a case of 'reserving' her and deciding your 'feelings' later. More likely, you are seeing it as a 'lost' in something than a mystical call from love which urged the chase.<br /> <br /> You are looking back and she is moving forward.<br /> <br /> If you wish to dwell in this any longer, you will probably become stagnant, while she enjoyed her new path in life. It may not necessary be a fulfilling relationship, but certainly, it will bring her new destination in love and life.<br /> <br /> P.S: Remember, you both are once an item - love and relationship did blossom before. There isn't any regret to begin with; it's an ending to accept gracefully. <img title="Idea" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_idea.gif" alt="Idea" /><br /> <br /> Cheers</div> </blockquote> <p><img title="Crying or Very sad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_cry.gif" alt= "Crying or Very sad" /></p> Sat, 29 Jul 2006 19:02:46 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5082885 wonderamazement http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>well i was the one who initiated the breakup 2yrs ago, i do not regret making that decision based on the circumstances then. But i'm clearer about my feelings now, even though it took the presence of that guy to do so. Late? better than never.<br /> <br /> yes, there are many better girls out there. and yes, despite all the advice, it's still up to me to make a decision and take action. i wish to reignite the flame... now, i'm trying to find out if she's with him or not. could be a slap on my face if yes though.<br /> <br /> weird that i sent a 'normal' sms 2 nights ago and she chose not to reply, but another sms hinting at something indirectly related to him... she replied. don't want to read too much into the reply, so we'll see how the smsing goes from here.<br /> <br /> edit1: got ignored again, both sms and calls, maybe shes working or whatever, well what the heck, cant be bothered for now<br /> <br /> edit2: i cant even get a chance now to try (hard)... zzz if shes with him now just tell me direct and not play this freaking ignore-whenever-i-like-it game<br /> <br /> edit3: feel that my state of mind is somewhat unstable atm... maybe with more sleep i can spend less time thinking about this... so... good night.<br /></p> Sat, 29 Jul 2006 14:42:47 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5082736 risou http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>There could be some misunderstanding. I didn't married my ex gf. It was after broke up with her about 1 year later, i got to know my wife. <img title="Surprised" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_surprised.gif" alt= "Surprised" /><br /> <br /> Sometimes you try too hard and fail. Sit back and relax. Everything will just work out fine.</p> Sat, 29 Jul 2006 03:29:09 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5081103 Disappointment http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">yes i am jealous, i am unhappy, i dont have a clue as to what i should do now, so no matter comments good or bad, at least i found a place to vent my frustration, because i have no close friend to confide in. And i dont feel any better even after posting all this...<br /></div> </blockquote> <p>Doesn't this alone already answer my question? <img title="Wink" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_wink.gif" alt="Wink" /> No disrespect, but if your actions were motivated by love alone, why should you be 'jealous and unhappy'? I think you get the drift.<br /> <br /> I don't suppose there's a lot more to add on which hasn't already been suggested - in essence, go figure out if she's <strong>the one</strong> for you(you could have been quarelling frequently - and might continue to do so in all probability if you ever got reacquainted on an intimate level again - but for some couples, that's just part and parcel of what makes that relationship unique) and I think you would know better what is perhaps the most appropriate next course of action for you after straightening your thoughts...</p> Sat, 29 Jul 2006 03:27:31 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5081099 walesa http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">nowhere close to her now... both physically and mentally.<br /> <br /> not particularly worried about work...<br /> <br /> it's not that i purposely want to think about it, but i cant help it... even when doing other stuff... even when it is nearing 2yrs to our breakup.<br /> <br /> sometimes in life, it may be better not to see/hear/know certain things? like the msn nick i mentioned. Or thinking too much into it <img title="Question" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_question.gif" alt="Question" /> maybe, duno.<br /> <br /> in the past, i was strong emotionally. but that has sinced changed. sure im a mid20s guy with a future to look forward to and all...blah... still human afterall.<br /> <br /> regarding her temper... probably, probably not... but with her currently ignoring me, im just passing day by day not knowing anything and being perplexed about it, as much as i try not to.<br /> <br /> tbh my mental state is no different than when i started this thread. Not that my life is now preoccupied with 'her,' but rather the lack of 'her.'<br /></div> </blockquote> <p>Really... watever advice that its given here won't help you. Its up to you to decide wat you want to do about it. Man, i mean its already 2 years. Shouldn't you try to let go? Or maybe see things from a different angle.... that all could be a blessing in disguise.<br /> <br /> My ex gf was wif me for 5 years before she said that we are not compatible. She caught me off guard and i was actually depressed about it. It was not until i did some checks on her and found out that she's wif another man. Then 6 months later, she called and asked me if i still love her? I turn her down and her exact words are "I dun need a boyfriend, I need a husband" ....<br /> <br /> Now that i'm happily married and have a 3yr old daughter, there's nothing more i could ask for. I look back in memories ........ those were the days.</p> Sat, 29 Jul 2006 03:24:06 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5081092 Disappointment http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>nowhere close to her now... both physically and mentally.<br /> <br /> not particularly worried about work...<br /> <br /> it's not that i purposely want to think about it, but i cant help it... even when doing other stuff... even when it is nearing 2yrs to our breakup.<br /> <br /> sometimes in life, it may be better not to see/hear/know certain things? like the msn nick i mentioned. Or thinking too much into it <img title="Question" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_question.gif" alt="Question" /> maybe, duno.<br /> <br /> in the past, i was strong emotionally. but that has sinced changed. sure im a mid20s guy with a future to look forward to and all...blah... still human afterall.<br /> <br /> regarding her temper... probably, probably not... but with her currently ignoring me, im just passing day by day not knowing anything and being perplexed about it, as much as i try not to.<br /> <br /> tbh my mental state is no different than when i started this thread. Not that my life is now preoccupied with 'her,' but rather the lack of 'her.'<br /></p> <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by Devil1976:</div> <div class="quote_body">Your problem is you shouldn't have stay too close with her if you can't handle it.... Work is work... If you find that you could be burden by work, go seek entertainment or relaxation elsewhere...<br /> <br /> I think you're should be better focusing on your own life at this point... Don't breed and seek answer for 'console' at the wrong place... 'Horizon' might not submerge too soon, worse if you're sitting and facing the wrong direction already...<br /> <br /> What's the point of thinking about her? Personally, based on surface analysis... I see that there's pretty much a chance that she's still one who would throw her temper at you over trivial matters....</div> </blockquote> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 20:08:12 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5081008 risou http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by M©+square:</div> <div class="quote_body">You thought, i think, who comfirm? <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /><br /> <br /> Don't shoot blindly lah.<br /> <br /> Cheers</div> </blockquote> <p><img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /></p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 19:29:46 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5078989 Disappointment http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by Disappointment:</div> <div class="quote_body">I give up... thought can use reverse psychology. Anyway, good luck in watever you do...</div> </blockquote> <p>You thought, i think, who comfirm? <img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /><br /> <br /> Don't shoot blindly lah.<br /> <br /> Cheers</p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 19:23:20 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5078972 M©+square http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">hi, and using CAPS or an obscene adjective doesn't put your point across any clearer or otherwise...<br /> <br /> it's not like im lying in bed all day crying over this. and i won't be adding to sg's suicide statistics anytime soon...<br /> <br /> yes i appreciate those who have posted their advice, but not to your previous post <img title="Cool" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_cool.gif" alt="Cool" /> oh, and this post too.<br /></div> </blockquote> <p>I give up... thought can use reverse psychology. Anyway, good luck in watever you do...</p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 19:08:27 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5078933 Disappointment http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">good shoe analogy <img title="Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_mad.gif" alt="Mad" /><br /> pretty much summarised it, at least for the most part.<br /> <br /> i duno if she's with that guy now though, but believe so due to her msn nick i saw yesterday... it's something related to what she told me about that guy..<br /> <br /> well ive just graduated from uni, found a job (for now)... shes in ite... pretty successful so far.<br /> <br /> all is lost? at this point in time... even if im dwelling and pissing myself over this... even as she continues being cold/unresponsive to me... i still have to work soon, mundane work.<br /> <br /> when one doesnt have anyone comfortable enough to confide in, what can one do?<br /> <br /> when one is unable to see the horizon, which direction does one go?<br /> <br /> <img title="Neutral" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_neutral.gif" alt="Neutral" /></div> </blockquote> <p>Your problem is you shouldn't have stay too close with her if you can't handle it.... Work is work... If you find that you could be burden by work, go seek entertainment or relaxation elsewhere...<br /> <br /> I think you're should be better focusing on your own life at this point... Don't breed and seek answer for 'console' at the wrong place... 'Horizon' might not submerge too soon, worse if you're sitting and facing the wrong direction already...<br /> <br /> What's the point of thinking about her? Personally, based on surface analysis... I see that there's pretty much a chance that she's still one who would throw her temper at you over trivial matters....</p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 17:58:19 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5078694 Devil1976 http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>Forumites... Pls control yourselves... <img title="Rolling Eyes" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt= "Rolling Eyes" /></p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 17:44:02 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5078633 Devil1976 http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>hi, and using CAPS or an obscene adjective doesn't put your point across any clearer or otherwise...<br /> <br /> it's not like im lying in bed all day crying over this. and i won't be adding to sg's suicide statistics anytime soon...<br /> <br /> yes i appreciate those who have posted their advice, but not to your previous post <img title="Cool" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_cool.gif" alt="Cool" /> oh, and this post too.<br /></p> <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by Disappointment:</div> <div class="quote_body">MY FARKING POINT IS THAT YOU JUST DUN WAKE UP <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt="Evil or Very Mad" /> <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt="Evil or Very Mad" /> <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt="Evil or Very Mad" /> <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt= "Evil or Very Mad" /><br /> GF BROKE ALREADY, MEANS KAPISHI....NO MORE. DUN BREW OVER IT AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.<br /> <br /> I mean i'm half as angry if you really see what these ppl write here. They are really taking their effort to give good solutions to your problems. So why dun you just try some of them??? <img title= "Sad" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt= "Sad" /><br /> <br /> What's the use if you dun listen. I mean you as a graduate, 25yrs old.... Shouldn't it be time to handle these issues maturely? <img title="Sad" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt= "Sad" /></div> </blockquote> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 17:04:44 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5078479 risou http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">thanks too <img title="Very Happy" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_biggrin.gif" alt="Very Happy" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Rolling Eyes" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt= "Rolling Eyes" /><br /> <br /> p.s. this is a forum, anyone is free to post, there's been much advice given... but what is the point of your post besides asking for this thread to be closed? does it violate any rule of this forum?<br /></div> </blockquote> <p>MY FARKING POINT IS THAT YOU JUST DUN WAKE UP <img title= "Evil or Very Mad" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt="Evil or Very Mad" /> <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt="Evil or Very Mad" /> <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt="Evil or Very Mad" /> <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt= "Evil or Very Mad" /><br /> GF BROKE ALREADY, MEANS KAPISHI....NO MORE. DUN BREW OVER IT AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.<br /> <br /> I mean i'm half as angry if you really see what these ppl write here. They are really taking their effort to give good solutions to your problems. So why dun you just try some of them??? <img title= "Sad" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt= "Sad" /><br /> <br /> What's the use if you dun listen. I mean you as a graduate, 25yrs old.... Shouldn't it be time to handle these issues maturely? <img title="Sad" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt= "Sad" /></p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 16:32:04 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5078333 Disappointment http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>It could be coz.. Guys dun wan to lose.. And when they lose, their ego is bruised..<br /> <br /> Ask urself.. Do you reali still love her? If it's the qurarrels tat pull u both apart.. wOUld it not cont if u got back tog??<br /> <br /> The reason she comes to find u is perharps.. She can bare her soul out to u.. After all.. Both of u were once close to each other.. Soul mates to each other.. The easiest person to approach is u.. Whom she noes she can get sympathy out of u.. U noe.. Cheerin her up when she's upset.. Etc.. The things u do 4 her when u're tog..<br /> <br /> Btw a normal friend &amp; a ex gf.. Barin her problems out to u.. Think usually the case is u'll be more empathetic to ur ex.. <img title="Rolling Eyes" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt="Rolling Eyes" /> Hehe.. I dunno.. jUs a tot..<br /> <br /> Back to the topic.. If u reali love her.. Go &amp; chase her back..<br /> <br /> If u dun have feelins 4 her.. &amp; jus coz u're feelin sore.. Conc on ur work.. I'm sure u'll find a gal of ur dreams..<br /> <br /> R/s.. Easy to start.. Hard to end..</p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 15:12:21 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077922 ahkico http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>Did you know that there is 6 billion people living in this world <cite>?</cite>[/quote]</p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 14:05:28 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077666 Signature_One http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>thanks too <img title="Very Happy" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_biggrin.gif" alt="Very Happy" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Rolling Eyes" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt= "Rolling Eyes" /><br /> <br /> p.s. this is a forum, anyone is free to post, there's been much advice given... but what is the point of your post besides asking for this thread to be closed? does it violate any rule of this forum?<br /></p> <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by Disappointment:</div> <div class="quote_body">To all forumster,<br /> I think that this thread can closed liao, cause threadstarter says that he just need a place to vent out, no matter how good the comment is. No wonder he got no friends to confide his sorrows.<br /> If he wants to carry on like this, so be it!!! I think there are more genuine cases that ppl actually will listen to our advice. <img title="Rolling Eyes" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt= "Rolling Eyes" /></div> </blockquote> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 13:48:01 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077629 risou http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>thanks <img title="Very Happy" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_biggrin.gif" alt="Very Happy" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Rolling Eyes" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt= "Rolling Eyes" /><br /></p> <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by vivasg:</div> <div class="quote_body">You are trying to get your chance, don't tell me you don't expect something more when you with her and keep trying your chance till now. No matter how long she with her current bf, is none of your business, she already the guy's gf. Stop be a loser and try to snatch ppl's gf.<br /> <br /> Ppl like you are disgracing our singaporean, that is y a lot of ppl thought singapore man is desperate. That is all because of ppl like you.<br /> <br /></div> </blockquote> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 13:45:47 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077589 risou http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>To all forumster,<br /> I think that this thread can closed liao, cause threadstarter says that he just need a place to vent out, no matter how good the comment is. No wonder he got no friends to confide his sorrows.<br /> If he wants to carry on like this, so be it!!! I think there are more genuine cases that ppl actually will listen to our advice. <img title="Rolling Eyes" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_rolleyes.gif" alt= "Rolling Eyes" /></p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 13:42:59 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077578 Disappointment http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>You are trying to get your chance, don't tell me you don't expect something more when you with her and keep trying your chance till now. No matter how long she with her current bf, is none of your business, she already the guy's gf. Stop be a loser and try to snatch ppl's gf.<br /> <br /> Ppl like you are disgracing our singaporean, that is y a lot of ppl thought singapore man is desperate. That is all because of ppl like you.<br /> <br /></p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 13:40:00 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077570 vivasg http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by risou:</div> <div class="quote_body">im 25, shes 21.<br /> <br /> initiated a breakup with her (2yr r/s) in 04, had been unable to endure the constant (trivial) quarrelling, and she always pulled out the 'breakup' word. Even then, i was still uncertain of my feelings...<br /> <br /> since then we've kept in contact, mostly through sms/msn.<br /> <br /> recently found out she found a bf whom she had known through her friends (for barely 2 weeks). He's 8 yrs older than her, owns a car and is a regular. She confided in me when they quarrelled and as much as i didnt want to know, she told me stuff about him/them, and his/his family's faults.<br /> <br /> this was when i realised i may lose her forever... so i took action and met her a couple of times, where i really voiced out a lot of stuff and my feelings. From the time we were together, she had been for the most part my soulmate.<br /> <br /> as her vacation was ending, she told me to wait for her decision as she would be busy with school stuff... and so i did. At that time... it seemed i stood a good chance. When we contacted again, she told me she had 'went back' to that guy during that time to see if it could still work out... it was heartbreaking as i didnt expect her to lie to me (or at least didnt say the truth).<br /> <br /> we met again, but this time i was tired and not in the mood... and so the meetup passed by uneventfully with me being quiet mostly.<br /> <br /> i duno what shes thinking but since then... she has been very cold towards me and told me to put everything aside for now...<br /> <br /> due to -some- reason... i think she has gone to be with that guy. But i have not confirmed.<br /> <br /> just posting this because tbh amongst my friends there isnt any really close one to confide in, and just duno what to do now. And there's still the financial problems to juggle...<br /> <br /> p.s. after reading the 'old or new bf?' thread, realized its somewhat similar =/</div> </blockquote> <p>its hard to forget or leave behind the gal since she is ur soulmate but u reali need to leave her n more on with ur life... there better gals to be ur soulmate...</p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 13:09:34 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077487 BrUtUs http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120 <p>Have u tried telling her to stop telling stuffs between she and the other guy to u?<br /> <br /> Have u voiced out that u are unhappy troughout the whole proccess of listening to her saying things which doesnt concerns u? ( except for their quarrels )<br /> <br /> Have u ever told yourself that what she does is none of ur own business?<br /> <br /> Its hard to forget an old flame but u have to move on. it is never wrong to meet your old gf/bf as long as u are very clear that both of u are purely friends who knew each other for a long time. and eventually u'll be much happier. if u get this very clear into ur head, no matter what she does and say will not affect u in any ways.<br /> <br /> To me i find that this girl is trying to be funny in someways, two timing perhaps? U have to battle it out in ur brains 1st b4 even asking her to come back to u. look at her from a thrid persons view and u'll see much clearer.</p> Fri, 28 Jul 2006 12:32:18 +0800 movies.sgforums.com:12:202120:5077327 boredandsleepy http://movies.sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/202120