hi ladies/mum/wife
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hi will u give up your career and be a full time housewife and mum to your kids, is it worth it, but what abt yr future. after the kids grown up, what will u do?
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hmm... depends on my hus's earning & my current earning.. if my hus earn a lot.. i dont mind... but if i m earning a lot too.. i will consider...Originally posted by alba:hi will u give up your career and be a full time housewife and mum to your kids, is it worth it, but what abt yr future. after the kids grown up, what will u do?
but i feel that kids when young, need a lot of attention & time dedicated to them as these are the times where they can enjoy themselves to the fullest..
if i were u.. since u are thinking of this question, meaning.. ur hus is able to bring back more than sufficient to your family needs.. i may stop working.. another option is.. find a part time job.. like half day job.. at least u will still be "up-to-date" to the working society.. -
harlo alba...
well as a guy, i would prefer to work myself out, even if it would be 2 jobs.
i wouldn't allow my wife to work though.
cos in my view, work = suffer
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kids will need attention so best is be fulltime wife, parttime worker somewhere... but tis is when ur husband is earning enuff to sarpot u + kid...
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got backbone!Originally posted by gigabyte14:harlo alba...
well as a guy, i would prefer to work myself out, even if it would be 2 jobs.
i wouldn't allow my wife to work though.
cos in my view, work = suffer 
ur wife-to-be/ wife will be fortunate.. -
mine will be angmohOriginally posted by mystee:got backbone! ur wife-to-be/ wife will be fortunate..
so sg ppl dunnid hope liao
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thanks, too bad, hubby not that high earner, but the home is in chaos, only 1 kid abt 8yrs old, and she's all alone , lonely and i feel i never seem to be a mum to her, everyday too tired to even check her work, or talk to her, and school work seem flop, and don't even know time table, (my fault too tired to teach, and weekends doing housework or resting sleep), so i feel so guilty, butmoney important also right, so headache,
if i stop working, no income, but what if she grows up later, what will i do? any suggestion, i love to cook, bake cakes, any suggestion. i don't think i will fit to working life later 5yrs later, i will be 45yrs old. what can i do when kids grown up. i am confuse and life in spore need lots of money to survive, whichi simportant? is it worth it to give up?
what normally full tim ehousewife do ? with no income is it save? -
well you can always sell some pastries and sell to ur neighbour's friends and such.
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since she is 8 year old.. means she wil be gng to sch rite? maybe during her sch time.. u can go for part time job.. or go to some bakery shop & ask if they can help u to sell your cakes etc.. but wat i m worrying is.. u wil be biz baking cake.. & neglect her too.. so best is to find a job.. between the time where she is in sch.. in tat way.. u can bring in some money too..Originally posted by alba:thanks, too bad, hubby not that high earner, but the home is in chaos, only 1 kid abt 8yrs old, and she's all alone , lonely and i feel i never seem to be a mum to her, everyday too tired to even check her work, or talk to her, and school work seem flop, and don't even know time table, (my fault too tired to teach, and weekends doing housework or resting sleep), so i feel so guilty, butmoney important also right, so headache,
if i stop working, no income, but what if she grows up later, what will i do? any suggestion, i love to cook, bake cakes, any suggestion. i don't think i will fit to working life later 5yrs later, i will be 45yrs old. what can i do when kids grown up. i am confuse. -
hi thought of that too, but i am so confuse, i ever think of it, but when i tell ppl, they say u no shame is it, go to school study hard and hv education u want to sell cakes and biscuit, and sell food, they look down on me if i do that, they say i 've education should work in company whcih i am now, so i htought of giving up , take care of 1 child and later on thinking of selling cakes, or food, they say i am crazy. am I? is having own business like selling cakes no standard?Originally posted by gigabyte14:well you can always sell some pastries and sell to ur neighbour's friends and such. -
not going to do cake biz now, i mean later when she grown up or more independent then i can go biz, not now, now i wish to concentrate on her, stop work and is it worth?Originally posted by mystee:since she is 8 year old.. means she wil be gng to sch rite? maybe during her sch time.. u can go for part time job.. or go to some bakery shop & ask if they can help u to sell your cakes etc.. but wat i m worrying is.. u wil be biz baking cake.. & neglect her too.. so best is to find a job.. between the time where she is in sch.. in tat way.. u can bring in some money too.. -
hmm.. now u are confuse between urself & ur child.. ask urself.. who is more impt to u.. i feel like selling cakes is not what they say as no standard.. who care if it making money rite? that is ur interest + u can spend time with ur child.. since u feel that ur hse is in chaos now.. u hv to do something abt it.. so as not to regret later.Originally posted by alba:hi thought of that too, but i am so confuse, i ever think of it, but when i tell ppl, they say u no shame is it, go to school study hard and hv education u want to sell cakes and biscuit, and sell food, they look down on me if i do that, they say i 've education should work in company whcih i am now, so i htought of giving up , take care of 1 child and later on thinking of selling cakes, or food, they say i am crazy. am I? is having own business like selling cakes no standard? -
she is very shy, quiet, and lonely i worried abt her character and behavior, she spend the whole day watching tv. and no control. never touch school book, and i am too tired to even ask, when i ask she say ok, then i sit i fall asleep.she is very happy if i pick her up after school nthen she will talk, play and tell me wat happens at school. if not i see her only at night, 7pm after work, by 9pm she is asleep. i wnader what is the meaning. i hv no power on her at all.
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my dream from young is to have my own business, my interest is cooking ,baking biscuit, that is my dream esp i am older now, hv been working since young. thanks. have hope or not business like selling cakes (i tell ppl they laugh at me and look me so down).Originally posted by mystee:hmm.. now u are confuse between urself & ur child.. ask urself.. who is more impt to u.. i feel like selling cakes is not what they say as no standard.. who care if it making money rite? that is ur interest + u can spend time with ur child.. since u feel that ur hse is in chaos now.. u hv to do something abt it.. so as not to regret later. -
change ur job to parttime lo... wait she grow up she blame u for not caring for her then u will regret...Originally posted by alba:thanks, too bad, hubby not that high earner, but the home is in chaos, only 1 kid abt 8yrs old, and she's all alone , lonely and i feel i never seem to be a mum to her, everyday too tired to even check her work, or talk to her, and school work seem flop, and don't even know time table, (my fault too tired to teach, and weekends doing housework or resting sleep), so i feel so guilty, butmoney important also right, so headache,
if i stop working, no income, but what if she grows up later, what will i do? any suggestion, i love to cook, bake cakes, any suggestion. i don't think i will fit to working life later 5yrs later, i will be 45yrs old. what can i do when kids grown up. i am confuse and life in spore need lots of money to survive, whichi simportant? is it worth it to give up?
what normally full tim ehousewife do ? with no income is it save? -
are u from singapore?Originally posted by alba:my dream from young is to have my own business, my interest is cooking ,baking biscuit, that is my dream esp i am older now, hv been working since young. thanks. have hope or not business like selling cakes (i tell ppl they laugh at me and look me so down). -
actually is normal lar.. haha.. but u have to let her noe u care abt her..Originally posted by alba:she is very shy, quiet, and lonely i worried abt her character and behavior, she spend the whole day watching tv. and no control. never touch school book, and i am too tired to even ask, when i ask she say ok, then i sit i fall asleep.she is very happy if i pick her up after school nthen she will talk, play and tell me wat happens at school. if not i see her only at night, 7pm after work, by 9pm she is asleep. i wnader what is the meaning. i hv no power on her at all. -
yeap lah where as. here everything must pay ,if not fine, every month even i am working headache, late fine...so both important. but i know my child suppose to be intelligent ,but igot no time for her, so she drifted away, believe me, she don't even kmow math well or time table, or spell. all she learn herself and get to pass until now P.3.i am so guilty. i wish to amend but can i do it, and be great mum.Originally posted by mystee:are u from singapore? -
sometimes i feel i should work another 2 more years, save enough money and stop working and take care, but is it too late, so i am so confuse now. i wil llose so much if i stop.pls tell me is it worht or not?thks.
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what is the goal of your life? It depend what want to accomplish for their entire life...
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ok.. jz a note.. doing biz in sg.. is not easy.. need capital.. but one thing i know about bakery is.. either u succeed very well.. or u fail badly.. cos there are too many bakery around..Originally posted by alba:yeap lah where as. here everything must pay ,if not fine, every month even i am working headache, late fine...so both important. but i know my child suppose to be intelligent ,but igot no time for her, so she drifted away, believe me, she don't even kmow math well or time table, or spell. all she learn herself and get to pass until now P.3.i am so guilty. i wish to amend but can i do it, and be great mum.
but selling pastry during cny can make money.. cos many prefer homemade cookies -
2 more years maybe quite critical to ur kid... $$$ never enuff la so doesnt matter if u leave now or not... for ur kid, its definitely worth it to give her all the time... jz discuss tis with ur husband and work it out... $$$ can be earned thru parttime...Originally posted by alba:sometimes i feel i should work another 2 more years, save enough money and stop working and take care, but is it too late, so i am so confuse now. i wil llose so much if i stop.pls tell me is it worht or not?thks. -
Treat your kid well now and she will grow up to be a successful young woman who will respect, love and support you in the next half of your life. Since you are well educated, I suppose you can give tuition? Then you will have time to spend with your daughter.
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If I can be tai tai, I won't mind.Originally posted by alba:hi will u give up your career and be a full time housewife and mum to your kids, is it worth it, but what abt yr future. after the kids grown up, what will u do? -
live a good life? if possible enjoy myself as much as i can