What will you do if .....
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I happen to know this girl whose father is a doctor and have some sisters.
She is kinda quiet and after getting to know her better she told me that she actually had a bad relationship with her parents.
Her sister like to bad-mouth her and report whatever she do to her mother.
Her sister "spied" on her phone and complaint to her mum like : What kind of contacts she had in her phone etc.
Her relationship with her parents drifted apart ever since she had lost her digital camera during Sec 2 ,during outing.
She seems to hate her sisters .I had actually remember that I had ever asked her "who is the closest to you in your family" She answered " Nobody"
She also said that she likes to come to school as that is the only way for her to talk. She is always on her room and seldom or never talk to her parents at all or her siblings.
She had also told me that she was hopeless , all the negative comments and it seems that her sister had ever backstab her in front of her parents till their mother had actually think of transferring her to another school
She seems to tell me all her problems and she seems to trust me and I felt kinda guilty of not being able to comfort her . Can anyone suggest what should I do to make her realised :
Family unity is important
Time and studies are important
Motivation for her
Any advice on what should I do to her ?
What she should do to please her sisters -
u need jio her out more often... now of course she unhapi wif family issues so keep her mind away from family for now... mothers day coming up so go buy a cake with her for her mum lo...
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ask her sisters to go out with her lo.
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take the chance to get close to her then build family with her , after that u can show her that family ties is impt
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TELL HER PARENTS LA KNN!!!
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BACKSTAB HER SIS XD
i am quite sure if the some sis gang up againt her de? -
Even the fierces lions doesn't prey on their cubs, ( Hu du bu shi zhi )
From what i am seeing her sisters is just fighting for attention. The person that really needed help isn't her it's her sister, or sisters. For her what you can do is cheer her up try to let her know, even though family ties are very important, but she can still survive without them. Nothing in this world is indispensable. =)
This is your second topic, you really should try solving this things by yourself not mainly relying on what people comment. Try and solve the problems on the spot for them. Most of the time they just need you to listen. -
Hi Mr Sotong,Originally posted by MrSotong:She seems to tell me all her problems and she seems to trust me and I felt kinda guilty of not being able to comfort her. Can anyone suggest what should I do to make her realised :
Family unity is important
Time and studies are important
Motivation for her
Any advice on what should I do to her ?
What she should do to please her sisters
I understand how you feel there. You probably can't do much to make your girlfriend's siblings to be pleased with her or to make her parents understand her more unless she is willing to make herself more active or more involved with her own family. Though she felt hurt about what had happened in the past she must also realized that her parents love her still because she is their daughter.
I feel that you can help her by listening to her and let her expressed whatever she feels about her family and about herself. I think you can also guide her to learn more ways to understand others by asking her to put herself in other people shoes and what, and why they behaved in such a manner. I would do that because I think we all are not perfect and perhaps after seeing the situation that we could cause that situation rather than due to other people, probably we could see things clearer. I think to understand others and those you loved is part of oneself ability to understand oneself too.
You take good care of her alright.
With Love,
Joe -
Theres two way to help actually,
1. the simple way, SPEAK UP!. I don't have to explain much i guess.
2. the more tedious way make her pregnant and marry her, free her from her parents, but your situation will worsen! LOLS. -
r u the CID investigatin the case on the suicide on the mrt dat Banzie is tokin abt???Originally posted by zulkifli mahmood:Hi Mr Sotong,
I understand how you feel there. You probably can't do much to make your girlfriend's siblings to be pleased with her or to make her parents understand her more unless she is willing to make herself more active or more involved with her own family. Though she felt hurt about what had happened in the past she must also realized that her parents love her still because she is their daughter.
I feel that you can help her by listening to her and let her expressed whatever she feels about her family and about herself. I think you can also guide her to learn more ways to understand others by asking her to put herself in other people shoes and what, and why they behaved in such a manner. I would do that because I think we all are not perfect and perhaps after seeing the situation that we could cause that situation rather than due to other people, probably we could see things clearer. I think to understand others and those you loved is part of oneself ability to understand oneself too.
You take good care of her alright.
With Love,
Joe
LoL...
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from wat i cn think of now...
is just to listen to her talk...
she just needs a listenin ear..
u don't have to comment or even talk...
just listen to her cn liao...
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Originally posted by RiverFoX:r u the CID investigatin the case on the suicide on the mrt dat Banzie is tokin abt???
LoL... Hi RiverFox,
Sorry for the late reply. About your question whether I'm that CID officer who was investigating the suicide case at the mrt.....I'm more than that....I hunt for terrorists in the internet (LOLs)....just kidding. RiverFox, I'm not him ok. Joe is my pet name given to me by my parents since I was a toddler.
Thanks for asking and you take care ok.
Regards,
Joe
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study hard....then her parents n sister will..look her diff..
when she is old enough...she also can depend on herself n move out..
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Any advice on what should I do to her ?
Surely you mean "..... do FOR her"
Just be a friend to her lah...........