Agony, my problem :(
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Hi everyone,
I am sad, tell me , someone pls, what do you do when you gf is suggesting breakup to you numerous times when you dun agree to that ?
What do you do when your GF is so straight forward and always insults you verbally, your intelligent, your well-being using very harsh words althought you told her numerous times its not correct to do so nicely ?
What do you do when your Gf is complaning and loves to writes complaint letters to retailer on their service on product ?
What do you do when yr gf insult you and yell at you infront of your friends and her family members ?
I know love is a one sided frm me .Its a dual process. Sometimes I find my actions doing more than enough but I hope to play my very best part in my relationship.
she failed me badly, fail her part badly I think. I got only little love from her . I am not being stereo-typed her. That's her impression to me. We been going on steady for a year and 3 months. As days come nearer to today, I feel that our relationship is on the declining stage. I tried very very hard to save, endure ,withstand . Its catching on my limit soon .I am going to suffer a breakdown soon .
NO ! I didnt start this , there is no third parties, no related incidents. This is between 2 of us. It gets a hell lot complicated. She started to insult my parents in our quarrel using the F*ck word. She says there is nothing I can do to when she use this words !
Every little single wrongly white stuff I did, She will yelled at me , in front of her family member and EVEN my friends. I had enuff . She is challenging my ego and pride. Just simple little things, for e.g a detail which I did not asked to the Telephone operator , she would yelled at me in front of her family. I feel like an idiot . our quarrel will always end up in threatening to "BREAKUP".
Today , I am became rebellious. I began to show coldness to her, not carrying her stuff , talked the way she did to me in front of her friends . I got tired of it, I told her I am going off and went home alone without her and her friends.
I want to save the relationship, a lot of times, I gave in although its clearly not my wrong, not my mistake. I hope breaking up is not the ultimate option. But if it is, if it could benefit both of us, I will execute it. -
Although its not my style to encourage people to break, but if you really can't take it or getting very tire of all her nonsense, seperate with her for the time being and let both party calm down and think about the problems and decide with a calm manner whether to continue this relationship or just end it here.
Have you ever try telling her that the way she treat you is hurting you badly, or is she facing any stress resulting her releasing all her stress onto you?
Sometimes things that you did might actually affect her in a way or another just that we don't notice it, some girls tend to be very sensitive.
There many girls out there, if things do not work out well, end it to prevent hurting both even deeper.. Life still have to go on with/without her.
Take care! -
Perhaps a cool down time and seperation might do good for the both of you? From what is written, she seems to be doing all she can so you two can end this relationship. She has already decided, have you?
The relationship seems to be heading towards a dead end. You are not happy being abused, insulted, unappreciated, etc, etc by her and if you cannot take it anymore, you may have to choose the ultimate option. -
Yes I have talked to her that very nicely, I asked if she facing any problems, I negotiate for a ceasefire. She continue her ways repeatedly. I dunno what's wrong with her, picking on me for the slightest details things.Originally posted by ¡ÚTearsofTheMoon¡Ú:Although its not my style to encourage people to break, but if you really can't take it or getting very tire of all her nonsense, seperate with her for the time being and let both party calm down and think about the problems and decide with a calm manner whether to continue this relationship or just end it here.
Have you ever try telling her that the way she treat you is hurting you badly, or is she facing any stress resulting her releasing all her stress onto you?
Sometimes things that you did might actually affect her in a way or another just that we don't notice it, some girls tend to be very sensitive.
There many girls out there, if things do not work out well, end it to prevent hurting both even deeper.. Life still have to go on with/without her.
Take care!
Have she ever gonna respect me ? -
Unappreciated ? Can I forgo this traits ?Originally posted by Bontakun:Perhaps a cool down time and seperation might do good for the both of you? From what is written, she seems to be doing all she can so you two can end this relationship. She has already decided, have you?
The relationship seems to be heading towards a dead end. You are not happy being abused, insulted, unappreciated, etc, etc by her and if you cannot take it anymore, you may have to choose the ultimate option.
Yes,
She will sometimes , yes sometimes maybe once in a few months suprise me with a small gift.
I really cant understand , she was always in a "want to win" character, full of pride, she must have the all win attitude, in everything, in when comes to love,
something which she can do better than , she will raise her volume at it. -
This "always want to win" character... Have you know about it before you decided to woo her? If you did, it meant you either did not mind OR you are prepared for it.Originally posted by FaithGuy:Unappreciated ? Can I forgo this traits ?
Yes,
She will sometimes , yes sometimes maybe once in a few months suprise me with a small gift.
I really cant understand , she was always in a "want to win" character, full of pride, she must have the all win attitude, in everything, in when comes to love,
something which she can do better than , she will raise her volume at it. -
I am prepared, sad to say, only her true characters revealed after being so long with her.Originally posted by Bontakun:This "always want to win" character... Have you know about it before you decided to woo her? If you did, it meant you either did not mind OR you are prepared for it. -
So I assume you 2 jumped into da love wagon not long after you 2 know each other? Well... I can only say: if it really brings more pain and misery to you... Its hard to keep it going...Originally posted by FaithGuy:I am prepared, sad to say, only her true characters revealed after being so long with her. -
I believe she has a very strong ego, too strong and what she said is just a mere threaten. She will definitely breakdown if her so called wish for breakup is being realise.
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You are correct, I believe she will . I cant understand.Originally posted by ptw:I believe she has a very strong ego, too strong and what she said is just a mere threaten. She will definitely breakdown if her so called wish for breakup is being realise.
I hope there will be solution/ miracle.....before i ....
Sighz -
The issues are quite straightforward. Do you see a future between the 2 of you? Is keeping her as your gf more iportant than your self- respect?
If there's no future between you 2 as apparent from your description there isn't, then why bother to maintain the r/s? The girl obviously thinks that you are a weakling that she can walk all over you. (Your tolerating her behavior probably makes you a weakling in her eyes!) The more you tolerate, the weaker you are and it may not be surprising if she treats you the way she does because she "despises" you.
Come on, be a man! Regain your pride and self-respect by walking away from her. Don't even say anything and just exclude her from your life altogether, living your life without her to the best you can. She may start wondering why your 'weak' behavior has changed and change her attitude towards you if you earn her respect. If not, there IS no future between you 2 and terminating it may be the best way to redeem your lost pride and self-esteem which are invaluable. You will still gain more than you lose........
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In a r/s, the word breakup should not be use in any situation if both still loves each other. By using the word breakup, it will imply the reluctance in solving the problems that had surfaced in a r/s.
She still loves u but in a terribly wrong way. She cant be hurting u and on another end trying to please u with gifts or so.
But then, have u tried other means to signal her that the r/s is on alert red?
Really hope that things will work out well between both of u. -
Besides talking to her, what more can I do, i rem telling her Its hurting me,Originally posted by ptw:In a r/s, the word breakup should not be use in any situation if both still loves each other. By using the word breakup, it will imply the reluctance in solving the problems that had surfaced in a r/s.
She still loves u but in a terribly wrong way. She cant be hurting u and on another end trying to please u with gifts or so.
But then, have u tried other means to signal her that the r/s is on alert red?
Really hope that things will work out well between both of u.
would you please respect me ?
No reply, mum she kept. -
It's not my style to encourage a break up.
But I think your gf has a serious attitude problem. She dun show the basic respect for you and your family. She's so strong headed, and only one who really loves her will tolerate her behaviour.
You have done your part to love her, tolerate her and she is taking you for granted. Could she be doing all these because she really wants a break up with you? If that is what she wants, and you are really so tired of this r/s, then let go ba. If not, in the long run, you will go insane. -
Originally posted by FaithGuy:Hi everyone,
I am sad, tell me , someone pls, what do you do when you gf is suggesting breakup to you numerous times when you dun agree to that ?
What do you do when your GF is so straight forward and always insults you verbally, your intelligent, your well-being using very harsh words althought you told her numerous times its not correct to do so nicely ?
What do you do when your Gf is complaning and loves to writes complaint letters to retailer on their service on product ?
What do you do when yr gf insult you and yell at you infront of your friends and her family members ?
I know love is a one sided frm me .Its a dual process. Sometimes I find my actions doing more than enough but I hope to play my very best part in my relationship.
she failed me badly, fail her part badly I think. I got only little love from her . I am not being stereo-typed her. That's her impression to me. We been going on steady for a year and 3 months. As days come nearer to today, I feel that our relationship is on the declining stage. I tried very very hard to save, endure ,withstand . Its catching on my limit soon .I am going to suffer a breakdown soon .
NO ! I didnt start this , there is no third parties, no related incidents. This is between 2 of us. It gets a hell lot complicated. She started to insult my parents in our quarrel using the F*ck word. She says there is nothing I can do to when she use this words !
Every little single wrongly white stuff I did, She will yelled at me , in front of her family member and EVEN my friends. I had enuff . She is challenging my ego and pride. Just simple little things, for e.g a detail which I did not asked to the Telephone operator , she would yelled at me in front of her family. I feel like an idiot . our quarrel will always end up in threatening to "BREAKUP".
Today , I am became rebellious. I began to show coldness to her, not carrying her stuff , talked the way she did to me in front of her friends . I got tired of it, I told her I am going off and went home alone without her and her friends.
I want to save the relationship, a lot of times, I gave in although its clearly not my wrong, not my mistake. I hope breaking up is not the ultimate option. But if it is, if it could benefit both of us, I will execute it.
I think despite telling her, she has failed to understand the how it feels to be on the receiving end of those trashing. She probably has a foul temper, coupled with a sharp tongue that is equipped to wound (Likely Mercury in Scorpio).
Perhaps maybe because I am a Leo; I cannot tolerate partners not having simple respect for each other, even remotely human. In fact, yours is classified as an abuse.
I reckon it's some major glitch in her personality that requires more than just simple 'I-told-her-before' kind of thing, which I firmly believe that it will remain in her until a major 'call the a change' catalysis happens.
Should you have decided to break up; reveal her nasty nature in a fashion where it will stir her deeply, and that this is the reason of downfall of the relationship.
P.S: You did all you could; sometimes in love, we can't always be the one ploughing the fields of love while having the other exploiting our efforts. Usually, we do not demand much other than appreciation and though appreciation is such a common word - it isn't widely understood or practised.
Cheers -
This is not gaining sympathy, a major glitch , you are correct , my friend.
I used to be navie, very navie, sometimes i find myself immature but i am not stubborn. So many incidents, so many of them , too much of them throughly
awaken me from my insensitive dreams.
Too bad, a decision will be made soon , no I wont made the decision . I will ask her the last time. One last time, I ensure myself, I must bite my teeths,
grab my fist no matter the outcome.
I bear no hopes now. She hurt me too deep, stabbing a direct wound on my heart which maybe cant be heal in this lifetime. -
If I were you, I will not ask her. Asking creates pressure on you and her. I will back out and start finding new girls. Better girls. Life is too short to just focus on one girl. You just need a good one. When she asks for a breakup, you just say "Goodbye. See you around then." And don't contact her anymore. It's over. Can you imagine her to be your wife?Originally posted by FaithGuy:This is not gaining sympathy, a major glitch , you are correct , my friend.
I used to be navie, very navie, sometimes i find myself immature but i am not stubborn. So many incidents, so many of them , too much of them throughly
awaken me from my insensitive dreams.
Too bad, a decision will be made soon , no I wont made the decision . I will ask her the last time. One last time, I ensure myself, I must bite my teeths,
grab my fist no matter the outcome.
I bear no hopes now. She hurt me too deep, stabbing a direct wound on my heart which maybe cant be heal in this lifetime.
I think I say no more. Most of the forumers have given you the advice that I wanted to raise.
Let's do not talk about love anymore. She does not even have the basic respect for you and your pride. Where is your manhood? She is not even sensitive to others' feelings.
You are with a girl who has no respect, takes you for granted, no manners and worse of all does not love you Girls who love you will not find fault with you, period. She already wanted to dump you. It explains all the trouble you have been receiving from her, not to mention the insanity. -
Don't do that negotiating or whatever. That means you are begging. Women hate guys who beg. You have to show her you have a backbone. This woman spells of trouble. I believe you have the 6th sense to feel it.Originally posted by FaithGuy:Yes I have talked to her that very nicely, I asked if she facing any problems, I negotiate for a ceasefire. She continue her ways repeatedly. I dunno what's wrong with her, picking on me for the slightest details things.
Have she ever gonna respect me ?
Just back off and things clear up. What you are doing is creating intense pressure. -
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man u must be suiffering man...
i think the best thing is to break with her la.. she is mean man.. down right mean... steps over your head... -
in hokkien; you describe this kinda girls as ya ban. in chinese; ye man. in english; obnoxious.
=)
MAYBE other than her great sexual satisfaction she provides you, she's really
not worth your time, bro. -
She must be either pretty, talented or sexually good to make you stay wif her rite??
That sucks..If I were u, attitude problem= BYE BYE!!!! -
She doesn't respect you at all. So don't ask her to decide how the relationship should go. It would be another excuse for her to condemn you & your intelligence. Decide yourself & never look back. Meanwhile play the song "I will survive" many times. Good luck, man.
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can we go back to the start?Originally posted by FaithGuy:Hi everyone,
I am sad, tell me , someone pls, what do you do when you gf is suggesting breakup to you numerous times when you dun agree to that ?
What do you do when your GF is so straight forward and always insults you verbally, your intelligent, your well-being using very harsh words althought you told her numerous times its not correct to do so nicely ?
What do you do when your Gf is complaning and loves to writes complaint letters to retailer on their service on product ?
What do you do when yr gf insult you and yell at you infront of your friends and her family members ?
I know love is a one sided frm me .Its a dual process. Sometimes I find my actions doing more than enough but I hope to play my very best part in my relationship.
she failed me badly, fail her part badly I think. I got only little love from her . I am not being stereo-typed her. That's her impression to me. We been going on steady for a year and 3 months. As days come nearer to today, I feel that our relationship is on the declining stage. I tried very very hard to save, endure ,withstand . Its catching on my limit soon .I am going to suffer a breakdown soon .
NO ! I didnt start this , there is no third parties, no related incidents. This is between 2 of us. It gets a hell lot complicated. She started to insult my parents in our quarrel using the F*ck word. She says there is nothing I can do to when she use this words !
Every little single wrongly white stuff I did, She will yelled at me , in front of her family member and EVEN my friends. I had enuff . She is challenging my ego and pride. Just simple little things, for e.g a detail which I did not asked to the Telephone operator , she would yelled at me in front of her family. I feel like an idiot . our quarrel will always end up in threatening to "BREAKUP".
Today , I am became rebellious. I began to show coldness to her, not carrying her stuff , talked the way she did to me in front of her friends . I got tired of it, I told her I am going off and went home alone without her and her friends.
I want to save the relationship, a lot of times, I gave in although its clearly not my wrong, not my mistake. I hope breaking up is not the ultimate option. But if it is, if it could benefit both of us, I will execute it.
how did you meet her?
how did you both got together?
at the start, was she like that? -
Bro, what is think you should do is to have a talk with yr gf and tell her how u feel, things u dislike. If the talk failes, break lah. If u remind torlentant to her temper, u will suffer even more when u got maried. Just image u got married with yr gf, everyday nag at u asking u why come home so late? Why never call me? why this why that? Worst is she control all yr monthly salary. That what's happen to me friend. Every cent he earn was given to his wife and only given I think $400 to $500 to him monthly. So conclusion, have a talk, if fail, let her go.
P/S: Do both of u opened a joined bank account?