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Hi guys,
i am currently in a relationship of 2.8 yrs. recently i had a major quarrel with my gf. Then we stopped contactin one another for like 1 to 2 months. During this standoff, she starts to get independent and starts goin out with her frens.
Meanwhile over at my side, i am tryin my best to see if i really want this relationship. She assured me that she still want this relationship
After much consideration for a month or so, i finally got back to her. We started doin things like goin out, to the beach etc but suddenly, when i ask her, y is she so cold towards me, she replied me that she no longer feel the same in this relationship
She prefers her singlehood now. She is enjoyin herself now. Every friday night clubbin all these.
She does not seems interested in this relationship now.
What can i do to make her come back to me like the past ? I really really love her alot.
Can give me some advises. Thanks -
Suggest that u take a break from each other and see whether she calls u. If not, then say bye to the relationship.
If the bird wishes to fly out of the cage, let it. -
If she no longer wants to be in the relationship, there is nothing you can do to make her stay...Originally posted by mitgalant:Hi guys,
i am currently in a relationship of 2.8 yrs. recently i had a major quarrel with my gf. Then we stopped contactin one another for like 1 to 2 months. During this standoff, she starts to get independent and starts goin out with her frens.
Meanwhile over at my side, i am tryin my best to see if i really want this relationship. She assured me that she still want this relationship
After much consideration for a month or so, i finally got back to her. We started doin things like goin out, to the beach etc but suddenly, when i ask her, y is she so cold towards me, she replied me that she no longer feel the same in this relationship
She prefers her singlehood now. She is enjoyin herself now. Every friday night clubbin all these.
She does not seems interested in this relationship now.
What can i do to make her come back to me like the past ? I really really love her alot.
Can give me some advises. Thanks
And I think you have tried your best to salvage the r/s by going out with her and spending more time with her after the cooling off period, but still she said she doesnt feel the same in the r/s...
Think a break up might not be faraway...
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Good luck man. She has discovered that life without you is actually better for her in her own opinion.Originally posted by mitgalant:Hi guys,
i am currently in a relationship of 2.8 yrs. recently i had a major quarrel with my gf. Then we stopped contactin one another for like 1 to 2 months. During this standoff, she starts to get independent and starts goin out with her frens.
Meanwhile over at my side, i am tryin my best to see if i really want this relationship. She assured me that she still want this relationship
After much consideration for a month or so, i finally got back to her. We started doin things like goin out, to the beach etc but suddenly, when i ask her, y is she so cold towards me, she replied me that she no longer feel the same in this relationship
She prefers her singlehood now. She is enjoyin herself now. Every friday night clubbin all these.
She does not seems interested in this relationship now.
What can i do to make her come back to me like the past ? I really really love her alot.
Can give me some advises. Thanks
I guess the only thing you can do is appeal to her emotional side about the good times you shared together.
Either that or you have to accomodate the new lifestyle and carve a new future together -
how to make her come back to me ?
is there any other ways to make things work out better ?
how to strike her in the emotional way ?
she told me i am her ideal husbandbut she wants to have fun and might come back to me after all the fun, but i dun wan that to happened. -
have a talk with her? ask her where she wants this r/s to go, whether she still wants to keep it or not...Originally posted by mitgalant:how to make her come back to me ?
is there any other ways to make things work out better ?
how to strike her in the emotional way ?
she told me i am her ideal husbandbut she wants to have fun and might come back to me after all the fun, but i dun wan that to happened.
If she doesnt want to, then you cant stop her from leaving...her heart is already not with you...prolonging the r/s when one's heart is already not there will only cause pain and torture to both parties...
Better to release her early so that both of you can go and find a new path to happiness... -
she juz told me that "she duno what she really want"
she told me " how she wish to have some fun and come back to me next time again"
haiz. i really dun wanna lose her. yet this is all happenin.
I am feelin very down and i am facin a very lack of confidence problem now. -
Time will tell........Originally posted by mitgalant:how to make her come back to me ?
is there any other ways to make things work out better ?
how to strike her in the emotional way ?
she told me i am her ideal husbandbut she wants to have fun and might come back to me after all the fun, but i dun wan that to happened. -
hmm...i tink she got problem of committing to the relationship...ask her how long will she take before she returns to you? Are you willing to wait for her? And what if she meets someone else whom she thinks is more exciting and goes into a r/s with him?Originally posted by mitgalant:she juz told me that "she duno what she really want"
she told me " how she wish to have some fun and come back to me next time again"
haiz. i really dun wanna lose her. yet this is all happenin.
I am feelin very down and i am facin a very lack of confidence problem now.
Basically she wants to have her cake and eat it too
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U r at ur weakest now, so the only advice u wanna listen to is, "How can i get her back?"Originally posted by mitgalant:she juz told me that "she duno what she really want"
she told me " how she wish to have some fun and come back to me next time again"
haiz. i really dun wanna lose her. yet this is all happenin.
I am feelin very down and i am facin a very lack of confidence problem now.
Problem is, there such an advice in your situation? Get a grip on yourself first, then u can see clearly and judge better. U r thinking of all ways and means to salvage it but any action from there may make things worse. Sometimes, it's just gd to take a step back and watch first. -
Can you tell us what is the major quarrel about? Were you wrong? If so, quickly apologise. But I tell you, it might be too late.Originally posted by mitgalant:Hi guys,
i am currently in a relationship of 2.8 yrs. recently i had a major quarrel with my gf. Then we stopped contactin one another for like 1 to 2 months. During this standoff, she starts to get independent and starts goin out with her frens.
Meanwhile over at my side, i am tryin my best to see if i really want this relationship. She assured me that she still want this relationship
After much consideration for a month or so, i finally got back to her. We started doin things like goin out, to the beach etc but suddenly, when i ask her, y is she so cold towards me, she replied me that she no longer feel the same in this relationship
She prefers her singlehood now. She is enjoyin herself now. Every friday night clubbin all these.
She does not seems interested in this relationship now.
What can i do to make her come back to me like the past ? I really really love her alot.
Can give me some advises. Thanks
You know how I know? Her feelings towards you are very low when she said she can't feel the same and worse, she rather be single facing the wall than look at your handsome face. It means she is very turned off by whatever actions you did to her. It 's not she prefers singlehood, rather she doesn't want to be attached to you. That's what counts.
You can't make her return to you. It's very low. When a woman has loses her feelings for you, she will never love you like before again.
Suggest you back off and see if she will still contact you. If not, it's sayonara. One more thing, don't be fooled by her saying she might still come back to the r/s. That's a contradiction to what she is saying. She prefers singlehood and still wants you as husband? That's doublespeak.
doko -
I think she is saying that she will come back to you to make you feel better as there is something called 'false hope'
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You didn't contact her within that 1-2 months' break?Originally posted by mitgalant:she juz told me that "she duno what she really want"
she told me " how she wish to have some fun and come back to me next time again"
haiz. i really dun wanna lose her. yet this is all happenin.
I am feelin very down and i am facin a very lack of confidence problem now.
Personally.. I feel that the least you can do for her now is to give her some room and space?
Are you too controlling and possessive over her? -
why not you let her enjoy her single-hood first...Originally posted by mitgalant:Hi guys,
i am currently in a relationship of 2.8 yrs. recently i had a major quarrel with my gf. Then we stopped contactin one another for like 1 to 2 months. During this standoff, she starts to get independent and starts goin out with her frens.
Meanwhile over at my side, i am tryin my best to see if i really want this relationship. She assured me that she still want this relationship
After much consideration for a month or so, i finally got back to her. We started doin things like goin out, to the beach etc but suddenly, when i ask her, y is she so cold towards me, she replied me that she no longer feel the same in this relationship
She prefers her singlehood now. She is enjoyin herself now. Every friday night clubbin all these.
She does not seems interested in this relationship now.
What can i do to make her come back to me like the past ? I really really love her alot.
Can give me some advises. Thanks
if in the end she comes back to you, then she's yours.... but do not hope too much....
if she wants out there's not much u can do.... h -
talk with her?Originally posted by mitgalant:how to make her come back to me ?
is there any other ways to make things work out better ?
how to strike her in the emotional way ?
she told me i am her ideal husbandbut she wants to have fun and might come back to me after all the fun, but i dun wan that to happened.
try to strike a balance.... eg. friday night is her clubbing night...
try and find a common ground... -
i agree with rainee...Originally posted by rainee:hmm...i tink she got problem of committing to the relationship...ask her how long will she take before she returns to you? Are you willing to wait for her? And what if she meets someone else whom she thinks is more exciting and goes into a r/s with him?
Basically she wants to have her cake and eat it too
ask yourself, do you love her enough to wait for her?
bewarned... she might meet guys that may ultimately win her heart.... then where will you stand?
BUT if you love her enough to take that risk, then wait. but meanwhile learn to love life more so as if she does leave for good, you will be able to move on -
Hmm - she said she wants to go out and have fun. One interpretation of that is that you're no fun. On the other hand, she could have an odd definition of what fun is - do you have any idea what it is?
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my bum is itchy.
i vote that you forget her, go out, and have yourself a fun time! -
to me, she wants to play with no guilt, and by that i mean get to know guys, flirt, have fun and have the freedom of a single gal.Originally posted by Gedanken:Hmm - she said she wants to go out and have fun. One interpretation of that is that you're no fun. On the other hand, she could have an odd definition of what fun is - do you have any idea what it is? -
well, i think you can look to the future in finding a new partner liao...
if she really says that she doesnt feel the same in this r/s, and that you can feel her coldness, i think its a clear ans to you to give up...
unless she feels for you again, if not, we are sorry dude... -
Dude, My ex told me the same thing. I just ended the relationship and I am enjoying every freedom I need. I can say that 2.8 is the period that she feel the burn out in this relationship. She must be excited with the new life now. I am not sure what is yours and her age, but I am able to guess she should be less than 25 years old. Truth can be brutal at times, we just have to face it. In the end, you may realise girls is not about everything in life.Originally posted by mitgalant:she juz told me that "she duno what she really want"
she told me " how she wish to have some fun and come back to me next time again"
haiz. i really dun wanna lose her. yet this is all happenin.
I am feelin very down and i am facin a very lack of confidence problem now. -
guys, i am devastated. i juz learnt that she actually got a guy, tat is m age and he is there for her when i am in the "cold war" period with her.
She knw tat guy for like 2 weeks only.
now i ask her to choose one, our r/s which is 2.9 mths or the guy which is 2 weeks.
she cant give me an ans!
she only say she duno and ask if can i wait? if she regret she wanna come back to me.
she said she scare she regret her choice!
What can i do now ? i dun wanna lose her. Yet i need to be fair to myself.
help me out guys! beg u all!! -
i am not controllin her at all. in fact i gave her lots of freedom.Originally posted by Devil1976:You didn't contact her within that 1-2 months' break?
Personally.. I feel that the least you can do for her now is to give her some room and space?
Are you too controlling and possessive over her?
btw i waited for her when i was frm sec 3 to sec 5 then we got together.
now i am already 21. and seems like it is no longer workin for her.
wat can i do ?? -
tell her its over
then go out and make new friends, expand your social life. -
Dunno means her feelings to you not high enough to choose you.Originally posted by mitgalant:guys, i am devastated. i juz learnt that she actually got a guy, tat is m age and he is there for her when i am in the "cold war" period with her.
She knw tat guy for like 2 weeks only.
now i ask her to choose one, our r/s which is 2.9 mths or the guy which is 2 weeks.
she cant give me an ans!
she only say she duno and ask if can i wait? if she regret she wanna come back to me.
she said she scare she regret her choice!
What can i do now ? i dun wanna lose her. Yet i need to be fair to myself.
help me out guys! beg u all!!
I have this feeling she may not have loved you a lot from the start.
Why? You waited too long to chase her. From sec3 -sec5?
What you do is don't pressure her.
Tell her: Dear, call me when you have made a decision.
Yeah, that's all and don't call her.
If she calls you, doesn't mean anything. Remember she said she enjoys singlehood? She can't come back. The r/s is not strong, rather her love for you was not strong in the first place.
doko