My EX bday is near... how do i win her back??
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Any advise??
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Spend money on a new date bah. Why waste money on old love who doesn't have feelings for you anymore?
But if you really intend to win her back, just show your sincerity and change your bad habits that piss her off or change for better for her to accept you. -
Sorry Dude, I've to agree with Michelle. Move on man, don't be a wussy!
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I know wat u mean, but i have sunken too deep plus the reason given by her was jz too unacceptable
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Dun spoil her birthday.
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Originally posted by Patrik:Dun spoil her birthday.
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since she gave unreasonable reason to break up with u...means she got no feelings/interest in this r/s liao....why still clings on it???let go and move on.
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Win her back? You take her as a trophy har?Originally posted by lostlostlost:I know wat u mean, but i have sunken too deep plus the reason given by her was jz too unacceptable
Sunken too deep? You have not been to the deep see and sink in there yet!
Her reason for breaking up is unreasonable? Dood, she wants a break up, what reason given is nothing compared to the intent of wanting to break up in the first place.
Pardon my "aggressive" comments to you but you really need a check to yourself and to her. By trying to 'win' her back, you are being unfair to yourself and to her. You two ought to have personal space to clear your minds and think clearly.
If you are still adamant on 'winning' her back, then go ahead. I can only say, you are selfish. You DO NOT LOVE her. For your own sake, you want her back. For your own sake you refuse to take a deep breath and take a step back. For YOUR OWN sake, you cannot truely enjoy the REAL meaning of love.
*Guys, I stand CORRECTED by what ORIGAMIST has commented. I thank this friend for letting me see something that I left out.
lostx3, take a break. Find what you wanted to do so much when you could not do while you were attached that time. Life is long and you have many things to learn and share with other people should one such day comes.
Beers!
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At this point, it is hard to give up. But why hang on to something that have no interest in you anymore. Now maybe she is everything to you. But a few more years later, you may find yourself being stupid trying to hang on to something that is not yours.. If you truely loves her, let her go. If she ever comes back, she is yours. If not, she never was .. Go find someone who will come back to you. Don't waste your time... life goes on, dude...
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You are right in that he is selfish for all the reasons you had written here. However, when it come to love affair, not everyone can think so clearly as you had demostrated. Hit him hard I agree so he can wake up but please do not condemn him until he had proven to be condemned, if you know what I mean.. lostlostlost - there are so many here asking you to give up and find a new life, be thankful that they care to share .. wake up and find your next dream .. life don't end there ..Originally posted by Bontakun:Win her back? You take her as a trophy har?
Sunken too deep? You have not been to the deep see and sink in there yet!
Her reason for breaking up is unreasonable? Dood, she wants a break up, what reason given is nothing compared to the intent of wanting to break up in the first place.
Pardon my "aggressive" comments to you but you really need a check to yourself and to her. By trying to 'win' her back, you are being unfair to yourself and to her. You two ought to have personal space to clear your minds and think clearly.
If you are still adamant on 'winning' her back, then go ahead. I can only say, you are selfish. You DO NOT LOVE her. For your own sake, you want her back. For your own sake you refuse to take a deep breath and take a step back. For YOUR OWN sake, you cannot truely enjoy the REAL meaning of love.
*Guys, I am sorry but I really cannot help but condemn his actions for trying to 'win' her back. This is detrimental to the point whereby he is LOUSY in boy-gal-relationship. Its my view but I really cannot help it. -
Thx Bontakun
u really snap me back up
no doubt what u said was harsh
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hmm...wat did origamist say ah
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sorry, very deep har .. I am not know to write deep thing lor .. so maybe you want to let me know which part you don't understand ?Originally posted by DC+:hmm...wat did origamist say ah
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jus curious did bonta mean sth u wrote sum other threads? or in this thread..cos bonta posted b4 u maOriginally posted by ORIGAMIST:sorry, very deep har .. I am not know to write deep thing lor .. so maybe you want to let me know which part you don't understand ? -
in this tread, bonta and i are just a minute different .. maybe great man think alike .. anyway, the thing is we are trying to help a lost soul, that's all .. the poor fellow admit bonta did wake him up .. I wish him well ..Originally posted by DC+:jus curious did bonta mean sth u wrote sum other threads? or in this thread..cos bonta posted b4 u ma
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>___>Originally posted by ORIGAMIST:in this tread, bonta and i are just a minute different .. maybe great man think alike .. anyway, the thing is we are trying to help a lost soul, that's all .. the poor fellow admit bonta did wake him up .. I wish him well ..
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orh, lidat ah -
Why did you even break in the first place?Originally posted by lostlostlost:Any advise??
Cheers -
get a lifeOriginally posted by lostlostlost:Any advise?? -
For the 1st 2yrs we chat over everythingOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Why did you even break in the first place?
Cheers
But since this yr started only she spoke of her problem @ work, but i kept mine to myslf
We had lesser topic to talk abt over time
Then she proposed to breakup -
Hmm... Maybe not enough communications on both sides... In any case, do update yourself when you realised you have calmed down more than ever.Originally posted by lostlostlost:For the 1st 2yrs we chat over everything
But since this yr started only she spoke of her problem @ work, but i kept mine to myslf
We had lesser topic to talk abt over time
Then she proposed to breakup
(PS: DC+ & ORIGAMIST, I like you guys! You two addressed my nickname CORRECTLY on the first try! Not like some other guys...... 
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Thanks, but I copied DC ...Originally posted by Bontakun:Hmm... Maybe not enough communications on both sides... In any case, do update yourself when you realised you have calmed down more than ever.
(PS: DC+ & ORIGAMIST, I like you guys! You two addressed my nickname CORRECTLY on the first try! Not like some other guys...... ) -
Love is something very...unpredicatable, even if someone managed to do a detailed analysis on the subject based on his experience and knowledge, things may happen very differently.
Things are always different with love because it involves people of different personality so one must not assume, only except taking the stand of being optimistic or being pessimistic.
My ex, well, she wanted a break up because we had a serious quarrel and she treated me like dirt when i tried to do something to salvage the relationship, i thought it was the end but however, a perculiar thing happen, when we started to talk again like after 3 months, she dropped hints that she still like me and wanted to be together again. Therefore if you want to court your ex back ( win is not a good word ), decide whether if you still love her.
If yes, go do what you need to do, if everything fails, just leave it, don't cling on to failures. Things you do now can really affect you in the future so try to reduce regrets.
I believed that being optimistic is a good thing but overly optimistic is bad so exercise some thoughts before doing. Always expect the unexpected!
be a man, do the right thing. I'm sure no one want to have regrets so do what you need to do and leave before any harm is done, be truthful to yourself. -
u want to be with her ??? There are two ways...
1) U wait for her to come back n find u... She wait for u to come back n find her... Then, like waiting for toto to strike or like korea drama, both of u coincidently met each other in the public place ---> Provided she dont purposely hide from u when she saw u ... >< ... think I no need to tell u wat to do lah... if u dont noe, go and watch korean drama ><
2) Either the girl or the boy take the initiative. When a couple break up ,their mind will subconsciously cast a protective shield to prevent theirself from another emotion upset. And thus, they will be protective especially to their ex... If u want to have yr ex back, u need to strip their protective layer one by one without alarming yr ex... And thus u need to :
i) U must have a lvl of understanding on yr ex
ii) U cannot rush things or scare yr ex while trying to strip the protective layer...
And many many things to do ... Might as well find a new girl better...
Anyway, it is a bad idea to date yr ex on her birthday... U will scare her... -
The more a reason is unacceptable, the more you should try to win her back.Originally posted by lostlostlost:i have sunken too deep plus the reason given by her was jz too unacceptable
Right?
Wrong.
It's the other way around. Think about it and you will understand what I mean. -
communication is v impt.Originally posted by lostlostlost:For the 1st 2yrs we chat over everything
But since this yr started only she spoke of her problem @ work, but i kept mine to myslf
We had lesser topic to talk abt over time
Then she proposed to breakup