falling in love with someone i shouldn;t have
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it been a long time since i fall in love with someone.. ever since my past relationshiip which ended 2 years ago and it takes me quite a while to overcome it, i tell myself nv nv to fall in love with someone again... until when i met him...
he is a colleage in my company.. i jus join this company a few months back.. initially when i first knew him, i don really have that kind of feelings towards him.. to me, he is jus an average looking man and defintely not the type that i was looking for.. but as the days goes by, i realised that he is really diff from other guys. though he isn;t gd looking, but he carry himself well. he is very confident and he is intelligent, mature... not only that, whenever anyone encounter any problems at work, he is all there to help the person..
recently, i hang around with him a lot during office hours.. we can spend hours chatting, giggling.. it really enjoyable toking with him and thru all this chatting, i learn a lot from him also.. slowly, i began to realised that i kind of fall in love with him.. i don noe when it started but it seems that i have been tiking bout him everyday.. my heart jus beat very fast whenever i am with him.. initially i tok that was jus an infauation and i even slapped myself hard forcing myself not to like him but it not going to help.. my feelings towards him jus go deeper and deeper..
he is someone that i shouldn;t have fall in love with... regardless of background, qualifications, lifestyle, he is far way better than me. i am jus a nobody seriously.. he don have a gf now and he don noe that i like him also.. i jus kip all my feelings inside and pretend nothing happen. cos i knew that our friendship will defintely break if i confess to him..
seriously i felt so ashamed and guilty that i actually like him.. how can i fal in love with someone that i shouldn;t have... i felt like i am a toad falling in love with a swan.. i felt so cheapo of myself.. i tried to avoid him but then it hard.. cos i don wan to lose him as a fre also..
i really donnoe what to do.. now my whole mind is with him now.. i felt really tired.. it really terrible to kip my feelings inside.. -
I think yr title is not very approriate. Why can't u fall in love with him sInce he is available and u are single too. Unless u are a he....Originally posted by huy:it been a long time since i fall in love with someone.. ever since my past relationshiip which ended 2 years ago and it takes me quite a while to overcome it, i tell myself nv nv to fall in love with someone again... until when i met him...
he is a colleage in my company.. i jus join this company a few months back.. initially when i first knew him, i don really have that kind of feelings towards him.. to me, he is jus an average looking man and defintely not the type that i was looking for.. but as the days goes by, i realised that he is really diff from other guys. though he isn;t gd looking, but he carry himself well. he is very confident and he is intelligent, mature... not only that, whenever anyone encounter any problems at work, he is all there to help the person..
recently, i hang around with him a lot during office hours.. we can spend hours chatting, giggling.. it really enjoyable toking with him and thru all this chatting, i learn a lot from him also.. slowly, i began to realised that i kind of fall in love with him.. i don noe when it started but it seems that i have been tiking bout him everyday.. my heart jus beat very fast whenever i am with him.. initially i tok that was jus an infauation and i even slapped myself hard forcing myself not to like him but it not going to help.. my feelings towards him jus go deeper and deeper..
he is someone that i shouldn;t have fall in love with... regardless of background, qualifications, lifestyle, he is far way better than me. i am jus a nobody seriously.. he don have a gf now and he don noe that i like him also.. i jus kip all my feelings inside and pretend nothing happen. cos i knew that our friendship will defintely break if i confess to him..
seriously i felt so ashamed and guilty that i actually like him.. how can i fal in love with someone that i shouldn;t have... i felt like i am a toad falling in love with a swan.. i felt so cheapo of myself.. i tried to avoid him but then it hard.. cos i don wan to lose him as a fre also..
i really donnoe what to do.. now my whole mind is with him now.. i felt really tired.. it really terrible to kip my feelings inside..
Don't look so little of yrself. A person with substance is not judge by his look,education and wealth lvl.....
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If both parties are single and available, why not?
IT's not as though he's a married man & u're afraid of being a third party..
It isn easy after a relationship to let go, and start all over again.. I was with my ex for 4 years.. & i took 2 whole years to let go & start all over again!
A relationship is solely on both individuals.. What qualities u see in each other, & not a comparison..
Each and everyone of us has our own strong and weak points.. Do not betitle urself! Think of ur gd points.. And wAt makes u look attractive..
Feelings R usually mutal.. It takes 2 hands to clap.. He gonna have some feelins for u.. TAt's why he too smiles happily when he's with u.. I'm not gd with phrasing words.. So hop u get wat i say!
Most importantly.. Do not rush things.. Dun let qualifications matters rule ur heart. IT is how much u are willin to put in to let the relationship works.. Guys have weakness too! -
uhh.. i think you need to figure out that nothing is wrong with this.. and if he is attracted to you also, what the heck is wrong with giving it a try?
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have confidence in yourself! you never know if something good will come out of it.Originally posted by huy:it been a long time since i fall in love with someone.. ever since my past relationshiip which ended 2 years ago and it takes me quite a while to overcome it, i tell myself nv nv to fall in love with someone again... until when i met him...
he is a colleage in my company.. i jus join this company a few months back.. initially when i first knew him, i don really have that kind of feelings towards him.. to me, he is jus an average looking man and defintely not the type that i was looking for.. but as the days goes by, i realised that he is really diff from other guys. though he isn;t gd looking, but he carry himself well. he is very confident and he is intelligent, mature... not only that, whenever anyone encounter any problems at work, he is all there to help the person..
recently, i hang around with him a lot during office hours.. we can spend hours chatting, giggling.. it really enjoyable toking with him and thru all this chatting, i learn a lot from him also.. slowly, i began to realised that i kind of fall in love with him.. i don noe when it started but it seems that i have been tiking bout him everyday.. my heart jus beat very fast whenever i am with him.. initially i tok that was jus an infauation and i even slapped myself hard forcing myself not to like him but it not going to help.. my feelings towards him jus go deeper and deeper..
he is someone that i shouldn;t have fall in love with... regardless of background, qualifications, lifestyle, he is far way better than me. i am jus a nobody seriously.. he don have a gf now and he don noe that i like him also.. i jus kip all my feelings inside and pretend nothing happen. cos i knew that our friendship will defintely break if i confess to him..
seriously i felt so ashamed and guilty that i actually like him.. how can i fal in love with someone that i shouldn;t have... i felt like i am a toad falling in love with a swan.. i felt so cheapo of myself.. i tried to avoid him but then it hard.. cos i don wan to lose him as a fre also..
i really donnoe what to do.. now my whole mind is with him now.. i felt really tired.. it really terrible to kip my feelings inside..
of course, you need to overcome the baggage from your last relationship first. -
love transcends all boundaries.
qualifications, background etc are things you should forget about. -
seriously, i really felt that i am not gd enough for him.. he came from quite a gd family background while i came from a really humble family.. maybe as u say is right, i look very little of myself.. and i am not gorgeous too.. for a ger to match him, she should have the brains, look, wealth.. some ger that could help him in future.. i am not be able to do so.. i jus felt so terrible and hate myself for liking him..Originally posted by CannyOng:I think yr title is not very approriate. Why can't u fall in love with him sInce he is available and u are single too. Unless u are a he....
Don't look so little of yrself. A person with substance is not judge by his look,education and wealth lvl..... -
hey.. don't say such things..
if he likes you, he likes you... not for your background, not for whatever it is.. it's for youOriginally posted by huy:seriously, i really felt that i am not gd enough for him.. he came from quite a gd family background while i came from a really humble family.. maybe as u say is right, i look very little of myself.. and i am not gorgeous too.. for a ger to match him, she should have the brains, look, wealth.. some ger that could help him in future.. i am not be able to do so.. i jus felt so terrible and hate myself for liking him.. -
thanks alot for ur advice.. i knew he dosen like me.. jus that i am a person who is gd in chatting.. perhapes becos of this, we can get along rather well.. but i knew i m not the ger who he is looking for.. it jus the feelings getting over me.. sobz..Originally posted by ahkico:If both parties are single and available, why not? IT's not as though he's a married man & u're afraid of being a third party..
It isn easy after a relationship to let go, and start all over again.. I was with my ex for 4 years.. & i took 2 whole years to let go & start all over again!
A relationship is solely on both individuals.. What qualities u see in each other, & not a comparison..
Each and everyone of us has our own strong and weak points.. Do not betitle urself! Think of ur gd points.. And wAt makes u look attractive..
Feelings R usually mutal.. It takes 2 hands to clap.. He gonna have some feelins for u.. TAt's why he too smiles happily when he's with u.. I'm not gd with phrasing words.. So hop u get wat i say!
Most importantly.. Do not rush things.. Dun let qualifications matters rule ur heart. IT is how much u are willin to put in to let the relationship works.. Guys have weakness too! -
i felt it a sin becos i fall in love with someone that is so much better than me.. i mean if u are a guy, what will happen if u noe that some ger who is a nobody fall in love with u? will u actually run away from it and avoid her for the rest of ur life?Originally posted by the Bear:uhh.. i think you need to figure out that nothing is wrong with this.. and if he is attracted to you also, what the heck is wrong with giving it a try? -
actually in fact, its harder for me to accept someone better then me.Originally posted by huy:i felt it a sin becos i fall in love with someone that is so much better than me.. i mean if u are a guy, what will happen if u noe that some ger who is a nobody fall in love with u? will u actually run away from it and avoid her for the rest of ur life?
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yea.. i already put down my last relationship.. it takes me like 2 yrs to overcome it.. and i really glad that i am be able to overcome it finally.. now at least i wun feel my heart ache when i tik bout my ex..Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:have confidence in yourself! you never know if something good will come out of it.
of course, you need to overcome the baggage from your last relationship first. -
is it? i tok guys will feel honour if some gers that are well better than him actually fall in love with him and they will actually run away, avoid when some low standard gers like him..Originally posted by stellazio:actually in fact, its harder for me to accept someone better then me. -
don't say such things yah?
keep telling yourself you are good enough.. heck! what does he think? -
wtf... no1 is bad unless own ppl say they are...
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thanks for all ur advice.. maybe i really have very low confidence of myself.. i guess i will jus force myself not to tik bout him, devoted all my time to my work, fres and family.. hope this will helps..
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no ar, its a ego problem.Originally posted by huy:is it? i tok guys will feel honour if some gers that are well better than him actually fall in love with him and they will actually run away, avoid when some low standard gers like him.. -
hey girl...
tell you what.. be his friend.. while in the meantime, since you insist you are not 'good enough' (even when we figure you are).. improve yourself! go for courses, get some accreditation, study.. and all that...
you'll be fine..
in the meantime, be his friend...
be well yah?
everyone is good enough for loveOriginally posted by huy:thanks for all ur advice.. maybe i really have very low confidence of myself.. i guess i will jus force myself not to tik bout him, devoted all my time to my work, fres and family.. hope this will helps.. -
if he likes u he likes u. if he doesn't, he doesn't.
doesn't mean that even if you are pretty and good and whatever, he will like.
though i don't think u are ready for a relationship
if you don't respect yourself for who you are, even if he likes you back, he will have a uphill task convincing and reassuring you all the time. that is very tiring. u need to get ur self esteem and confidence back.
though if you really think he is worth something, don't judge him to be someone shallow.
but again more importantly, start by thinking you are worth it. -
yea.. i not asking for much.. as long as i can be his fre, i am more than contented.. jus that i am afraid that if he noes that i like him, he will jus avoid me cos i really don wan to lose a fre like him..Originally posted by the Bear:hey girl...
tell you what.. be his friend.. while in the meantime, since you insist you are not 'good enough' (even when we figure you are).. improve yourself! go for courses, get some accreditation, study.. and all that...
you'll be fine..
in the meantime, be his friend...
be well yah?
everyone is good enough for love -
read what shro-cat says..
you have to learn to love yourself
and... hey.. really.. go list a bunch of things about yourself you are good at... and remember it..
be wellOriginally posted by huy:yea.. i not asking for much.. as long as i can be his fre, i am more than contented.. jus that i am afraid that if he noes that i like him, he will jus avoid me cos i really don wan to lose a fre like him.. -
If u r fated to be with him, it is just the same as he is fated to come from quite a good family background... It doesnt matter... Just follow the flow... U do not need to resist the flow at all...Originally posted by huy:he came from quite a gd family background while i came from a really humble family..
But however, his existance may just be the one who unlocked u and gave u a new direction in life... Whatever, keep yr option open and follow the flow... >< Life is full of twist and turn ... tat makes it exciting and interesting -
Statues and qualities do not have the right to interfere with Love.
Love is something which will make a person crazy and don't mind other things/obstacle just to be with him/her.
That's true love. -
Got a lot of meaning for True Love leh. SOme may think it's that, while other may think it's this. It's subjective.Originally posted by popikachu:Statues and qualities do not have the right to interfere with Love.
Love is something which will make a person crazy and don't mind other things/obstacle just to be with him/her.
That's true love. -
Girl u should follow wat ur heart tells u...Originally posted by huy:it been a long time since i fall in love with someone.. ever since my past relationshiip which ended 2 years ago and it takes me quite a while to overcome it, i tell myself nv nv to fall in love with someone again... until when i met him...
he is a colleage in my company.. i jus join this company a few months back.. initially when i first knew him, i don really have that kind of feelings towards him.. to me, he is jus an average looking man and defintely not the type that i was looking for.. but as the days goes by, i realised that he is really diff from other guys. though he isn;t gd looking, but he carry himself well. he is very confident and he is intelligent, mature... not only that, whenever anyone encounter any problems at work, he is all there to help the person..
recently, i hang around with him a lot during office hours.. we can spend hours chatting, giggling.. it really enjoyable toking with him and thru all this chatting, i learn a lot from him also.. slowly, i began to realised that i kind of fall in love with him.. i don noe when it started but it seems that i have been tiking bout him everyday.. my heart jus beat very fast whenever i am with him.. initially i tok that was jus an infauation and i even slapped myself hard forcing myself not to like him but it not going to help.. my feelings towards him jus go deeper and deeper..
he is someone that i shouldn;t have fall in love with... regardless of background, qualifications, lifestyle, he is far way better than me. i am jus a nobody seriously.. he don have a gf now and he don noe that i like him also.. i jus kip all my feelings inside and pretend nothing happen. cos i knew that our friendship will defintely break if i confess to him..
seriously i felt so ashamed and guilty that i actually like him.. how can i fal in love with someone that i shouldn;t have... i felt like i am a toad falling in love with a swan.. i felt so cheapo of myself.. i tried to avoid him but then it hard.. cos i don wan to lose him as a fre also..
i really donnoe what to do.. now my whole mind is with him now.. i felt really tired.. it really terrible to kip my feelings inside..
Do not assume that he doesn't like u...
Have u told him ur feeling yet??
Be brave & look forward
Chances like that don't come knocking @ ur door everyday
Treasure wat u have don't let this chance silp away