what should i do now?haiz
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i've got this crush for 2 years..in my sch..
partly due to my initiative we have build up quite a gd friendship.I' haven confess to her as i'm still quite scared that it will spoil the whole thing and i'm not confident enough that she would reciprocate.
but recently,she faced some problems,n its peer problems.....her peers are giving her lots of pressure n problems,n i dun noe a single one of them.She's been a cheerful girl,but recently i guess the stuffs has taken its toll on her,she even confide her problems to me for the 1st time.Well,i a, appreciative of that n glad that our frenship has taken up to another level..the closeness...
but it really pains my heart that she's facing those needless pressure,on top of that plus the nv ending cca,sch commitments,work and health problems that she has...i really want to help her,but wat i can only do is to listen to her n give her opinions.I can't solve her problems for her coz i dun even noe her peers..its so agonising for me.Sometimes i really hope that i'll be there when she needs some1 most,lend her my shoulder to weep...haiz.I can only see her for like 2 hours everyweek as she's too busy n we are in different classes.
All these issues juz triggered my intention to confess my love for her..but i noe i can't ,coz i dun want to add more to her problems..to make her even more troubled..i'm so helpless,i cam't do much to help her.It's so painful when u can't help your love one...
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kaoz,why no response
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just be thr for her. be as a frend first. if u confess, thr's 2 possibilties tats gonna happen:
1) she rejects u and stays away.
2) she accepts u but not cuz she likes u. but cuz ur like a shoulder for her to lean on. just for convienance sake.
just don't confess to her when she's troubled. -
I think u r too young to understand what love is....my guess is that u are around 13 yrs old.
its a sad thing to feel like u love someone more when he/she is sad...cmon...
u r just feeling pitiful for her.
get the gal when she is not troubled.... -
Oh boy, you are like me..Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:i've got this crush for 2 years..in my sch..
partly due to my initiative we have build up quite a gd friendship.I' haven confess to her as i'm still quite scared that it will spoil the whole thing and i'm not confident enough that she would reciprocate.
but recently,she faced some problems,n its peer problems.....her peers are giving her lots of pressure n problems,n i dun noe a single one of them.She's been a cheerful girl,but recently i guess the stuffs has taken its toll on her,she even confide her problems to me for the 1st time.Well,i a, appreciative of that n glad that our frenship has taken up to another level..the closeness...
but it really pains my heart that she's facing those needless pressure,on top of that plus the nv ending cca,sch commitments,work and health problems that she has...i really want to help her,but wat i can only do is to listen to her n give her opinions.I can't solve her problems for her coz i dun even noe her peers..its so agonising for me.Sometimes i really hope that i'll be there when she needs some1 most,lend her my shoulder to weep...haiz.I can only see her for like 2 hours everyweek as she's too busy n we are in different classes.
All these issues juz triggered my intention to confess my love for her..but i noe i can't ,coz i dun want to add more to her problems..to make her even more troubled..i'm so helpless,i cam't do much to help her.It's so painful when u can't help your love one...
/pat pat.. I wonder why girls are soo busy. -
u r very very mistaken!i've like her for 2 years already.The thing that holding back me to confess is because i feel that its not time yet n that i'm not sure of her feelings
n i'm not a 13 yr old kid.[/quote] -
You do have a mindset of a 13 year old kid even if you might not be one... You already feel that it's not the time to confess yet, so then don't... You could still be by her side even as a listening ear to help her as a friend... Approach her when you yourself feel that the time is right...Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:u r very very mistaken!i've like her for 2 years already.The thing that holding back me to confess is because i feel that its not time yet n that i'm not sure of her feelings
n i'm not a 13 yr old kid.[/quote] -
I was in your situation before. Haiz.Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:u r very very mistaken!i've like her for 2 years already.The thing that holding back me to confess is because i feel that its not time yet n that i'm not sure of her feelings
n i'm not a 13 yr old kid.[/quote]
I think you should tell later on a later date bah. If you tell her now, it'll only add on to her stress. Jiayou! -
Very sound advice.Originally posted by angelajai:just be thr for her. be as a frend first. if u confess, thr's 2 possibilties tats gonna happen:
1) she rejects u and stays away.
2) she accepts u but not cuz she likes u. but cuz ur like a shoulder for her to lean on. just for convienance sake.
just don't confess to her when she's troubled.
Take it easy, just enjoy the happy moments you have with her and she will slowly appreciate your company here even more in times of trouble. -
Just don't do anything. You don't want her to treat you just like a support pillar when she is down... though this is the best chance of succeeding if you feel that once the trouble is gone and she will not accept you...
Anyway, just be there for her when she need you and slowly the seed will bud.
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well, maybe u can call her to see how she is doing....
ask her out as a friend, chill out...
i agree with u , it is not a good time to confess..
As the girl will be more troubled...
Just be there for her when she need it...
Jia you!
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Seriously, I dont think a 2 year old friendship can turn into a relationship... If she had anything for you, she would have dropped hints to you during the 2 years... Just forget it man... Remain as friends or you will regret it... And then you will start another thread saying that you just got rejected...
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Just continue the friendship and don't be so drama can? I want to... I cannot, I don't want to... I want to...Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:i've got this crush for 2 years..in my sch..
partly due to my initiative we have build up quite a gd friendship.I' haven confess to her as i'm still quite scared that it will spoil the whole thing and i'm not confident enough that she would reciprocate.
but recently,she faced some problems,n its peer problems.....her peers are giving her lots of pressure n problems,n i dun noe a single one of them.She's been a cheerful girl,but recently i guess the stuffs has taken its toll on her,she even confide her problems to me for the 1st time.Well,i a, appreciative of that n glad that our frenship has taken up to another level..the closeness...
but it really pains my heart that she's facing those needless pressure,on top of that plus the nv ending cca,sch commitments,work and health problems that she has...i really want to help her,but wat i can only do is to listen to her n give her opinions.I can't solve her problems for her coz i dun even noe her peers..its so agonising for me.Sometimes i really hope that i'll be there when she needs some1 most,lend her my shoulder to weep...haiz.I can only see her for like 2 hours everyweek as she's too busy n we are in different classes.
All these issues juz triggered my intention to confess my love for her..but i noe i can't ,coz i dun want to add more to her problems..to make her even more troubled..i'm so helpless,i cam't do much to help her.It's so painful when u can't help your love one...
haiz... life is too short leh... -
sorry after reading your "red" coloured words, i'm tearingOriginally posted by F.raon.I.R:i've got this crush for 2 years..in my sch..
partly due to my initiative we have build up quite a gd friendship.I' haven confess to her as i'm still quite scared that it will spoil the whole thing and i'm not confident enough that she would reciprocate.
but recently,she faced some problems,n its peer problems.....her peers are giving her lots of pressure n problems,n i dun noe a single one of them.She's been a cheerful girl,but recently i guess the stuffs has taken its toll on her,she even confide her problems to me for the 1st time.Well,i a, appreciative of that n glad that our frenship has taken up to another level..the closeness...
but it really pains my heart that she's facing those needless pressure,on top of that plus the nv ending cca,sch commitments,work and health problems that she has...i really want to help her,but wat i can only do is to listen to her n give her opinions.I can't solve her problems for her coz i dun even noe her peers..its so agonising for me.Sometimes i really hope that i'll be there when she needs some1 most,lend her my shoulder to weep...haiz.I can only see her for like 2 hours everyweek as she's too busy n we are in different classes.
All these issues juz triggered my intention to confess my love for her..but i noe i can't ,coz i dun want to add more to her problems..to make her even more troubled..i'm so helpless,i cam't do much to help her.It's so painful when u can't help your love one... -
Well, since she got so many problems. Don't add on to her problems.
Just be a friend to her. What will blossom, it will blossom.
It just take time.
Been there, done there. I know its a struggle. But just be patient and see how it goes. -
yup..n its been a week since those stuff happened..n over the days,i've been doing things for her..chatting with her when she's lonely...Originally posted by Eiizumi:Well, since she got so many problems. Don't add on to her problems.
Just be a friend to her. What will blossom, it will blossom.
It just take time.
Been there, done there. I know its a struggle. But just be patient and see how it goes.
i guess its pretty obvious to her that i like her already...