My friend needs help.
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One of my friends needs help on this issue:
He is 22 this year and he has a girlfriend who is 2 years younger than him. My friend is a poly graduate (in fact he is my classmate in the poly last time) and his girlfriend is only a O level holder.
It might sounds nothing special but my friend's parents dispprove of their relationship. They feels that his girlfriend's educational standard is too low and he should find a girlfriend of his educational standards but my friend likes his girlfriend very much and vice versa but he had to deal with his parents too.
He tried to convince his parents many times but failed. So he asked for our help and as I would like to help him, I can't as I didn't meet such incidents before. Thus I decided to post here to seek help.
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tell ur fren's gf to prove it to the parents that educational level does not impede her quality of being a xian qi liang mu
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How old his parents? Tell his parents that because people have degree or diploma cert doesn't necessarily make them naturally better people ley...?Originally posted by isolation:One of my friends needs help on this issue:
He is 22 this year and he has a girlfriend who is 2 years younger than him. My friend is a poly graduate (in fact he is my classmate in the poly last time) and his girlfriend is only a O level holder.
It might sounds nothing special but my friend's parents dispprove of their relationship. They feels that his girlfriend's educational standard is too low and he should find a girlfriend of his educational standards but my friend likes his girlfriend very much and vice versa but he had to deal with his parents too.
He tried to convince his parents many times but failed. So he asked for our help and as I would like to help him, I can't as I didn't meet such incidents before. Thus I decided to post here to seek help. -
education only mah..
the girl can always go upgrade..
wat's the big deal?
his parents v educated ar? -
Not so sure about his parents' qualification but he is well under big controls by his parents although he is 22 this year.
For instance, he just ORDed last week and he had been looking for jobs. He had applied for many jobs already only that yet to get called for interview (instead he did went for 2 interviews when he was clearing his ORD leave) but his parents accuses him for not looking for jobs and iding around.
And one funny thing is: When looking for jobs he told me that he will not do permanent night shift because his parents doesn't approve of him doing such. -
Actually when i ord 2 years ago, i also cannot find a job. Finally i decided to work permanent night shift, i just hope your friend be more patient and really try his best not to go to job agenices. Most Job agents in singapore are very rude, they treat us like we owe them for a living.
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From what I know the one who is impatient is not him but his parents.Originally posted by thickskin23:Actually when i ord 2 years ago, i also cannot find a job. Finally i decided to work permanent night shift, i just hope your friend be more patient and really try his best not to go to job agenices. Most Job agents in singapore are very rude, they treat us like we owe them for a living. -
I can understand his predicament, for I'm facing a similar situation myself.
The first thing that your friend should do is NEVER TO LOSE HOPE OR GIVE UP!
It's a FACE issue. Perhaps the parents have a bad impression of girls who had only secondary education.
Perseverence is the answer. If the girl is virtuous, filial etc, try highlighting the strengths of his girlfriend to his parents.
Ultimately, your friend is the one to spend the rest of his life with the girl, not the parents. His parents will see this point one day. -
I went to this job agency at international plaza, the job agent ask me what is my qualifications, i reply poly diploma (at that time i just ord). Then he ask me what is my job criterias, i said anything is fine but i cannot pick those jobs that require me to go overseas as my mom is stricken with cancer. Then all of a sudden the job agent become black-face keep saying i am choosy. So after a few days that job agent call me and arrange an interview, i went down only to find out that the job require me to go taiwan for 4 months then come back to singapore for 2 weeks and back to taiwan again. I politely refuse the job offer and after a few hour the job agent call me and scold me. He scold me words like calling a "crap" and a "loser". Finally i lose my temper and f@uck that guy through the phone. Now i am working night shift and i am so glad i get this job through company not just some crappy agencies. I wish your friend good luck and hope he need not use the help of any job agenices.
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who is in the relationship with the gal? Him or the parents?Originally posted by isolation:One of my friends needs help on this issue:
He is 22 this year and he has a girlfriend who is 2 years younger than him. My friend is a poly graduate (in fact he is my classmate in the poly last time) and his girlfriend is only a O level holder.
It might sounds nothing special but my friend's parents dispprove of their relationship. They feels that his girlfriend's educational standard is too low and he should find a girlfriend of his educational standards but my friend likes his girlfriend very much and vice versa but he had to deal with his parents too.
He tried to convince his parents many times but failed. So he asked for our help and as I would like to help him, I can't as I didn't meet such incidents before. Thus I decided to post here to seek help.
Convince the parents that he is mature enough to know wat he wants and
needs. That includes the choice of a life partner. The parents cant live his life for him, rite?
Parents Opinions and concerns are well appreciated but should not be like treated like Emperor decree .........
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i seriously doubt it is because of her educational level. afterall poly is only one grade higher than 'o' levels.
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Please help to tell your friend the followings:Originally posted by isolation:One of my friends needs help on this issue:
He is 22 this year and he has a girlfriend who is 2 years younger than him. My friend is a poly graduate (in fact he is my classmate in the poly last time) and his girlfriend is only a O level holder.
It might sounds nothing special but my friend's parents dispprove of their relationship. They feels that his girlfriend's educational standard is too low and he should find a girlfriend of his educational standards but my friend likes his girlfriend very much and vice versa but he had to deal with his parents too.
He tried to convince his parents many times but failed. So he asked for our help and as I would like to help him, I can't as I didn't meet such incidents before. Thus I decided to post here to seek help.
It is always good to have someone who really loves you and I really envy you a lot as you have a wonderful girlfriend who didnÂ’t gave up even when your parents objected the relationship so muchÂ… It is sad that many couples had given up hopes and commitment at the slightly signs of hitches todayÂ…
Ask your girlfriend whether is she interested to go for any further studies or any upgrading courses in the near further and if she is interested then please tell your parents about it… Perhaps you can also tell your parents the main reason for her to stop schooling after “O” Level… Maybe it is due to her financial problems or family problems that disallowed her from carrying on any future…
Furthermore, it is always good to go for further studies as it will not only increase your current value to the company but also enriches your own self and personal well beingÂ…
In life there are a lot of ups and downs and especially in a relationshipÂ… issues can be much more sensitive that normal day to day issueÂ… DonÂ’t give up easily and prove to your parents that this is the relationship that is worth pursuing forÂ…
Never worry for the low educational level that oneÂ’s may have but one should worry for no intention to continue learning in lifeÂ… Continuous upgrading and acquiring new skills is valuable in lifeÂ…
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Tell him not to worry. You pass the girlfriend to me, I take good care of her.
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Usually its the guy's education more of a concern mah. The girl!!!??? Its the guy that take care of the girl or the girl that take cares of the guy?
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actually, a good relationship does not only depend solely on love, but also communications and understandings between two being. It is true that a girl who has higher qualifications does't mean that she has a good attitude. The level of education isn't a yatchstick for one's success in life. I actually known a girl, who is a medical student, has actually slept with more than 10 guys less than 2 years time. Moreso, she indulged in guilty plaesures,eg. smoking drinking, and promiscuity. Not to tell that she actually leads a pathetic life.
I think his parents are concerned for his marriage maybe because they think people with highr education have good attitude for sure, and as one member mentioned before, sian chi liang mu, Not to forget that your friend is from poly, which is only1 grade higher than O-level. His parents might want a girl who has higher qualifications so that she can help her husband financially. It is a well known truth that without a degree, it is difficult to find a average paid job. This occurs in every corner of the world. Tell your friend to know more about the reasons she did not continue with her studies. There is always a solution. Never give up if she is a nice girl. No one is to be blamed here. i really sympathize your friend. If the girl is good, then continue. I always believe in love. Never give up -
didnt know now stil got such thing....Originally posted by isolation:One of my friends needs help on this issue:
He is 22 this year and he has a girlfriend who is 2 years younger than him. My friend is a poly graduate (in fact he is my classmate in the poly last time) and his girlfriend is only a O level holder.
It might sounds nothing special but my friend's parents dispprove of their relationship. They feels that his girlfriend's educational standard is too low and he should find a girlfriend of his educational standards but my friend likes his girlfriend very much and vice versa but he had to deal with his parents too.
He tried to convince his parents many times but failed. So he asked for our help and as I would like to help him, I can't as I didn't meet such incidents before. Thus I decided to post here to seek help. -
given current market situation, poly grad can start $1.4k average?? o level wuld be lucky to strike $800?? uni arts grad also have difficulty trying for $1.8?? what's the rate like now? any ideas?Originally posted by dragg:i seriously doubt it is because of her educational level. afterall poly is only one grade higher than 'o' levels.
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I've heard of people not getting a job because of the lack in certain education qualifications.
I've heard of people being disapproved by their partner's parents because of not having a stable job.
And I've also heard that people also get disapproved by their partner's parents because of certain education qualification!
What is this atrocity?
It's only an education qualification!
Nevermind. Since this is the case for your friend's parents' expectation, all you can do is to tell your friend to encourage his gf in upgrading herself. He has to tell his gf what's going on regarding his parents' disapproval. If she's understanding and wise, she'll be willing to upgrade herself and work towards being somebody.
Moreover, both of them are still so young. Don't get so tied down and uptight about this whole relationship thing. Beside spending time together and enjoying each other's company, maybe they could just slowly work on their relationship such that they become closer and more loving if they make a decision to be together for long-term.
Since they're not getting married, they don't have to please the parents right now. Just focus on building their relationship and start working things out and knowing each other even more. When the time is ripe, and if they're still together by then, then seeing the parents wouldn't be a problem.
I'm sure by then, they'd be more mature as a full fledge adult, and both their parents will be more accomodating and accepting. -
I didn't know girls had to have the same qualifications as their boyfriends to be qualified.
