I Fall In Love With My Collegue... How?
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Oh..I unwittingly promoted the forum. I should be getting commissions haha.Originally posted by M©+square:Wah....touched.
You promote DA forum for me.
Thanks!!! Nah...I just felt that Aunt Agony is not an appropriate place for this thread. Maybe it's because this chap feels that falling in love is an agony to him. -
no auntie yun is da expertOriginally posted by missqi:no lah.
cannot.
wait for devil or mc to come in.
they most expert. 
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I have a question.Originally posted by de_middle:no auntie yun is da expert
If you're in love, opposite party feels mutual.
However, a expert discourages you to get into a relationship with her/him.
Would you listen to the expert or would you follow what your heart desires to? -
It's gd to be in love when it's mutual. But control your feelings and dun let it get to the point where it goes to the stage of infatuation.
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Replying to my post?Originally posted by dokono:It's gd to be in love when it's mutual. But control your feelings and dun let it get to the point where it goes to the stage of infatuation. -
both ba...haha
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Follow what your heart desires, but don't -ever- be a nuisance to anyone. Live life the way you want it, it's yours man.Originally posted by M©+square:Would you listen to the expert or would you follow what your heart desires to? -
Yes, and what's the expert for?Originally posted by JerzZzzZ:Follow what your heart desires, but don't -ever- be a nuisance to anyone. Live life the way you want it, it's yours man.
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they are for ppl who need advise to look into or hear advise from...
but...you cant telll your mind wat to do...your heart just do it on its own...
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It's to increase activity rating in AA.Originally posted by M©+square:Yes, and what's the expert for? 
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1) How to get her attention? smile at her when you see her, just like you smile to a colleague who is passing by.
2) How to start the first conversation? try joining her or her group during lunchtime. or you see her needing help, offer your help. from there, make some small talk.
3) How to ask her out? ask her out only when both of you are in good-friends stage. dont ask too early when both of you dont know much abt each other. she might freak out and reject yr invitation, depending on her character. you can start with group outings, then progress to one-to-one outings.
4) How to keep it low profile? if you dont want others to know, talk to her and behave like a normal colleague or friend. dont talk too much abt her in front of others. but then she may also think you treat her as a normal colleague.
5) Is it a healthy relationship? no comments on this. -
First of all, a gentle reminder, you have to be very tactful when you have decided / felt in love with someone who you meet, see and work together for most of the time under the same roof. If you succeed, congratulations but you need to know the do's and don'ts at the boundary line between colleague and girl friend. If you fail, it would be a very tough for you to face her everyday and if both of you are from the same department, the condition would be even worse. Eventually, one of you may choose to leave the company.Originally posted by AnimalArmy:Hello People. I fall in love with my female collegue. Lots of questions in my mind.
1) How to get her attention?
2) How to start the first conversation?
3) How to ask her out?
4) How to keep it low profile?
5) Is it a healthy relationship?
Help me people. I can't sleep without her.
To answer your questions:
<> Not so difficult as both of you are colleagues, whether you want or not, you two will have a chance to work together. Moreover, when you see each other everyday, you can greet her to break the ice.
<> Not so difficult as there are a lot of areas of interest as both of you are colleague. Ask her about her opinions about certain issues that occur in the company. Also, question like "hi, which department you are working for as I used to see you somewhere around". Simple, you can ask something related to her works.
<> This is not so straightforward. But, since both of you are in the company, just try to join the lunch group which she used to join in. However, this is just a beginning. Then slowly, you can have a chance to talk to / know her closely. First of all, you must try to figure / find out whether she has a boy friend, otherwise you are just wasting you times. Be patient and don't ask her out so quickly, unless otherwise hinted by her. Take times and slowly, when there is a chance, then you ask her out.
<> There is no such high or low profile if she finally accepts you. Why? No matter what, the other colleagues will know about this relationship. It's ok. There is nothing to hide, so long as you know the border line (work vs relationship). However, the most difficult part is when the relationship breaks up, you need to know how to handle it and facing her when in front of others.
<> Well, so long as she is not married or her boy friend is not in the same company, I would say it is a healthy relationsip. However, as I said, the most difficult part is how to convert the 'healthy love relationship' to a 'healthy working relationship' if the love relationship fails or she rejects you... but touch wood. It's a very difficult situation but worth to think about it now.
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all i can say ...go n do it >>
many ppl made mistakes bcos they
think too much n regret later >>
that they have someone care for them -
I in the same situation now, but in progress
1) How to get her attention?
2) How to start the first conversation?
3) How to ask her out?
above 3 all tackled, went out for a few dates, 1 on 1 and groups, this 1 need to depend on yourself, need some courage for your 1st conversation, and asking her out
4) How to keep it low profile?
I wouldnt disturb when she work... but i am sure her close girl colleagues wouldnt make a hoohaa about it, but I am sure those not close colleagues will make funny rumours.
5) Is it a healthy relationship?
Quite, but maybe a stressful, if your colleagues always tease both of u... u know kaypo kias.
I am still bucking up, still uncertain about on our rs -
Your posts VERY LONG but post numbers very little ley...Originally posted by Yunhaier:It's to increase activity rating in AA.
Cheers
To INCREASE ACTIVITY RATING in AA, you should be more like me....
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bcos those kaypoh kias areOriginally posted by alamakazam:I in the same situation now, but in progress
1) How to get her attention?
2) How to start the first conversation?
3) How to ask her out?
above 3 all tackled, went out for a few dates, 1 on 1 and groups, this 1 need to depend on yourself, need some courage for your 1st conversation, and asking her out
4) How to keep it low profile?
I wouldnt disturb when she work... but i am sure her close girl colleagues wouldnt make a hoohaa about it, but I am sure those not close colleagues will make funny rumours.
5) Is it a healthy relationship?
Quite, but maybe a stressful, if your colleagues always tease both of u... u know kaypo kias.
I am still bucking up, still uncertain about on our rs
single mah , then they r jealous -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Your posts VERY LONG but post numbers very little ley...
To INCREASE ACTIVITY RATING in AA, you should be more like me.... We should have word count.
I sure win.
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I have make contact with her and grab her attention. So what now? I want to ask her out for a first date. How how how?
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imagines she sleeps beside u.omg i tink u might drop down ur bedOriginally posted by AnimalArmy:I mean cannot sleeping without thinking abt her. -
Actually the working enviorment is a factor to consider as well. Where do you work?
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So I'm not alone...........
I got to know this girl when she first came for an interview in my company. She was aced the interview and we soon became colleagues. She ended up being my gf!
In my case, there wasn't a need to do anything specific or planned as we were working very closely and chances to discover "chemistry" were aplenty. Moreover, we were both very spontaneous. Just bid your time and be yourself.
One word of caution though: Lotsa pple say never eat and shit at the same okace. If u guys are harmonious, going to work's heaven. If not, it'll be hell, particularly if your work performance suffers. Discipline will be crucial. Oso, there'll be lots of tongues snickering...... can be stressful sometimes but no pain, where got joy rite? Good luck! -
I'll tell the expert to go fly a kite. Why be swayed by what others say? U are your best judge and your life is yours and yours alone? Pple will always tell u different things but u and only u remain the final decision maker, understand?