1st: if the gal is not the rite one for the guy, y the guy is still holding on to the r/s?Originally posted by Daydreamzer:hihi all.... if a guy is in a long-term relationship with a girl, say almost 6 years, and yet no hint of getting a house nor concrete plans of getting married/ROM... does tat mean tat the guy is not really keen at all on marrying this gal? Though he gave her reasons that he is not financially stable to start up a family yet, could tat translate to mean this girl ain't the right one... who will help him in his career?
juz kinda wanna get a feel of wat guys tink cos this is one big question tat baffles me for a long long time... juz wanna know if i shd continue to stay in the relationship or leave him so tat he can find his right one soon, to start a family with and one to help him in his career??????
maybe he cant decide if im the right one for him... :-(Originally posted by Ferret:6 years oledy and he's still delaying ?
Gee. Move on.![]()
Originally posted by mystee:1st: if the gal is not the rite one for the guy, y the guy is still holding on to the r/s?
-- tat' one big question to ask...
2nd: is the guy's finance allow him to hold a wedding + house (include renovation, furniture, electrical appliances, etc)?
-- is marriage all abt money? then wat abt love?
aint marriage all about a lifelong promise to love and care for each other?
love is not abt money... but marriage is about money..Originally posted by Daydreamzer:
gd for uOriginally posted by mystee:love is not abt money... but marriage is about money..
think abt it in a positive way, he may want to provide u with a house, marry u with a decent wedding dinner, rent/give u a decent wedding gown.
marrying is not just about 2 persons, he has to think of ur family & his family.
traditional family will prefer wedding dinner & will cost quite a sum of money.
i m oso eager to get married, have to dating for 5 yr +, but i will wait till my bf & I have a stable finance.
I've been with my gf for 7 years. I am 25 coming 26 now. So maybe i can help explain.Originally posted by Daydreamzer:hihi all.... if a guy is in a long-term relationship with a girl, say almost 6 years, and yet no hint of getting a house nor concrete plans of getting married/ROM... does tat mean tat the guy is not really keen at all on marrying this gal? Though he gave her reasons that he is not financially stable to start up a family yet, could tat translate to mean this girl ain't the right one... who will help him in his career?
juz kinda wanna get a feel of wat guys tink cos this is one big question tat baffles me for a long long time... juz wanna know if i shd continue to stay in the relationship or leave him so tat he can find his right one soon, to start a family with and one to help him in his career??????
bullseyeOriginally posted by clueless007:men are creatures with pride, sometimes he juz wanna give u the best but he juz need more time... ...
true as it may seems.. if only i hv the time in the world to wait...Originally posted by mystee:love is not abt money... but marriage is about money..
think abt it in a positive way, he may want to provide u with a house, marry u with a decent wedding dinner, rent/give u a decent wedding gown.
marrying is not just about 2 persons, he has to think of ur family & his family.
traditional family will prefer wedding dinner & will cost quite a sum of money.
i m oso eager to get married, have to dating for 5 yr +, but i will wait till my bf & I have a stable finance.
sometimes we're ashamed to admit that we're not good enough to ask for the girl's hand yet.Originally posted by Daydreamzer:guess i probably have the ans in my heart... juz tat im lookg for third party opinion.... to substantiate the ans i already hv...
anyway, thanks for hearing me rant... to b frank... was quite anxious to know wat a guy feel... cos whenever i proach this subject to my bf, he tries to avoid the question... making me even sadder and helpless... clueless about the direction we're heading for...
just curious, how old are u? i think i m much older than u... but good thing are worthwhile to wait for..Originally posted by Daydreamzer:true as it may seems.. if only i hv the time in the world to wait...
if this is your personal problem.Originally posted by Daydreamzer:hihi all.... if a guy is in a long-term relationship with a girl, say almost 6 years, and yet no hint of getting a house nor concrete plans of getting married/ROM... does tat mean tat the guy is not really keen at all on marrying this gal? Though he gave her reasons that he is not financially stable to start up a family yet, could tat translate to mean this girl ain't the right one... who will help him in his career?
juz kinda wanna get a feel of wat guys tink cos this is one big question tat baffles me for a long long time... juz wanna know if i shd continue to stay in the relationship or leave him so tat he can find his right one soon, to start a family with and one to help him in his career??????
No.. he is not financially stable to start up a family does not mean "this girl ain't the right one"Originally posted by Daydreamzer:hihi all.... if a guy is in a long-term relationship with a girl, say almost 6 years, and yet no hint of getting a house nor concrete plans of getting married/ROM... does tat mean tat the guy is not really keen at all on marrying this gal? Though he gave her reasons that he is not financially stable to start up a family yet, could tat translate to mean this girl ain't the right one... who will help him in his career?
juz kinda wanna get a feel of wat guys tink cos this is one big question tat baffles me for a long long time... juz wanna know if i shd continue to stay in the relationship or leave him so tat he can find his right one soon, to start a family with and one to help him in his career??????
aint afraid to share my age... the big 3-0... perhaps it doesnt mean much to a guy.. but for a gal... the biological clock is one tat' acting against it.... sometimes i wonder selfishly... if it might be better for him to find a gal who's younger than me, and then he probably wont feel the time pressure as much...Originally posted by mystee:just curious, how old are u? i think i m much older than u... but good thing are worthwhile to wait for..
dont be so dishearted ya, i think u need a heart to heart talk with him, let him know how u feel & let him tell u how he feel.