Falling in love and out of love =) Opinions?
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Falling in love
For all the reason in the world.
Some people say there's no reason,
some say there is.
But ending up the honeymoon stage of love,
Couples look at each other for their needs,
Their believes.
But what's really going on about love,
no one really knows much about it.
Perceptions and predictions.
We humans are always doing that.
Falling in love is so easy.
Looking at it, it was darn well a way to relieve stress =)
but the only thing in love is, are you making a effort to keep loving each other ? Many people just take love for granted but its just there.
No effort put in, just a simple excuse and their off.
Many people are searching for the right one.
but the truth be told,
Anyone can be the right one.
Its just how you treasure him/her.
Here's one question for you people,
IF you really treasured him/her, and in the end she leaves you.
Will you blame yourself ? or will you feel dishearten and never to love again ?
never feel dishearten, Knowing you've give all you've got in a relationship leaves you room for little regrets.
But ladies if its about sex and stuff on it, its more on if you wanna save it for your husband, or just any other guy ?
But we cannot say that a relationship can survive with or without sexual activites. Some people can, while others can't.
Nope this aren't and shakespear romeo and juilet. but lets just say this for me that is, Falling in love isn't just for a reason or 2, but its about caring and making both parties happy with a little compromise and understanding, of course with some time with each other making sure each other knows the way each other feels.
Falling out of Love
Somethings many people dread.
Reasons wise, there are many too,
but people will just give a shake and just say its bullshit.
never the last falling out of love sometimes it painful.
But you can never forget, the pain.
memories will always stay within your mind so are you going to look at it as a painful reminder or something as a past you must learn from ?
Many people told me, why they fall out of love.
Few reasons :
He/She doesn't love me anymore
I don like the way she's/he's doing things*
He/She is not my type
I don't think I love him/her anymore.
* use your imagination people =)
Some reasons are always crappy,
but lets face it people.
When you fall out of love, someone always hurts.
no matter the reason given.
The reason there is just to forgive one's self.
Or a reason to break away from commitment.
For some they feel they never really love the guy/girl
Simply put as they are just testing.
People get hurt in these course of action along the way.
Not enough commitment, not enough this not enough that.
Here's 1 big problem there I always see around in singapore :
Couples are hurt by each other actions,
and they don't tell one another,
And yet they expect each other to understand ?
What are you psychic ? You mean you become psyhic when you are lovers ?
Well sometimes, people tend to know what the other half wants,
but not everytime. No one's perfect ( no pun on this guys )
So i rather say most couples I know never let each other understand their feelings and expect the other half to come over and understand them.
Still the fact remains,
When someone falls out of love,
there's always pain.
No escaping.
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Just my opinions,
So guys anyone got any things to say about falling in and out of love ? -
Thanks for sharing.
I have made an effort to read again and again..
and I do agree with some of the points that you have touched on, especiallyBut you can never forget, the pain.
memories will always stay within your mind so are you going to look at it as a painful reminder or something as a past you must learn from ?
I think we must learn from the mistake and also set it as a reminder to remind us not to repeat the mistake.
of course, I dun mean to let the past haunt you and make your heart ache. This is something that I'm still working hard on. -
I still cannot bear to forget my ex and move forward in life.Originally posted by Sekundes:Falling in love
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Still the fact remains,
When someone falls out of love,
there's always pain.
No escaping.
Some memories are meant to be forgotten, but somehow it's just there for you to remember. It's like a psychological tatoo in your mind which does not fade. -
Originally posted by Sekundes:
agree
Still the fact remains,
When someone falls out of love,
there's always pain.
No escaping.[/b]
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Originally posted by Sekundes:
agree
Still the fact remains,
When someone falls out of love,
there's always pain.
No escaping.[/b] -
Well... From my point of view... love is sellfish bt not to the extend of owning..
If u really love a person.. u wouldnt mind watching him/her with another person going on pefectly well.. You would be standing at 1 corner giving them your best regards...
Yes... Love is sellfish, when we see our loved 1 talking to other people... we tend to get tense up bt what they are doing... especially talk with some1 of the opposite sex.. This is what we call jealousy...
For a R/s to carry on... faith is very important.. without it.. you both will start doubting each other.. and always end up in quarrels which will eventually lead to a cold war.. Chinese they call this "Leng Zhan"
You should believe in your partner.. trust him/her that she will not be unfaithful to u if he/she really does, maybe this person dont really love u at all.. if you really love some1.. u would consider twice or even thrice before doing something unfaithful to your partner..
Everything is unpredictable.. No 1 is able to tell which step are we moving next.. So go according to what u think... Being in love is just another process of learning and striving towards better goals... through failures then will we realise our mistakes and hope that we learn from our mistakes so that we wont commit the same fault over and over again.
Am i going abit off topic here? Even If My opinion doesnt make sense to any of you.. Just want to share with all of you... how i feel abt falling in love and out of love.. -
I believe that memories do not fade,Originally posted by browniebaobao:Thanks for sharing.
I have made an effort to read again and again..
and I do agree with some of the points that you have touched on, especially
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I think we must learn from the mistake and also set it as a reminder to remind us not to repeat the mistake. of course, I dun mean to let the past haunt you and make your heart ache. This is something that I'm still working hard on. [/b][/quote]
Everyone's got a past, its just whether you can learn from it or still let it torment you.
Sometimes we look at other people laughing so carefreely,
We can get jealous and envy them,
of the past they do not have or fear.
Truth is, they chose not to let the past torment them and they chose to be free,
free of the contraption.
Your memory is just a link to the past.
Thanks for reading it =)
[quote]Originally posted by striderz_o405:
I still cannot bear to forget my ex and move forward in life.
Some memories are meant to be forgotten, but somehow it's just there for you to remember. It's like a psychological tatoo in your mind which does not fade.
Forgotten for the time being,
yet when the time comes they arise.
For memories to fade, it means you have to fade eventually yourself.
Yet holding on to the memories does not prove you foolish.
It proves how strong you are and you will not lost yourself in the past =)
You don't have to forget you ex, but forgive.
You have to forgive your ex and yourself.
You don have to dwell so hard on the past,
as it is the past,
You're just living for the future.
You cannot forget your ex,
all you cna really do now is to look into the future and just start from scratch.
=) Arigato !Originally posted by alvin-ncs:agree
Nope you're not off topic,Originally posted by Snowsaint:Well... From my point of view... love is sellfish bt not to the extend of owning..
If u really love a person.. u wouldnt mind watching him/her with another person going on pefectly well.. You would be standing at 1 corner giving them your best regards...
Yes... Love is sellfish, when we see our loved 1 talking to other people... we tend to get tense up bt what they are doing... especially talk with some1 of the opposite sex.. This is what we call jealousy...
For a R/s to carry on... faith is very important.. without it.. you both will start doubting each other.. and always end up in quarrels which will eventually lead to a cold war.. Chinese they call this "Leng Zhan"
You should believe in your partner.. trust him/her that she will not be unfaithful to u if he/she really does, maybe this person dont really love u at all.. if you really love some1.. u would consider twice or even thrice before doing something unfaithful to your partner..
Everything is unpredictable.. No 1 is able to tell which step are we moving next.. So go according to what u think... Being in love is just another process of learning and striving towards better goals... through failures then will we realise our mistakes and hope that we learn from our mistakes so that we wont commit the same fault over and over again.
Am i going abit off topic here? Even If My opinion doesnt make sense to any of you.. Just want to share with all of you... how i feel abt falling in love and out of love..
just a little side track thats all.
Snowsaint's right.
In a relationship there's the need for trust.
True a relationship may exist without trust but love,
but things will get worst.
Love may even turn into hate.
Trust is something 1 must have.
A human such as yourself have something that you really trust.
Anything,
Pride
Love
Parents
Friends
Your Ability
Your talent
even your pet.
Anything.
Good points there Snowsaint =) -
yes , LOVE is selfish but everOriginally posted by Snowsaint:Well... From my point of view... love is sellfish bt not to the extend of owning..
If u really love a person.. u wouldnt mind watching him/her with another person going on pefectly well.. You would be standing at 1 corner giving them your best regards...
Yes... Love is sellfish, when we see our loved 1 talking to other people... we tend to get tense up bt what they are doing... especially talk with some1 of the opposite sex.. This is what we call jealousy...
For a R/s to carry on... faith is very important.. without it.. you both will start doubting each other.. and always end up in quarrels which will eventually lead to a cold war.. Chinese they call this "Leng Zhan"
You should believe in your partner.. trust him/her that she will not be unfaithful to u if he/she really does, maybe this person dont really love u at all.. if you really love some1.. u would consider twice or even thrice before doing something unfaithful to your partner..
Everything is unpredictable.. No 1 is able to tell which step are we moving next.. So go according to what u think... Being in love is just another process of learning and striving towards better goals... through failures then will we realise our mistakes and hope that we learn from our mistakes so that we wont commit the same fault over and over again.
Am i going abit off topic here? Even If My opinion doesnt make sense to any of you.. Just want to share with all of you... how i feel abt falling in love and out
of love..
PlAY with LOVE if ur not serious
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I feel quite lucky Falling out of love...Luckily that Humongous Boobed girl i used to like didnt go into my life...Otherwise i would be Doomed ! Plus there are so many Colour Wolves after her...So its kinda risky yea...
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Love is a thing thats can make you fly when you walking ( in love ) or makes you suffer in hell ( when out of love)
My previous relationship really made me scare of being in love again.. -
I think love is wonderful. When you fall in love, you can never fall out of love because you won't be able to do so if you truly in love.
Therefore I would say it should be dating or no longer dating due to selfishness of human's nature. Dating itself is a selfish activity. You would look at what you want first before looking for the person to fulfill your needs.
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She already did... else how you know she is humonguously big...?Originally posted by Seth35:I feel quite lucky Falling out of love...Luckily that Humongous Boobed girl i used to like didnt go into my life...Otherwise i would be Doomed ! Plus there are so many Colour Wolves after her...So its kinda risky yea... 
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wah, ddnt knw sk can write very well
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lol...
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Best dun fall prey into love ..
LOve isn't as sweet as you tot initially...
It's could turned oneself into hatred, possessive, aggressive and jealousy.(Emotional threatening)
Sometimes lives could even destroy untimately by love.
You're courting your own doom if you falling in love wif the wrong person. Intially you tot he/she the sweetness the best in the whole world, incontrary its could be worst nightmare and biterness ever!
Whom don't ever let you go.. he/she will restored to all means to get you and destroy you totally by harrassing you in your dwellling place , workplace and endlessly calls/sms.
This is never ending painful memories that engraved into the one's heart.
I never say never falling in love at all, love is kind of thrill experiences that sparked up one's live so just open your eyes extra big when decided to go steady with he/she. -
agree on half of wat u r saying...Originally posted by VampireEB:Best dun fall prey into love ..
LOve isn't as sweet as you tot initially...
It's could turned oneself into hatred, possessive, aggressive and jealousy.(Emotional threatening)
Sometimes lives could even destroy untimately by love.
You're courting your own doom if you falling in love wif the wrong person. Intially you tot he/she the sweetness the best in the whole world, incontrary its could be worst nightmare and biterness ever!
Whom don't ever let you go.. he/she will restored to all means to get you and destroy you totally by harrassing you in your dwellling place , workplace and endlessly calls/sms.
This is never ending painful memories that engraved into the one's heart.
I never say never falling in love at all, love is kind of thrill experiences that sparked up one's live so just open your eyes extra big when decided to go steady with he/she. -
is that an insult ?Originally posted by alexkusu:wah, ddnt knw sk can write very well
THe past will come to haunt yet, truth beholdOriginally posted by VampireEB:Best dun fall prey into love ..
LOve isn't as sweet as you tot initially...
It's could turned oneself into hatred, possessive, aggressive and jealousy.(Emotional threatening)
Sometimes lives could even destroy untimately by love.
You're courting your own doom if you falling in love wif the wrong person. Intially you tot he/she the sweetness the best in the whole world, incontrary its could be worst nightmare and biterness ever!
Whom don't ever let you go.. he/she will restored to all means to get you and destroy you totally by harrassing you in your dwellling place , workplace and endlessly calls/sms.
This is never ending painful memories that engraved into the one's heart.
I never say never falling in love at all, love is kind of thrill experiences that sparked up one's live so just open your eyes extra big when decided to go steady with he/she.
When your ex lover comes back for you as he/she cannot get over you,
Do you fear him/her ?
Memories will be there, pain will sink in.
But you are the one in control of your own decisions.
Things that happen now and then, all you have to do is learn how to face the situation.
Don't think to much of avoiding it.
But the solution some times may well be avoiding it.
True in some aspects, Dating itself to some people is a process of trying.Originally posted by musicbox:I think love is wonderful. When you fall in love, you can never fall out of love because you won't be able to do so if you truly in love.
Therefore I would say it should be dating or no longer dating due to selfishness of human's nature. Dating itself is a selfish activity. You would look at what you want first before looking for the person to fulfill your needs.
While some others its a process of definite courtship.
So when different parties with different ideals met,
There will be injury done to either party.
Its like a Serious-Guy/Girl meets the none Serious-Guy/Girl,
None-Serious-Guy/Girl walks away leaving Serious-Guy/Girl hurt.
Sometimes we just have to accept that there is always a different opinion on both parties.
Quite rare of it to find a same ideals.
Even though there is, there's still bits and pieces of difference here and there.
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so its gone case for either Serious guy/Girl for Dont know if Serious -Guy/Girl...Originally posted by Sekundes:True in some aspects, Dating itself to some people is a process of trying.
While some others its a process of definite courtship.
So when different parties with different ideals met,
There will be injury done to either party.
Its like a Serious-Guy/Girl meets the none Serious-Guy/Girl,
None-Serious-Guy/Girl walks away leaving Serious-Guy/Girl hurt.
Sometimes we just have to accept that there is always a different opinion on both parties.
Quite rare of it to find a same ideals.
Even though there is, there's still bits and pieces of difference here and there.
=)
Hope everyone's enjoying the participation of this topic =)
then better not dive into it in the first place
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just a consideration,
How can one be in love with one and yet fall in love with another ? -
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wat talking u?Originally posted by Sekundes:just a consideration,
How can one be in love with one and yet fall in love with another ? -
can , unless u still have something for ur ex ( bcos of previous longgggg relationship ,who wouldnt ?) >> but u must learn to let go ..that's y u slowly like n fell in love with anotherOriginally posted by Sekundes:just a consideration,
How can one be in love with one and yet fall in love with another ?