Biasedness against PRC..
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hi there! I got this problem with my mum and my gf.. I have a gf, as stated in the topic, she is a PRC... she is just like any other normal gal... i find her less materialistic than most singaporean gals.. ( sorry for tat.. ) she is very caring towards me... and she bought things back for us( me and family), whenever she goes back to china for holiday or visit her parents... but problem is... my mum have a very strong biasedness against them... she insists that all PRC gals are bad... they are open minded, and they are cheap and sIutty... can u imagine tat? I dont dare to tell my gf all these... I afraid will break her heart... She treat my mum not bad... buying things for her whenever she come across soemthing nice or wad... but this is wad my mum did to her.. sigh... And my mum insists i break off with her now and find a singaporean gf... But I love my gf very much... and she does too.. den i told her tat some singaporeans gals are materialistic too..she dont believe... she thought singaporean are 100 % good... unlike PRC girls... and when i try to talk to my mum tat she got buy things for us whenever she went back to china, she will say tat the PRC are good in buying people's heart... and she will not fall for tat... Sometimes I really very fed up with my mum... for wad she had said... i know she do this for my own good, as she is afraid me will be cheated... but... isn't she abit too far too? oh ya... btw me and my gf is together for 6 mths... i know it is short... I will let the time be the judge... hopefully my mum's opinion will change... can anyone here give me some opinion?
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Where did you meet your girlfriend? Possibly that could have left a bad taste in your mum...or did you hide your relationship from your family and forced to come clean only when you 2 were spotted holding hands?
Just do what you can to find some common ground between your mum and your girlfriend...your mum's anxious because it involves you...once she has earned your mum's respect should be a smooth sailing lovey-dovey couple -
I dont think it is good to take PRC gal as gf or wife. It is true that they are nice in buying people heart. But do you find the things they bought for you are usually cheap stuff from china. Nothing to be appreciate of. No doubt they are quite pretty and well make up, but dont think can be long term. They are just using you as a bridge for their PR here. Dont be so tian zhen
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Hmm I guess it is really up to you
It is true that PRCs are very good at 'buying' a person's heart
My cousin's ex-bf was PRC
His PR is superb though my aunt hated him.
He is definately not after money coz his family is well-to-do as well and a scholar like my cousin.
My impression of him was that he is a nice guy.
However, in the end, she left him for a SG guy too coz of "better understanding"
Anyway, it is up to you to slowly change your family views of her
Maybe focus on her education levels and job to show that she don't need to depend on you. -
is your mum a good friend of shutterbug?
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tell your mom "whoa PRC girl last time stole your BF right you loser"Originally posted by troubledguy2006:hi there! I got this problem with my mum and my gf.. I have a gf, as stated in the topic, she is a PRC... she is just like any other normal gal... i find her less materialistic than most singaporean gals.. ( sorry for tat.. ) she is very caring towards me... and she bought things back for us( me and family), whenever she goes back to china for holiday or visit her parents... but problem is... my mum have a very strong biasedness against them... she insists that all PRC gals are bad... they are open minded, and they are cheap and sIutty... can u imagine tat? I dont dare to tell my gf all these... I afraid will break her heart... She treat my mum not bad... buying things for her whenever she come across soemthing nice or wad... but this is wad my mum did to her.. sigh... And my mum insists i break off with her now and find a singaporean gf... But I love my gf very much... and she does too.. den i told her tat some singaporeans gals are materialistic too..she dont believe... she thought singaporean are 100 % good... unlike PRC girls... and when i try to talk to my mum tat she got buy things for us whenever she went back to china, she will say tat the PRC are good in buying people's heart... and she will not fall for tat... Sometimes I really very fed up with my mum... for wad she had said... i know she do this for my own good, as she is afraid me will be cheated... but... isn't she abit too far too? oh ya... btw me and my gf is together for 6 mths... i know it is short... I will let the time be the judge... hopefully my mum's opinion will change... can anyone here give me some opinion?
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you have this kind of attitude you still complain about them?Originally posted by dreamykite:But do you find the things they bought for you are usually cheap stuff from china. Nothing to be appreciate of. -
Get ur gf to ur house more often for meals or just to chill out. If ur girlfriend is really good as u say, ur mum will sooner or later find out for herself too. That's the only way for her to drop her bias.Originally posted by troubledguy2006:hi there! I got this problem with my mum and my gf.. I have a gf, as stated in the topic, she is a PRC... she is just like any other normal gal... i find her less materialistic than most singaporean gals.. ( sorry for tat.. ) she is very caring towards me... and she bought things back for us( me and family), whenever she goes back to china for holiday or visit her parents... but problem is... my mum have a very strong biasedness against them... she insists that all PRC gals are bad... they are open minded, and they are cheap and sIutty... can u imagine tat? I dont dare to tell my gf all these... I afraid will break her heart... She treat my mum not bad... buying things for her whenever she come across soemthing nice or wad... but this is wad my mum did to her.. sigh... And my mum insists i break off with her now and find a singaporean gf... But I love my gf very much... and she does too.. den i told her tat some singaporeans gals are materialistic too..she dont believe... she thought singaporean are 100 % good... unlike PRC girls... and when i try to talk to my mum tat she got buy things for us whenever she went back to china, she will say tat the PRC are good in buying people's heart... and she will not fall for tat... Sometimes I really very fed up with my mum... for wad she had said... i know she do this for my own good, as she is afraid me will be cheated... but... isn't she abit too far too? oh ya... btw me and my gf is together for 6 mths... i know it is short... I will let the time be the judge... hopefully my mum's opinion will change... can anyone here give me some opinion? -
you can't blame your mum for this kind of reaction.as you know most of the PRC are ermmmmm nvm.
but if its really true love from both side, go for it , eventually i guess ur mum will juz accept the fact and offered her blessing to both of u . she is still ur mum afterall.
btw is ur prc gf rich ? -
hi there! erm... I get to know my gf in school... I am currently having tertiary education... she is my classmate..and... as someone asked... she came from a middle class family... not so rich nor poor... ya.. i agree with one of the forumite, tat bringing her to my house once in a while to chill out, and to let my mum decide for herself if she is really a nice girl... oh ya... one of the forumite asked... if the things she bought is always cheap and from china, hmm... not really... some are bought in singapore itself... only those she bought fromchina, is whenever she goes back for holiday...
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Originally posted by troubledguy2006:
Since it is your classmate I don't think your mother has to worry too much.
hi there! erm... I get to know my gf in school... I am currently having tertiary education... she is my classmate..and... as someone asked... she came from a middle class family... not so rich nor poor... ya.. i agree with one of the forumite, tat bringing her to my house once in a while to chill out, and to let my mum decide for herself if she is really a nice girl... oh ya... one of the forumite asked... if the things she bought is always cheap and from china, hmm... not really... some are bought in singapore itself... only those she bought fromchina, is whenever she goes back for holiday... -
but my mum still worries... she still insists tat PRC gals are bad... no matter wad... even they got diploma or degree.. .also no use... they are sIutty... sigh...Originally posted by Skibi:Since it is your classmate I don't think your mother has to worry too much.
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im on yr side. a person good or bad depends on individual and not on race, gender or religion.
PRC all mus be bad, vile and slutty meh!? other ppl put a generalised accusation on singaporean, u biased ppl happy meh?
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You can find all kinds of people no matter the Race. Tell your mum she's narrow-minded, prejudice, jing di zi wa, or sthing like that.
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yea i agree with bringing her often too, let ur mum see how she is over long term...even if she still thinks she is no good(quite possible since nowadays older ppl can b quite stubborn), at least it wun that strong towards her...eh but one thing to point out...buy goods cheap no good meh?china there the things cheaper go there buy got wrong meh?its a way of saving money oso what, whats wrong with that?whoever said u MUST buy expensive things then can please...hate this kinda mentality la plz loh...its the thought that counts, not the cost...Originally posted by troubledguy2006:hi there! erm... I get to know my gf in school... I am currently having tertiary education... she is my classmate..and... as someone asked... she came from a middle class family... not so rich nor poor... ya.. i agree with one of the forumite, tat bringing her to my house once in a while to chill out, and to let my mum decide for herself if she is really a nice girl... oh ya... one of the forumite asked... if the things she bought is always cheap and from china, hmm... not really... some are bought in singapore itself... only those she bought fromchina, is whenever she goes back for holiday... -
yes.. i agree... cost is not the factor... wads important is the thoughts...
I dont mind if its cheap stuff... or made in where... most importantly, its bought by her... specially for me... tats most important.. -
although its unfair, sometimes for ur gf to be accepted by parents is actually quite important wan. but personally i dont think prc are all bad. got alot of the girls are quite erm...that type but i got close frens who are prc, i think they are quite nice also.
if u luv ur gf alot u must try ur best to slowly let ur mom see her good side, patient, never quarrel with her or she will think ur gf put u up to it. -
my personal experience with the 8-10 prc gals I'd met are:=
a) They are very very cunning
b) Very good in buying people's heart
c) Very tan xiao pian ye
d) Will smile smile smile even in front of people they hate to the core
e) Think very fast, know how to always change the situation to their advantage
f) Know how to act pityfull to get (esp) guys help (and the guys are stupid enough to help them. My boss kana backstab by one but still never learn his lesson, kana another time by another prc. haha)
Me also kana backstab once by them.
The above are from the 8-10 prc gals i know and am personally in contact with. They are some various backgrounds (local poly grads, uni grads).
TS, I can't blame your mum for being cautious. However, I think 6mths is too short a time frame to really see someone's true character. -
Originally posted by the.owl:tell your mom "whoa PRC girl last time stole your BF right you loser"
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Ask your gf to buy your mom a condo. Maybe that will change your mom's view of her?
P.S - Late night posting -
I want my mum to accept her through normal ways la... not through bribing...
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It's a sad fact of life, but people from 'higher' social standing (richer, higher standard of living, more 'advanced') are often deeply suspicious of those who they think are not.
We crave for things we don't have, and we're scared of others taking what we do... that's human nature. -
With the availability of so many negative reports from the media on PRC, it is no doubts that your mum had such bad impression on themÂ…Originally posted by troubledguy2006:hi there! I got this problem with my mum and my gf.. I have a gf, as stated in the topic, she is a PRC... she is just like any other normal gal... i find her less materialistic than most singaporean gals.. ( sorry for tat.. ) she is very caring towards me... and she bought things back for us( me and family), whenever she goes back to china for holiday or visit her parents... but problem is... my mum have a very strong biasedness against them... she insists that all PRC gals are bad... they are open minded, and they are cheap and sIutty... can u imagine tat? I dont dare to tell my gf all these... I afraid will break her heart... She treat my mum not bad... buying things for her whenever she come across soemthing nice or wad... but this is wad my mum did to her.. sigh... And my mum insists i break off with her now and find a singaporean gf... But I love my gf very much... and she does too.. den i told her tat some singaporeans gals are materialistic too..she dont believe... she thought singaporean are 100 % good... unlike PRC girls... and when i try to talk to my mum tat she got buy things for us whenever she went back to china, she will say tat the PRC are good in buying people's heart... and she will not fall for tat... Sometimes I really very fed up with my mum... for wad she had said... i know she do this for my own good, as she is afraid me will be cheated... but... isn't she abit too far too? oh ya... btw me and my gf is together for 6 mths... i know it is short... I will let the time be the judge... hopefully my mum's opinion will change... can anyone here give me some opinion?
WellÂ… to be frankÂ… being good to a person is not just about buying things for you and your familyÂ…
It is still very early to determine whether she is the one for you or not as it is still very early to say anythingÂ…
Nobody knows what will happen tomorrow but just keep in mindÂ… all parents loves their kidsÂ… no doubts some will be quite extreme when they are doing so but no matter what.. she is still your mum who simply wants the best for you thusÂ… think for her alsoÂ…
AnywayÂ… Good LuckÂ… -
Well dating is ok but if u seriously want to marry her, make sure u earn lots of money. If not, don't blame if she disappears.
Also if she is not willing to live in S'pore after marriage, be prepared to 'migrate'. -
Hmmm...i felt that some of you listed that PRC "buy people's heart" and i felt that is bias liao...
Not all of them are like that..
Like in this world Some people are good and some of them are bad...
People don't like PRC coz of certain thingz that had done BUT not every PRC is like that..
WHat IF one human Commits a crime...so All humans are criminal ???
No... No...
There's sure some misunderstanding...There's a Barrier to break.
I feel that you "troubleguy2006" should ask your Mother why she hated PRC so much ???
QUESTION !!
Why many People in singapore hate PRC so much ?????
PRC also Feel that singaporean is Bad....So is it all singaporean are BAD ?????
NO NO NO...
and Why ? why ?
[[Misunderstanding]]... Most People just looking thingz just on the surface..This very true..For PRC and Singaporean..
Hey "troubleguy2006".. every long distance relationship sure got obstacle
you must overcome it..
Your current relationship is a test for you
Bruce