hi. im quite new to this forums. & have been reading posts here & there. i have a problem & really wish to let it out. hope i`ll get advices from here (:

i have been with him for 2 weeks already. although its been 2 weeks , but we have only seen each other a couple of times , & once in this 2 weeks. seriously , i dont expect us to b going out every day or two , cos we`re really staying v far away from each other.

recently , he has asked me out. & of cos , i was looking forward to that day. but he cancelled it cos his friends asked him out. & this has made me think , before i accepted him , 2 friends who also know him [but not v close] have advised me about him putting his friends before girlfriend. thats what they thought at that point in time , but i didnt believe it & just went ahead. accepted him.

that day he cancelled out plans , he postponed it to today; 2 days later. & he cancelled it again ._. cos he woke up & msged me that he was lazy to step out of his house. okay , i accept. & just tell him i dont mind. he told me that he wants to go out on thursday , which is 4 days from now.

& the last thing is that , is it normal for us to b communicating through smses rather than phone. cos he doesnt take initiative to call; & i dont want to cos im afraid i`ll b stuck & nothing to say.

can leave advices & what you think. really wld b appreciated ><

if he really loves u, he would sacrifice his time for u.

he's not really for a r/s

guys who are ready can juggle these 2 things together

so for now, just remain friends

and don't have high expectations for this, or you'll be disappointed

you're going too fast, slow down too.

and lessee, you age is about 13-15?

yeaps , 15 .. why do you say its too fast ? ><

Originally posted by candyx3o:

yeaps , 15 ..

as i said, just remain friends for now

you don't have to push things that fast

and also, what do you see in an irresponsible brute?

breaking a date because he was lazy, stupid excuse

and also, a phone call, is often initiated by the guy, he should make the first move, so what are you so afraid about?

anyway, if he postpones the date again, that means he's avoiding you, then sorry to say, break it up.

15? ummm.

small small age.. tan lian ai liaw... so cute!! puppy love.. is so innocent!!

Originally posted by Rejected:

15? ummm.

dun paedo hor

15?

Seriously, you are too young for a relationship now. And I don't see anything good about that guy which you mention.

I guess he's just toying your feelings. He'll dump you after gotten what he want - sex.

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

15?

Seriously, you are too young for a relationship now. And I don't see anything good about that guy which you mention.

I guess he's just toying your feelings. He'll dump you after gotten what he want - sex.

don't think it's sex now

he's not advancing leh

break lah. dun waste your time.

Originally posted by candyx3o:

yeaps , 15 .. why do you say its too fast ? ><

ask yourself about this

you wanted the r/s to move on further right?

there you have it, your answer.

Originally posted by gigabyte14:

as i said, just remain friends for now

you don't have to push things that fast

and also, what do you see in an irresponsible brute?

breaking a date because he was lazy, stupid excuse

and also, a phone call, is often initiated by the guy, he should make the first move, so what are you so afraid about?

anyway, if he postpones the date again, that means he's avoiding you, then sorry to say, break it up.

what if he doesnt postpone it anymore. should i still continue with this ma ? cos sometimes i just very negative. dont know why , & cannot stop myself. from thinking of all the worst outcomes. say break it , like very easy. but i like him de ma , & why you say its fast. i know him quite long le , then recently he asked ma .. ><

& i dont agree 15 very young .. its how you go & handle this r/s ma. maturity cannot b measured by age ><

Originally posted by candyx3o:

what if he doesnt postpone it anymore. should i still continue with this ma ? cos sometimes i just very negative. dont know why , & cannot stop myself. from thinking of all the worst outcomes. say break it , like very easy. but i like him de ma , & why you say its fast. i know him quite long le , then recently he asked ma .. ><

& i dont agree 15 very young .. its how you go & handle this r/s ma. maturity cannot b measured by age ><

Certified that you're still young.

Originally posted by gigabyte14:

ask yourself about this

you wanted the r/s to move on further right?

there you have it, your answer.

true , but its normal , isnt it. cannot b we dont meet up at all or just once a month; something like that ?

Originally posted by candyx3o:

what if he doesnt postpone it anymore. should i still continue with this ma ? cos sometimes i just very negative. dont know why , & cannot stop myself. from thinking of all the worst outcomes. say break it , like very easy. but i like him de ma , & why you say its fast. i know him quite long le , then recently he asked ma .. ><

& i dont agree 15 very young .. its how you go & handle this r/s ma. maturity cannot b measured by age ><

i'm saying, you're pushing the r/s too fast, you're associating the friendship with the r/s.

and yes, maturity cannot be measured by age, but you sure you AND him are thinking mature and rationally?

Originally posted by candyx3o:

true , but its normal , isnt it. cannot b we dont meet up at all or just once a month; something like that ?

a r/s doesn't mean must meet up, got contact and stuffs can already

and look at his personality, he's treating you like some kind of toy

i believe that in a r/s, a guy must treat his gf like a princess

he treats you like dirt, and you're accepting it??????

i cannot say im very sure bahs. mayb you`re right.

Dear girl,

It is not love. It is not even a relationship.
He is not mature, not having enough fun yet, will not be committed.
You are underage for sex, its illegal.
The two of you, concentrate on your studies.
No academic means no good career,
no good career means low income,
low income means alot of things, especially when singapore living standards are so high...I see how you survive!

Your time is to make alot of friends and study. When you grow older, you want to study...it will be very difficult. So, do cherish the time when you have the opportunity to study, next time when you have a career, a family, i see how you study!

Nowadays young kids keep thinking they are mature and experience when experience , wisdom and maturity comes with age. Enjoy your youthful days. You grow older by the day and not younger. There is plenty of time to be matured and experienced , in relationships , its pretty much the same.

Originally posted by gigabyte14:

a r/s doesn't mean must meet up, got contact and stuffs can already

and look at his personality, he's treating you like some kind of toy

i believe that in a r/s, a guy must treat his gf like a princess

he treats you like dirt, and you're accepting it??????

den in a r/s, how a girl must treat her bf?

in current times, men and women are equal(or almost), if a guy must treat his gf like a princess, does it also mean a girl must treat his bf like prince? So we take it as men and women are almost equal, should a girl treat his bf almost like a prince? or does these equations fails in both situation because, no matter what, the guy must treat the girl as princess?

thurs is your/his last chance to prove that the relationship can work.

you are still YOUNG!

seems like Friends > Girlfriend to him, so just dump him.

2 weeks like that already, two months/years continue on like that how? have u ever thought of it?(long term planning)

staying very far is not the issue, its the committment.

he ASKED you out and he still postpone/cancel it, how ...(PUIX!)

if he is lazy to go out, den u be lazy as well. wait for him to chase you instead of u waiting for him(girls must learn to play-hard-to-get sometimes, but not too much)

sms/msn/hp/face-to-face. whatever the communication, if it is for a purpose, then make sure it is fufilled.

*edit* WELCOME TO SGFORUMS!

Originally posted by dunamis:

Dear girl,

It is not love. It is not even a relationship.
He is not mature, not having enough fun yet, will not be committed.
You are underage for sex, its illegal.
The two of you, concentrate on your studies.
No academic means no good career,
no good career means low income,
low income means alot of things, especially when singapore living standards are so high...I see how you survive!

Your time is to make alot of friends and study. When you grow older, you want to study...it will be very difficult. So, do cherish the time when you have the opportunity to study, next time when you have a career, a family, i see how you study!

i nvr said anything about sex le , nvr think till so far. i didnt put my studies to one side , & leave all my time to him only. i study when i have to , & i believe my grades havent been affected.

* thanks akinos (:

Originally posted by candyx3o:

i nvr said anything about sex le , nvr think till so far. i didnt put my studies to one side , & leave all my time to him only. i study when i have to , & i believe my grades havent been affected.

* thanks akinos (:

these aunties and uncles alway think about sex sex sex..headache men.

Originally posted by angel7030:

these aunties and uncles alway think about sex sex sex..headache men.

lol. they`re that old ?