I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.

For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.

It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.

What's the best step forward now?

erm, ur in a R/S but u cannot sit near her

maybe u wanna start looking elsewhere

Get her drunk

But seriously, she may just not be ready for more things. Some things must be gradual. You would not know whether she had any previous bad encounters with relationships.

blahblahblahblahblah

Is she shy?

You'all got hold hands?

Originally posted by poo-see-boi:

I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.

For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.

It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.

What's the best step forward now?

Hmm, she has already agreed to be your gf right? As in both of you are officially a couple? Not just those ai mei type?

Is she a very shy girl in nature? And how old are the two of you?

She's not the girl for you.

how old are u

Originally posted by Xiaozzhen:

She's not the girl for you.

dont pop his bubble, by being so direct

hmm… last time my ex we all always huggy huggy. but when i want to finger her she push my hand away. does it say the same thing?

Originally posted by newcomer:

hmm... last time my ex we all always huggy huggy. but when i want to finger her she push my hand away.

Same to me

Originally posted by Xiaozzhen:

She's not the girl for you.

u wrong man..

should be,

u're not the man for her

aiyah, dun touch den dun touch lo.

u love her or u love to touch her?

*dun flame me*

Originally posted by hiphop2009:

aiyah, dun touch den dun touch lo.

u love her or u love to touch her?

*dun flame me*

i love her to be touch by me

Originally posted by poo-see-boi:

I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.


u do not seem to understand her needs too ><

For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.


Relationship not that bad lah

It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.

What's the best step forward now?

lol... what is yr so call "guy's need" ??? ><
Yr guy's need may make u look like a wolf than a huggable cute bear
ok lah... no more pour cold water...
It takes time for one to break down the protection wall of a girl...
Not only time, u need to show natural (care, passionate, loving) towards her... TV drama got show wat... like walking in the rain under an umbella, Giving yr clothes to her when she feel cold and blah blah... Those things that appear in TV where it gives cold chill to yr spine... YEAH... u have to do those things naturally... YEAH.... THOSE THINGS THAT APPEAR IN TV SERIES WHERE IT GIVES COLD CHILL TO YR SPINE... lol

Still need to teach meh ... Watch more korean show lah...

its like that one..

Originally posted by ispyyy:

lol... what is yr so call "guy's need" ??? ><
Yr guy's need may make u look like a wolf than a huggable cute bear
ok lah... no more pour cold water...
It takes time for one to break down the protection wall of a girl...
Not only time, u need to show natural (care, passionate, loving) towards her... TV drama got show wat... like walking in the rain under an umbella, Giving yr clothes to her when she feel cold and blah blah... Those things that appear in TV where it gives cold chill to yr spine... YEAH... u have to do those things naturally... YEAH.... THOSE THINGS THAT APPEAR IN TV SERIES WHERE IT GIVES COLD CHILL TO YR SPINE... lol

Still need to teach meh ... Watch more korean show lah...

watch too much tv?

aiyah, just give time. we guys sometimes shld also brush away our "needs". care more for her...

Talk to her la... Voice out your "concerns", say you're unhappy blah blah... If break dun come blame me...

Originally posted by hiphop2009:

watch too much tv?

aiyah, just give time. we guys sometimes shld also brush away our "needs". care more for her...

u dont noe meh ??? TV is one of the culprit that gives more work for guys

Originally posted by poo-see-boi:

I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.

For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.

It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.

What's the best step forward now?

aiya. she juz feel awkward i tink

but den, r u in bgr or not? being her gd fren dont mean she's yr gf leh.

aiyah, TS, a relationship has so much fun rather den wanting to just hug her or wad. u all can do many other things.

look at the other side...

Originally posted by poo-see-boi:

I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.

For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.

It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.

What's the best step forward now?

I don't think it is wise to ignore, downplay physical intimacy incompatibility.

There is a chance that she might become a wild animal when you are married... but you have to decide if you want to take that risk...

Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:

There is a chance that she might become a wild animal when you are married... but you have to decide if you want to take that risk...

Erm, that's not really a thing to say to TS.... If his profile is correct, he's at most 17 yrs old...

Originally posted by poo-see-boi:

I am, to say the least, disappointed. After all these months of being there for her, going out of my way to help her, showing her concern, always lending a listening ear,... she doesn't seem to appreciate it.

For example, when I put my hand on her shoulder, she squirms. Or when I sit close to her, she keeps and inch. This is disturbing, as these subtle hints seem to say that she doesn't trust me? If that were the case, she should not have allowed us to be in a relationship in the first place. But everything else is fine.

It is tough for a guy to be in a relationship where there is hardly even the slightest contact. The relationship feels cold. Why do girls not understand this? And it is even harder for guys to explain this to the girl.

What's the best step forward now?

Aye, it seems that the problem you have with her is contact issues. Does she not appreciate your gestures, or do you not appreciate her appreciation? (You get the idea.)

You yourself said that everything else is fine, so other than not being to touch her, you still send each other mushy smses, say mushy stuff, do little stuff for each other?

Some little details that could help us help you:
How old are the two of you?
How long have you two been together?
Has she ever been attached before?
Has she had any prior bad experience?

Do let us know~