Hi.. Will appreciate forumers’ comments.. I am 25 yrs, attach with my girlfriend for 2 yrs.. Recently, i got involve with a 20yrs lady.. She is a student.. Lets call her AA.. The lust and excitement got AA and me involve in a relationship.. We meet, hv sex, chat, etc.. She is very open-minded to our “relationship”.. Both of us accepted the non-committment aspect of our “relationship”.. However, I am the one who is terribly troubled now.. I have gradually become emotionally attach to her.. I do not feel good abt her mentioning her guy frds, the dates she had, etc.. Remember, it was me who does not want emotional attachment in the very beginning, and I am the one falling into it now.. AA is handling our relatinoship much better than me.. I know I will never have the heart to break off with my gf for AA.. Yet, this “feelings of the heart” with AA is making me haywire.. Guess it is indeed true with the advice of, “never get involve with having a mistress”.. I thanks you in advance for any serious comments and advices…

leave AA, cuz AA is just a bit*ch
and i think ur that girlfriend is worth more of ur time..

Want to play with fire without the preparedness to get burnt!

Originally posted by rathcycle:

leave AA, cuz AA is just a bit*ch
and i think ur that girlfriend is worth more of ur time..

No.
TS should leave his gf of 2 years.
Because his gf deserves a better bf.

AA and TS deserves to be together.

Originally posted by jojobeach:

No.
TS should leave his gf of 2 years.
Because his gf deserves a better bf.

AA and TS deserves to be together.

yea, u r right in a sense too.

Thanks rattle for your advice.. I know myself, I am good in nature.. Just the lust that got me involve in AA.. I hate the situation I got myself into.. I love my gf.. I tot all along I can handle it better than AA.. prove otherwise.. I got so jealous of her involvement with her guy friends.. In fact, how i wish she got attach emotionally to me too.. maybe I am a possessive guy.. Argh, I am lousy in handling my emotions.. Thanks rattle..

Originally posted by haywir:

Thanks rattle for your advice.. I know myself, I am good in nature.. Just the lust that got me involve in AA.. I hate the situation I got myself into.. I love my gf.. I tot all along I can handle it better than AA.. prove otherwise.. I got so jealous of her involvement with her guy friends.. In fact, how i wish she got attach emotionally to me too.. maybe I am a possessive guy.. Argh, I am lousy in handling my emotions.. Thanks rattle..

If you are so good in nature. You would cherish what you have with your gf instead of getting involve with AA.

When your gf find out you slept with another girl, your relationship will be destroyed. Even if you want to hold on to it, your gf may not want you anymore.

Singapore is very small.... what you did with AA will one day come back to haunt you.

It is okay to date another girl when you having a relationship.. unless you are committed to a marriage..

Originally posted by thelesis:

It is okay to date another girl when you having a relationship.. unless you are committed to a marriage..

Yes I see. No wonder you belong to the singles club.
You will remain so until you change your attitudes to relationship.

Originally posted by thelesis:

It is okay to date another girl when you having a relationship.. unless you are committed to a marriage..

Pls don't post rubbish comment to influence others of yr immoral thinking...

I put both hands up and agree it is morally incorrect of me, to get involve with AA.. It hurts my conscious and it goes against my own standing on how a person should behave morally.. I am going haywire myself.. I hate the fact that I handled it so badly, compared to AA.. I got attach emotionally and she does not.. AA is handling our “relationship” much better than me..

Originally posted by haywir:

I put both hands up and agree it is morally incorrect of me, to get involve with AA.. It hurts my conscious and it goes against my own standing on how a person should behave morally.. I am going haywire myself.. I hate the fact that I handled it so badly, compared to AA.. I got attach emotionally and she does not.. AA is handling our "relationship" much better than me..

in the first place, by engagin in a r/s with AA ur in the wrong liao. if u say ur good in nature, then ur not suited for this game. ni wan bu qi. u cannot handle the flirtatious nature of it n the 'do n get over' attitude. u shldnt get involved. u feel that u start to haf emotions for AA, coz ur too emotionally weak to differentiate. a person who is intimate with u, u will get emotional with her. sit back n think abt what u want in ur life, what u want in a relationship. ur too innocent to b a player. get out of the game n settle down.

Originally posted by haywir:

Hi.. Will appreciate forumers' comments.. I am 25 yrs, attach with my girlfriend for 2 yrs.. Recently, i got involve with a 20yrs lady.. She is a student.. Lets call her AA.. The lust and excitement got AA and me involve in a relationship.. We meet, hv sex, chat, etc.. She is very open-minded to our "relationship".. Both of us accepted the non-committment aspect of our "relationship".. However, I am the one who is terribly troubled now.. I have gradually become emotionally attach to her.. I do not feel good abt her mentioning her guy frds, the dates she had, etc.. Remember, it was me who does not want emotional attachment in the very beginning, and I am the one falling into it now.. AA is handling our relatinoship much better than me.. I know I will never have the heart to break off with my gf for AA.. Yet, this "feelings of the heart" with AA is making me haywire.. Guess it is indeed true with the advice of, "never get involve with having a mistress".. I thanks you in advance for any serious comments and advices...

U are a bastard seriously... people like me want to have a person to share my life but yet i couldn't find.. U have a gf and yet u got involved with a girl because of lust... u must as well go and find a prostitute to satisfy ur sexual need... U better forget the stupid bitch and treat ur current gf wholeheartedly... it is nv too late to repent

i think u love ur f buddie more than ur gf.

to be fair, is the lady serious about u? if not it's time for u to wake up ur idea!

Originally posted by darkhour:

in the first place, by engagin in a r/s with AA ur in the wrong liao. if u say ur good in nature, then ur not suited for this game. ni wan bu qi. u cannot handle the flirtatious nature of it n the 'do n get over' attitude. u shldnt get involved. u feel that u start to haf emotions for AA, coz ur too emotionally weak to differentiate. a person who is intimate with u, u will get emotional with her. sit back n think abt what u want in ur life, what u want in a relationship. ur too innocent to b a player. get out of the game n settle down.

Thanks darkhour.. I guess you really hit me on ur comments.. You really hit the dart in the spot.. I am just feeling confused and I appreciate all your comments..

Originally posted by Uncertain:

U are a bastard seriously... people like me want to have a person to share my life but yet i couldn't find.. U have a gf and yet u got involved with a girl because of lust... u must as well go and find a prostitute to satisfy ur sexual need... U better forget the stupid bitch and treat ur current gf wholeheartedly... it is nv too late to repent

I love my gf and I treat her the best that I can.. I know if I end it with my gf over her, I will nv be the same.. I will be forever guilty, like Judas.. Nevertheless, I admit I am a Basta## to get involve with AA.. The lust makes me sin..

Originally posted by haywir:

However, I am the one who is terribly troubled now.. I have gradually become emotionally attach to her.. I do not feel good abt her mentioning her guy frds, the dates she had, etc.. Remember, it was me who does not want emotional attachment in the very beginning, and I am the one falling into it now.. AA is handling our relatinoship much better than me.. I know I will never have the heart to break off with my gf for AA...

Why u got emotionally attached is because SHE isn't.

Men always like women that are hard to get. Fact that you can have a sexual relationship with her treating you as nothing more than a f buddy can be in a way rather insulting to ur pride. So to make it into more than a simple f buddy rship u still thinking u want to possess her.

Imagine if its the other way round. She suddenly wants you badly and insist you break off. hehehe would u be happy?

Dont play with fire if u can't handle it.

Originally posted by 798:

i think u love ur f buddie more than ur gf.

to be fair, is the lady serious about u? if not it's time for u to wake up ur idea!

hi 798, we were nv serious in this relationship.. AA is handling so much better than me.. Ours was a lust and companionship relationship.. Its just me, being emotionally weak.. I hate it over her relationship with her guy frds.. I get jealous and I do wish she gets attach to me emotionally.. guess its ego being at work too..

Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

Why u got emotionally attached is because SHE isn't.

Men always like women that are hard to get. Fact that you can have a sexual relationship with her treating you as nothing more than a f buddy can be in a way rather insulting to ur pride. So to make it into more than a simple f buddy rship u still thinking u want to possess her.

Imagine if its the other way round. She suddenly wants you badly and insist you break off. hehehe would u be happy?

Dont play with fire if u can't handle it.

Thanks Shrodinger.. Maybe I am indeed, too weak to play with this fire.. Seems like she has handled it way much better than me.. I appreciate ur comments, thanks..

Originally posted by haywir:

hi 798, we were nv serious in this relationship.. AA is handling so much better than me.. Ours was a lust and companionship relationship.. Its just me, being emotionally weak.. I hate it over her relationship with her guy frds.. I get jealous and I do wish she gets attach to me emotionally.. guess its ego being at work too..

seriously la....dun get into this kinda relationship anymore...its not exactly ego bah...its juz that u wan ownership over her...k la can consider a man's ego=p...well everyone wants ppl to like them...but always rmb that, in the end, u still need the person who u want to spend ur life with...to settle down...

Originally posted by haywir:

hi 798, we were nv serious in this relationship.. AA is handling so much better than me.. Ours was a lust and companionship relationship.. Its just me, being emotionally weak.. I hate it over her relationship with her guy frds.. I get jealous and I do wish she gets attach to me emotionally.. guess its ego being at work too..

comeon, u r a man. since both of u know this r/s is no string attached. time for u to jump off this running train before it crashes n fall into the ocean. stop being whiny to a gal.

if AA is a guy, alot of us here will term her as a jerk, but since she is a gal n take it as a man. it's time to let go.

furthermore, u have a gf n it's better not to let her down.

Originally posted by haywir:

Thanks Shrodinger.. Maybe I am indeed, too weak to play with this fire.. Seems like she has handled it way much better than me.. I appreciate ur comments, thanks..

take a step back and assess the situation with honesty towards urself ba
Hmm think of what you have got to lose, and what u are actually prepared to lose

and eh, for goodness sake, get a health check.

Originally posted by 798:

comeon, u r a man. since both of u know this r/s is no string attached. time for u to jump off this running train before it crashes n fall into the ocean. stop being whiny to a gal.

if AA is a guy, alot of us here will term her as a jerk, but since she is a gal n take it as a man. it's time to let go.

furthermore, u have a gf n it's better not to let her down.

Haha.. Ya, I do get dissapointed and disgusted with my handling.. I tot a man should handle this better.. I am just emotionally weak.. I hate myself for handling it so poorly.. Thanks 798.. It does feel good to see all your comments.. Although I cant decide on the course of action to take..

Since u r the one tat post yr problems, we should give advice tat is from yr view point...
First thing, u need to clear yr guilt... U have to understand tat there is no right and wrong in this world... U r not the only one in this world tat have such situation... It is just tat this situation are not proud to be declared by others ><
What u dont find in yr gf, u find them in AA... Tat is the reason on y u involve with her... But, is tat what u really want ??? U have to think what u really want

U need to clear yr guilt towards yr gf... Coz, end of the day, u dont be with a girl because of guilt... It will only cause u and the girl to suffer if it is because of guilt. U be with the girl because u love her. U have to think y do u love yr gf???

And lastly, think for yrself... Dont think for yr gf's feelings or AA's feelings... Make decision for yrself... Coz, ultimately the decision tat u make for yrself, benefit all parties...

Of coz, if it is TS's gf post her story here, the advice will be different too...

Originally posted by haywir:

I love my gf and I treat her the best that I can.. I know if I end it with my gf over her, I will nv be the same.. I will be forever guilty, like Judas.. Nevertheless, I admit I am a Basta## to get involve with AA.. The lust makes me sin..

Since u choose to repent, then u should know what to do now... All man do lust over HOT babe, me too. But since the wrong cannot be undone, y not treat ur girl with all ur heart now. Loving someone who love u is not easy, all this needs affinity... treasure it before it's too late