Cheating Girlfriend
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Congrats..
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hi andrew, when I read what you have written , I'm close to tears, because it really makes me to think back what happened to me 3 years back. My ex was doing lots of things behind my back and I caugt her red handed with that guy (long story, do not wish to say more). I just did'nt understand, how come she will do such a thing, in the end, we ended a 5 year relationship . I'm not sure if she was sad or anything like that. but one thing for sure is I still feel the pain now after 3 years .I can really understand how you feel now.
My advice is think carefully before do anything , and NEVER make a decision in a rush or u may regret it.Try keeping yourself busy and do not think so much of unnecessary things.
Take care
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take a gun and snuff away both of dem.Originally posted by andrewtvp:my gf has been in her new job for 2 months now. and i suspect she is having an affair and cheating behind my back.
history: we have known each other for 2years+ and have been together for 1yr+. she started in this new job for 2months already and i started noticing that she has sorta been distancing in the things we talk about and in the schedule of her daily life. so for the past 2 months i trusted her and spent time with her as usual. there was a period of 2weeks where i was super busy and couldnt meet up with her, she didnt even call OR sms me unless i initiated it. i felt we were drifting apart.
she had a history of lying to me about things previous, small matters, white lies in her own words.
but yesterday i guessed her email password and managed to get in.
she has been having a private correspondence with a guy in office, chatting over email, 100s a day.
as i started prying deeper.
they had sex on many ocassions. (i recalled and on those days she said she was tired and slept as early as 9pm)
their conversations were explicit. detailed.
he asked her if they were dating. she said yes. (inside i was hurting)
they flirted with each other. courted each other. called each other nick names. stole kisses and groped each other when no colleages were around.
my god i was hurt. and am still hurting so bad.
i felt i needed to confront them. but am afraid of losing this relationship...
how should i go about this??
depressed.distressed.dejected.
the hardest part is to hold a forced smile when i see her. sigh.
we had plans to get married next year. we had so many plans. but she couldnt even resist this simple temptation. while i have been holding on ever SO staunchly to this rs. sigh. he was in the right place. at the right time. i guess that was stronger than the 2years of bond we have built.
many times she said he was just a colleague, one that gives her a lift to work everyday. i cant. cos i live too far. on the other end of the island.
he sends her home everyday too. sometimes they head to the beach afterwork. sometimes they go back to their place. and coincidentally her last sms to me would be "fone low bat, ttyl!".
and the emails on the next day would be full of explicit details. which i shall spare you guys of.
we had promised each other to a monogamous relationship. but now that i cant even believe her words, what is there left?
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I don't fault the judge...I fault the law.Originally posted by hisoka:pre-nups are not recognised in sg.
that judge was.......... Giving the custody to the woman is fine but to make the husband have to give alimony for to the unfaithful wife is really a slap in the face.
that judge really needs to suffer for eternity and beyond
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Shit happens.. and sometimes the truth hurts. U gotta learn to supress those feelings and make up ur mind to live with it... or end it now.
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Relationship problems have always been on the top 3 list of problems for many. Money and family being the other two.
It is mind wrenching indeed to have a loved one betray you.
Andrew, you are in so much pain now that you may not be able to see the entire picture with clarity. Let me help you along, if I may.
1) Isn't it a blessing now that you have seen here true colours? That she is a human being who's fickle minded and succumbs to lust. If someone can forsake a loved one for another so easily, then what good is there in keeping such a person by your side? She will repeat this vicious cycle on her new squeeze.
2) No matter what you have done for her, she doesn't owe you anything. This is her life, she is free to do as she pleases.
3) If a bird wishes to fly out of a cage, would you hinder it? If a dolphin longs for the ocean, would you entrap it in the aquarium? If her heart is no longer with you, it is no longer with you. Do not pine for fairy tale endings or miracles of whatsoever sort.
Unless you choose to be the love fool that you are now, there is little anyone can do to help you.
My $0.02 worth. -
this is not a professional advice, pls noteOriginally posted by andrewtvp:my gf has been in her new job for 2 months now. and i suspect she is having an affair and cheating behind my back.
history: we have known each other for 2years+ and have been together for 1yr+. she started in this new job for 2months already and i started noticing that she has sorta been distancing in the things we talk about and in the schedule of her daily life. so for the past 2 months i trusted her and spent time with her as usual. there was a period of 2weeks where i was super busy and couldnt meet up with her, she didnt even call OR sms me unless i initiated it. i felt we were drifting apart.
she had a history of lying to me about things previous, small matters, white lies in her own words.
but yesterday i guessed her email password and managed to get in.
she has been having a private correspondence with a guy in office, chatting over email, 100s a day.
as i started prying deeper.
they had sex on many ocassions. (i recalled and on those days she said she was tired and slept as early as 9pm)
their conversations were explicit. detailed.
he asked her if they were dating. she said yes. (inside i was hurting)
they flirted with each other. courted each other. called each other nick names. stole kisses and groped each other when no colleages were around.
my god i was hurt. and am still hurting so bad.
i felt i needed to confront them. but am afraid of losing this relationship...
how should i go about this??
depressed.distressed.dejected.
the hardest part is to hold a forced smile when i see her. sigh.
we had plans to get married next year. we had so many plans. but she couldnt even resist this simple temptation. while i have been holding on ever SO staunchly to this rs. sigh. he was in the right place. at the right time. i guess that was stronger than the 2years of bond we have built.
many times she said he was just a colleague, one that gives her a lift to work everyday. i cant. cos i live too far. on the other end of the island.
he sends her home everyday too. sometimes they head to the beach afterwork. sometimes they go back to their place. and coincidentally her last sms to me would be "fone low bat, ttyl!".
and the emails on the next day would be full of explicit details. which i shall spare you guys of.
we had promised each other to a monogamous relationship. but now that i cant even believe her words, what is there left?
please help me salvage us...
i think u should get a nice last bj from her
and dump her after that -
tats y i hate girls....my gal threat me the same...like urs...........
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fortunately, not all girls will cheat la.Originally posted by Aaron8209:tats y i hate girls....my gal threat me the same...like urs...........
But in sgforums, a lot of the times, what happens after a breakup is that a new guy will appear in the gal's life, very common. ie after the new relationship is confirmed, the old guy gets dumped.
So guys, better be alert and check out any warning signs. of course do not jump to conclusions first.
doko -
ya girls, as long as they are chio, can get another bf in a week times. Guys, on the other hand, have to work so hard just to get another gf.
Haha but the equation will change when females reach 30years ++. So females must really cherish their youth. -
be a vigilante, andrew!
your gf and society as a whole, has already let you down.
time to take the law into your own hands.
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violent -
sibei violent worhs got ta big bomb
aiya when guys come to this kind of problems,should remain cool
and just enjoy her while you enjoy another few outside
Andrewtvp has just pawned his gf's head for xxx gold and ended the godlight
OWNAGED!!!!!!!!!!!
Andrewtvp has just pawned bastard's head for xxxgold
OWNAGED!!!!!!!!!!!!
DOUBLEKILL!!!!!!!
Andrewtvp has just pawned a new girl for xxx gold
HOLYSHIT!!!!!!(can somebody kill him?)
TRIPLEKILL!!!!!!!
Imagine you being the winner instead of the loser and plot to win ALWAYS Good luck bro -
Sulphuric Acid..
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lol in case you people have not realised or did not read Nikar2 is the guy whose TS gf is with right now...
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you actually believe it?Originally posted by ahkico:lol in case you people have not realised or did not read Nikar2 is the guy whose TS gf is with right now...