Feeling rejected

• Scania N113CRB luver

  28 Jun 07, 00:58

  Hello guys . I had this feeling ever since i enter sec sch .
  
  Sometimes on msn , when i gave the wrong answer to plp , or talk about a joke but they dont get it , ad they replied with the sentence " Fk u lah ! Talk crap for what? Knn..." I get hurt seriously .
  
  Then on sgforums , when my post's info is wrong , instead of correcting me , they flamed me saying "I make myself stupid by posting stupid comments. Stop posting such wrong infos in the future so that you wont look so retarded . "
  
  Also , when talking face to face with someone , and that person just ignored me and even says "Eh fk off leh , u damm bloody irritating u noe?" when thats the only time i spoke to him for the day , i would get seriously hurt too .
  
  Am i having low self esteem ? Or what? Pls help..
• gobez14

  28 Jun 07, 00:59

  dun worry i hugg euuu
  
  /gobey hugs
• MichelleTan

  28 Jun 07, 01:00

  Wow, no need to feel rejected just because I don't give you my Friendster mah.
  
  
• FBI

  28 Jun 07, 01:01

  Originally posted by MichelleTan:

  Wow, no need to feel rejected just because I don't give you my Friendster mah.
  
  

  hahahaha
• Scania N113CRB luver

  28 Jun 07, 01:05

  Originally posted by MichelleTan:

  Wow, no need to feel rejected just because I don't give you my Friendster mah.
  
  

  erh.....i didnt mean u....hehe...oppsy ! ..
• KrU

  28 Jun 07, 07:06

  It's just a sort of expression of words. Don't take it to heart.
• AndrewPKYap

  28 Jun 07, 07:59

  Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:

  Hello guys . I had this feeling ever since i enter sec sch .
  
  Sometimes on msn , when i gave the wrong answer to plp , or talk about a joke but they dont get it , ad they replied with the sentence " Fk u lah ! Talk crap for what? Knn..." I get hurt seriously .
  
  Then on sgforums , when my post's info is wrong , instead of correcting me , they flamed me saying "I make myself stupid by posting stupid comments. Stop posting such wrong infos in the future so that you wont look so retarded . "
  
  Also , when talking face to face with someone , and that person just ignored me and even says "Eh fk off leh , u damm bloody irritating u noe?" when thats the only time i spoke to him for the day , i would get seriously hurt too .
  
  Am i having low self esteem ? Or what? Pls help..

  I won't say that it is due to "low self esteem". "Low self esteem"would be when you are obviously right but you feel bad when people criticise you and they are wrong.
  
  As it is, in your post, you admit to "i gave the wrong answer" and " my post's info is wrong" ....
  
  It is only right if you feel bad!
  
  If you feel "very bad" or "bad excessively" then it is an attitude problem.
• dreamykite

  28 Jun 07, 08:12

  People are kind of rude lah..dont care about them. Dont think this is low self esteem.
• relax_crown

  28 Jun 07, 08:49

  Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:

  Hello guys . I had this feeling ever since i enter sec sch .
  
  Sometimes on msn , when i gave the wrong answer to plp , or talk about a joke but they dont get it , ad they replied with the sentence " Fk u lah ! Talk crap for what? Knn..." I get hurt seriously .
  
  Then on sgforums , when my post's info is wrong , instead of correcting me , they flamed me saying "I make myself stupid by posting stupid comments. Stop posting such wrong infos in the future so that you wont look so retarded . "
  
  Also , when talking face to face with someone , and that person just ignored me and even says "Eh fk off leh , u damm bloody irritating u noe?" when thats the only time i spoke to him for the day , i would get seriously hurt too .
  
  Am i having low self esteem ? Or what? Pls help..

  surely you will fell hurt it ppl scold you mah..... i got kanna a few times ppl scold you just for fun without reason 1... hack care la and enjoy life...
  
  
• de_middle

  28 Jun 07, 10:03

  Originally posted by MichelleTan:

  Wow, no need to feel rejected just because I don't give you my Friendster mah.
  
  

  
• kiss_my (_i_)

  28 Jun 07, 10:52

  ehh fcuk off la! so small little thing also post here
  
  slap u ar
• choco B

  28 Jun 07, 11:03

  When your friends say this, sometimes they don't mean to insult you, it's just a manner of speech, so don't take it too personally.
  
  As for this forum, well you'd be crazy to take what goes on here seriously.
  
  Also, try to grow thicker skin.
  

  Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:

  Sometimes on msn , when i gave the wrong answer to plp , or talk about a joke but they dont get it , ad they replied with the sentence " Fk u lah ! Talk crap for what? Knn..." I get hurt seriously .

• Bontakun

  28 Jun 07, 11:04

  Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:

  Hello guys . I had this feeling ever since i enter sec sch .
  
  Sometimes on msn , when i gave the wrong answer to plp , or talk about a joke but they dont get it , ad they replied with the sentence " Fk u lah ! Talk crap for what? Knn..." I get hurt seriously .
  
  Then on sgforums , when my post's info is wrong , instead of correcting me , they flamed me saying "I make myself stupid by posting stupid comments. Stop posting such wrong infos in the future so that you wont look so retarded . "
  
  Also , when talking face to face with someone , and that person just ignored me and even says "Eh fk off leh , u damm bloody irritating u noe?" when thats the only time i spoke to him for the day , i would get seriously hurt too .
  
  Am i having low self esteem ? Or what? Pls help..

  Why don't you tell them STRAIGHT in the face how you feel when they remark that way? Seriously, you can do your best to accommodate these people but you are getting hurt.
  
  Below is my view and should be treated as such as I put your situation into my mine and how I deal with it.
  
  A friendship grows stronger if both parties are willing to help one another and share many things. NOT 1 sided. Not superficial. What I see from your comments is that your friends are at the superficial stage. You want to get closer to them, let them know your feelings. They think you are like a crybaby or sissy or ku niang or not man or anything that rebute you instead of UNDERSTANDING you, DUMP them.
  
  These friends do not know the value of friendship. And you are still not strong or mature enough to handle such situations without affection your emotions at the time.
  
  Ok, end of my view.
  
  Be strong. Learn from all these and seek guidance & opinions from more mature people on how to handle such situations and how they deal with it.
• chin36

  28 Jun 07, 13:26

  This is part of growing up, you need to improve on your thinking and communication skills. If you are not so good at these, listen more and seek improvements.
• ispyyy

  28 Jun 07, 14:31

  Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:

  Hello guys . I had this feeling ever since i enter sec sch .
  Am i having low self esteem ? Or what? Pls help..

  Low self esteem??? hmmm... maybe... but first of all, need to get yr this feeling correct... do u wonder y people can crack jokes and every1 laugh but when u crack and every1 ignore? do u wonder y some people ignore u while they treat other people better?
  
  if that is the feeling, then, below is probably the advice :
  U need to learn to be natural... to be yr ownself---> Another words behave upon yr own personality... Let people understand yr personality...
  For example :
  In SGforum bar, do u expect people to talk sense ?
  In SGforum chit chat, do u expect all people to be serious ?
  In SGforum AA, do u expect the TS to joking ?
  Each different topic has a different characteristics and agenda. And we, SGFers noe these and usually tend to reply differently depends on topics...
  Similarly :
  If he is a joker type... when he speaks, every1's mind will switch to joking mode... if a person is a serious type... when he speaks, every1's mind will switch to serious mode... if a person is talk crap type... when he speaks, every1 will reply crap...
  As u experience more, u will be able to switch many different kinds of personalities... But the more different kinds of personalities that u can switch, the more lonely u will become... ><
  Anyway, for a head start, learn to do things that u enjoy... Let people understand u but dont let people confuse on yr personality...
  
• Saint`

  28 Jun 07, 20:50

  Hmm .. i have a friend who always seemed to be out of the place whenever we hav a conversation . Sometimes he jus crack lame jokes or jus simply moment abt something that has no link to the topic . Of cos the grp of us simply didnt really like him .
  
  What i m tryin to illustrate is , prehaps ur personality don suit the grp u r in. U r tryin to suit urself to the grp . Hwever hard u try , the more awkward it seemed , resulting in adverse effects .
  
  Of cos i m as guilty as ur frens , i used to tell my tat fren off in a rude way . It was immature n uncall for . As time goes i tend to reflect on my actions towards him , n try to tone down n accept who he is even though he is still weird in his own ways .
  
  I cant offer u a solution , mayb u can start reflecting why r u being treated as such . I m sure no one deserves such treatment . If u can , prehaps talk to ur frens nicely telling them u r hurt. Usually its the communication problems .
• Darkness_hacker99

  28 Jun 07, 20:56

  /duckie hug bus..
  
  Cheer up k?
• SingaporeMacross

  29 Jun 07, 00:41

  ignore them lah.
• gigabyte14

  29 Jun 07, 01:00

  Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:

  Hello guys . I had this feeling ever since i enter sec sch .
  
  Sometimes on msn , when i gave the wrong answer to plp , or talk about a joke but they dont get it , ad they replied with the sentence " Fk u lah ! Talk crap for what? Knn..." I get hurt seriously .
  
  Then on sgforums , when my post's info is wrong , instead of correcting me , they flamed me saying "I make myself stupid by posting stupid comments. Stop posting such wrong infos in the future so that you wont look so retarded . "
  
  Also , when talking face to face with someone , and that person just ignored me and even says "Eh fk off leh , u damm bloody irritating u noe?" when thats the only time i spoke to him for the day , i would get seriously hurt too .
  
  Am i having low self esteem ? Or what? Pls help..

  handle situations with a smile.
  
  and did i hurt you?
  
  i don't really remember flaming you.
• Cool-gal

  29 Jun 07, 01:02

  Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:
  Hello guys . I had this feeling ever since i enter sec sch .
  
  Sometimes on msn , when i gave the wrong answer to plp , or talk about a joke but they dont get it , ad they replied with the sentence " Fk u lah ! Talk crap for what? Knn..." I get hurt seriously .
  
  Also , when talking face to face with someone , and that person just ignored me and even says "Eh fk off leh , u damm bloody irritating u noe?" when thats the only time i spoke to him for the day , i would get seriously hurt too .
  
  Am i having low self esteem ? Or what? Pls help..

  dun have to give a damn if ple ever said tat to u, as they dun even worth a passerby in ur life.
  *pat*
  bullies suck!!
• gigabyte14

  29 Jun 07, 01:02

  Originally posted by MichelleTan:

  Wow, no need to feel rejected just because I don't give you my Friendster mah.
  
  

  add me osos
• Y_Shun

  29 Jun 07, 08:05

  for the forum one, its like this???? i also kana before what
  
  i know which forum you are talking about
  
  didn't you see me not posting any more things there? later people just flame you because wrong info, or your wrong thinking.
  
  so if thats the case, might as well don't post.
• MrSotong

  29 Jun 07, 15:49

  Ello,
  
  Err ... remember NOBODY in this Earth will be happy for life ! Sometimes in life they may feel sad , depress etc .. Feeling rejected is an "imaginary" feeling from you.
  
  Feel as if : You deserve the best in your life because life is short , treasure it
  
  Good luck ,
  sotong
  
• Fire Star

  29 Jun 07, 21:22

  Good, you are a down to earth person, no matter what, we all should behave always for the better ourselves, and look straight and face life bravely.
• Scania N113CRB luver

  30 Jun 07, 00:09

  Originally posted by gigabyte14:

  handle situations with a smile.
  
  and did i hurt you?
  
  i don't really remember flaming you.

  You didnt i think .
  
  But mostly are those bus fans seniors who flames us as juniors .
  
  But now then i realize that in real life , they aren't like that . They took advantage of the forum and flamed plp for fun .