after almost 4 years, she telling me this..
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3rd gf. which is the longest one..Originally posted by zeny:1) first gf?
2) where did you meet this girl?
3) you got only one gal friend?
pri schmate (tht's d reason i say she is a very nice girl, coz i knw her well)
no -
1) ever ask her why is the other guy so attractive?Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):3rd gf. which is the longest one..
pri schmate (tht's d reason i say she is a very nice girl, coz i knw her well)
no
2) name the things that you did for her.
3) name the things that you did not do for her in the past. -
Originally posted by zeny:1) ever ask her why is the other guy so attractive?
no
2) name the things that you did for her.
anything she wants, which i can afford it.
but she's not tht kind of girl who ask so many thing.
honestly, i cant think of any...
but this is for sure, when she need me, i will be at her side asap.
3) name the things that you did not do for her in the past.
i did not buy her's 21st bday gift -
waiting and wondering how is her relpy to me...
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i think ur case is very similar and happen nowsday.
If you find other post, u can see similar answer given.
I posted advice to similar cases before. So I think i post again.
If you can take my advice, is good for you,
ur age is still young. So if i'm you, just move on... i know is hard, 4 yrs is not short, but there are ppl who are longer yrs then u.
there are many things in life that you had not experience, there are better gals out there that you had not met.
Believe me, you can have a blissful relationship after this.
For now, move on and start new hobby and life.
ask your friends out, have more gathering
start a new hobby, learn new things.
focus it on this new hobby and start new activities as well.
take it a rest.... no need so fast go into a new relationship... enjoy ur single life again... u find tat is not tat bad at all
i'm a guy here, i know how it felt and understand. believe me bro. wat u think now may not be true as u are in the stage of shock then u do not know wat to handle out of sudden.
Relax bro ... when u calm down and relax and start a new life, u know wat i mean all the best !!! -
i still remember,
last time she bought a wind chime,and hang it outside window...
thn i also bought 1 and follow wat she did..
if my room wind chime ding dang dong tht's mean she's missing of me roght now..
so do how she tought..
she bought those sticky star and stick it on the Ceiling..
i also folow wat she did..
so we can look at those stars together...and chat over the phone...
but now... i think i going to repaint the wall.. and take down those star n the wind chime le...
i just cant control my emotions right now...
my tears will drop when evr i think of her, even typing right now...
but wat i get at the end is NOTHING! just HURT n PAIN!!
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You too? Also 4 years somemore.. what a coincidence.. mine just happened to me a few days back, although under slightly different circumstances... I just thought heng haven't marry yet, heng still can get refund on banquet and still damm young can find a better guy with real baIIs..
I loved him fiercely but I didn't allow myself to cry for more than 2 days (non-stop).. u are a guy, and u have to move on, so be strong
Mope as little as possible, be indifferent don't hate, don't let urself get bitter - get better, and use ur current emotions to push u forward.. one day when u 2 meet under different circumstances, u will be somebody stronger, and when she looks at you with self-pitiful eyes you know she regrets letting u go.
Also check out the song "What Goes Around Comes Around" - by Justin Timberlake -
*Pat*
Its seems that you didn't read my signature which was there for two years. -
pat pat... I can sympathize with u. I'm still in my first relationship (hopefully it works out), and I'm really afraid that such things may happen one day.
Anyway
1) Did u do anything wrong that hurt her initially?
2) Call her out for a face to face talk?
3) Do u know the other guy? -
just find it a bit strange.Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):i still remember,
last time she bought a wind chime,and hang it outside window...
thn i also bought 1 and follow wat she did..
if my room wind chime ding dang dong tht's mean she's missing of me roght now..
so do how she tought..
she bought those sticky star and stick it on the Ceiling..
i also folow wat she did..
so we can look at those stars together...and chat over the phone...
but now... i think i going to repaint the wall.. and take down those star n the wind chime le...
i just cant control my emotions right now...
my tears will drop when evr i think of her, even typing right now...
but wat i get at the end is NOTHING! just HURT n PAIN!!
how come you seems to be following all her actions? -
1) you say she forgive you once, what did you do? That need her to forgive you?Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):yes i'm...
coz she once forgive me...
and i very hate her...
hate her with still loving her just no longer believe to....
2) I really do not understand this part, your gf and the guy she liked went out drinking and went to your house to rest? Where were you and how come they got the key to your house?
3) Do you think you might have scared her by some of your actions? -
dude....i think some of us experience such things before~ Break up.
*pat shoulder*
U cannot believe it, but its true. She had fallen for someone else.
But then, no point harping on why its happening to you, why you of all people, and why she must do this.
Its better, to give yourself some time, cool it, and trash things out with her with all your "why" questions.
Cool it...it will be over soon.. -
1,Originally posted by zeny:1) you say she forgive you once, what did you do? That need her to forgive you?
2) I really do not understand this part, your gf and the guy she liked went out drinking and went to your house to rest? Where were you and how come they got the key to your house?
3) Do you think you might have scared her by some of your actions?
she read my diary, n found out tht i'm trying to stead with another girl..
when i still study @ 2005.. but she read at 2007.
2,
i'm here in SG, my house at JB.
she staying there.
3,hmph... no i guess..
coz i didnt do anything... -
1,Originally posted by eagle:pat pat... I can sympathize with u. I'm still in my first relationship (hopefully it works out), and I'm really afraid that such things may happen one day.
Anyway
1) Did u do anything wrong that hurt her initially?
2) Call her out for a face to face talk?
3) Do u know the other guy?
no
2,
.....
3,
i knw whos d guy.but i dont knw him. -
Be a chauvanist just like me.Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):thy went to pub with a group frens.. drank some alcohol..and rest at my house..
she tell me,
just rest only..
hopefully.....
we are superior to them in everyway and above them -
So, you decided to move on?
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of all places to rest...YOUR PLACE?!
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me 2........its awfulOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:I understand how you feel. This feeling is horrible. -
when terms in chinese "heart ache" or "xim tianr" it reali does happen when some trys to control the flow of tears it cant result a minor cramp on ur "heart". i tik tis is wad TS has gone through. Btw my bro dun feel down let me cheer u up with a ture story.Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):i cried without tears... really..
When i was in the army i have this frd "J". He has a GF for like 7yrs or more..u knw its like those "since puppy love" type. LOL...i cant believe i telling this...This frd of mine u can say he is reincarnation of love cupid FULL OF LOVE.(which tat time we tik it dame cock) we go smoke he say GF, we bath he say GF ,we shitting he say GF, out field he say GF....aiya everywhere la...then there was one of our book out he was so dame happy that hes GF will be outside the gate waiting for him...LOL go to gate LP oso dun have ar. OK...story lia liao the following day when we booked in knn he nv book in...Guess wad tat cock did...(on the day of our book out day his GF broken off with him aft 7yrs) On the same night he bought a big bunch of 99 roses to the girl's house...went to the girls house keep pestering the girl and fcuking freaked the girl out...LOL that bytch called 999...then my frd ended up in the Bedok Police Station lock up. Thats y he couldn't book in...LOL
the shitest part is our OC and his parent go to bail him out....lol...sill nvm the girl is dame evil. She press charges on to "J" hell to him...when he knw abt that...i can imagine hes lik a cock at the center of a dark room then got lighting blinking...then he pulling his hair shouting "AN CHUAR A AR NI KUAN?!"(hokkien*Y the fuking i let tis shyt happen!?)LOL. Dude when he book in...LOL when who ever looks at him he wiil say "MAI MENG AR!!"(hokkien*Dun fcuking ask) i tik he more shittier then u my frd.
LOL ^%$# sway till like tat.
well bro u r still better then my frd...its jus another broken love of that day.cheers
feeling better...? -
the more u love, the more u hate... it's not whether u can love or not, it's whether u have found the ONE or not.
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hais
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*sayang*.
its never easy to handle a broken r/s.
u'll have our best consoles.
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mate .. seriously, forget about her. she's over you. The reason why u're feeling so much pain right now is because u have alot of memories together and you are used to life with her. The only way to forget her is to give up ALL hope that you will ever be together again. Trust me, u will be fine one day cos' TIME WILL HEAL ALL WOUNDS.Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):ok guys...
everything is fine now...
ytd i msg her.,
if u're inisist of breaking up with me, i'll just pls u to go and read ur baby diary and those letters.. though i hate to use the word BABY..
(coz the guy call her B.. i saw in her phone, and she put his sms in 1 folder name B)
and sorry. i guess i cannot control my emotions and i will start crying if mum ask abt you..
take care..
thn she reply,
i read the diary each word i read i cry..
after reading the dairy,i understand y i have the feeling with him tht's bcoz he's with me acc me when i feel lonely and u're not here.. i knw ive make u so Disappointed but pls dont desperation to me..
forgiv me...
and end.
thanks to those who keep pating me...
and those so supportive forumites with those Guidance.....
and by then, when u look back .. u'd realise how foolish u were for wanting to attempt suicide over someone who doesn't even care 2 hoots about u. -
and oh yes. Throw away all memories u have of her. By choosing to contact her further u r just showing her how weak you are, and it will just affirm her decision to leave u..
Sorry for being so frank. I've been in exactly the same position u are in now a couple of times so i know exactly how u feel. But i'm fine now.. and u will be too !!!
CONTEMPLATING SUICIDE IS FOR WEAKLINGS !!
if u wan to kill urself, pls think of not yourself, but the pple around u that will be affected by your rash decision...
cheers. -
Her england quite powderful hor? Couldn't make anything out at first...