100days on, wounds still hurt
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last nov, my gran died after a brief fight with cancer(i believe it's pancreatic) because it was discovered only at the last stage.
she didnt go for any treatments because they felt tht she was too weak for any especially at her stage of cancer.
till now i kept the 2 sms my parents sent to me first to inform me of her prognosis and 2nd was to tell me that she didnt have much time left and asked me to be prepared to take emergency leave at a short notice.
on 18th nov, i was at the motorshow but somehow i had this nagging feeling to go back home. something was tugging at me to go back home but i didnt know what.
on my way back, i smelt something weird which was damn familiar. tht smell 'came' frm my gran's room.
soon after i got home, she had trouble breathing and was staring into blank space. so we called everyone to be at her side. she didnt last too long after everyone arrived. she left us at 2109hours. i can never forget that day.
during her funeral, i never cried, somehow. others did. my eyes only watered when we bid her the final farewell as her coffin was sent in.
today was 100days frm that day. even till this day, my heart aches whenever i pass by her room or think about her.
at least now she can rest beside her hubby. she is 1 feisty woman. widowed at a young age and brought up 9kids on her own without remarrying. she can spoil us and rain hell on my aunties for spending $1 more on bean sprouts all on the same breath. -
take care..
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Its close to one year since my grandma died.
She passed away last year march.
Never did speak to her for the past few years.
Now i dun even have the chance to talk to her anymore.
Its something that will eat into me for the rest of my life. -
Same ... My grandma so passed away with my presence....
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Take heart, they are in a better place now.
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Cheer up , guys , dun be so sad
shen lao bing si is nature intercourse
dun broad over it for too long , life still have to go on
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Friend (there is a reason why I call you friend), its going a 1½ year since my granny left my family. Every time I had her in my memories, my heart soured too, but I rejoice knowing she left for a better place and in a sense she still lives in me and my family. So I can more or less sympathize with your feelings.
In time you will know she is still a part of your life and how you will smile acknowledging you are her grandchild. -
Death end a life,but not a relationship.
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Then let this gives you the extra incentive to communicate with the people you loved and care about: your parents, siblings, friends, relatives, etc, etc.Originally posted by Patrik:
Its close to one year since my grandma died.
She passed away last year march.
Never did speak to her for the past few years.
Now i dun even have the chance to talk to her anymore.
Its something that will eat into me for the rest of my life.
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there's something about this woman that i really admire.
seriously, she has never raised her voice or scold me for 20+years. never.
gt book in.... -
*pats to all*
i know how u guys feel
but i am sure they would want u to move on with life -
my condolences..
i also miss my dad..
but we all have to grief and move on.. and things will get better. -
i miss my 1st elder brother. sigh.
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my aunt just pass away last fri (two days ago).
she suffered from kidney failure n one of her legs are cut off to prevent from swollen. she looked okay when we visited her on cny and can even play mahjong wif friends n relative....
life is short, we already did our part to keep her happy to forget she lost a leg, now she lost her life wifout enjoying herself. sometime we must appreciate the love ones among us if not they will be gone before we miss them. -
i think she will rest in peace with all of u staying with her for her last moment. take care...
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You have a great grandma.
Its alright if you feel sad about her death. Its all logical.
Still ...
The past is the past.
What you have is the future and the present.
Make good use of it. Dont let the past hinder of what you do now.
All the best. -
she is enjoying her after life- heaven.
its natural to feel sad coz we are all human and moreover, she is ur great woman in ur heart. im sure the love & bond stil stay.
cheers.
god bless. -
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Originally posted by Devil1976:......
why never say anything? -
hey i same oso...Originally posted by bismarck:last nov, my gran died after a brief fight with cancer(i believe it's pancreatic) because it was discovered only at the last stage.
she didnt go for any treatments because they felt tht she was too weak for any especially at her stage of cancer.
till now i kept the 2 sms my parents sent to me first to inform me of her prognosis and 2nd was to tell me that she didnt have much time left and asked me to be prepared to take emergency leave at a short notice.
on 18th nov, i was at the motorshow but somehow i had this nagging feeling to go back home. something was tugging at me to go back home but i didnt know what.
on my way back, i smelt something weird which was damn familiar. tht smell 'came' frm my gran's room.
soon after i got home, she had trouble breathing and was staring into blank space. so we called everyone to be at her side. she didnt last too long after everyone arrived. she left us at 2109hours. i can never forget that day.
during her funeral, i never cried, somehow. others did. my eyes only watered when we bid her the final farewell as her coffin was sent in.
today was 100days frm that day. even till this day, my heart aches whenever i pass by her room or think about her.
at least now she can rest beside her hubby. she is 1 feisty woman. widowed at a young age and brought up 9kids on her own without remarrying. she can spoil us and rain hell on my aunties for spending $1 more on bean sprouts all on the same breath.
when my granny died i didn't cry too.
i was very close to her too, she lived with us...
but y i didn't cry?
could it be becos i was mentally prepared? -
relax mann
just to share my experience lah
my grandpa passed away when I was secondary 2
I was doing work in class when suddenly my eldest brother came to my class and told me my grandpa passed away
didn't really expect that to happen
guess everyone of us in the family didn't expect it too
I didn't really cry..and of course I did feel sad when I saw his coffin being pushed into the incincerator..that moment really left a deep mark in my mind cos everyone was like wailing..very depressing moment
my mum took a few weeks to overcome it lor..during that period my spirit was pulled down cos she was very very depressed..think I cried sliently during one of my trainings..my pltmates also couldn't do anything just shook their heads lol..think it's quite irrelevant to your topic but hahah..
but well it's definitely very sad if you think of your grandma..100 days are quite a short period of time if you want to accept someone who has just passed away..give yourself some allowance time bah..important thing is don't let this affect your life too much lor..think once a while ok lah but don't think until you do crazy stuff
also, don't expect yourself to forget someone close to you..cos he or she is someone whom you love dearly
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Sometimes the best form of consoling is not through words or letters, but simply by just being there. To feel and understand what the other party is going through and to acknowledge it is painful and share the sorrow together.Originally posted by Diehard_89:
why never say anything? -
Life goes on.. dont think too much..
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When I start to miss someone I just use my memory and they would come back to life.
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I had the same feeling too that night when my granny passed away when i was in Sec 4 (I still remembered it was September 2003).
I don't know why but i had no mood to do anything and for some reason i felt really sad as though someone close is leaving me. And then the phone call came from my uncle in the hospital. He told my mum that my grannny cannot make it much longer (I think she was also diagnosed with cancer) and asked her to rush down to the hospital immediately. Straight after my mum put the phone down i can sense that she's gonna break down in tears. My heart sunk.
I canÂ’t even get to see her for one last time becos my mum told me to look after my nephew (3 years old den) who was staying with us den. When i was at her funeral i found out something from my mum - my granny passed away with a smile. At least that made me "happier" by a bit as I heard that she had gone thru alot of pain in the chemotherapy and radiotherapy.
I can see that u're a filial grandson/granddotter. These 100 days are too short to forget and move on. Give yourself some time and i'm sure ur grandma is smiling somewhere out there and acknowledging that she had a wonderful grandson/granddotter.
Cheers.
C.K