do you have such friends?

• numby

  30 Sep 07, 10:34

  i got 1 female friend who seems to take me for granted. when she faces problems, she will come complain to me and so. but other than that, she seems to disappear. She even asked once that she seems to share her problems but i didn't share...hmm...but how to share when she seems to be missing...i was thinking
  
  even if get to see her online sometimes, she will always say she's busy...seems load of bullshit about being friends needing to share worries and happiness. only 1 way traffic of worries from her...so very fake friend i find her.. its even worse when she says can meet up for chat, but when try to meet her over a cuppa of coffee or something, it will be always a case of no time. but always got time for other friends. to me, it seems that this is a case of mis-placed friendship
  
  do you guys have any such friends, be it guys or gers?
• boka

  30 Sep 07, 10:47

  dicth her nd find better friends.
• angel7030

  30 Sep 07, 11:37

  Originally posted by numby:

  i got 1 female friend who seems to take me for granted. when she faces problems, she will come complain to me and so. but other than that, she seems to disappear. She even asked once that she seems to share her problems but i didn't share...hmm...but how to share when she seems to be missing...i was thinking
  
  even if get to see her online sometimes, she will always say she's busy...seems load of bullshit about being friends needing to share worries and happiness. only 1 way traffic of worries from her...so very fake friend i find her.. its even worse when she says can meet up for chat, but when try to meet her over a cuppa of coffee or something, it will be always a case of no time. but always got time for other friends. to me, it seems that this is a case of mis-placed friendship
  
  do you guys have any such friends, be it guys or gers?

  Do u love her?
• CannyOng

  30 Sep 07, 12:23

  Originally posted by numby:

  i got 1 female friend who seems to take me for granted. when she faces problems, she will come complain to me and so. but other than that, she seems to disappear. She even asked once that she seems to share her problems but i didn't share...hmm...but how to share when she seems to be missing...i was thinking
  
  even if get to see her online sometimes, she will always say she's busy...seems load of bullshit about being friends needing to share worries and happiness. only 1 way traffic of worries from her...so very fake friend i find her.. its even worse when she says can meet up for chat, but when try to meet her over a cuppa of coffee or something, it will be always a case of no time. but always got time for other friends. to me, it seems that this is a case of mis-placed friendship
  
  do you guys have any such friends, be it guys or gers?

  She is just a friend, Just ignore her if u don't like her style. And let her taste her own medicine when she ask u out... Btw, don't tell me u have feelign for her???
• T E M P O

  30 Sep 07, 12:42

  used to have one, now no longer friends.
  Everytime got problem come find me for help, everytime i got problem i ask for help she zao until cannot see
  
• numby

  30 Sep 07, 13:19

  i just feel that it hurts to see u're treated like that by a close friend...or perhaps i had fallen for her unknowingly...
• qlqq9

  30 Sep 07, 14:03

  Originally posted by numby:

  i got 1 female friend who seems to take me for granted. when she faces problems, she will come complain to me and so. but other than that, she seems to disappear. She even asked once that she seems to share her problems but i didn't share...hmm...but how to share when she seems to be missing...i was thinking
  
  even if get to see her online sometimes, she will always say she's busy...seems load of bullshit about being friends needing to share worries and happiness. only 1 way traffic of worries from her...so very fake friend i find her.. its even worse when she says can meet up for chat, but when try to meet her over a cuppa of coffee or something, it will be always a case of no time. but always got time for other friends. to me, it seems that this is a case of mis-placed friendship
  
  do you guys have any such friends, be it guys or gers?

  I come across people like that too many times. I have thrown them in the rubbish bins already. Since then, I am a happy person. Why choose unhappiness to let them be your friends? Choose to be happy by throwing them away. These people are just making use of you and treat you like you are operating a customer service centre. They are not genuinely interested to be your friends.
• xShevchenkox

  30 Sep 07, 14:06

  Originally posted by numby:

  i got 1 female friend who seems to take me for granted. when she faces problems, she will come complain to me and so. but other than that, she seems to disappear. She even asked once that she seems to share her problems but i didn't share...hmm...but how to share when she seems to be missing...i was thinking
  
  even if get to see her online sometimes, she will always say she's busy...seems load of bullshit about being friends needing to share worries and happiness. only 1 way traffic of worries from her...so very fake friend i find her.. its even worse when she says can meet up for chat, but when try to meet her over a cuppa of coffee or something, it will be always a case of no time. but always got time for other friends. to me, it seems that this is a case of mis-placed friendship
  
  do you guys have any such friends, be it guys or gers?

  eye to eye back
  
  juz bo chap..if she treats u like this, when she comes to ask u for help, giv her the attitude back...LL back wif her
  
  l tell u...she will really be impressed by u alot more and changed her attitude and behaviour
  
  recently l got a case...
  
  noe a gal, treat her good..but she doesnt appreciate. And when she come find her, l giv her those bo chup, cnt be bother pattern..she was furious at 1st, saying l act dao or gua lan wif her for no reasons, l told her " u check on ur attitude 1st"
  
  and guess what, after 1 day, she call me and apologise and wanted to treat me out for makan...haha
  
  
• In_Between_Days

  30 Sep 07, 14:15

  U shld just ignore her and keep frens who actually give a DAMN about u...
  
  Ppl like her will turn out to be very problematic in love relationships...no wonder she always runs to u whenever she has a prob...
• angel7030

  30 Sep 07, 14:17

  Originally posted by numby:

  i just feel that it hurts to see u're treated like that by a close friend...or perhaps i had fallen for her unknowingly...

  That is why i am asking you, DO U LOVE HER?
• xShevchenkox

  30 Sep 07, 14:18

  Originally posted by In_Between_Days:

  U shld just ignore her and keep frens who actually give a DAMN about u...
  
  Ppl like her will turn out to be very problematic in love relationships...no wonder she always runs to u whenever she has a prob...

  haha the key is to play the same standards as her...
  
  if she play rough wif me, l make sure l play rough back wif her
  
  
  
  normally such gals tink highly of themselves, tinking that all guys easy on her, but if 1 day, u giv her the unexpected results, she mite tink u are the "special one"
  
  but this kind of charbor cant play long de, my frenz told me, this kind of gal if u can get her la, fark forget and go
• Isis

  30 Sep 07, 19:06

  Originally posted by numby:

  i got 1 female friend who seems to take me for granted. when she faces problems, she will come complain to me and so. but other than that, she seems to disappear. She even asked once that she seems to share her problems but i didn't share...hmm...but how to share when she seems to be missing...i was thinking
  
  even if get to see her online sometimes, she will always say she's busy...seems load of bullshit about being friends needing to share worries and happiness. only 1 way traffic of worries from her...so very fake friend i find her.. its even worse when she says can meet up for chat, but when try to meet her over a cuppa of coffee or something, it will be always a case of no time. but always got time for other friends. to me, it seems that this is a case of mis-placed friendship
  
  do you guys have any such friends, be it guys or gers?

  She is busy, probably preoccupied with her own things and forget to consider your feeling when u r looking for her but this does not mean she treats this friendship lightly. As a friend, you have to see her shoes and be understanding too.
  
  re-edited: i didn't really digest the later part till i re-read again..
  
  she always have time for other friends but not u... and u consider as a close friend..hw come ar?
  
  
• oOprinceOo

  30 Sep 07, 19:23

  lesbian?? lol. such pple aiyah. u give me her fone numb i call her scold.
• Isis

  30 Sep 07, 19:36

  I guess when your friend don't meet your expectation in a friendship, u will naturally feel disappointed, esp for a close friend. However, u can't really blame her.
  
  I deduced that she isn't really like those friends whom keep bugging you with problems... cos she said why u didn't share ur problems. Well, if she can't be there for you, find others whom can.
  
  And.. why is this thread evolve to something else huh.
• cApitaland

  30 Sep 07, 19:52

  i have such a friend. when she broke up with her bf i was there for her.
  
  but i didnt strike the iron while it was hot. and i didnt feel that way for her.
  
  now we have drifted apart. but i understand she got her promos to think abt.
  
  as long as she is safe and happy its ok with me. even if i miss her company sometimes.
• ted_nhg

  30 Sep 07, 21:30

  Sad to say such things do happens at times in life.
  
  My take would be help her when (if) possible, since you're friend,
  But do not expect too much (or anything) in return.
  take it as a pinch of salt.....
  
  
• daprincess

  30 Sep 07, 21:36

  i got a good friend 2yrs back. ohwell. she was so attitude and everything has to go her way la. TOTALLY PISSED WITH HER ATTITUDE and finally fell out with her ._. still v angry ! she somemore throw my fone on e floor twice when she's angry zzzzz!
• Zarks

  30 Sep 07, 22:00

  Originally posted by numby:

  i got 1 female friend who seems to take me for granted. when she faces problems, she will come complain to me and so. but other than that, she seems to disappear. She even asked once that she seems to share her problems but i didn't share...hmm...but how to share when she seems to be missing...i was thinking
  
  even if get to see her online sometimes, she will always say she's busy...seems load of bullshit about being friends needing to share worries and happiness. only 1 way traffic of worries from her...so very fake friend i find her.. its even worse when she says can meet up for chat, but when try to meet her over a cuppa of coffee or something, it will be always a case of no time. but always got time for other friends. to me, it seems that this is a case of mis-placed friendship
  
  do you guys have any such friends, be it guys or gers?

  normal la .. this kind of friend TAI BA La.,.. so you know wat i do ? when i know this kind of fren ,, i also play with them... i purposely ignored them if they wan me to help them anything... very ridiculous gal this type.. so i lied to them alot..
• Zarks

  30 Sep 07, 22:03

  NOwdays friends are like that de la..
  
  when they got prob ex like broke up or have a fight with their bf,, they come to you like puppy .. wow..
  
  then after prob solved.. missing in action.. nothing to be seen...
  
  haiya.. im tired of this kind de la... so sometimes i dun felt like helping them advising them.. later when u got prob.. they will say.. i cant help u.. u solved it with him/her.. wow..
  
  SO i always mark this kind of friend and always pretend good to them. but if they need my help, na.. i wil say do it yourself
• numby

  30 Sep 07, 22:22

  Originally posted by Zarks:
  NOwdays friends are like that de la..
  
  [b]when they got prob ex like broke up or have a fight with their bf,, they come to you like puppy .. wow..
  
  then after prob solved.. missing in action.. nothing to be seen...
  haiya.. im tired of this kind de la... so sometimes i dun felt like helping them advising them.. later when u got prob.. they will say.. i cant help u.. u solved it with him/her.. wow..
  
  SO i always mark this kind of friend and always pretend good to them. but if they need my help, na.. i wil say do it yourself[/b]

  it seems we have similar type of friends...lol...i trying to come to terms of having such friends...blame it on our luck bah
• wului99

  30 Sep 07, 23:12

  i dun even teat them as friend!!!
  
  
  
  made use of ppl them throw them aside de
• FBI

  30 Sep 07, 23:14

  ya la ditch her..
• wului99

  30 Sep 07, 23:16

  for gals>> FBT them
  
  for guys>>call gang wallop him up
  
  
• gigabyte14

  30 Sep 07, 23:16

  she's treating you as a life jacket
  
  dissing you when you're not needed
  
  not even a friend
  
  ditch her.
• marchieaddict

  1 Oct 07, 01:12

  if your friend is working.. she may be really busy with work...
  
  like my case.. i travel a lot.. even when im not.. sometimes im so stressed out i just dun feel like doing anything after work.. just want to be on my own..
  and i can go without seeing really close friends for months.. like 3-6 months.. but when we pick up the phone.. or if they call me for help.. will be there and we can always pick up from where we left off..... dun expect her to chit chat talk rubbish to you la if u calling for bo lio reasons but im sure if u call with a genuine need she will listen...
  
  i suspect u been bugging her with bo lio stuff?
  if not you hv been bugging her with the same issue again and again?
  
  i tend to ignore people who bug me about the same issue again and again and again.. get a life..people can listen but only once after that you have to sort your life out yourself.. no one likes a needy person.