felt lonely at times...
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This problem is bothering me for a few months..hope to get some advice.
i am a jc1 student this year. now in a jc different from in the first three months(PAE).
In the first three months, me and my classmates did not kick off that well as majority of them like sports like soccer, tennis. Everyday after school they will go engage in sports games together. i have no interest in them as im not fit and not physically active. It was just hi and bye for majority of my classmates and they didnt kept in contact with me since then.
Now i have changed jc . things changed for the better as i could communicate well with my male classmates , but not for the opposite sex. They would talk to me only when they need help in their homework or for project work stuffs. Im not one whos crazy for special attention from girls but at least a hi will make my day. But some of them walk past me without initiating a hi or bye while im walking to or leaving from school. I felt so lonely. Im shy when comes to communicating with girls, but i have tried to open up by cracking some jokes when we meet in project work.. but they laugh over it and its back to square.
whenever my friends share with me about what they did in their class outings, i would get jealous. How i wish i could be like them. The only time i get to go out and have fun is with my secondary school classmates. I wanted to catch the latest Harry Potter movie but all of them watched with their present classes already. The thought of watching alone makes mi forget that thought. My friends said i should be happy since i passed most of my subjects.. but im not happy at all deep inside.. they dont know i feel lonely sometimes
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you have guy friends. Its ok mah. Why do you expect the girls to say hi and bye to you. Then would you feel they hi-bye you alot and make use of you for homework.
To have friends is nice but to have a many false friends is a waste of time. Its important to have a couple of true friends. But seriously, if you feel the need to hi-bye, why don't you hi-bye these people. Perhaps they are just more shy... so you need to take the first step -
I will say all these are minor problems.Originally posted by lavastar:This problem is bothering me for a few months..hope to get some advice.
i am a jc1 student this year. now in a jc different from in the first three months(PAE).
In the first three months, me and my classmates did not kick off that well as majority of them like sports like soccer, tennis. Everyday after school they will go engage in sports games together. i have no interest in them as im not fit and not physically active. It was just hi and bye for majority of my classmates and they didnt kept in contact with me since then.
Now i have changed jc . things changed for the better as i could communicate well with my male classmates , but not for the opposite sex. They would talk to me only when they need help in their homework or for project work stuffs. Im not one whos crazy for special attention from girls but at least a hi will make my day. But some of them walk past me without initiating a hi or bye while im walking to or leaving from school. I felt so lonely. Im shy when comes to communicating with girls, but i have tried to open up by cracking some jokes when we meet in project work.. but they laugh over it and its back to square.
whenever my friends share with me about what they did in their class outings, i would get jealous. How i wish i could be like them. The only time i get to go out and have fun is with my secondary school classmates. I wanted to catch the latest Harry Potter movie but all of them watched with their present classes already. The thought of watching alone makes mi forget that thought. My friends said i should be happy since i passed most of my subjects.. but im not happy at all deep inside.. they dont know i feel lonely sometimes
Does appearance play a big part in this problem i have?
Quite sure everyone face this kind of problems before.
Mayb you should try and initiate convo with them lor.
Or before whatever movie come out, you jio and organise a outing first lor.
Good luck anyway. -
I have experience what you feel before and it takes quite some times for me to recover.Originally posted by lavastar:This problem is bothering me for a few months..hope to get some advice.
i am a jc1 student this year. now in a jc different from in the first three months(PAE).
In the first three months, me and my classmates did not kick off that well as majority of them like sports like soccer, tennis. Everyday after school they will go engage in sports games together. i have no interest in them as im not fit and not physically active. It was just hi and bye for majority of my classmates and they didnt kept in contact with me since then.
Now i have changed jc . things changed for the better as i could communicate well with my male classmates , but not for the opposite sex. They would talk to me only when they need help in their homework or for project work stuffs. Im not one whos crazy for special attention from girls but at least a hi will make my day. But some of them walk past me without initiating a hi or bye while im walking to or leaving from school. I felt so lonely. Im shy when comes to communicating with girls, but i have tried to open up by cracking some jokes when we meet in project work.. but they laugh over it and its back to square.
whenever my friends share with me about what they did in their class outings, i would get jealous. How i wish i could be like them. The only time i get to go out and have fun is with my secondary school classmates. I wanted to catch the latest Harry Potter movie but all of them watched with their present classes already. The thought of watching alone makes mi forget that thought. My friends said i should be happy since i passed most of my subjects.. but im not happy at all deep inside.. they dont know i feel lonely sometimes
Does appearance play a big part in this problem i have? -
Why don't you smile and initiate the "Hi, you look so pretty today." first, instead of waiting for others to initiate. Once you break the ice, it would be easier for future conversations.Originally posted by lavastar:This problem is bothering me for a few months..hope to get some advice.
i am a jc1 student this year. now in a jc different from in the first three months(PAE).
In the first three months, me and my classmates did not kick off that well as majority of them like sports like soccer, tennis. Everyday after school they will go engage in sports games together. i have no interest in them as im not fit and not physically active. It was just hi and bye for majority of my classmates and they didnt kept in contact with me since then.
Now i have changed jc . things changed for the better as i could communicate well with my male classmates , but not for the opposite sex. They would talk to me only when they need help in their homework or for project work stuffs. Im not one whos crazy for special attention from girls but at least a hi will make my day. But some of them walk past me without initiating a hi or bye while im walking to or leaving from school. I felt so lonely. Im shy when comes to communicating with girls, but i have tried to open up by cracking some jokes when we meet in project work.. but they laugh over it and its back to square.
whenever my friends share with me about what they did in their class outings, i would get jealous. How i wish i could be like them. The only time i get to go out and have fun is with my secondary school classmates. I wanted to catch the latest Harry Potter movie but all of them watched with their present classes already. The thought of watching alone makes mi forget that thought. My friends said i should be happy since i passed most of my subjects.. but im not happy at all deep inside.. they dont know i feel lonely sometimes
Does appearance play a big part in this problem i have?
Flattery will get you everywhere.
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No... appearance does not play a big part in these...
Just stick to yr current circle of friends...
Make yrself comfortable... u will have yr chance to mix around later... -
They didnt hi-bye to me i will have an impression of myself being a cold and anti-social person thats why they dont even bother toOriginally posted by mistyblue:you have guy friends. Its ok mah. Why do you expect the girls to say hi and bye to you. Then would you feel they hi-bye you alot and make use of you for homework.
To have friends is nice but to have a many false friends is a waste of time. Its important to have a couple of true friends. But seriously, if you feel the need to hi-bye, why don't you hi-bye these people. Perhaps they are just more shy... so you need to take the first step
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how about initiating hi to them next time? well some girls are quite different u cant expect them to say hi to u first
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y msut gals say hi to u? u cannot start? go read more books on interaction... now study is more impt...Originally posted by lavastar:This problem is bothering me for a few months..hope to get some advice.
i am a jc1 student this year. now in a jc different from in the first three months(PAE).
In the first three months, me and my classmates did not kick off that well as majority of them like sports like soccer, tennis. Everyday after school they will go engage in sports games together. i have no interest in them as im not fit and not physically active. It was just hi and bye for majority of my classmates and they didnt kept in contact with me since then.
Now i have changed jc . things changed for the better as i could communicate well with my male classmates , but not for the opposite sex. They would talk to me only when they need help in their homework or for project work stuffs. Im not one whos crazy for special attention from girls but at least a hi will make my day. But some of them walk past me without initiating a hi or bye while im walking to or leaving from school. I felt so lonely. Im shy when comes to communicating with girls, but i have tried to open up by cracking some jokes when we meet in project work.. but they laugh over it and its back to square.
whenever my friends share with me about what they did in their class outings, i would get jealous. How i wish i could be like them. The only time i get to go out and have fun is with my secondary school classmates. I wanted to catch the latest Harry Potter movie but all of them watched with their present classes already. The thought of watching alone makes mi forget that thought. My friends said i should be happy since i passed most of my subjects.. but im not happy at all deep inside.. they dont know i feel lonely sometimes
Does appearance play a big part in this problem i have? -
if u follow what he say hi with the u look so pretty please tell me the respond u get.Originally posted by maurizio13:Why don't you smile and initiate the "Hi, you look so pretty today." first, instead of waiting for others to initiate. Once you break the ice, it would be easier for future conversations.
Flattery will get you everywhere. -
come come..
dun be so sad!
i can be ur fren!
im bored too..u noe.. -
ok, first of all, you are a loner, second of all, nobody will approach you at all, as you are not wearing a skirt and second of all, you are suppose to pretend to be approachable, thirdly, i don't give a s h i t about whether you felt lonely at all, so either you start to mix around with them, they don't play sports all the time, do they?
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Appearance plays BUT a small part.Originally posted by lavastar:This problem is bothering me for a few months..hope to get some advice.
i am a jc1 student this year. now in a jc different from in the first three months(PAE).
In the first three months, me and my classmates did not kick off that well as majority of them like sports like soccer, tennis. Everyday after school they will go engage in sports games together. i have no interest in them as im not fit and not physically active. It was just hi and bye for majority of my classmates and they didnt kept in contact with me since then.
Now i have changed jc . things changed for the better as i could communicate well with my male classmates , but not for the opposite sex. They would talk to me only when they need help in their homework or for project work stuffs. Im not one whos crazy for special attention from girls but at least a hi will make my day. But some of them walk past me without initiating a hi or bye while im walking to or leaving from school. I felt so lonely. Im shy when comes to communicating with girls, but i have tried to open up by cracking some jokes when we meet in project work.. but they laugh over it and its back to square.
whenever my friends share with me about what they did in their class outings, i would get jealous. How i wish i could be like them. The only time i get to go out and have fun is with my secondary school classmates. I wanted to catch the latest Harry Potter movie but all of them watched with their present classes already. The thought of watching alone makes mi forget that thought. My friends said i should be happy since i passed most of my subjects.. but im not happy at all deep inside.. they dont know i feel lonely sometimes
Does appearance play a big part in this problem i have?
You may look like Andy Lau, but if your eyes are hostile or unfriendly, i would say the chances of someone approaching you and saying hi would be very low indeed.
And if you don't even look like andy lau, its going be even lower.
So start smiling today, and look a bit more upbeat.
The thing about Singaporeans is, most of them won't say hi or even acknowledge you UNLESS you do it to them first.
Heck, i don't even get friends asking me out, yet i'm so busy because i ask THEM out.
You get the idea?
You change the world by changing yourself first. -
What's wrong with watching movie alone?
I jettison my missus to watch manly movies by myself, 300, Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, City of Gods, etc... -
i understand how u feel.
its not jus the girls treating u like u are invisible that's making u feel left out. its the school environment right. people dun approach u. people dun include u in anything. people dun even talk abt u.
well seriously , looks dun play a big part at all. unless u look like an alien. i have seen big sized guys who are popular, i have seen guys with pimples all over and they have friends to go with.
dun demean yourself. this is afterall a new environment for u.
get noticed first by looking approachable. so give a smile to anyone whenever eyes met. no matter whether u know them or not. soon u will.
and join more activities esp if there are leardership roles available. train yourself to be a leader, u never know if u have such potential. and most student leaders are popular.
u can also find someone who takes the same bus as u, or walk the same way back. journeys are a great way to know a person. and u may forge a friendship in that process.
take the cue from someone who makes friends easily. see how that person talks and figure out what it takes that makes them likeable. and u too can be like that.
i wish u all the best! -
i see it as only girls problem but u mentioned ur not the type who craves for attention from the oposite sex so just go with the flow......u have plenty of opportunities in the working world.
sometimes so much that u wished u can be left alone -
then there will be ppl who will bamblast your @ss saying u trying to be a sweet talkerOriginally posted by maurizio13:Why don't you smile and initiate the "Hi, you look so pretty today." first, instead of waiting for others to initiate. Once you break the ice, it would be easier for future conversations.
Flattery will get you everywhere. 
N condemn you.. further isolating you. -
For all u know, people also wait for u 2 say Hi to them 1st? Its the way it is, people expect others 2 talk first then they talk. People are always passive, that's why in this world, we need 2 take initative. Next time u see ur classmates, say Hi first to them . U will be suprised that they are actually friendly people.
Anyway, its only August. U still have 1 year+ before A-level. Sooner or later, u people will bond. My class didn't really bond until the second year last time, because we all going through the same thing, and we gave each other support and help. So, take things as it is! -
actually, appearance is a small but important part of it.
some people doesn't like being around someone haggard-messy-unkempt. also, realistically speaking, it would certainly help if you look like brad pitt (girls, wouldn't you agree?)
if you don't look like brad pitt, act like him - what would he do around a group of girls? talk to them, flirt with them maybe?
loneliness is self-induced cause nobody could be lonely if they actually out and talk to people.
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Try to smile more...
You would be amazed by the power of a simple smile to a stranger. -
go and hi bye them la, dun expect them to hi bye you. noob
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TS are you the type that sit in front of computer 24/7 and play DotA? Do you spend your time mugging always? Perhaps you should take the 1st step and smile more. Hang out with your classmates more and come out of your shell.
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i am also a jc1 student. i wouldnt call myself very sociable either.im a rather reserved person. im also not one of those sports jocks. i do play sports occasionally. i would call myself slightly above average looking. my j1 class has 5 girls. 20 guys. naturally they girls would band together. what we do as a class is eat together and play card games(eg bridge and bluff) together.
i hope you're not:
1.) a chao mugger
2.) a weirdo in actions
3.) a motormouth
4.) act cool
the above 4 are a big turn off for girls i believe. this is because my class have 4 guys like that and people tend to stay away from them. from your original post i would tend to think you are inclined to 1.) . my relationship with girls is that i can talk with them and can have conversations(though im rather shy to the girl i like
). however, what you need to do is to put a smile on your face! and be cheerful! and dont talk the same way to them as you do to guys. e.g. oi, hokkien expletive etc etc -
ok i didnt read the replies.....
>> does appearance play a big part in this?
>> yes.
note: humorous plays a bigger part too.
girls, u no need say hi bye at all now..... prolly not in trend or ppl are just shy... even the me that is well known for the skin thickness is shy to say hi or bye to a girl. so ..... wat i will do is to smile at them... smile can talk, eye can talk to me...... so just give a smile and look into their eye for like a sec or two.
to the males...... sometimes it is just sad that u dont have true friends.... but sometimes the one who treat u like dirt didnt noe that they are treating u like dirt, insteed, in their heart, they are treating u like their true friend and mean a lot to them.
so good luck..........
Cheers
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which JC are you in ?