i got a gf for almost 4 years, things were fine and well. one day, my gf asked for a break up cuz she wants to move on and try a new relationship.. i was shocked and i broke down. how could she put a full stop to it and do this to me? or why the sudden she got this thinking bout moving on when things are fine? i thought i know her.. i don't deserve this and its so heartless. i don't mistreat her or anything.

she denies when i asked her whether theres anyone in the story but i found out that shes sort of seeing another guy. i was decieved and naive. my sadness is growing each and everyday.

i want to get over it and i cant. its so hard~ she told me that we can still be good friends. but FRIENDS?? how am i going to accept her as a friend when she do this to me? this is so unacceptable. and i will be more hurt if i see her in the future. sigh... thanks for reading.

Hi dude, it takes both hands to clap. Since your gf has called time and you have tried to salvage. I think its no point forcing the relationship, as they rightly say, there's no happiness from being forced.

just let go, be friends or not, I cannot say, depending on you, if you feel so hurt, then I think you cannot be friends anymore. I actually feel that "lets be friend" thing is just an excuse, its a nice pleasant way of ending a relationship - i know some couples can do it , but personally i think i cannot be friend with someone who is my lover before.

besides, if i break off, i will break off all contact, its no point seeing , hearing about you and only to get reminded of the pain.....

chins up, the end of a relationship is start of another better one.

eww...

its always like this we can still be friends



poor thing...but no matter what u have to move on...

good luck..

i know. but its so hard and unbearable. im trying to get over it. but its been almost a week and im still down. hatred towards her is building up in me. i dont’ want this hatred to happen. i can’t stop it.

Fight! Fight! Fight!!!!!!

poor thing I know how you feel

Originally posted by WadeFulp:

Fight! Fight! Fight!!!!!!

nothing can resolve with fighting. in the end. i'll be in the losing end.

Originally posted by set_n_go:

i got a gf for almost 4 years, things were fine and well. one day, my gf asked for a break up cuz she wants to move on and try a new relationship.. i was shocked and i broke down. how could she put a full stop to it and do this to me? or why the sudden she got this thinking bout moving on when things are fine? i thought i know her.. i don't deserve this and its so heartless. i don't mistreat her or anything.

she denies when i asked her whether theres anyone in the story but i found out that shes sort of seeing another guy. i was decieved and naive. my sadness is growing each and everyday.

i want to get over it and i cant. its so hard~ she told me that we can still be good friends. but FRIENDS?? how am i going to accept her as a friend when she do this to me? this is so unacceptable. and i will be more hurt if i see her in the future. sigh... thanks for reading.

sometimes, what you give =/= what you get.

you thought that things were fine. either she's good at concealing her troubles, or you are an insensitive guy.

since she decides to move on, no point brooding over this anymore. you decide whether to continue being friends with her or not. if its unbearable for you, then don't keep in contact with her.

cry if you want to. soon you'll get over it.

good luck.

fu-ck the bitch,hit the iron and move on with your new life! You have a great one ahead of you!

if its the trauma tt you're suffering after a breakup, i suggest you try to do things that won't get you to think so much. better still if you arrange outtings with your friends. i've got a friend who's gymming with me ever since he broke up with his girl which i feel is healthy for both parties. stop crying over spilt milk.

with regards to the hatred you have for her in you, i guess its only up to you to let go of it. this is life, sometimes sh!t happens.

get well soon

Originally posted by set_n_go:

i got a gf for almost 4 years, things were fine and well. one day, my gf asked for a break up cuz she wants to move on and try a new relationship.. i was shocked and i broke down. how could she put a full stop to it and do this to me? or why the sudden she got this thinking bout moving on when things are fine? i thought i know her.. i don't deserve this and its so heartless. i don't mistreat her or anything.

she denies when i asked her whether theres anyone in the story but i found out that shes sort of seeing another guy. i was decieved and naive. my sadness is growing each and everyday.

i want to get over it and i cant. its so hard~ she told me that we can still be good friends. but FRIENDS?? how am i going to accept her as a friend when she do this to me? this is so unacceptable. and i will be more hurt if i see her in the future. sigh... thanks for reading.

Hmm l tink l can understand the pain u go through...4 yrs summore..is really a long period of time u n her are together..the efforts, everything, time, love u put in...l noe it all

My case is oso a bit like urs...my ex gf oso leave me...altot she nver inititaed breakup...but l noe she wants a breakup but she is scare of telling me..cuz she dun wan to hurt my heart..but which guys can really stand their gf not loving them fully? Seriously l cnt accept it..l dun wan such a r/s..and most imptly l dun wan her to be unhappy in her heart oso..that is y l help her say out...

Maybe u can try ask her out for a talk? Ask her the reasons if u really need to have..

Cuz l tink is like final liao lo...u juz cnt possibly force her to love u again...love is sumtinz that cannot be forced..u see...Think is the things in her heart bah...altot she nver say out what u do that irks her or make her unhappy..but all these things keep accumlating in her heart until her love for her faded....u get the point?

Suan le...l noe u are very sad and very down..if u need a tok...feel free to contact any of the forumities...Most of them are very nice ppl..and they let me noe alot of things abt life and l am motivated by them to learn more things oso...noe abt things in life..and how to look things in positive way...

And here to thank bontakun again who send me a pm to console me abt my problem that time...really own him a very big thanks =)

meanwhile use the time...to enrich urself with knowledge..learn new stuffs..make more frenz...ur right one will be coming soon de, ur gf is juz not the right one for u...u see .. ^^

Originally posted by WadeFulp:

Fight! Fight! Fight!!!!!!

You are not giving a constructive "pat in the back" here.

When you dated someone for 4 years and then that person broke off with you suddenly and you know that person is dating behind your back. The last thing you want is someone telling you to fight.

cry, find things to do to keep your mind off, talk with friends until you recover loh.

when you are recovered liao, then look back at this incident and try to learn something from it. good luck!

just move on since she so heartless. a better one is waiting for you. one more worthy for you.

Originally posted by set_n_go:

i got a gf for almost 4 years, things were fine and well. one day, my gf asked for a break up cuz she wants to move on and try a new relationship.. i was shocked and i broke down. how could she put a full stop to it and do this to me? or why the sudden she got this thinking bout moving on when things are fine? i thought i know her.. i don't deserve this and its so heartless. i don't mistreat her or anything.

she denies when i asked her whether theres anyone in the story but i found out that shes sort of seeing another guy. i was decieved and naive. my sadness is growing each and everyday.

i want to get over it and i cant. its so hard~ she told me that we can still be good friends. but FRIENDS?? how am i going to accept her as a friend when she do this to me? this is so unacceptable. and i will be more hurt if i see her in the future. sigh... thanks for reading.

Such things happen.. If you can't take the 'friendship' part, you can always give it a 'pass'.

My 1st relationship my ex also suddenly gave up on the relationship. Reason was because she was on a 'competition' with her brother to see which of them can get into the most number of relationships over a short period of time... Know how I felt then...?

What I wanna say is, what I felt now probably doesn't matter much now. It's the past, and it's a lousy one. Why choose to hang on to it

Suan le ba. MOVE ON.

Move on. Don't be stuck in time. When you get stressed/depressed over this and have more wrinkles, no one cares and only you suffer.

doko

One more thing, most of the time girls do the ditching. This is what I notice. Their minds are known to be very fickle, especially when they are young. So, you are not the only victim. Others have fallen along the way. Don't be part of the statistic. Be strong and tough.

doko

well, i am also in this thing now. mine had past like 2.5 mths already. still tryin to cope. well it really takes time.

u can PM me and have a chat with me thru MSN or anyway. i understand how u feel. mine is 3 yrs. and its gone just lidat too.

cheer up pal. remember there are people in the same fate as u. just need time. really

u can PM me if u need help ya?

ur gf is an ass for cheating on u

I not sure…But will the Girl get back the same treatment… ? If what comes around goes around ?

Dun force yourself to be friends with her when you cannot bring yourself too..

give urself sometime to accept this betrayal

Relationships are selfish, so is your gf.. But dun despair. Each time you fall, the stronger u will be after you picked yourself up.

I was caught in a simliar situation as you a few yrs back. Wow.. the feeling is sensational. It was a bad hit.. After being crazy for a few weeks.. i realise i was a fool.

Tell your heart to let go.. forgive but need not forget.

being frens with her is not the fundamental issue now.

Pick urself up again..

Be Happy.

When a girl had make a decision, theres no point of you trying anything else to change that decision.

Keeping yourself shut from the outside world, staying at home feeling sad won't change the fact that you've broken up from her.

It may not be easy to adapt a whole new life with someone important disappearing from your life but this is reality. Live with it and move on.

There many fishes out in the ocean(something like that).

Get yourself involve with many avitivities may help.

Perhaps you think you know her but in fact you din't learn to know her well.

In life many people had left out many things and thus the regret, perhaps there some things that you did let her felt ...thus the iniate of breaking-up.

4 years is long, but some others could even suffer things like they were already engage and at the very last min, break off.

Reality is Cruel, if you can't even handle this, the rest of the path will be hard for you.

Seriously, at the end of the day, what we all had posted here could act as a advice to you. how you handle it is all up to you...If you don't help yourself, NO ONE CAN.

Be Strong!.

Take care

*TearsoftheMoon*

frens?

dun believe in this bullshit

at first say ya, can still be frens

den after a while, she will say the guy forbid her to contact u animore
so cannot be frens le

Originally posted by set_n_go:

i got a gf for almost 4 years, things were fine and well. one day, my gf asked for a break up cuz she wants to move on and try a new relationship.. i was shocked and i broke down. how could she put a full stop to it and do this to me? or why the sudden she got this thinking bout moving on when things are fine? i thought i know her.. i don't deserve this and its so heartless. i don't mistreat her or anything.

she denies when i asked her whether theres anyone in the story but i found out that shes sort of seeing another guy. i was decieved and naive. my sadness is growing each and everyday.

i want to get over it and i cant. its so hard~ she told me that we can still be good friends. but FRIENDS?? how am i going to accept her as a friend when she do this to me? this is so unacceptable. and i will be more hurt if i see her in the future. sigh... thanks for reading.

Don't you think that it is more cruel if she continued, knowing that it doesn't work for her; get married to you, have kids and then break up?

In relationships, the earlier the break up, the better. You will find someone else.