should i own up?
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hi guys/aunts...
quite a silly story, hope u all can forgive forgive.
there is this girl who really dun like me and have rejected me few months ago.
in fact it has got to the stage where she even told me to back off and always ignore me whenever she sees me. primarily my own fault for being too irritating n stuff.
like any 1-sided love i tried to make her feel special on valentines day.. i sold my beloved possession in order to buy her the 99 roses n stuff.
on the day it happened, she even email me asking if they were from me. I felt that I have to lie because 1) i am a coward and is afraid that she will throw everything back at me 2)i dun wan to ruin her happiness that day.
And so I say "No."
I do not know if she is aware (that it was me), but she is still very cold to me, up till this day.
Sometimes I feel like telling her the truth. But why? Perhaps i really want to give up, dun want to keep these little secrets in me any longer. Perhaps I just want things to change.
Of course I hope she will treat me better one day, but that is wishful thinking.
What should I do?
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you are so silly.
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give her up, go for other girls. i know its hard, but persisting isnt a solution with your current obsession over her now.
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give up..
there are other nicer girls out there
perhaps if you give her up completely, she would come crawling back.. life is just that sadistic
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i feel like writing a letter to tell her how i feel...
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then do so...Originally posted by fire1980:i feel like writing a letter to tell her how i feel...
if nothing else.... it can give you closure... -
Or a little card.....Originally posted by fire1980:i feel like writing a letter to tell her how i feel... -
ok do it,Originally posted by fire1980:i feel like writing a letter to tell her how i feel...
as hypocritical as it sounds, try to express your true feelings fully in it and exaggerate abit
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Do it once and for all. If she really turn you down, LET IT GO.
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wah.
so cute, quick go declare yer glorious love for her.
wait i go and say its sent by me. -
erm.. what do u mean by that?Originally posted by Agenda:ok do it,
as hypocritical as it sounds, try to express your true feelings fully in it and exaggerate abit
i really dun wan to lie to her -
i can offer u gd advice~Originally posted by fire1980:erm.. what do u mean by that?
i really dun wan to lie to her
first, u need to realise dat u need to let her go. really....no point sticking to her again, pple will gossip u de....
secondly, write her a letter to confess dat u are the one who sent her roses. in ur letter....u muz sound apologetic yeah? secondly, why nt apologize to her for bothering her so much? u irritated pple so much, u are in the wrong eh?
thirdly, from dere, u say u will still love her, but will sincerely wish her gd luck in finding her future bf yeah?
ur tone muz be correct, dun make it sound dat she owes u de....from dere, maybe u will hav a chance to be frenz with her again...
best of luck to u of course -
Originally posted by fire1980: hi guys/aunts...
quite a silly story, hope u all can forgive forgive.
there is this girl who really dun like me and have rejected me few months ago.
in fact it has got to the stage where she even told me to back off and always ignore me whenever she sees me. primarily my own fault for being too irritating n stuff.
like any 1-sided love i tried to make her feel special on valentines day.. i sold my beloved possession in order to buy her the 99 roses n stuff.
on the day it happened, she even email me asking if they were from me. I felt that I have to lie because 1) i am a coward and is afraid that she will throw everything back at me 2)i dun wan to ruin her happiness that day.
And so I say "No."
I do not know if she is aware (that it was me), but she is still very cold to me, up till this day.
Sometimes I feel like telling her the truth. But why? Perhaps i really want to give up, dun want to keep these little secrets in me any longer. Perhaps I just want things to change.
Of course I hope she will treat me better one day, but that is wishful thinking.
What should I do? 
Narcissistic.
You are like playing a one player game while fantasizing the bots are real time players.
Everything is about yourself.
Don't waste your time and money; doing things like this doesn't score any points, in fact, you are just making a big fool out of yourself.
You can't force love out of someone when there isn't any in the first place.
Learn to respect people's choice.
Cheers -
eh maybe she could be touched and wanna give you a chance leh.
I think you should tell her. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
thanks.. appreciated. Narcissistic.
You are like playing a one player game while fantasizing the bots are real time players.
Everything is about yourself.
Don't waste your time and money; doing things like this doesn't score any points, in fact, you are just making a big fool out of yourself.
[b]You can't force love out of someone when there isn't any in the first place.
Learn to respect people's choice.
Cheers [/b]
i know she didn't like me, and i intend to walk away after this...
but i finding it very difficult.. -
highly doubt that... if not.. she would not have ignore me still..Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:eh maybe she could be touched and wanna give you a chance leh.
I think you should tell her.
sometimes i wish i can just fess up and tell her the truth, but i think its not a good time, since i still pin for her all the time, and doing so would be only hoping that she has a change of heart. -
remove all traces of her from yourself...
delete msn...phone contacts...gifts for her...emails...messages...everything...
it will definately help u forget her... -
I can imagine, if a person I dun like (not say hate lah), keeps pestering me ...will be pissed off. But if a person I like pester me, it will never be irritating rite. It will be called loving. So dun be so harsh on yourself.
Silly or not its all in the past. Think err..u have zero chance lor. Just forget it and move on. -
wa like damn emo.
like tv show like this.
sell all ur items, starve for few days, buy her 99 red roses, dont tell her its from u, u faint from hunger, go hospital, ur friend told her the true story, she felt touch, then she likes u, then happily ever after. -
Originally posted by fire1980:thanks.. appreciated.
i know she didn't like me, and i intend to walk away after this...
but i finding it very difficult.. Falling in love isn't like studying; there are times when you work hard and you fail miserably. It's not because you are not working hard enough, but rather, it's putting a wrong piece into a puzzle. Not matter how much you try forcing the missing piece into the puzzle, it just never turn out pretty.
Sometimes it amazed me to see guys not heeding rejection, thinking that it's a sign that they should work harder.
If Love could be obtain through sheer hard work, then the most hard working guy would have ALL the love in the world.
How easy (and amazingly boring) would that be, isn't it?
P.S: Learn to cut your loses. Finding it difficult to move on is a terribly bad excuse not to move along. If you would rather waste your time, effort and money onto someone who doesn't fancy you one bit, I suggest you find someone else who appreciate the real you.
Cheers -
it doesn't hurt to try one more time..so why not try?Originally posted by Yunhaier: Falling in love isn't like studying; there are times when you work hard and you fail miserably. It's not because you are not working hard enough, but rather, it's putting a wrong piece into a puzzle. Not matter how much you try forcing the missing piece into the puzzle, it just never turn out pretty.
Sometimes it amazed me to see guys not heeding rejection, thinking that it's a sign that they should work harder.
If Love could be obtain through sheer hard work, then the most hard working guy would have ALL the love in the world.
How easy (and amazingly boring) would that be, isn't it?
P.S: Learn to cut your loses. Finding it difficult to move on is a terribly bad excuse not to move along. If you would rather waste your time, effort and money onto someone who doesn't fancy you one bit, I suggest you find someone else who appreciate the real you.
Cheers
persistence does pay off sometimes... -
i same as TS sia... but she nva say things like.. back off
and ignore mi >.<
but i kinda stop talkin 2 her le... cause everytime sure tio
scoldin de... but WE IN THE SAME CLASS!!!
die... >.< i dun1 4get her.... -
Only the individual will determine the worth of persistence.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:it doesn't hurt to try one more time..so why not try?
persistence does pay off sometimes...
As you've mentioned, 'sometimes'. Most of the time, it will save oneself quite abit by moving on.
Release before a person's presence takes place from foothold to become stranglehold. When attraction(from opposite sex) is not established. Other methods will not likely work to change one's mind.
Remember, it's illogical.
Cheers -
yesh u r right... have to consider her feelings alsoOriginally posted by M©+square:Only the individual will determine the worth of persistence.
As you've mentioned, 'sometimes'. Most of the time, it will save oneself quite abit by moving on.
Release before a person's presence takes place from foothold to become stranglehold. When attraction(from opposite sex) is not established. Other methods will not likely work to change one's mind.
Remember, it's illogical.
Cheers
i think i have better just keep quiet... if God will it that way...something will happen. -
Wa.. sell your beloved possession to buy her 99 roses?? Thats really very noble of you..
Just let her know.. why be secretive...
I presume u are quite young? at such young age to spend so much $$ and tots to get 99 roses isn't easy and she ought to be very very flattered...
if she throws it back at you, then you shld really give up isnt it?
why not let her know you gave it to her?? its your money spent anyway!!
dun let her indulge into thinking that she has more secret admirers out there.. then it wil further ruin your chance.. lolz