Verge of mental breakdown because of my mother
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Hi all
I am really on the verge of mental breakdown because of my mother.
Sigh..sometimes i wonder what i have done in my previous life.
I quit my job one month ago because it was too stressful for me to handle.
I am currently unemployed but have been sending lots of resumes and applications out.
My mother is extremely un-understanding and kept saying she is very unlucky to have a daughter like me who is so useless..
All she does everyday is to stress me to find a job..
Sigh..i think sooner or later i surely have to check into the mental institution soon.
Often, i cry to myself and really wish that there is someone out there who can help me.
I also wish sometimes that my parents are divorced as it is getting harder and harder to live with her. My mother only knows how to condemn me from young.
Sigh...i feel so miserable. -
then she doesn't deserve to be your mother.
have you tried explaining to her why you quit your previous job?
if you haven't, then do it and listen to what she has to say.
if she still condemns you and blames you and all, kill her.
because in my opinion, you didn't do anything wrong.
if I were you, I would have quit to if the stress was too much.
good luck mate. -
i lend u my shoulder.......
btw yeah, sometimes one feels stressful because haven cry for too long.......
i am serious....... -
What a coincidence..
I also quited my job a month ago as I dislike the jobscope...
Been looking for a job and sending out resumes everyday...
The problem my side is my damn father who, like ur mother, keep pestering me to find a job and even ask me to go ask my relatives abt it...
C'mon..it's only been a month and it is hard to get a job that i like in my field...
Well...for me..I BO CHUP abt what my father says...
You should also do the same...
Gd luck in ur job hunt !!!!
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Don't give up, you will success one day!
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Yes, in fact she told me to quit my job but now she haunts me everyday!Originally posted by peeehead:then she doesn't deserve to be your mother.
have you tried explaining to her why you quit your previous job?
if you haven't, then do it and listen to what she has to say.
if she still condemns you and blames you and all, kill her.
because in my opinion, you didn't do anything wrong.
if I were you, I would have quit to if the stress was too much.
good luck mate.
She expects me to find a new job the next minute!
Anyway i have cried buckets over this issue. I am going insane any minute.
It's hard to ignore cause my mum knows exactly what my weaknesses are and when she attacks them , i am as good as dead. -
thanks Skibi..i am praying hard everyday for this day to come!!!Originally posted by Skibi:Don't give up, you will success one day! -
juz ignore ur mum
u are in control of ur own life, NT ur mum ok? -
ThanksOriginally posted by ItchyArmpit:i lend u my shoulder.......
btw yeah, sometimes one feels stressful because haven cry for too long.......
i am serious.......
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dun worry, keep sending out ur resumes, im sure u will find a job u really like
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May I ask just how old are you?Originally posted by dreamssie:Yes, in fact she told me to quit my job but now she haunts me everyday!
She expects me to find a new job the next minute!
Anyway i have cried buckets over this issue. I am going insane any minute.
It's hard to ignore cause my mum knows exactly what my weaknesses are and when she attacks them , i am as good as dead.
Why did she asked yout o quit your previous job?
And just how bad are your 'weaknesses' that they can allow her to attack you? -
Is your previous job your 1st job?Originally posted by dreamssie:Hi all
I am really on the verge of mental breakdown because of my mother.
Sigh..sometimes i wonder what i have done in my previous life.
I quit my job one month ago because it was too stressful for me to handle.
I am currently unemployed but have been sending lots of resumes and applications out.
My mother is extremely un-understanding and kept saying she is very unlucky to have a daughter like me who is so useless..
All she does everyday is to stress me to find a job..
Sigh..i think sooner or later i surely have to check into the mental institution soon.
Often, i cry to myself and really wish that there is someone out there who can help me.
I also wish sometimes that my parents are divorced as it is getting harder and harder to live with her. My mother only knows how to condemn me from young.
Sigh...i feel so miserable.
Are you the only child? -
Good advice, play dead!Originally posted by Zelphon:Well...for me..I BO CHUP abt what my father says...
You should also do the same...
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i guess life's like this. we also can't choose which life we want to get into. well i know it's difficult to ignore your mom at the point that she's nagging every minute, but don't cry. be strong. everything will be over, alright?Originally posted by dreamssie:Hi all
I am really on the verge of mental breakdown because of my mother.
Sigh..sometimes i wonder what i have done in my previous life.
I quit my job one month ago because it was too stressful for me to handle.
I am currently unemployed but have been sending lots of resumes and applications out.
My mother is extremely un-understanding and kept saying she is very unlucky to have a daughter like me who is so useless..
All she does everyday is to stress me to find a job..
Sigh..i think sooner or later i surely have to check into the mental institution soon.
Often, i cry to myself and really wish that there is someone out there who can help me.
I also wish sometimes that my parents are divorced as it is getting harder and harder to live with her. My mother only knows how to condemn me from young.
Sigh...i feel so miserable.
and a mother should not blame her own child for anything that happens. but really, i understand what your going through. however, now it's your part to change your mentality in way that makes you stronger. okay?
don't worry, step by step. -
your mom = my mom
you will find the way 1 day, good luck , don't give up -
I guess as parents, they are worried about your future and your mom does not actually mean it that way. I found that some of the older generation do not know how to show their love and concern or rather they do not know how to express it. So they express it the way that they received it when they were young. But I truly believe that most parents do not mean it that way and they are just concern about our future. What is most important to them is to see us able to 'stand' up on our own so that one day they leave this world, they do not have to worry about us.
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haiz my mom also driving me crazy
I currently have a job in which I am overloaded with work and the pay is not really that great, but I am reluctant to quit because I still have to give them allowances every month...they kept pressuring me to find another job which will pay better, but it is really not that easy to find one...when I told them they started comparing me to my cousins, my cousins' bfs, etc..
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some parents r like dat
they show their concern through constant 'nagging' -
money is the root of all evil.
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but without money nothing can be done..Originally posted by dragg:money is the root of all evil. -
You know what? I think you should use this situation to drive yourself to succeed even more, read more books, enrich yourself with more knowledge, get a job endure and go further studies, you will have to go through some years of tough life, but once you get through, you earn lots of money, and your mum, well you don't have to take care of her, but trust me, when you are rich she will be nicer to you already, and by then, that's the time for your revenge. It will take years to get your vengence, but it's worth it, all for your own good. If you need to hang out with someone to release your steam, just pm me.
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Thanks all for lending your "ears"
I do try to ignore my mum most of the times or avoid her.
It is just that last night was one occasion whereby i could not take it and had to vent my sadness and frustration elsewhere and glad that i found this site.
For now, i am going to turn to my religion to keep my sanity. -
tian xia de mama dou shi yi yang de~~ oh oh oh ~~ tian xia de mama dou shi yi yang de.~~~
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if u so miserable y not move out?.....this is what i did few yrs back and i a happy person now...
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I also agree. Move out is good. Sometimes when parents and child are too close to each other, the dependence grows. Your mum still probably wants to baby you that's why ask you quit your last job (mayb u complained about it to her) but she also want you to be independent (that why keep making you find job). At this point, she cannot respect you properly because you have been her child for so godamn long so she wants to interfere in your life.
I planned to move out since I was 16, and at the grand old age of 24, finally did. It really helps, cause finally, your family see you can take care of yourself, and they are relieved. Respect right? They say it must be earned... and its true.
If u can afford it, think about moving out. Dont kill your soul. The best advice I had from a consellor when i was going thru problems like this was that i should move out when I start earning money. The fact that she saw something positive in tt, encouraged me to work towards this dream to moving out. but of course, moving out got cons also lah...