Really confused.
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Really dont know what to do anymore.
I cant bring myself to trust her again. Probably because of the fact that she let me down a few times in the past. Even though she wants to change totally for me, anything that she does that might raised uncertainty i will think the worst of her. I suppsoe this is not healthy. I dare not even say i love her anymore. I wonder whats wrong with me. -
Its time to let go.
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u reckon so?Originally posted by Pitot:Its time to let go.
i've been fighting that thought for quite sometime alrd. -
Sometimes love just aint enough...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbDuepZFXhY
Now, I don't want to lose you, but I don't want to use you
just to have somebody by my side.
And I don't want to hate you,
I don't want to take you, but I don't want to be the one to cry.
And that don't really matter to anyone anymore.
But like a fool I keep losing my place
and I keep seeing you walk through that door.
But there's a danger in loving somebody too much,
and it's sad when you know it's your heart you can't trust.
There's a reason why people don't stay where they are.
Baby, sometimes, love just aint enough.
Now, I could never change you, I don't want to blame you.
Baby, you don't have to take the fall.
Yes, I may have hurt you, but I did not desert you.
Maybe I just want to have it all.
It makes a sound like thunder, it makes me feel like rain.
And like a fool who will never see the truth,
I keep thinking something's gonna change.
And there's no way home, when it's late at night and you're all alone.
Are there things that you wanted to say?
And do you feel me beside you in your bed,
there beside you, where I used to lay?
And there's a danger in loving somebody too much,
and it's sad when you know it's your heart they can't touch.
There's a reason why people don't stay who they are.
Baby, sometimes, love just ain't enough.
Baby, sometimes, love... it just ain't enough.
Oh, Oh, Oh, No. -
don't regret if you really want to let go
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yea mate.Originally posted by freestyle:u reckon so?
i've been fighting that thought for quite sometime alrd.
seems like it isnt like the past anymore. -
i think the problem lies with me this time.
In the past she used to keep making mistakes and time n time again i will forgive her. However after we have cleared up everything, i dun trust her anymore. Some of her actions annoy me and perhaps i get paranoid too easily. Then i asked myself why am i still clinging here? But then i cant seem to find an answer.... -
then try to let go lo.
save urself n save her. good for both parties. oni juz my opinion -
If you dont trust her anymore.. why are u still with her?
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loveOriginally posted by Pitot:If you dont trust her anymore.. why are u still with her? -
u need to be in a relationship just because u love someone?Originally posted by mhcampboy:love
trust is the basis of every relationship for me.. if the trust aint there anymore.. whats the diff between an openrelationship n an exclusive one? -
that might be why i am stucked. cant trust her. but dun want to end things. sigh..Originally posted by Pitot:u need to be in a relationship just because u love someone?
trust is the basis of every relationship for me.. if the trust aint there anymore.. whats the diff between an openrelationship n an exclusive one? -
the feeling is alrnot thr. no mutual trust. so y u still wan to pro-long this agony? isn't it better to let go now?
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aint that east bro...Originally posted by UrAdog:the feeling is alrnot thr. no mutual trust. so y u still wan to pro-long this agony? isn't it better to let go now? -
i think u shld learn to trust. if not let go..
wads the point of hanging on to this? u want to marry someone u dont trust?
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yeah thats what im trying to do. but really. its very hard to trust her. she keeps making little mistakes that pisses me off.Originally posted by Pitot:i think u shld learn to trust. if not let go..
wads the point of hanging on to this? u want to marry someone u dont trust? -
Then make it known to her? she need to know what she does is wrong man.. its 2 ways..Originally posted by freestyle:yeah thats what im trying to do. but really. its very hard to trust her. she keeps making little mistakes that pisses me off.
if she disagrees. let go really. -
Is it a question about her will-power?Originally posted by freestyle:yeah thats what im trying to do. but really. its very hard to trust her. she keeps making little mistakes that pisses me off.
What kinda mistakes? Can elaborate? -
she knows what shes doing is wrong. shes willing to accomodate and change. but damn she keep making mistakes and say that shes alrd trying her best to change and why cant i trust her?Originally posted by Pitot:Then make it known to her? she need to know what she does is wrong man.. its 2 ways..
if she disagrees. let go really.
I told her trust takes a long time to build up and especially longer if you have abused it. She got angry. Says im not putting in any effort. And the cycle resumes.
Perhaps the reason why all this is happening is i dun feel assured even though she says shes trying her best. Maybe im someone who cannot forget and maybe, forgive. -
yea, i know talk is cheap. ok then, lemme ask u a question. wad do u tink the future will hold for the both of u? do u see urself marrying her? or u will still be suspecting her, n oways not trusting her when both of have gotten married. pardon me if if english is bad. too long no type in proper english
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no worries your english is still in check.Originally posted by UrAdog:yea, i know talk is cheap. ok then, lemme ask u a question. wad do u tink the future will hold for the both of u? do u see urself marrying her? or u will still be suspecting her, n oways not trusting her when both of have gotten married. pardon me if if english is bad. too long no type in proper english
I wouldnt even dare comment abt marriage though she seems settled to marry me in the future? dunno whether its just a figure of speech.
If we last till after my national service, i think things will pick up. Have huge doubts though. As mentioned by a forumite, her will power totally sucks. give in to temptation way too easily. Perhaps she likes to please and impress people too much that makes her like this. Something i cant stand. -
1) Is she your first gf?Originally posted by freestyle:no worries your english is still in check.
I wouldnt even dare comment abt marriage though she seems settled to marry me in the future? dunno whether its just a figure of speech.
If we last till after my national service, i think things will pick up. Have huge doubts though. As mentioned by a forumite, her will power totally sucks. give in to temptation way too easily. Perhaps she likes to please and impress people too much that makes her like this. Something i cant stand.
2) how long have you 2 been together?
3) ARE U IN LOVE with somone else?
4) have she ever done something that is so wrong that you still blame her for it ? -
Hi zeny.Originally posted by zeny:1) Is she your first gf?
2) how long have you 2 been together?
3) ARE U IN LOVE with somone else?
4) have she ever done something that is so wrong that you still blame her for it ?
1) No
2) On and off about 8-9 mths?
3) No
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Freestyle,
So you are still in NS. Is your vocation stay-in type that requires you to go back only on weekends?
Will-power aside, with you not always there for her, she needs sinteraction & companionship. Dun expect her to think of u, wait for u, 24/7.
It may be very hard for you right now but you have to accept. Everybody's got freewill. You cant control another person. You have to trust her. -
She change for e better just for your sake yet you are still unsatisfied...don't know what to say