http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 en-US 60 <p>Jitterbugs studio should be starting new Salsa Casino Rueda Classes again soon in September.<br /> <br /> Folks planning to take that, has to at least take on Salsa Basic classes first.<br /> <br /> So do consider basic classes now.</p> Sat, 30 Jun 2007 23:11:39 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6757265 viciouskitty74 http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>Why not for a start try preparing yourself first. E.g. improve your looks by dressing better? Getting a haircut? Going gym?<br /> <br /> Also err....try to excel in your career and earn more money. At least u are preparing yourself to be more attractive, and do things which you can control.</p> Sat, 30 Jun 2007 21:36:34 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6756587 sheri http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by tingal79:</div> <div class="quote_body">viciouskitty, I feel sad for you. <img title="Sad" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt= "Sad" /><br /> <br /> Take care, k?</div> </blockquote> <p>Thank you.<br /> <br /> Am fine.</p> Fri, 29 Jun 2007 12:48:08 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6749220 viciouskitty74 http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by pete_parker:</div> <div class="quote_body">thanx for the all replies, particularly mistyblue, jojobeach, Båseline &amp; ispyyy<br /> <br /> hey Eng_director, ur words rely reflect some of my heartfelt thoughts.. guess onli people who have been thru similar situation would understand that feelings..<br /> <br /> i understand what some of u are trying to tell me --- i should focus on things which is i can control, e.g. expanding my social life, taking up classes, concentrate on my career etc rather than dwelling on things which is outside my realm of control.<br /> <br /> I too would like to concentrate on school &amp; work..hmm... just that occasionally when the loneliness creeps up on me, like when i've having dinner alone when i see some lovey-dovey couple sitting opposite me, or how i'm dumbfound when people ask me about my plans for the coming weekends .. i'll sink into a depressive mode and ponder how did my life end up in this state? <img title="Sad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt="Sad" /><br /> <br /></div> </blockquote> <p>Well..Spiderman.. just enjoy singlehood lah...your yuan not here yet. My partner was once like you. Is better to choose the right one than to be someone you hard to break off later (glued to you hor), worse of all, control your social life. Just keep your eye open big big and catch the right one hor. Perseverance will give you results! Good luck!</p> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 19:36:04 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6745512 dreamykite http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>A man is most charming doing his own pursue of a better life and for the love of it.<br /> <br /> I doubt your ex will ever love you this way.<br /> <br /> There is someone better out there. Go for a better life!</p> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 18:21:26 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6745176 Eiizumi http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>viciouskitty, I feel sad for you. <img title="Sad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt="Sad" /><br /> <br /> Take care, k?</p> Thu, 28 Jun 2007 18:16:15 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6745171 tingal79 http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:</div> <div class="quote_body">"expanding ...social life, taking up classes....."</div> </blockquote> <p><img title="Mr. Green" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_mrgreen.gif" alt="Mr. Green" /> Try taking up salsa dancing.<br /> <br /> Its a nicely comfortable, non heavy impact sport activity.<br /> <br /> And you are going to be meeting a lot of people, professional young ladies especially if you join those dance classes in Shenton way/Town or Suntec Millenia Tower.<br /> <br /> NS or reservists should be able to get discounts for the classes.<br /> <br /> And your only investment is 2 hours a week, a deodarant &amp; preferably your normal office shoes and clothing. <img title= "Mr. Green" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_mrgreen.gif" alt= "Mr. Green" /></p> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 07:40:10 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6738269 viciouskitty74 http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by pete_parker:</div> <div class="quote_body">i understand --- i should focus on things which is i can control, e.g. expanding my social life, taking up classes.....<br /> <br /> .. i'll sink into a depressive mode and ponder how did my life end up in this state? <img title="Sad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt="Sad" /></div> </blockquote> <p>You seem to know exactly what you need to do. I don't understand why you "sink into a depressive mode and ponder "...<br /> <br /> You do not want to do the necessary: "expanding my social life, taking up classes....." so why the depression? It is not like you do not know what to do or you cannot do it.<br /> <br /> and what's with the pondering? no more pondering... you need to "expanding ...social life, taking up classes....."</p> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 06:17:24 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6738228 AndrewPKYap http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>Here...I throw in my story.<br /> <br /> Married, pregnant, travelled, acquired diplomas, divorced. And that was the most peaceful happy 5 years of my life. (Read on to know why)<br /> <br /> Buys over flat, putting myself into debt. Brings in mother to live with me so brother can go UK to study.<br /> <br /> Mother was a drama mama with a really biatchy temper. There was typically a once a month major drama at home everytime. (It was thankfully reduced to once ever 3 months after some avoiding to be at home kinda strategy by myself.)<br /> <br /> Discovered cancer, did some treatment, recovered, had a hit and run accident where I couldnt find a job for a year and half because I was limping. I was thankfully supported financially thru my Volunteer work.<br /> <br /> Brother is renagding on his promises to take care of mother after he gradutated. Mother is biatchy because she wants to live with her son. And me being the rejected lowly educated useless daughter with my small lousy 3 room flat is 'holding' her back.<br /> <br /> Had numerous boyfriends. Some are just nice kids that cant catch up with my activities.<br /> <br /> Kept myself as busy as ever to stay sane, getting vehicular licence, learning social &amp; latin dances, picking up certificates courses &amp; meeting new people thru the forum or thru friends of friends. Goes motorcycle touring &amp; is thankfully invited to USA to help cook &amp; mind the nephew &amp; neice.<br /> <br /> been here for 6 months and finally getting ready to face the world again.<br /> <br /></p> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 02:10:28 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6738011 viciouskitty74 http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <p>Originally posted by pete_parker:<br /> <strong>Ever since my previous relationship ended 4 years ago, my personal life all this while has been in a pathetic state of slump. Many times after work, I would feel that déjà vu sense of awful loneliness as most of my colleagues have someone to meet whilst I’ll just be heading home as usual. Sometimes I would bump into old classmates and see them happily shopping with their gf, whilst I would have to lie about meeting someone later when I’m actually just shopping alone. On weekends and special occasion like Xmas, everyone would have someone special to be with, everyone apart from me…<br /> <br /> I’ve been asking myself quite a few times – [b]just what’s wrong with my life or am I doing something wrong?</strong><br /> <br /> Sometimes I even ponder if I’ve been cursed or what?! It’s like these few years, I can’t seem improve the state of my relationship life, no matter what I do.<br /> Each time I see a gal I like, I would tell myself to give it a short – better to fail than regret not trying right. But for some inexplicable reasons, even after knowing each other for some time, she would never seem to call or sms me on her own. Even when I initiate contact, for example sms-ing her, the response is usually somewhat slow &amp; the reply short (like how u would treat someone u don’t rely care about).<br /> Whilst she does not detest me and we even meet up occasionally, I know I don’t mean much to that her. Unless I keep on contacting on my own, I would just gradually fade away from that person’s life.<br /> And this kind of scenario repeats itself continuously over all the different relationships i've tried to develop these few yrs.<br /> <br /> [/b]</p> </blockquote> <p>Hi peter parker,<br /> <br /> Here's wondering when the tides will turn.<br /></p> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 01:27:10 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6739063 jackdaniels http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <p>Originally posted by pete_parker:<br /> <strong>Ever since my previous relationship ended 4 years ago, my personal life all this while has been in a pathetic state of slump. Many times after work, I would feel that déjà vu sense of awful loneliness as most of my colleagues have someone to meet whilst I’ll just be heading home as usual. Sometimes I would bump into old classmates and see them happily shopping with their gf, whilst I would have to lie about meeting someone later when I’m actually just shopping alone. On weekends and special occasion like Xmas, everyone would have someone special to be with, everyone apart from me…<br /> <br /> I’ve been asking myself quite a few times – [b]just what’s wrong with my life or am I doing something wrong?</strong><br /> <br /> Sometimes I even ponder if I’ve been cursed or what?! It’s like these few years, I can’t seem improve the state of my relationship life, no matter what I do.<br /> Each time I see a gal I like, I would tell myself to give it a short – better to fail than regret not trying right. But for some inexplicable reasons, even after knowing each other for some time, she would never seem to call or sms me on her own. Even when I initiate contact, for example sms-ing her, the response is usually somewhat slow &amp; the reply short (like how u would treat someone u don’t rely care about).<br /> Whilst she does not detest me and we even meet up occasionally, I know I don’t mean much to that her. Unless I keep on contacting on my own, I would just gradually fade away from that person’s life.<br /> And this kind of scenario repeats itself continuously over all the different relationships i've tried to develop these few yrs.<br /> <br /> [/b]</p> </blockquote> <p>1) Why you break up?<br /> <br /> 2) is she your first ?<br /> <br /> 3) If not how many exs do you have before her?<br /> <br /> 4) did you sleep with her ?<br /> <br /> 5) what lesson do you learn from the breakup?</p> Wed, 27 Jun 2007 00:14:04 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6737548 zeny http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>thanx for the all replies, particularly mistyblue, jojobeach, Båseline &amp; ispyyy<br /> <br /></p> <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by EngAudListCo_Director:</div> <div class="quote_body">I understand that all the pursuit/acheivement of goals and dreams will not compensate for the loneliness/emptiness in your heart but at least these are the things that you have better control of. As some forumers might add, widening your social circles of frens is also another alternative. It can be done through taking up new courses or activities.<br /> <br /> All the best in your pursuit of your own happiness.</div> </blockquote> <p>hey Eng_director, ur words rely reflect some of my heartfelt thoughts.. guess onli people who have been thru similar situation would understand that feelings..<br /> <br /> i understand what some of u are trying to tell me --- i should focus on things which is i can control, e.g. expanding my social life, taking up classes, concentrate on my career etc rather than dwelling on things which is outside my realm of control.<br /> <br /> I too would like to concentrate on school &amp; work..hmm... just that occasionally when the loneliness creeps up on me, like when i've having dinner alone when i see some lovey-dovey couple sitting opposite me, or how i'm dumbfound when people ask me about my plans for the coming weekends .. i'll sink into a depressive mode and ponder how did my life end up in this state? <img title="Sad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt="Sad" /><br /> <br /></p> Tue, 26 Jun 2007 23:28:27 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6737292 pete_parker http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <p>Originally posted by pete_parker:<br /> <strong>Ever since my previous relationship ended 4 years ago, my personal life all this while has been in a pathetic state of slump. Many times after work, I would feel that déjà vu sense of awful loneliness as most of my colleagues have someone to meet whilst I’ll just be heading home as usual. Sometimes I would bump into old classmates and see them happily shopping with their gf, whilst I would have to lie about meeting someone later when I’m actually just shopping alone. On weekends and special occasion like Xmas, everyone would have someone special to be with, everyone apart from me…<br /> <br /> I’ve been asking myself quite a few times – [b]just what’s wrong with my life or am I doing something wrong?</strong><br /> <br /> Sometimes I even ponder if I’ve been cursed or what?! It’s like these few years, I can’t seem improve the state of my relationship life, no matter what I do.<br /> <strong>Each time I see a gal I like, I would tell myself to give it a short – better to fail than regret not trying right. But for some inexplicable reasons, even after knowing each other for some time, she would never seem to call or sms me on her own. Even when I initiate contact, for example sms-ing her, the response is usually somewhat slow &amp; the reply short (like how u would treat someone u don’t rely care about).<br /> Whilst she does not detest me and we even meet up occasionally, I know I don’t mean much to that her. Unless I keep on contacting on my own, I would just gradually fade away from that person’s life.<br /> And this kind of scenario repeats itself continuously over all the different relationships i've tried to develop these few yrs.</strong><br /> [/b]</p> </blockquote> <p>Improve yr quality of outing. Put in some effort on the outing to make it memorable and the gal will get hook on u! But go it slowly,don't first outing already give the gal a big surprise!</p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 23:14:46 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6710282 CannyOng http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p><span style="color: indigo;">dun you have any frens?</span></p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 23:02:40 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6710163 browniebaobao http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>You need to find yourself and be your own best friend. You need to do some serious soul searching there. Only when you've found yourself can you be comfortable with yourself even if you are entirely on your own. Alone but not lonely..... <img title="Wink" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_wink.gif" alt="Wink" /></p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 22:05:30 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6709574 <Precious> http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>people come, people go. <img title="Crying or Very sad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_cry.gif" alt= "Crying or Very sad" /></p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 22:02:42 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6709535 Ito_^ http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <p>Originally posted by pete_parker:<br /> <strong>Ever since my previous relationship ended 4 years ago, my personal life all this while has been in a pathetic state of slump. Many times after work, I would feel that déjà vu sense of awful loneliness as most of my colleagues have someone to meet whilst I’ll just be heading home as usual. Sometimes I would bump into old classmates and see them happily shopping with their gf, whilst I would have to lie about meeting someone later when I’m actually just shopping alone. On weekends and special occasion like Xmas, everyone would have someone special to be with, everyone apart from me…<br /> <br /> I’ve been asking myself quite a few times – [b]just what’s wrong with my life or am I doing something wrong?</strong><br /> <br /> Sometimes I even ponder if I’ve been cursed or what?! It’s like these few years, I can’t seem improve the state of my relationship life, no matter what I do.<br /> Each time I see a gal I like, I would tell myself to give it a short – better to fail than regret not trying right. But for some inexplicable reasons, even after knowing each other for some time, she would never seem to call or sms me on her own. Even when I initiate contact, for example sms-ing her, the response is usually somewhat slow &amp; the reply short (like how u would treat someone u don’t rely care about).<br /> Whilst she does not detest me and we even meet up occasionally, I know I don’t mean much to that her. Unless I keep on contacting on my own, I would just gradually fade away from that person’s life.<br /> And this kind of scenario repeats itself continuously over all the different relationships i've tried to develop these few yrs.<br /> <br /> [/b]</p> </blockquote> <p><img title="Arrow" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_arrow.gif" alt="Arrow" /> You create the kind of life you want it to be.<br /> <br /> Everyone is invited. Therefore, please come.<br /> <br /> <a href= "http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&amp;thread_id=261728" rel="nofollow">SGF Pool</a><br /> <br /> <a href= "http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&amp;thread_id=262526" rel="nofollow">SGF Wine Buffet</a><br /> <br /> Cheers</p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 21:55:17 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6709446 Yunhaier http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <p>Originally posted by pete_parker:<br /> <strong>Ever since my previous relationship ended 4 years ago, my personal life all this while has been in a pathetic state of slump. Many times after work, I would feel that déjà vu sense of awful loneliness as most of my colleagues have someone to meet whilst I’ll just be heading home as usual. Sometimes I would bump into old classmates and see them happily shopping with their gf, whilst I would have to lie about meeting someone later when I’m actually just shopping alone. On weekends and special occasion like Xmas, everyone would have someone special to be with, everyone apart from me…<br /> <br /> I’ve been asking myself quite a few times – [b]just what’s wrong with my life or am I doing something wrong?</strong><br /> <br /> Sometimes I even ponder if I’ve been cursed or what?! It’s like these few years, I can’t seem improve the state of my relationship life, no matter what I do.<br /> Each time I see a gal I like, I would tell myself to give it a short – better to fail than regret not trying right. But for some inexplicable reasons, even after knowing each other for some time, she would never seem to call or sms me on her own. Even when I initiate contact, for example sms-ing her, the response is usually somewhat slow &amp; the reply short (like how u would treat someone u don’t rely care about).<br /> Whilst she does not detest me and we even meet up occasionally, I know I don’t mean much to that her. Unless I keep on contacting on my own, I would just gradually fade away from that person’s life.<br /> And this kind of scenario repeats itself continuously over all the different relationships i've tried to develop these few yrs.<br /> <br /> [/b]</p> </blockquote> <p>I can fully understand your situation. Similarly, it has also been 4 years since my last relationship. I felt that is more of a release for me as my gf was insecure and eager to settle down that time. There was this joke that she cursed me, during the breakup, in front of me saying that no girl will ever love me and I guess it is very effective till now.... <img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /> <img title="Laughing" src="/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /><br /> Thereafter, I took up part-time studies (masters) and subsequently embark on a professsional course....partly to upgrade myself and and also to fully utilise my time. I can guess the breakup was a blessing in disguise at that moment because it enables me to do my masters.<br /> <br /> I can understand your loneliness because for me, aside the occassional outings with frens, I have to be at home to catch up with my studies. Worse is during weekends, one will see families having lunches and dinners and it does make one feel whether is it something wrong with oneself. Fortunately, my work is pretty stressful and I worked late so I would not have that feeling of going back on time and sulk at the prospect of not meeting my significant other.<br /> <br /> Just to tell you dun be. The most important thing I have been telling myself is to love yourself first. Dont fret over things that you have no control of, even though it concerns with the affairs of the heart.<br /> <br /> I am also not here to advise you to make tons of money and if a girl is seriously only interested in your money, even if she is married to you, she still can have an all gals clubbing evening and meeting with other guys (substance over form).<br /> <br /> The only thing you can do now is to make use of the time to do what you want to do or pursue. I have ex-coursemates lamenting to me that working full time, studying part-time and raising a young family is not easy.<br /> <br /> I understand that all the pursuit/acheivement of goals and dreams will not compensate for the loneliness/emptiness in your heart but at least these are the things that you have better control of. As some forumers might add, widening your social circles of frens is also another alternative. It can be done through taking up new courses or activities.<br /> <br /> All the best in your pursuit of your own happiness.</p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 13:10:19 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6706069 EngAudListCo_Director http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by ispyyy:</div> <div class="quote_body">there are many things to achieve in life other than love...<br /> <br /></div> </blockquote> <p>+2 <img title="Very Happy" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_biggrin.gif" alt= "Very Happy" /></p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 11:17:26 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6705419 MiX Metal http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by pete_parker:</div> <div class="quote_body">I’ve been asking myself quite a few times –just what’s wrong with my life or am I doing something wrong?<br /> Sometimes I even ponder if I’ve been cursed or what?! It’s like these few years, I can’t seem improve the state of my relationship life, no matter what I do.<br /></div> </blockquote> <p>No need to ponder... u r confirm cursed. Cursed by yr previous 4yrs relationship in yr point of view. A person who always look in the bright side will always bring happiness and joy to people around him but a person who always look in the dark side will always bring sorrow and sympathy to people around him. Whether u cursed or blessed, it depends on how u look at it.<br /> <br /> Well, whenever, I go for a wedding dinner, I will feel like what u feel... But however, whenever, my married friend chio me to go for gambling trip, I will lol deep inside my heart... Coz, they must be back home by 6pm ... <img title="Laughing" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_lol.gif" alt="Laughing" /><br /> And then, being <img title="Twisted Evil" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_twisted.gif" alt="Twisted Evil" /> , I always tempted them to continue to stay... &gt;&lt;<br /> Or sometimes, <img title="Twisted Evil" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_twisted.gif" alt="Twisted Evil" /> when they r gambling, I will bring out their going to be born baby topic to remind them and stress them... &gt;&lt;<br /> I sounds evil ,rite???<br /> Actually, it is not that bad lah... Depends on how u look at it and also u need to have a wider social life... U will find tat there are actually many many guys that share the same fate as u ... In SGforum, already have many liao... :p<br /> <br /> For me, there are many things to achieve in life other than love...<br /> <br /></p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 10:52:05 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6705190 ispyyy http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:</div> <div class="quote_body">Agree fully abt wad u say. Even if u v ugly like Wiliam Hung, as long as u are rich, there will be alot ger who like u. But.. If u are vv handsome but poor.. No1 would like u.. Unless some ger wana booked u lo.. Money give gers the first impression <img title="Evil or Very Mad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_evil.gif" alt= "Evil or Very Mad" /></div> </blockquote> <p>Yes when u're rich there will be alot of girls around you. But ........ whats their reason with you ?? Do they really love you for who and what you are or are they simply just after what you have in your bank a/c ?? Whats even sadder than not having a g/f. Having a g/f that don't loves you at all....... <img title="Sad" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_sad.gif" alt="Sad" /></p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 10:50:50 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6705177 MiX Metal http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by pete_parker:</div> <div class="quote_body">And this kind of scenario repeats itself continuously over all the different relationships i've tried to develop these few yrs.</div> </blockquote> <p>until you meet the right one, so don't give up....</p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 10:26:03 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6704993 AndrewPKYap http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by pete_parker:</div> <div class="quote_body">Ever since my previous relationship ended 4 years ago, my personal life all this while has been in a pathetic state of slump. Many times after work, I would feel that déjà vu sense of awful loneliness as most of my colleagues have someone to meet whilst I’ll just be heading home as usual. Sometimes I would bump into old classmates and see them happily shopping with their gf, whilst I would have to lie about meeting someone later when I’m actually just shopping alone. On weekends and special occasion like Xmas, everyone would have someone special to be with, everyone apart from me…<br /> <br /> I’ve been asking myself quite a few times – just what’s wrong with my life or am I doing something wrong?<br /> <br /> Sometimes I even ponder if I’ve been cursed or what?! It’s like these few years, I can’t seem improve the state of my relationship life, no matter what I do.<br /> Each time I see a gal I like, I would tell myself to give it a short – better to fail than regret not trying right. But for some inexplicable reasons, even after knowing each other for some time, she would never seem to call or sms me on her own. Even when I initiate contact, for example sms-ing her, the response is usually somewhat slow &amp; the reply short (like how u would treat someone u don’t rely care about).<br /> Whilst she does not detest me and we even meet up occasionally, I know I don’t mean much to that her. Unless I keep on contacting on my own, I would just gradually fade away from that person’s life.<br /> And this kind of scenario repeats itself continuously over all the different relationships i've tried to develop these few yrs.<br /> <br /></div> </blockquote> <p>May I ask what is/are your goal/s in life? What do you want to do?</p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 10:23:56 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6705050 Bontakun http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <p>awww.......pat pat, ain't that bad.....u haven't met ur mate yet so dun feel so sad......cheer up <img title="Wink" src= "/images/emoticons/classic/icon_wink.gif" alt="Wink" /></p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 09:59:39 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6704823 de_middle http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442 <blockquote> <div class="quote_from">Originally posted by Båseline:</div> <div class="quote_body">Got to hang out with friends than to stay alone at home and drown at ya own 'sorrows'.<br /> <br /> Hang out with quality and not quantity friends that really listens to you and to those who are likely to bring positive vibes ard the circle.<br /> <br /> If you feel for the decent amt of time she isn't someone u feel connected with... or vice versa... u can't force the unwilling dun u? After all, it takes 2 hands to... *clap clap*<br /> <br /> Now, another reason why going out often with friends is good cos there's a chance u'll widen ur social circle. Friends introduce u to another friend and hey... there might be someone u may be of intrest to u.</div> </blockquote> <p>This one makes plenty of sense.</p> Thu, 21 Jun 2007 08:34:23 +0800 sgforums.com:12:262442:6704408 Devil1976 http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/262442