Why do girls not understand guys' needs?
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I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.
For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.
It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.
What's the best step forward now? -
erm, ur in a R/S but u cannot sit near her
maybe u wanna start looking elsewhere
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Get her drunk
But seriously, she may just not be ready for more things. Some things must be gradual. You would not know whether she had any previous bad encounters with relationships. -
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Is she shy?
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You'all got hold hands?
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Hmm, she has already agreed to be your gf right? As in both of you are officially a couple? Not just those ai mei type?Originally posted by poo-see-boi:I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.
For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.
It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.
What's the best step forward now?
Is she a very shy girl in nature? And how old are the two of you? -
She's not the girl for you.
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how old are u
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dont pop his bubble, by being so directOriginally posted by Xiaozzhen:She's not the girl for you. -
hmm... last time my ex we all always huggy huggy. but when i want to finger her she push my hand away. does it say the same thing?
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Same to meOriginally posted by newcomer:hmm... last time my ex we all always huggy huggy. but when i want to finger her she push my hand away.
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u wrong man..Originally posted by Xiaozzhen:She's not the girl for you.
should be,
u're not the man for her -
aiyah, dun touch den dun touch lo.
u love her or u love to touch her?
*dun flame me* -
i love her to be touch by meOriginally posted by hiphop2009:aiyah, dun touch den dun touch lo.
u love her or u love to touch her?
*dun flame me* -
lol... what is yr so call "guy's need" ??? ><Originally posted by poo-see-boi:I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.
u do not seem to understand her needs too ><
For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.
Relationship not that bad lah
It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.
What's the best step forward now?
Yr guy's need may make u look like a wolf than a huggable cute bear
ok lah... no more pour cold water...
It takes time for one to break down the protection wall of a girl...
Not only time, u need to show natural (care, passionate, loving) towards her... TV drama got show wat... like walking in the rain under an umbella, Giving yr clothes to her when she feel cold and blah blah... Those things that appear in TV where it gives cold chill to yr spine... YEAH... u have to do those things naturally... YEAH.... THOSE THINGS THAT APPEAR IN TV SERIES WHERE IT GIVES COLD CHILL TO YR SPINE... lol
Still need to teach meh ... Watch more korean show lah... -
its like that one..
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watch too much tv?Originally posted by ispyyy:lol... what is yr so call "guy's need" ??? ><
Yr guy's need may make u look like a wolf than a huggable cute bear
ok lah... no more pour cold water...
It takes time for one to break down the protection wall of a girl...
Not only time, u need to show natural (care, passionate, loving) towards her... TV drama got show wat... like walking in the rain under an umbella, Giving yr clothes to her when she feel cold and blah blah... Those things that appear in TV where it gives cold chill to yr spine... YEAH... u have to do those things naturally... YEAH.... THOSE THINGS THAT APPEAR IN TV SERIES WHERE IT GIVES COLD CHILL TO YR SPINE... lol
Still need to teach meh ... Watch more korean show lah...
aiyah, just give time. we guys sometimes shld also brush away our "needs". care more for her... -
Talk to her la... Voice out your "concerns", say you're unhappy blah blah... If break dun come blame me...
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u dont noe meh ??? TV is one of the culprit that gives more work for guysOriginally posted by hiphop2009:watch too much tv?
aiyah, just give time. we guys sometimes shld also brush away our "needs". care more for her... -
aiya. she juz feel awkward i tinkOriginally posted by poo-see-boi:I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.
For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.
It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.
What's the best step forward now?
but den, r u in bgr or not? being her gd fren dont mean she's yr gf leh. -
aiyah, TS, a relationship has so much fun rather den wanting to just hug her or wad. u all can do many other things.
look at the other side... -
I don't think it is wise to ignore, downplay physical intimacy incompatibility.Originally posted by poo-see-boi:I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.
For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.
It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.
What's the best step forward now?
There is a chance that she might become a wild animal when you are married... but you have to decide if you want to take that risk... -
Erm, that's not really a thing to say to TS.... If his profile is correct, he's at most 17 yrs old...Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:There is a chance that she might become a wild animal when you are married... but you have to decide if you want to take that risk... -
Aye, it seems that the problem you have with her is contact issues. Does she not appreciate your gestures, or do you not appreciate her appreciation? (You get the idea.)Originally posted by poo-see-boi:I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.
For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.
It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.
What's the best step forward now?
You yourself said that everything else is fine, so other than not being to touch her, you still send each other mushy smses, say mushy stuff, do little stuff for each other?
Some little details that could help us help you:
How old are the two of you?
How long have you two been together?
Has she ever been attached before?
Has she had any prior bad experience?
Do let us know~