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  • yahoo.com's Avatar
    129 posts since Nov '02
    • so sianz.. its been like 8 months since i broke up with my ex gf. and now i have another gf but i dun really know what i want. when she is with me i feel so happy and always wanna be with her. but when she is not around, i just dun have the feeling of wanting to find her or talking to her through the phone even. i dunno what's wrong with me but i always think of my ex gf at times. think of all the wrong that she has done to me and the fact that she left me for possibly a colleague of hers perhaps which she always denies.

      My ex gf is into religion now and thru her frenster i can see that she puts up my pics with her when we had happier times. and recently my ex gf called to ask some qns about my well being and all. but i know that i will never accept her back for what she did to me although i really do love her alot. when i am with my current gf, i feel that should another person who i really love alot come along, i will just go along with that gal.

      Sometimes i feel that i have become a 'player'. I enjoy being in gals' company like that of my current gf. i always looked forward to meeting her when we were not an item. but after being together and 1.5 months later we had an argument, it got me thinking what i really want and if i really love this gal or am i just waiting for someone i really love to come along?

      This gal also has a bf who she has been with for 2 yrs. and she is like in a trianglular relationship with me. she loves me much more than her 2 yr bf. and the fact that i dun really know her frenz and family etc after 2 months just futher makes me wanna break off from the relationship and go back to my singlehood lifestyle. but i am unable to do it as of now becoz i do not wanna make her cry(tried it once before and she cried). So i am really confused.

      both of are 25 yrs old btw. i sometimes feel that i haf so much time in life to find someone whom i will truly love; someone who i wont mind spending all my time accompanying her etc etc. but yet at other times i feel that i am so old.. and that its just better to stay with someone who loves me instead(like this current one). so confused..and sianz.. sigh..

      Edited by yahoo.com 22 Sep `07, 10:52AM
  • Darkness_hacker99's Avatar
    31,720 posts since Jun '05
  • CannyOng's Avatar
    1,418 posts since May '04
    • Selfish love ba...

      U enjoy the company of gals

      Too scare to follow yr true love cos u think yr age is a barrier,scare u wouldn't get on both side of the shore...

      The funny thing is u find a gal who has a bf??

  • oOprinceOo's Avatar
    2,012 posts since Nov '06
  • PassionInAG's Avatar
    54 posts since Sep '07
  • icyboiz's Avatar
    909 posts since Dec '06
  • dumbdumb!'s Avatar
    11,880 posts since Jan '03
    • u still dunno wat u wan la..

      if u stay with her, u're going to cheat her of her time. my 2 cents

  • angel7030's Avatar
    7,114 posts since Jul '07
  • angel7030's Avatar
    7,114 posts since Jul '07
    • You got so many gfs and also got gf who loves u alot, and you still feels sian.

      Hve u wonder those who hv no gfs, lonely, fatty, singularly, and not good looking?

      Get a life dude, be what you are, enjoy it, yours is no issue, only sianz.

  • Zarks's Avatar
    3,651 posts since Aug '07
  • Omniknight's Avatar
    943 posts since Jun '07
    • wait till one day you dont even know what your problem is

      then come tell me you are confused and irritated

  • beavan's Avatar
    3,921 posts since May '04
  • yahoo.com's Avatar
    129 posts since Nov '02
    • Originally posted by angel7030:
      You got so many gfs and also got gf who loves u alot, and you still feels sian.

      Hve u wonder those who hv no gfs, lonely, fatty, singularly, and not good looking?

      Get a life dude, be what you are, enjoy it, yours is no issue, only sianz.

      frankly i am not good looking either. but i just feel so tired after breaking up with my 1st gf of 5 yrs. then after that i had one which lasted abt 2 months..and this current one too.. dun really know wat i want because when i am with my current gf, i dun seem to want to be able to do what i did for my ex gf. its more like i am doing it for the sake of doin it which is quite tiring.
      i really wish i can break the news to my current gf and tell her that i wanna be single again.. sianz..

  • DjMatrix's Avatar
    2,586 posts since May '07
  • yahoo.com's Avatar
    129 posts since Nov '02
  • de_middle's Avatar
    15,250 posts since Aug '05
  • thebunny's Avatar
    172 posts since Jul '07
    • u wanna be single then be single lahx... wat's the point of being with her when ur heart is not there???

      =S

      Chang tong bu ru duan tong bahx....

  • ordinaryguy32's Avatar
    275 posts since May '07
    • Originally posted by yahoo.com:
      so sianz.. its been like 8 months since i broke up with my ex gf. and now i have another gf but i dun really know what i want. when she is with me i feel so happy and always wanna be with her. but when she is not around, i just dun have the feeling of wanting to find her or talking to her through the phone even. i dunno what's wrong with me but i always think of my ex gf at times. think of all the wrong that she has done to me and the fact that she left me for possibly a colleague of hers perhaps which she always denies.

      My ex gf is into religion now and thru her frenster i can see that she puts up my pics with her when we had happier times. and recently my ex gf called to ask some qns about my well being and all. but i know that i will never accept her back for what she did to me although i really do love her alot. when i am with my current gf, i feel that should another person who i really love alot come along, i will just go along with that gal.

      Sometimes i feel that i have become a 'player'. I enjoy being in gals' company like that of my current gf. i always looked forward to meeting her when we were not an item. but after being together and 1.5 months later we had an argument, it got me thinking what i really want and if i really love this gal or am i just waiting for someone i really love to come along?

      This gal also has a bf who she has been with for 2 yrs. and she is like in a trianglular relationship with me. she loves me much more than her 2 yr bf. and the fact that i dun really know her frenz and family etc after 2 months just futher makes me wanna break off from the relationship and go back to my singlehood lifestyle. but i am unable to do it as of now becoz i do not wanna make her cry(tried it once before and she cried). So i am really confused.

      both of are 25 yrs old btw. i sometimes feel that i haf so much time in life to find someone whom i will truly love; someone who i wont mind spending all my time accompanying her etc etc. but yet at other times i feel that i am so old.. and that its just better to stay with someone who loves me instead(like this current one). so confused..and sianz.. sigh..

      The situation's quite messy, no wonder you're irritated.

      I think company for company's sake is bad.
      It's not love.

      Firstly, you're doing your current gf a dis-service by not giving your all.
      Secondly, the fact that you don't want to give your all to your current gf is because she's in such a mess herself, triangular relationship is not the type that one can truly invest energy and effort in, and then be truly proud of.

      She's clinging on to you because she may be thinking you bring relief to her present r/s with the "real" bf.

      Why don't you guys call it off, because both parties are in such a mess?
      It's better for everyone. Short-term hurt is better than long-term hurt.
      You 2 still can be "good friends", if that brings comfort to her..

      As for your ex-gf, sigh... from your text, it seemed that you cannot forgive her, but you still love her very much. I think there's no simple solution to it...
      You didn't say what's her wrongdoing, but I gather she cheated on you to some degree..

      Maybe she's feeling the regret and is dying to come back to you... No ex-gf will post your pictures for nothing.

      Give yourself some time to heal your own wounds, and don't jump into a rebound so fast next time, pal...

  • Sagara's Avatar
    1,029 posts since Oct '03
    • Wtf ? Triangle RS you also ok ah ?

      You just love the company with your current gf, the same way as she finds solace from her other RS.

  • ozzy_gurl's Avatar
    135 posts since Mar '06
    • I think you should break up with her,a 3 way relationship or a "triangle relationship" as you call it will do nothing but make people get hurt.I f she really loves you she will break up with her bf of 2 yrs and be with just you. As for your ex, it is hard, but if she no longer wants you, you have to get past her and move on with your life. You can do it, be strong! Very Happy

  • angel7030's Avatar
    7,114 posts since Jul '07
    • Originally posted by yahoo.com:
      frankly i am not good looking either. but i just feel so tired after breaking up with my 1st gf of 5 yrs. then after that i had one which lasted abt 2 months..and this current one too.. dun really know wat i want because when i am with my current gf, i dun seem to want to be able to do what i did for my ex gf. its more like i am doing it for the sake of doin it which is quite tiring.
      i really wish i can break the news to my current gf and tell her that i wanna be single again.. sianz..

      Sianz???!!! You look like a playboy to me, alway break gals heart ya, I hate you!!!

  • Sakuraflower's Avatar
    721 posts since Feb '06
    • then just break up with her! if u think it is for the sake of being a bf

      dun waste her time!

      Most importantly ,do u love ur current gf?

      u have to make up ur mind and not be to confused!

  • eagle's Avatar
    16,356 posts since Aug '01
    • Originally posted by Sakuraflower:
      then just break up with her! if u think it is for the sake of being a bf

      dun waste her time!

      Most importantly ,do u love ur current gf?

      u have to make up ur mind and not be to confused!

      if become single can join singles club. Pika will be extremely happy

  • yahoo.com's Avatar
    129 posts since Nov '02
    • Originally posted by ordinaryguy32:
      The situation's quite messy, no wonder you're irritated.

      I think company for company's sake is bad.
      It's not love.

      Firstly, you're doing your current gf a dis-service by not giving your all.
      Secondly, the fact that you don't want to give your all to your current gf is because she's in such a mess herself, triangular relationship is not the type that one can truly invest energy and effort in, and then be truly proud of.

      She's clinging on to you because she may be thinking you bring relief to her present r/s with the "real" bf.

      Why don't you guys call it off, because both parties are in such a mess?
      It's better for everyone. Short-term hurt is better than long-term hurt.
      You 2 still can be "good friends", if that brings comfort to her..

      As for your ex-gf, sigh... from your text, it seemed that you cannot forgive her, but you still love her very much. I think there's no simple solution to it...
      You didn't say what's her wrongdoing, but I gather she cheated on you to some degree..

      Maybe she's feeling the regret and is dying to come back to you... No ex-gf will post your pictures for nothing.

      Give yourself some time to heal your own wounds, and don't jump into a rebound so fast next time, pal...

      wow dude u so understand wat i feel!
      its EXACTLY what i feel and wanna do. of all the posts that were replied to me, i'd say that urs is the best becoz u explained what i really feel. thanks. and its true that i duwan to give my all becoz its a traingle relationship..worry abt the backfire if invest too much in it. and as for my ex gf, yup i guess she kinda cheated me and i cant forgive her for that.

      and as for angel703..deem me as a playboy? fine..go ahead..i dun wanna defend myself..those gals who have been with me will know i am not one. haha. Razz
      ona sidenote u always end ur msgs with '666' ? guess what..that's my vehicle's license plate! lol

      Edited by yahoo.com 25 Sep `07, 12:02AM
  • Dreams can turn into nightmares... lol
    BadzMaro's Avatar
    20,324 posts since Apr '04
    • i love the company of women. Many women.. women of all types. Mr. Green

      So T.S likes her company , and since she got bf also , so this 'triangle' is not SO triangle after all if u dont love her as much and only likes her company. If u say 'invest' well , looking at it is an obviously bad return case.

      Laughing

      i just think u should just do whatever u feel like regardless of anything. Its up to u if u want ur ex back but if she fudged u in the @ss.. u better watch out for a second on in the face.

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