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  • ozzy_gurl
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    135 posts since Mar '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:12PM

      Ok....there is this guy who lives in singapore,who likes me a lot and has asked me to get to know him and his family and one day settle down. I am planning to move to singapore to live and work next year....so there is no distance issues. However, he is younger than me..he is 19. I'm 21. I just don't know if he is really ready to settle down like he says he wants to. What should I do?
      I like him a lot, and I would love to be with him, but I don't want him doing anything he's not ready for.

  • FBI
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    8,470 posts since Nov '03
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:13PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      Ok....there is this guy who lives in singapore,who likes me a lot and has asked me to get to know him and his family and one day settle down. I am planning to move to singapore to live and work next year....so there is no distance issues. However, he is younger than me..he is 19. I'm 21. I just don't know if he is really ready to settle down like he says he wants to. What should I do?
      I like him a lot, and I would love to be with him, but I don't want him doing anything he's not ready for.

      too young to talk abt that..

      i mean that guy

  • ozzy_gurl
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  • ndmmxiaomayi
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  • Mospeada
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    44,375 posts since Feb '03
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:15PM

      dun rush into relationship yet...be friend for the time being...

      i guess the guy will still have to go for NS, then study...

  • FBI
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    8,470 posts since Nov '03
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:16PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      Thats what I think FBI...but he is very mature for his age. But I still worry.

      yeah like wat ant said, get to know him first..

      and does he have the financial ability? i doubt it

  • ozzy_gurl
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    135 posts since Mar '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:19PM

      he has just under a year left on his ns…..i don’t know about the financila ability,and to be honest,I don’t care…..money isn’t important to me, I like to work to support myself.

  • FBI
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    8,470 posts since Nov '03
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:20PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      he has just under a year left on his ns.....i don't know about the financila ability,and to be honest,I don't care.....money isn't important to me, I like to work to support myself.

      yeah but if u wanna settle down the guy must have some money right

  • ozzy_gurl
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    135 posts since Mar '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:24PM

      yeah but i believe that both the husband and wife should work to support the family,its what we do here in australia. a lot of times, the wife only works and the husband doesn’t. its up to the couple. i dont like things to be handed to me, i like to work for what i have.

  • M©+square
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  • ozzy_gurl
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    135 posts since Mar '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:34PM

      don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to rush into a relationship. but maybe we should be friends until he’s a bit older and more ready for life?

  • angel7030
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    6,933 posts since Jul '07
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:37PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      Ok....there is this guy who lives in singapore,who likes me a lot and has asked me to get to know him and his family and one day settle down. I am planning to move to singapore to live and work next year....so there is no distance issues. However, he is younger than me..he is 19. I'm 21. I just don't know if he is really ready to settle down like he says he wants to. What should I do?
      I like him a lot, and I would love to be with him, but I don't want him doing anything he's not ready for.

      Yo, let take the easy way out, Love first, talk later.

  • de_middle
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    15,250 posts since Aug '05
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:43PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      don't get me wrong, I don't want to rush into a relationship. but maybe we should be friends until he's a bit older and more ready for life?

      correct Very Happy

  • AndrewPKYap
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    12,336 posts since Oct '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:44PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      Ok....there is this guy who lives in singapore,who likes me a lot and has asked me to get to know him and his family and one day settle down. I am planning to move to singapore to live and work next year....so there is no distance issues. However, he is younger than me..he is 19. I'm 21. I just don't know if he is really ready to settle down like he says he wants to. What should I do?
      I like him a lot, and I would love to be with him, but I don't want him doing anything he's not ready for.

      Forget it.... it takes two to make it work and just because you really really like him, does not mean that it will work.

  • stellazio
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  • hisoka
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    31,606 posts since Mar '05
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:52PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      don't get me wrong, I don't want to rush into a relationship. but maybe we should be friends until he's a bit older and more ready for life?

      you guys can go into a relationshipw ithout settling down first. try it out and if all is fun and nice, then give thoughts to settling which cna be done later.

      but truth to say at age of 19 i'm not exactly convinced the relationship will be that long lasting anyway Laughing Laughing

  • Zarks
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    3,651 posts since Aug '07
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:53PM

      lol 19 talking bout settling down.. sorry TS not meant to disrespect, do you really think 19 wud really think it so seriously ?

      Talks are always sweet.. but i just think its too early for both of you to talk bout this.. just have fun and steady for the nex 5 years then see how

  • gigabyte14
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    17,593 posts since Jul '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:55PM

      seen each other on the flesh already?

      it might all change in the end, but go for it.

  • ozzy_gurl
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    135 posts since Mar '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 2:58PM

      i spent 7 weeks working with him every day last year.....we know each other.
      i told him i want to take time to see how things work out.

  • Zarks
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    3,651 posts since Aug '07
    • 25 Sep `07, 3:07PM

      MOve slow and see the nature’s flow la… at the time being, just have fun with him .. dont have to think bout marriage or anything yet..

  • sLeEpWaLkErInG
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    1,766 posts since Dec '04
    • 25 Sep `07, 3:08PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      i spent 7 weeks working with him every day last year.....we know each other.
      i told him i want to take time to see how things work out.

      know and understanding each other is 2 different matters.

  • AndrewPKYap
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    12,336 posts since Oct '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 3:09PM
      Originally posted by ozzy_gurl:
      i spent 7 weeks working with him every day last year.....we know each other.
      i told him i want to take time to see how things work out.

      You are older and more matured that is why you understand the need for "time to see how things work out" .... he is too young for you. Actually, he is too young to be in a relationship, any relationship.

  • angel7030
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    6,933 posts since Jul '07
    • 25 Sep `07, 3:11PM
      Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:
      You are older and more matured that is why you understand the need for "time to see how things work out" .... he is too young for you. Actually, he is too young to be in a relationship, any relationship.

      Who said he is too young, my bf also this age mah, my great grandfather married at 17yo ok. Love hv no age limit nor boundary ok.

  • hisoka
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    31,606 posts since Mar '05
    • 25 Sep `07, 3:17PM
      Originally posted by angel7030:
      Who said he is too young, my bf also this age mah, my great grandfather married at 17yo ok. Love hv no age limit nor boundary ok.

      will brek soon de no worries Twisted Evil

  • AndrewPKYap
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    12,336 posts since Oct '06
    • 25 Sep `07, 3:22PM
      Originally posted by angel7030:
      Who said he is too young, my bf also this age mah, my great grandfather married at 17yo ok. Love hv no age limit nor boundary ok.

      Life, then, during your grandad's time... was simpler/less stressful.

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