I'm tire....
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We have been together for 19 months.. I remember every month of our anniversary, buy her surprise gifts, flowers, text her to ask her to remember to eat, stay out like 2, 3 hours to wait for her to finish work while i just finished a 14 hours work, bring her toI'm 10 years older than her hence i really pamper her a lot a lot.
She don't seems to put in any effort in our relationship. Our off day is not fix but she don't seems to try to fix the same day for us to meet. Didn't even tell me when she off until i ask. I have to take the initiative all the time to make plans and meet.
But now i feel that i'm tire, i'm tire of keep trying but she just don't do anything. You guys will tell me to talk to her but as what i know of her with her temper, she will not listen and accusing me for oversensitive. I really can't bear to give up this relationship but i really don't want this loop sided love to carry on.. Please help me, i really don't want to make a silly decision and regret for the rest of my life. I really love her a lot. -
10 years... maybe its generation gap?
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give up...since its not gg well...like mine...even one yr schling gap...my gf oso dump me...=.=....me and her 1yr half...bt still same results...break up...
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I think both have different ambitions and aim.Originally posted by tequila:We have been together for 19 months.. I remember every month of our anniversary, buy her surprise gifts, flowers, text her to ask her to remember to eat, stay out like 2, 3 hours to wait for her to finish work while i just finished a 14 hours work, bring her toI'm 10 years older than her hence i really pamper her a lot a lot.
She don't seems to put in any effort in our relationship. Our off day is not fix but she don't seems to try to fix the same day for us to meet. Didn't even tell me when she off until i ask. I have to take the initiative all the time to make plans and meet.
But now i feel that i'm tire, i'm tire of keep trying but she just don't do anything. You guys will tell me to talk to her but as what i know of her with her temper, she will not listen and accusing me for oversensitive. I really can't bear to give up this relationship but i really don't want this loop sided love to carry on.. Please help me, i really don't want to make a silly decision and regret for the rest of my life. I really love her a lot.
U try not to be so sticky. As for yr outing and meeting. Aim for quality rather than quantity! -
tequila,
Are you smothering her ?
I've got a feeling, instead of trying to be her boyfriend/lover, you are behaving like her father.
Are you too possesive ? too restrictive ?
Give her some space.
Anniversary is ONCE a year.
You make it every month ???
That's too much...
This kind of special days must be cherished, not squandered. -
I believe you should continue to love her as much as possible. And I know one day she will really know what you've did for her, and she will appreciated it from her bottom of her heart.Originally posted by tequila:We have been together for 19 months.. I remember every month of our anniversary, buy her surprise gifts, flowers, text her to ask her to remember to eat, stay out like 2, 3 hours to wait for her to finish work while i just finished a 14 hours work, bring her toI'm 10 years older than her hence i really pamper her a lot a lot.
She don't seems to put in any effort in our relationship. Our off day is not fix but she don't seems to try to fix the same day for us to meet. Didn't even tell me when she off until i ask. I have to take the initiative all the time to make plans and meet.
But now i feel that i'm tire, i'm tire of keep trying but she just don't do anything. You guys will tell me to talk to her but as what i know of her with her temper, she will not listen and accusing me for oversensitive. I really can't bear to give up this relationship but i really don't want this loop sided love to carry on.. Please help me, i really don't want to make a silly decision and regret for the rest of my life. I really love her a lot.
Actually being together really takes a lot of courage, time, money, love and other factor. But love is about holding on but not giving up.
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Aint not a guy,Originally posted by tequila:We have been together for 19 months.. I remember every month of our anniversary, buy her surprise gifts, flowers, text her to ask her to remember to eat, stay out like 2, 3 hours to wait for her to finish work while i just finished a 14 hours work, bring her toI'm 10 years older than her hence i really pamper her a lot a lot.
She don't seems to put in any effort in our relationship. Our off day is not fix but she don't seems to try to fix the same day for us to meet. Didn't even tell me when she off until i ask. I have to take the initiative all the time to make plans and meet.
But now i feel that i'm tire, i'm tire of keep trying but she just don't do anything. You guys will tell me to talk to her but as what i know of her with her temper, she will not listen and accusing me for oversensitive. I really can't bear to give up this relationship but i really don't want this loop sided love to carry on.. Please help me, i really don't want to make a silly decision and regret for the rest of my life. I really love her a lot.
But may i suggest you first go and have 3 glasses of pop tequila then think about it, give up or not to give up, to be a slave of love or to be free from love.
In another word, to be or not to be. -
Hmm.. Actually I don't think age matters alot. Cuz guys of the same age can be quite lame and immature, so some mature yet young girl tend to look for older bf as soulmate.. Have you ever try talking to her?
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the more u wan to cling on to her the more she will resist.. how u 2 got 2gether in the 1st place?
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If you want to give her so much then stop complaining.Originally posted by tequila:We have been together for 19 months.. I remember every month of our anniversary, buy her surprise gifts, flowers, text her to ask her to remember to eat, stay out like 2, 3 hours to wait for her to finish work while i just finished a 14 hours work, bring her toI'm 10 years older than her hence i really pamper her a lot a lot.
She don't seems to put in any effort in our relationship. Our off day is not fix but she don't seems to try to fix the same day for us to meet. Didn't even tell me when she off until i ask. I have to take the initiative all the time to make plans and meet.
But now i feel that i'm tire, i'm tire of keep trying but she just don't do anything. You guys will tell me to talk to her but as what i know of her with her temper, she will not listen and accusing me for oversensitive. I really can't bear to give up this relationship but i really don't want this loop sided love to carry on.. Please help me, i really don't want to make a silly decision and regret for the rest of my life. I really love her a lot.
If you want to break then start complaining -
sorry to heard your love issue on net.
Aunt agony mode--
i think in my humble opinion, communication is the key (missing) in your relationship with your girlfriend.
Sometimes, u need to be alone with her at somewhere quiet and nice to have a "real talk" not about bags/food/people/things/mother/father/work issues etc..
Just about her, her thinking,her issues,her dreams just be a listener not a talker not even a soundbite from you. Then u should be able to understand her.
Then she in turn should be a listener and you tell her "what u want her to understand about your issues. Offdays,spend time together, keep her from drifting from u. that type of soft no confrontational line of talking.you should know what i mean.
After heart to heart talk, be truthful and try to compromise on the issues if possible.
i hope that you can still save this love from turning away from you. -
one word , communication.
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10yrs isn't a problem if she's old enough.....right now is a compatability problem. U have done so much & thus have become tired.......i symphatize with ur situation.
I dun think its a situation of being over sensitive or over protective here. He loves her & thus is making every possible effort & its not being receiprocrated.
I would very much like to tell you to give it up coz ur kind of treatment will be much more appreciated on other girls & there are girls out there who yearn for such attention. -
You are partly your own undoing. C'mon, you are the one who has been doing everything for the girl. You've spoilt her into thinking that she can just si back and not do anything since you are the one who takes care of everything!
I think you need to work on your communication with the girl. Just being physically close doesn't mean the 2 of you are mentally and emotionally together...... -
My gf is the same as urs last time. But after talking to her the first few time, she keep promise will change but in the end nvr. But after a few mth, i did notice her change. Maybe u should try sit down with her and tell her wad u really felt.. Tired, being neglect or wad.. And maybe she will change also..
Jia you. Dun give up -
Just saw this.. hhaa.. ya.. this is vv true.. abt the same as wad i say baOriginally posted by jessepoh:sorry to heard your love issue on net.
Aunt agony mode--
i think in my humble opinion, communication is the key (missing) in your relationship with your girlfriend.
Sometimes, u need to be alone with her at somewhere quiet and nice to have a "real talk" not about bags/food/people/things/mother/father/work issues etc..
Just about her, her thinking,her issues,her dreams just be a listener not a talker not even a soundbite from you. Then u should be able to understand her.
Then she in turn should be a listener and you tell her "what u want her to understand about your issues. Offdays,spend time together, keep her from drifting from u. that type of soft no confrontational line of talking.you should know what i mean.
After heart to heart talk, be truthful and try to compromise on the issues if possible.
i hope that you can still save this love from turning away from you.
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Have a break
Have a kit kat -
It's not advisable to celebrate monthly anniversary. Give her some space.Originally posted by tequila:We have been together for 19 months.. I remember every month of our anniversary, buy her surprise gifts, flowers, text her to ask her to remember to eat, stay out like 2, 3 hours to wait for her to finish work while i just finished a 14 hours work, bring her toI'm 10 years older than her hence i really pamper her a lot a lot.
She don't seems to put in any effort in our relationship. Our off day is not fix but she don't seems to try to fix the same day for us to meet. Didn't even tell me when she off until i ask. I have to take the initiative all the time to make plans and meet.
But now i feel that i'm tire, i'm tire of keep trying but she just don't do anything. You guys will tell me to talk to her but as what i know of her with her temper, she will not listen and accusing me for oversensitive. I really can't bear to give up this relationship but i really don't want this loop sided love to carry on.. Please help me, i really don't want to make a silly decision and regret for the rest of my life. I really love her a lot. -
have a heart to heart talk with her. tell her how u really feel, why are you feeling this way, what you hope that she can do for you, basically just tell her EVERYTHING, don't hide a single thing in you.
then, see how she reply. if she loves you, and treat you as her boyfriend, she'll understand your pridicament. find out from her what she thinks of whatever you told her, why is she treating you like this etc etc.
if she say she'll try to change, give her some time.
if she still give you the same "you're just being oversensitive" answer, then the best way is to just give her up. she's not your type of girl. you're those kind that wants to see her as much as you can, but she's not like this; she can do perfectly well without you.
find someone else who needs you as much as you need her.
don't give up a forest because of a flower. -
It takes both hands to clap.
The sound of clappin can nver b heard unless the both hands do it simultaneously..In another word, do u know why the other "hand" refuse to move?? Wat goes wrong? If u r not goin to tok to her, how are u goin to save tis r/s? Miracles?? -
stay away from young girls leh uncle.. young guys like myself already run out of girl liao leh.. lol jk.. but 10yrs is really a BIG GAP leh.. dun pamper or stick to her too much. once in awhile try to act bo chup.. if she care she'll come to u one. i oso learning now leh uncle.. but never too old to learn la. dun tell me u 23yr old den she 13yr old can liao..
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Well said.Originally posted by :You are partly your own undoing. C'mon, you are the one who has been doing everything for the girl. You've spoilt her into thinking that she can just si back and not do anything since you are the one who takes care of everything!
I think you need to work on your communication with the girl. Just being physically close doesn't mean the 2 of you are mentally and emotionally together......
Btw, TS... How old are you? I suspect she might be too young to hold a good chance at being mature and appreciative for this relationship. If she's not, probably she's just into a 'being pampered' mode. Either one, the outlook ain't good.
Though not always true, but seriously if you think about it.. The chance is quite there... Perhaps the very reason why both of you are together is killing the relationship itself at this point.... -
True also.. i hate one sided effort also,Originally posted by tequila:We have been together for 19 months.. I remember every month of our anniversary, buy her surprise gifts, flowers, text her to ask her to remember to eat, stay out like 2, 3 hours to wait for her to finish work while i just finished a 14 hours work, bring her toI'm 10 years older than her hence i really pamper her a lot a lot.
She don't seems to put in any effort in our relationship. Our off day is not fix but she don't seems to try to fix the same day for us to meet. Didn't even tell me when she off until i ask. I have to take the initiative all the time to make plans and meet.
But now i feel that i'm tire, i'm tire of keep trying but she just don't do anything. You guys will tell me to talk to her but as what i know of her with her temper, she will not listen and accusing me for oversensitive. I really can't bear to give up this relationship but i really don't want this loop sided love to carry on.. Please help me, i really don't want to make a silly decision and regret for the rest of my life. I really love her a lot.
sory to say, seems ur gal doesnt know how to appreciate your effort and she dun really think of making some effort for you too...
Sory to say,, its good game for u both... this cant last long when only one side put all effort while the other side just relax and taking things for granted....
Sory for u, my fren -
just chill off for a some weeks or even a month and see if she bothers....from there you decide how you want to move on, with or without her............
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yea i agree. leave her alone for a week or 2.Originally posted by countdracula:just chill off for a some weeks or even a month and see if she bothers....from there you decide how you want to move on, with or without her............