I Can't Get Over Her ???
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How did you people get over someone?
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talk wif my frens, but my frens will not let me wallow in self pity for too long, they will drag me out or change the conversation topic to sth elseOriginally posted by AndrewPKYap:How did you people get over someone?
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Originally posted by rainee:talk wif my frens, but my frens will not let me wallow in self pity for too long, they will drag me out or change the conversation topic to sth else
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What do u mean by a relationship by myself i was with hyer for a whole three months I cherish the three months we had together but she chooses to let it go like that what can i do but Cry.....Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:I meant, whether he wants to or not, the ger is gone forever right? He has no choice but to give her up in his mind sooner or later right?
There is no relationship right? He does not have a relationship with her, right? He has a relationship with himself, right? -
I mean NOW, right NOW, you do not have a relationship with her. There is no more relationship with her. Whatever you do now and whatever you feel now has nothing to do with her just like it has nothing to do with us. You are having a relationship with yourself. You are having a relationship with a girl in your own mind. You have created a girl in your own mind and is having a relationship with the girl in your own head. It is definitely not her. She is gone for good.Originally posted by tankh80:What do u mean by a relationship by myself i was with hyer for a whole three months I cherish the three months we had together but she chooses to let it go like that what can i do but Cry.....
You need a relationship with somebody. You cannot have a relationship with a creation in your own head. In fact I would suspect that the three months you had with her, what you thought the relationship with her was and what the relationship in reality was, were different!
You really have very good imagination. Why not channel it into some creative project and make something beautiful? -
Its just 3 months.Originally posted by tankh80:What do u mean by a relationship by myself i was with hyer for a whole three months I cherish the three months we had together but she chooses to let it go like that what can i do but Cry.....
Others have lost r/s over years. Bro, pick urself up, dont look back anymore, its over. Crying basically aint gonna help anything, move on with your life, engage yourself in some sports where it wont require you to constantly think bout her and dwell in self pity.
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The problem is that i am slowly forgetting her but I am still reminded of her whenever i go to those places we been too.....Originally posted by gLc:Its just 3 months.
Others have lost r/s over years. Bro, pick urself up, dont look back anymore, its over. Crying basically aint gonna help anything, move on with your life, engage yourself in some sports where it wont require you to constantly think bout her and dwell in self pity.
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You want to forget her to the point like you had never met her and never had a relationship with her? Why? It is not so easy to find somebody you really like. Treasure your memories of her.Originally posted by tankh80:The problem is that i am slowly forgetting her but I am still reminded of her whenever i go to those places we been too.....
It is not forget about her but to face reality that even though you like her, she is not for you. -
The fact is that I wanna forget abt to the extend like what u juz said i wanna be brain washed to the starting point that i never meet her before...... the memories are so painful to relinquish.....Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:You want to forget her to the point like you had never met her and never had a relationship with her? Why? It is not so easy to find somebody you really like. Treasure your memories of her.
It is not forget about her but to face reality that even though you like her, she is not for you. -
......Originally posted by tankh80:What do u mean by a relationship by myself i was with hyer for a whole three months I cherish the three months we had together but she chooses to let it go like that what can i do but Cry.....
Why be so narrow-minded and live in self-empathy? -
The next time you feel the pain, just accept it and do not fight it or try to get rid of it. Just feel the pain and tell yourself that the pain will go away one day.Originally posted by tankh80:The fact is that I wanna forget abt to the extend like what u juz said i wanna be brain washed to the starting point that i never meet her before...... the memories are so painful to relinquish.....
In the meantime try to find another girl that you like as much as her. I can tell you that it will not be easy, that is why I told you to accept that you cannot have her, but do not get rid of your memories of her. Instead treasure those memories even though they are painful.
You can work towards finding another girl that you will like as much as that one. If you do not find any one you like as much as her, at least you know that you once liked a girl so much.
Some people go through life never liking anyone that much. -
Let me suggest something to get your mind off this bird for a few moments a day: Lessons on punctuation.
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lol what do u mean by this...
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meaning u should make your posts easier to read by putting . and ,Originally posted by tankh80:lol what do u mean by this...
anyway
i think u should just give up..why you still clinging on to her for?
u die..its not of her business(yes..its crude but thats life)
what ever..forever and ever love crap is gone but not releasing ur self from it
you are NOT giving other girls in the world a chance..you are being selfish u know that? -
It is not that I am not giving other girls in the world a chance but is that, they are not giving me a chance.....
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Originally posted by tankh80:It is not that I am not giving other girls in the world a chance but is that, they are not giving me a chance.....
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So you would prefer they pity you huh? You're not the only guy who ain't attached in this world ya know...?Originally posted by tankh80:It is not that I am not giving other girls in the world a chance but is that, they are not giving me a chance.....
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seriously devil, i admire your patience!!! heheheOriginally posted by Devil1976:So you would prefer they pity you huh? You're not the only guy who ain't attached in this world ya know...?
i'm at the "why even bother" stage with this TS -
Originally posted by smudgey:seriously devil, i admire your patience!!! hehehe
i'm at the "why even bother" stage with this TS 
After my last constructive post here, sometimes, I still have the temptation to (i) scold the hell out of him or (ii) type some lengthy sensible post.
Then I had the same thought as smudgey.
And gave up posting in this topic, even I had already began typing.
It happened almost 4 times.
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heheheOriginally posted by Yunhaier: After my last constructive post here, sometimes, I still have the temptation to (i) scold the hell out of him or (ii) type some lengthy sensible post.
Then I had the same thought as smudgey.
And gave up posting in this topic, even I had already began typing.
It happened almost 4 times.
Cheers
High 5 Yun!!!
it happened to me a couple of times too....
i start to type the response.... then i think how it will be taken in by TS then i just click the "back" icon!! -
There's still much hope for him. It's just a fine line he has to cross..Originally posted by smudgey:seriously devil, i admire your patience!!! hehehe
i'm at the "why even bother" stage with this TS -
TimeOriginally posted by AndrewPKYap:How did you people get over someone? -
I dunno I kind of like this ger I knew online but she also has the same case as me only that she is like forgetting abt his ex already dunno whether to go for it or not advices plz.....
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as i said.... BRAVO.... to DevilOriginally posted by Devil1976:There's still much hope for him. It's just a fine line he has to cross..
and To TS....... jia you! -
and willingness to get over that personOriginally posted by sunny6110:Time