Hi all I am a 21 years old NSF here recently my girlfriend just broke up with me she told me to face the harsh reality of she two-timing me. Really dunno how to get ovet this harsh times sometimes i really wanna get over with my life i try to take as much as 20 panandol with alcohol and still i am here talking to u guys, i try to commit suicide by standing in the middle of the road but the driver just manage to brake in time tell me guys am i seriously so stupid u must be thinking that i actually am right in actually fact i think i myself am very stupid why should i end my life just coz of a girl right but i really cannot get her out of my head i find that while i m driving outside i kind of like think of her suddenly and lost concentration on driving almost got into accident outside haiz sianz she is now with her new stead already and i also made a promise to her that i will wait for her to come back to me she knew about this and told me that she won’t even come back to me anymore what to do man this is life anyway guys advice me on this really appreciate your help on this…

Even you yourself know what to do but just not doing it right...

If you find you can't focus, don't drive... Take public transport...

If you seriously needs more help, PM me your handphone contact...

Get a grip on yourself man... Think about your parents and your good friends. Your death would mean little to your Ex and a lot more to your family.

Your suicidal attempts are not really death-seeking. You merely want to hurt yourself in hope that she will care. The fact is probably she won't. Why not try to live a better life and improve yourself. Let your Ex regret she dumped you.

Originally posted by tankh80:

Hi all I am a 21 years old NSF here recently my girlfriend just broke up with me she told me to face the harsh reality of she two-timing me. Really dunno how to get ovet this harsh times sometimes i really wanna get over with my life i try to take as much as 20 panandol with alcohol and still i am here talking to u guys, i try to commit suicide by standing in the middle of the road but the driver just manage to brake in time tell me guys am i seriously so stupid u must be thinking that i actually am right in actually fact i think i myself am very stupid why should i end my life just coz of a girl right but i really cannot get her out of my head i find that while i m driving outside i kind of like think of her suddenly and lost concentration on driving almost got into accident outside haiz sianz she is now with her new stead already and i also made a promise to her that i will wait for her to come back to me she knew about this and told me that she won't even come back to me anymore what to do man this is life anyway guys advice me on this really appreciate your help on this...

No, sad to say you cannot go back. Even if you can go back, she will still break up with you again. The only solution is allow time to heal everything. Just remember this: when you felt so sad, where is she? By hook or by crook, get her out of your mind. No panadols, alcohols or suicide. I suggest you take a break from girls. Hang around with your buddies. Play some sports. Don't drive. Be patient with yourself. In time to come, you will find another girl and this gf is meaningless.

i am breaking up with my bf too. and u really remind me of him.. he's 21, in NS, a driver and part of the reason that im leaving him is due to another guy.

so i think i may be a good eg of ur gf. i want to share some of my thoughts.

jus wanna let u know that when a gal makes up her mind, nth can change not even death. even if u die, u will only cause her guilt, stress and pain - which is unimaginable. if u really love her, is this what u want her to go thru? moreover, even if u die, do u think she will love u? ur death will be of no worth.

when there's life, there's hope. pls believe that there is someone who is waiting for u out there. she is waiting. pls look for her. dun keep her waiting.

i wish u hapiness. PM me for my number if u need any help or anyone to tok to u.

Originally posted by silent_lamb:

i am breaking up with my bf too. and u really remind me of him.. he's 21, in NS, a driver and part of the reason that im leaving him is due to another guy.

so i think i may be a good eg of ur gf. i want to share some of my thoughts.

jus wanna let u know that when a gal makes up her mind, nth can change not even death. even if u die, u will only cause her guilt, stress and pain - which is unimaginable. if u really love her, is this what u want her to go thru? moreover, even if u die, do u think she will love u? ur death will be of no worth.

when there's life, there's hope. pls believe that there is someone who is waiting for u out there. she is waiting. pls look for her. dun keep her waiting.

i wish u hapiness. PM me for my number if u need any help or anyone to tok to u.

Coincidental eh both stories.

I sympathise with your bf.

When a girl walks away, they expect the guy to chase…but why is it when the guy walks away, the girl just says..your lost!!!!

Originally posted by SpecOps87:

When a girl walks away, they expect the guy to chase...but why is it when the guy walks away, the girl just says..your lost!!!LOSER!!!

it is just the way things work...when the girl dumps the guy, she will be very heartless...and the guy is supposed to beg to come back...it's just like that. Don't fight against reality.

Originally posted by dokono:

it is just the way things work...when the girl dumps the guy, she will be very heartless...and the guy is supposed to beg to come back...it's just like that. Don't fight against reality.

Well, as a guy, you decide what you want to do - to chase or not to chase. But that is not the question here

For tankh80, well, to ease the pain, you could meet up with friends, pick up a new hobby or a sport.

Remember to value your life. There are others who love you, your parents and family, relatives and friends. So, don't give up on them.

Originally posted by nullifi3d:

Coincidental eh both stories.

I sympathise with your bf.

u dun have to pity him.

cos he brought it upon himself. a gal can gif u many chances. but once u used them up, she will be the most heartless person on earth.

old saying, time will heal n prove.
dun think of commiting suicide anymore, bcoz she will feel guilty and sad just for awhile, and trust me, few yrs later, she might be happily married. so not worth, get it, dude.
y sacrifice ur whole life for just a few more yrs where im sure u will be happily attached again.
im sure after this bad r/s, u will be able to withstand harsher reality in future.
stay cool la. dun be sad. can pm me, willing to lend a listening eyes..

I think you need to speak to your PC...

Not the one you're using now, but the one in green. Seriously, you need help.

Originally posted by tankh80:

Hi all I am a 21 years old NSF here recently my girlfriend just broke up with me she told me to face the harsh reality of she two-timing me. Really dunno how to get ovet this harsh times sometimes i really wanna get over with my life i try to take as much as 20 panandol with alcohol and still i am here talking to u guys, i try to commit suicide by standing in the middle of the road but the driver just manage to brake in time tell me guys am i seriously so stupid u must be thinking that i actually am right in actually fact i think i myself am very stupid why should i end my life just coz of a girl right but i really cannot get her out of my head i find that while i m driving outside i kind of like think of her suddenly and lost concentration on driving almost got into accident outside haiz sianz she is now with her new stead already and i also made a promise to her that i will wait for her to come back to me she knew about this and told me that she won't even come back to me anymore what to do man this is life anyway guys advice me on this really appreciate your help on this...

face it she's gone.... u need to know there more n better gals outside... u now in ns so u might feel even more worst but bobian, be strong n show her u can get a better, prettier, sexier, loving gal than her... u die or u make a fool of urslef only makes her laugh out loud n give her the confirmation tat she made a right decision of leaving such a loser like u... dun like being label a loser right so stand up n do something useful...

Originally posted by tankh80:

Hi all I am a 21 years old NSF here recently my girlfriend just broke up with me she told me to face the harsh reality of she two-timing me. Really dunno how to get ovet this harsh times sometimes i really wanna get over with my life i try to take as much as 20 panandol with alcohol and still i am here talking to u guys, i try to commit suicide by standing in the middle of the road but the driver just manage to brake in time tell me guys am i seriously so stupid u must be thinking that i actually am right in actually fact i think i myself am very stupid why should i end my life just coz of a girl right but i really cannot get her out of my head i find that while i m driving outside i kind of like think of her suddenly and lost concentration on driving almost got into accident outside haiz sianz she is now with her new stead already and i also made a promise to her that i will wait for her to come back to me she knew about this and told me that she won't even come back to me anymore what to do man this is life anyway guys advice me on this really appreciate your help on this...

Why would you want to keep someone who doesn't love you anymore?

Wait? Wait for someone who doesn't love you anymore?

Please contact our kind forumites who offer to lend you their listening ears if suicidal thoughts are rushing in and you are unable to resolve them yourself.

Cheers

hey thanks a lot man io read over all your post already fact is i try committing suicide in camp in the end one of my seageants stop me from doing it by informing my BOS sianz any can’t they let me go and die i juz wanna end all my misery she is a bloody glue sniffer whereas i am a bloody CNB volunteer counseller i feel that i aren’t doing enough to help her kick the habit when we were together also the guilt i got from her the feeling i know is true when we were together….. that’s y i wan her to patch up with me so badly and the reason why i am willing to wait for her…

A counsellor behaving like that.

The fact is i wanna change her for the better yet she juz won’t listen she won’t juz turn a deaf ear to me whenever i speak to her about this issue i know tht she needs times to quit. This i know but when we were together i know that she is changing for the better she didn’t even touch the stuff anymore yet after we broke up she went back to the stuff what can i do i wanna her to change not for me but for herself for her own good….. haiz really hope that she will listen to me sometimes…..

Death is not a relief but a more prolonged pain process for your family and friends... Just like me last month, me had to attend four funeral wakes of my colleagues and one of them was a suicide case where he jumped...

He left behind his grieving parents and a seriously traumatised younger sister who was badly shaken by the incident... Also he left behind a huge group of friends who grieved and cried for him...

Why? Just because of relationship failure... The world doesn't stop revolving for a single second even your girl had decided to leave you... It's good that you see her true colour of unfaithfulness and her easy crumpling to external temptations... Yes, you loved her much but she two-timed you while you are in NS... You said you would wait for her return to your side but can you guarantee that she won't two-timed you again?

You're still young and there's much more things and girls in the world, so why ponder and brood with her? Like some people would say, it might take two or three or more relationships to actually find your Miss Right, so how about moving on to look for your real Miss Right?

Originally posted by tankh80:

Hi all I am a 21 years old NSF here recently my girlfriend just broke up with me she told me to face the harsh reality of she two-timing me. Really dunno how to get ovet this harsh times sometimes i really wanna get over with my life i try to take as much as 20 panandol with alcohol and still i am here talking to u guys, i try to commit suicide by standing in the middle of the road but the driver just manage to brake in time tell me guys am i seriously so stupid u must be thinking that i actually am right in actually fact i think i myself am very stupid why should i end my life just coz of a girl right but i really cannot get her out of my head i find that while i m driving outside i kind of like think of her suddenly and lost concentration on driving almost got into accident outside haiz sianz she is now with her new stead already and i also made a promise to her that i will wait for her to come back to me she knew about this and told me that she won't even come back to me anymore what to do man this is life anyway guys advice me on this really appreciate your help on this...

b4 u go NS u shld know how easily gals can change their heart.

i suggest u go out with frens more.. Delelte all her stuff and ya..

Glue-sniffer?
Easy.
Poh mata loh.

She is right now on probation with CNB reporting office A in cantoment road….. i really dunno wht to do with her to report to my IO or report her to her RO haiz sianz….. really wan her to change for the better….. but i wan her to come back to my side…..

i know what u mean, went through it before. coincidentally i am an NSF too.

healing takes time, and pretty long too. but u must perservere and continue to push ahead. try to distract urself with army stuff, like going all out for trainings and all that. soon u'll find that time just passes very quickly and u didn't think about her at all during all that time.

maybe then u'll realise that u have already gotten over her.

gl man

This is so pathetic.

You are a counsellor. You of all people should know how to handle with emotions. And you cant even handle yours. Get a grip please.

Anyway, love is already lost. End of story. Like others say, no point in killing yourself. You are only giving burden to your family. Your family wont go and beg to the gal to wail and mourn for you. Once you are gone, thats it. You are gone.

If you really love her, then be RESPONSIBLE for your commitments as a counsellor. You are using your love as a leeway for her to do more glue sniffing or whatever. If it was other people, Im sure you would have taken action and reported against them.

What kind of counsellor is this? You have let your petty love go wild!! This shouldn't be happening. Do what you think is right. What you want is her only to be with you! You do not care whether she is alright or not. Buck up and see the reality please. Be responsible for your duty. Not fallen in love with.

Do whatever you think is correct. If killing yourself can cure your problems, then go ahead. If everyone is like you, I think I will be seeing lots of dead bodies around. If you think you have to be responsible, then you should know your own next step.

Maybe i think i will report her to the authorites but she won’t be doing this if she didn’t mix around with the wrong company of friends from what i know she is hanging around with those friends which i deem undesirable as in the so called tom dick and harry or in hokkien ah beng and seng i am sure you get what i mean here… so i juz wanna her to comew back to me so that i can changed her for the better and also i know that in her heart i do still stand a place…

Originally posted by missqi:

A counsellor behaving like that.

"counsellor" oso human.